You can make your marriage better.


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We must realize that when we release God to work in our marriage, it affects much more than just the husband and the wife.

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You can make your marriage better.

  1. 1. YOUR MARRIAGE CAN BECOME BETTER Yes we can make our marriages better. The onus is on couples to make it . There is no returning back.
  2. 2.  There is so much to say about making marriage better that I do not know where to start. We will begin by looking at the basic relationship between husband and wife and try to understand what God wants in our marriages. If you are single today, pay attention so that you can be better prepared
  3. 3.  I know that the institution of marriage is being assaulted from different sides. It is hard to imagine that we are under assault from those who want same-sex marriages, but we are. It is difficult to believe that people who have rejected God’s ways concerning homosexuality are now wanting the same God to bless their immoral relationships in a marriage.
  4. 4.  We are also under assault from those who say marriage is oldfashioned and unnecessary. This has been going on for twenty years and more.
  5. 5.  If you want your marriage to be better, you will first need to want Jesus Christ to be your Lord, the Lord of every area of your life. It is when we want Jesus as Lord that we do the things necessary to have a better marriage.
  6. 6.  I realize that I can only present the truth under God’s anointing and with His direction, but you must make the application to your lives. I have watched many marriages get worse when I know they have heard the things necessary for them to get better.
  7. 7.  The problem is that we overlook the basics and attempt to learn greater spiritual truths when we have not applied the basic truths to our lives and marriage first. The application of truth is our responsibility.
  8. 8.  God speaks to us, and then we apply it in our lives. Often we do not apply the basics to our lives because we think they are optional, or perhaps we find them uncomfortable to apply.
  9. 9.  If we are living a carnal, self-driven life, then obviously the basic truths of making a marriage better are going to be difficult to apply. The greatest need for the church today in Kenya is not for greater spiritual truth but instead to be willing to apply the truths we already know.
  10. 10.  If the husband loves his wife and gives of himself for her, God is able to work in his entire family. If he dishonors God by treating his wife in an unloving manner, being harsh with her, being unkind to her, not being sensitive to her needs, then God is not able to work in his life nor in his entire
  11. 11.  The principle is simple. When you honor God by honoring and obeying His commands concerning the marriage, you release God’s ability to work in your family in a greater way. When you dishonor God by refusing to obey His commands concerning marriage, God is stopped from working in your marriage.
  12. 12.  God knew there would be disagreements and differences. God’s way allows for there to be order and structure in the home. God’s ways allow Him to work even when mistakes are made. God knew anything with two heads is a monster.
  13. 13.  Man’s ways are inspired by the flesh and Satan. Satan is working to divide the home and split the marriage. The question remains. Will we do it God’s way, or will we do it man’s way which Satan quickly uses?
  14. 14.  Now let us look at the scripture that establishes this truth. Look at Ephesians 5:22-32. “22. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
  15. 15.  24. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26. that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
  16. 16.  27. that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes
  17. 17.  30. For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. 31. „For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.‟ 32. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
  18. 18.  The principle in these verses is simple. Wives, honor God by honoring your husband. Husbands, honor God by loving your wife.
  19. 19.  We must realize that when we release God to work in our marriage, it affects much more than just the husband and the wife. The children are strategically affected by the way the husband loves his wife and the way the wife honors, supports, and respects her husband.
  20. 20.  If you are wondering why your children are doing some of the things they do, have you considered the possibility that they are mirroring some of the same attitudes you have toward your husband or wife?
  21. 21.  The principles that God gives us in Ephesians apply to our marriage, to our children, and also to the workplace. The principle of honoring authority affects every area of our lives. Actually, it is as simple as treating other people with kindness and agape love.
  22. 22.  How can we show the world God’s love in ministry if we do not demonstrate God’s love at home and at work? Jesus told us that all the law and the commandments are summarized in the scriptures this way.
  23. 23.  He says in Matthew 22:37-39, “37. . . .„You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.‟ 38. This is the first and great commandment.
  24. 24.  39. And the second is like it: „You shall love your neighbor as yourself.‟” If we cannot handle this primary truth, why do we look for other truths?
  25. 25.  Husbands, would you join with me in praying this prayer: “Heavenly Father, teach me to love my wife as you loved the church. Show me how to love her, to sacrifice for her, to listen to her concerns, to be sensitive to her needs and hurts as you are to the needs of the church. Teach me to show your kind of
  26. 26.  Wives, join with me in praying: “Lord Jesus, teach me how to honor and support my husband. Show me how to respect him, how to acknowledge his calling as the head of our home, how to respond to his leadership, how to listen to him, and how to praise him and support him. Lord, show me how to be a true helper and supporter to my husband. Help me
  27. 27.  Now, everyone, would you pray this with me: “Lord, help me to apply these truths to the authority you have placed in my life. Teach me to display your kindness and love to everyone in my life. As I honor your word, I thank you that your power will be released in my life and that Satan is bound from hindering me in
  28. 28.  By allowing God to take the preeminence in marriage so that He is No. One in the marriage, there will be nothing that will stop us from enjoying our marriage and ensuring that our marriages are better. You have a part to play. Don’t ignore the Author of Marriage.