• Share
  • Email
  • Embed
  • Like
  • Save
  • Private Content
Building  foundations  for a strong marriage
 

Building foundations for a strong marriage

on

  • 252 views

What it takes to have a strong marriage. I want to share with you some strong building foundations that if used can help you have a strong marriage which can stand the test of time.

What it takes to have a strong marriage. I want to share with you some strong building foundations that if used can help you have a strong marriage which can stand the test of time.

Statistics

Views

Total Views
252
Views on SlideShare
252
Embed Views
0

Actions

Likes
0
Downloads
0
Comments
0

0 Embeds 0

No embeds

Accessibility

Upload Details

Uploaded via as Microsoft PowerPoint

Usage Rights

© All Rights Reserved

Report content

Flagged as inappropriate Flag as inappropriate
Flag as inappropriate

Select your reason for flagging this presentation as inappropriate.

Cancel
  • Full Name Full Name Comment goes here.
    Are you sure you want to
    Your message goes here
    Processing…
Post Comment
Edit your comment

    Building  foundations  for a strong marriage Building foundations for a strong marriage Presentation Transcript

    • BUILDING FOUNDATIONS FOR A STRONG MARRIAGE What it takes to have a strong marriage. I want to share with you some strong building foundations that if used can help you have a strong marriage which can stand the test of time. Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •   Ephesians 5:21-33 “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church-- for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband”. (NIV) Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • I. The Scripture is clear on how we are to build our marriages. A. Wives are to UNDERSTAND and SUPPORT their husbands.  B. Husbands are to provide LEADERSHIP by CHERISHING their wives.  C. Wives should SUBMIT to their husbands like the church submits to Christ.   Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  D. Husbands are to do EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to love your wife and may your love be marked by giving and not getting. Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • With that in mind it is easier to understand this thought, “Even if marriages are made in heaven, we have to be responsible for the maintenance.”  But when you have a good or happy marriage it will help everything else in your life.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • II. Here are six building foundations for a strong marriage. 1. A COMMITMENT to my companion first  The motto of successful marriages is “FAMILY FIRST”. Most marriages that fall apart do not do so because of huge problems but because of the lack of HUGE COMMITMENT. When there is commitment first to the family, then other things can be  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • The second building foundation for a strong marriage is:  2. A willingness to TALK to my companion.  A. Sad to say, but too many brides become widows after the wedding because they fail to communicate.  B. Look at the Marital Communication analysis:  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • 1st Year — 70 minutes a day  2nd Year — 30 minutes a day  3rd Year — 15 minutes a day  4th Year — 10 minutes a day  10th Year — 5 minutes a day  etc, etc  It becomes worse and worse as people stay together. My advise is : Keep on Wednesday, December 04, 2013 communicating. 
    •  C. Intimacy may be defined here as “The degree to which we share vulnerabilities (our weaknesses) in words.”  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  D. How can I know that I am intimate in my communication? Here’s how: We can know we are intimate if each of us can say anything, no matter how silly or frightened or immature or helpless it makes us look, and the other person will treat it with respect, and not use it Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • The third building foundation for a strong marriage is:  3. A working towards COMPATIBILITY.  A. I hope you understand that no couple is completely compatible. But may it be understood that in a strong marriage couples work together becoming more and more  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • As couples stay together, they become closer and compatibility starts taking place.  B. There are certain criteria you must have or work toward in order to accomplish good compatibility.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • i. VALUES  Values are what is important to you. Our children pick these up often without us teaching them. When we have the same values we have freedom with each other.   Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • ii. SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS  Friends are an important part of our social relationships. Your friendships should be shared together, not separate. Be careful how close you get to other individual couples.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • iii. INTELLECTUAL GROWTH  Learning and growing together will assure both partners a good future in their marriage. If both partners are not growing the marriage will either fail or only be average.  iv. LEISURE INTERESTS  Understanding your companions interests are important to your being  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • v. SEXUAL COMPLETENESS  This refers to the total malefemale relationship, not just 15 minutes of sexual intercourse. Sex is a special look, a special touch, the special way you relate as male and female. This includes a unique behavior between a husband and wife that is not shared with anyone else.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • The fourth building foundation for a strong marriage is:  4. An understanding of your LEADERSHIP ROLES.  A. Marriage is the only union that can’t be organized. Both sides think they are in management.   Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  B. There is a tendency for marriages of more equal power to be healthier in all other aspects. There are also successful, happy marriages with unequal power but with strong commitment, closeness, good communication and problem-solving skills. Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • C. Four possible relationship styles:  i. RETALIATION - Moving against each other.  ii. DOMINATION - Moving one over another.  iii. ISOLATION - Moving away from each other.  iv. COOPERATION - Moving with each other.   Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  D. The less respect in a marriage, the more one controls. The less respect for oneself lets the other one control. The less respect in a marriage the more one runs over the other. Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • The fifth building foundation for a strong marriage is:  5. A special CONSIDERATION for your companion.  A. You can tell a man’s character by the way he treats his wife. A man’s job is to spoil his wife.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • B. How to properly spoil your companion:  i. Think from their PERSPECTIVE.  ii. Make a list of little things they LOVE.  iii. DO the little things they love.  iv. DO the little things they love CHEERFULLY.  v. AFFIRM your spouse verbally, Wednesday, December 04, privately and publicly2013 
    • The sixth building foundation for a strong marriage is:  6. A willingness to work together SOLVING PROBLEMS.  Having a heart for each other will go along way in solving marital problems. Don’t do things without consulting.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • A. We need to clearly understand that whenever you have 2 or more people having a continuing relationship there will be conflict  B. Whenever there is conflict there can only be one of two outcomes  i. We will either hurt and even destroy each other.  ii. Or we will build up each other and benefit from the experience.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • C. How should we solve problems in our marriage?  i. Do not underestimate your problem. To illustrate this you can think of problems kind of like a pregnancy, things will keep growing until somebody will notice. When there is a conflict, look to resolve it, ignoring it will not make it go away.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  ii. Do not underestimate your potential to recover from these problems. You must remember that the problems you have encountered in your marriage have already been encountered by millions of other people of which millions have been successful in them. You and your problems are not unique just to you. Be Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • iii. Do not exaggerate your problem.  Please quit making them bigger than life. Too often a small problem is fueled and it ends up being a lot bigger than you could ever dream it to be.  iv. Consider all the possible solutions for your problem and Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  v. If your problems are not being progressively solved, be willing to seek help if really needed. Asking for help is not a sign of defeat but a sign of hope. Asking for help is a definite sign of your desire to solve your problems. There are some problems which need a third party to help each side see themselves as Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • D. Let me encourage you with this: One thing you really need to know is if you really do have a problem.  There are some things in a family that are just not going to change. Don’t take this in a negative way or to give up the problem. Remember, we are all different people and all have our different ways and different personalities.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  It is not really a problem for different personalities to never see things in the same way or like the same things. Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    • FINALLY  We celebrated 36 years of marriage on 3rd December 2013 and have now embarked on our 37th year. We have become closer and closer as time went on. Now that we are an empty nest, with only the two of us, we are learning new ways of handling our challenges. It is becoming more Wednesday, December 04, 2013
    •  I BELIEVE THAT THE ABOVE BUILDING FOUNDATIONS OF MARRIAGE COMBINED WITH DEDICATION TO THE BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES OF MARRIAGE AND PRAYER CAN BRING LASTING JOY AND HAPPINESS IN ALL MARRIAGES.  Wednesday, December 04, 2013