What is abuse?<br />Dating or domestic abuse occurs when one partner uses different types of abusive behavior to gain power and control over the other partner.<br />Dating or domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that can include emotional/mental/verbal, financial, physical, sexual, and social abuse. <br />
Types of Abuse<br /><ul><li>Emotional/Verbal/Mental- Name calling, put downs, threats to suicide, threats to spread rumors, blaming the other person, constant accuse of cheating.
Sexual abuse-ignoring partners sexual choices, sexual assault, sexual harassment.
Financial Abuse- controlling all money, controlling possessions, using gifts to make up for abuse, sabotaging partners work or school
Social Abuse- spreading rumors, monitoring cell phone, isolating partner from their friends/family, using religion/culture to control partner.</li></li></ul><li>Signs of abuse<br /><ul><li>Jealous and possessive
Makes you feel like its your fault and you should be the sorry one</li></li></ul><li>How many teens actually go through this?<br /><ul><li>1 in 4 adolescents reports sexual, verbal, physical, or emotional abuse each year.
1 in 11 high school students reports being physically hurt by someone they were dating.
1 in 5 high school girls has been physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.</li></li></ul><li>Why don’t most teens speak up?<br /><ul><li>They don’t understand why they are the victim
Feared that their parents will prevent them from seeing the abuser
Feared that they will loose privileges</li></li></ul><li>Why is it so hard to leave the abuser?<br /><ul><li>Love- the victim is in love with their abuser and think that they can change them
Fear- the partner may threaten suicide if the victim leaves, or threatens to harm the victim even more.
Doubt- the victim doesn’t want to admit that they are being abused
Embarrassment- teens may feel like they have failed</li></li></ul><li>What's the cycle?<br /><ul><li>Abuse-The abuser lashes out with violent behavior.
Guilt- The abuser feels guilty because he/she doesn’t want to get caught or face consequences.
Excuses- The abuser makes up excuse for abusing the victim or to blame the victim.
“Normal” behavior- The abuser does everything he/she can to control and keep the victim in the relationship.
Fantasy and planning- The abuser begins to fantasize about abusing the victim again.
Set up- The abuser sets up the victim and puts his/her plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing him/her.</li></li></ul><li>How does someone escape the abuse?<br />Admit to yourself that your partner is capable of abuse<br />Learn to love yourself again<br />Make friendships outside of your abusive relationship<br />Gain financial independence, be able to support yourself.<br />Let the abuser know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with him/her.<br />Plan your escape.<br />
How does someone get help from an abusive relationship?<br /><ul><li>LoveisRespect.org National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline- 1-899-331-9474