Foundations of Healthy Relationships Cooperation and Compromise
Bell Ringer (5 min) Describe your relationship (s) with your siblings and/or closest friends. How do you get along? How do you work through disagreements? Keep journals out!
Relationship: a bond or connection you have with other people.
Friendship: a significant relationship between two people that is based on trust, caring, and consideration.
Citizenship: the way you conduct yourself as a member of the community.
Sandra Bullock Video Clips (10 minutes)
Sandra Bullock is just one person, but she has played many different roles. Is that true for all of us?
Do we all play different roles in the relationships we have throughout our lives?
Do the roles we play ever change?
The Roles we Play Role: a part you play in your relationships
Examples of the roles I play
Mrs. Day’s Roles Roles Mrs. Day Plays Now:
Roles Mrs. Day has Played Before: Employee Girlfriend Fiancé Team captain Team member Class president Class member Volunteer Someone’s date Tutor Care-giver/ Pet-owner
Skills for building relationships Communication: the exchange of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs between two or more people. Cooperation: working together for the good of all. Compromise: a problem-solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone.
Two “C”s of Healthy Relationships Cooperation and Compromise Cheaper by the Dozen: Movie Clip (12 min)
Relationship Bank Account (RBA)
We have a different bank account with every person we have a relationship with.
The quality of our relationships depends on how many deposits and withdrawals we make in each account.
When there are significant “funds” in our bank accounts, an occasional withdrawal will not damage the relationship.
Minimize withdrawals and make generous deposits on a regular basis.
Relationship Bank Account (RBA) Examples of Withdrawals:
Not keeping a promise
Forgetting a friend’s birthday
A sarcastic comment
Examples of Deposits:
important to them
Remember the little things
Tell the truth
Sense the need and do it
Use the most important words
“I Do Care” Activity (page 93 in Page book
Take out a piece of paper
1. Make a list of the most important people in your lives. 2. Write down ways to show these people that you care about them. 3. Write a list of things that you do that might make these people feel like you don’t care about them. Make a conscious effort to increase the ways you show these individuals in your life that you care!
Ingredients for a Healthy Relationship Self Respect Respect for Others
Respect for Others Listen to other people Be considerate of other’s feelings Develop mutual trust Be realistic in your expectations
Traits of Healthy Relationships
Treat others with respect and they respect you in return
Accept each other’s opinions, tastes, and traditions
Accept each other’s differences
Don’t force your opinions on each other
Treat others with kindness and consideration
Show empathy and support
Willing to help others
Honest and open with others
Don’t conceal your thoughts, feelings, or actions
Contribute to the relationship
Work to keep the relationship strong
Make sacrifices for the friendship
Deal with and overcome problems in a positive way
Stereotyping: making an exaggerated or oversimplified judgments about people who belong to a certain group.
Prejudice: an unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people.
Bullying: deliberately harming or threatening other people who cannot easily defend themselves.
Hazing: making others perform certain tasks in order to join the group.