Banishing The Butterflies: Overcoming Speech Anxiety cmu
Butterflies?Why and how to make them fly in formation Communication Apprehension in Different Settings Why Do We Get Nervous? Ways to Triumph Over this Common Occurrence cmu
Communication Apprehension in Different Settings Group Communication/Meetings Interpersonal Communication Public Speaking/Public Communication
Why Do We Get Nervous? Top Reasons Why We Get Nervous Reinforcement Theory Performance Orientation Perceived Lack of Public Speaking Skills Uncontrolled Bodily Movements Situational Aspects Previous Bad Experience Center of Attention Number One Reason….
Worrisome Thoughts are Rooted in Your Thought Process
Brings us CLOSER to our goal
Takes us AWAY from our goal
“Bad Worry” Produces Irrational Fear of Public Speaking…Creates an illusion of DANGER….Put us in a “Fight or Flight mode”
The Fight/Flight Response from Activating #1 Restructure Your Worrisome Thoughts #2 Relaxation Techniques
Identify Your “Bad Worry” Thoughts I will make a mistake or forget something. My speech will be ruined. I will be embarrassed and look stupid Everyone is staring at me and judging everything I do and say. I can’t stand it. I must deliver a polished speech with intelligent smooth language or I will look foolish.
I worry about the speech for days in advance. I could do a bad job or get a poor grade. I hate to feel nervous. When I do, the speech goes badly. It’s awful. You have to feel calm to be a good speaker. My audience will think that my speech is boring and I am boring.
When I’m nervous, I speak so fast that my audience doesn’t understand me. I hate public speaking. I don’t have public speaking skills; others do a lot better than me. Change to Positive Coping Statements
Relax Breathe! 8 seconds inhale, 8 seconds hold, 8 seconds exhale Consider your introduction – Pause (3 seconds) Relax your muscles Practice, Practice, Practice – venue, learned skill, gain confidence Drink! Tips Eye Contact on a focal point Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Write “Love” notes on your cards Visualize Success Show Off Have a “Plan B”
In a Nutshell… Restructure Your Worrisome Thoughts to Coping Statements Practice Relaxation Techniques – Before and During your speech Employ Public Speaking Tips