Wife Babysitter Daughter Therapist Sister Nurse Aunt Accountant Friend Granddaughter Coach Daughter-in-law Teacher Chaperone Church member Student Chef Sister-in-law
Role: a part you play in your relationship Relationship: the bond or connection you have with other people ◦ Acquaintances ◦ Friends ◦ Family
Communication Compromise ◦ We will discuss all ◦ Problem solving about this next class method in which each participant Cooperation gives up something to reach a solution ◦ Working together for that satisfies the good of all everyone ◦ “Cheaper by the Dozen”
Person #1 is the ONLY person who may talk, but cannot touch anything!! Person #2 CANNOT talk. He/she may only use ONE hand and can only touch marshmallows Person #3 CANNOT talk. He/she may only use ONE hand and can only touch toothpicks
Trustworthiness: Caring: ◦ Do what you say you ◦ Show sympathy will do and/or empathy Responsibility: Citizenship: ◦ borrow something, it ◦ Be a good neighbor, breaks, you replace help by shoveling it. walks, etc. Fairness: Respect: ◦ take turns, share ◦ Listen when someone is talking
Respect: A feeling of deep admiration for someoneor something obtained by theirabilities, qualities, or achievements Respect for Self Respect for others ◦ When you respect ◦ Listen yourself you are ◦ Considerate others more likely to seek feelings relationships where ◦ Mutual trust: being others will treat you dependable with respect. ◦ Realistic in expectations: cant always be top priority
A way to gage the strength or weakness of your relationship. Much like a real checking/saving account at a bank. ◦ As you make “DEPOSITS” the relationship strengthens. ◦ When you make “WITHDRAWALS” the relationship weakens
We have a different “bank account” with everyone we know. ◦ These relationships can be in the „positive‟ or the „negative‟ It requires conscious deposits in order to maintain the relationship
Deposits tend to evaporate or be forgotten about. Where withdrawals turn to stone (not forgotten…harder to forget) Too many withdrawals requires even more deposits to bring the account back into the positive. We must continually make deposits if we want our RBA to stay positive.
Breaking promises Asking for a curfew Gossiping about extension others Borrowing the Not listening car…again Being arrogant Waiting to be told Losing trust to do something Not fulfilling expectations
Understand the Clarify Expectations individual Show Personal Small courtesies Integrity and kindness Use the most Keep our important words commitments
Recognize what is important to that person and take interest in it Ex: Sam discusses the stock market with his dad who is a stock-broker
These are often underrated, but kind notes, winks, hugs, etc quickly add up in the RBA. These small acts demonstrate appreciation
Doing WHAT we say we will WHEN we say we will Promising to be somewhere & not showing up = withdrawal
Critically important in avoiding contention, misunder standings, & hurt feelings Don‟t read minds or expect others to read yours. Ex: Moms idea of a clean room might be different than yours.
Demonstrate character in all your actions & relationships Be trustworthy & honest. Don‟t gossip
Small, but important words make all the difference in a relationship. Ex: Please… Thank you… I love you… I‟m sorry… How can I help…?