Did you know?
• The word “bully” used to mean the total
opposite of what it means now.
• Five hundred years ago, it meant friend,
family member or sweetheart.
• The root of the word comes from the Dutch
boel, meaning lover or brother.
Bullying can be...
• One person making fun of another.
• One person trying to beat up another.
• A group of people ganging up against
Does it have to be a part of
• Each and every person has the right to feel
safe in your life and good about yourself.
The three types with examples
Verbal Bullying Relationship
Hitting, Kicking, or
Stealing, Hiding or
ruining someone's things
Making someone do
something he or she
doesn't want to do
Refusing to talk to
Spreading lies and
rumors about someone
Making someone feel
left out or rejected
All bullies have one thing in
• Something or someone is making them feel insecure.
~Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better.
•They could have something going on in their family.
•They might not feel like they are getting enough attention
from parents or teachers.
•They might have watched their parents or older siblings get
their way by being angry and pushy.
•Maybe they are also bullied.
•They might be spoiled by their parents.
Possible reasons for being a
• The bully or the target are either
smaller or bigger than most kids their
• The target may be a minority.
• May have a disability.
• Maybe you have a name that is not
Possible reasons for being a
• If you get anxious or upset easily.
• If you usually are alone and don't have
• If you don't have a lot of confidence and
don't stand up for yourself.
What to do “In the moment”
Don’t even look
didn’t hear them
Don’t get angry
them that you
Talk about it to Write it down so Respond to the
someone else you don’t forget Bully evenly
to tell someone
“In the moment” continued
that an adult
you are not
the one with
The bully is.
Ways to avoid future bullying
• Don’t bring expensive things or money to
• Label your belongings with permanent
marker in case they get stolen.
• Avoid unsupervised areas.
Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with
a teacher to class.
More ways to avoid future
• Act confident. Hold your
head up, stand up strait,
and make eye contact.
• Don’t walk alone, travel
with at least one other
• Avoid places where
• The bully is someone others look
up to and want to hang out with.
• They want to “side” with the bully
because to do that makes them feel
• They’re entertained by the
• They don’t think speaking up will
• They’re afraid that if they say
something, the bully will turn on
Some things you can say if
someone is getting bullied.
Remember the golden rule:
• Treat others the way you
want to be treated. Stand
up for someone when he or
she needs it, and when you
need it, someone will stand
up for you.
Ask yourself these questions.
• Does it make you feel better to hurt other
people or take their things?
• Are you bigger and stronger than other
people your age? Do you sometimes use
your size and strength to get your way?
• Have you been bullied by someone in the
past and feel like you have to make up for
doing the same thing to others?
• Do you avoid thinking about how other
people might feel if you say or do hurtful
things to them?
If you are a bully, here are some
ways to stop.
• Apologize to people that you have bullied, and
follow it up by being friendly.
• They might not trust you right away, but eventually
they will see that you have changed.
More ways to stop
• If you are having a hard time feeling good about
yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem.
• If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling
your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school
counselor about it.