What is angerAnger is a natural emotion.It is nature’s way of telling us that something wrong in our lives has gone anywhere.
Causes of Anger Trying to change the past Trying to change others Lots of negativity in our mind and fixed belief system Unfulfilled desires
Anger is like a mirrorIt reflects your inner unstabilityIf you are disturbed inside, then you will be disturbed outside.It makes you blank and blind
Stages of Anger1. Low self esteem and always trying to please others2. Irritation3. Hatred4. Frustration5. Anger 1. Verbal 2. Aggression 3. Physical violence
Know the difference between anger and aggression. Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry. Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is not ok. Learn to check your aggression and express your anger appropriately.
Arguments are part of life and we get into arguments everyday with relatives, friends, classmat es, coworkers and sometimes even with strangers.Bur Remember They often are trivial and useless.
CONSEQUENCES OF ANGER Identify potential Physical harm to someone consequences of your or self anger to others and Strained relations yourself…what can that Destruction of property mean for you? Loss of family/friends Loss of job Loss of social privileges Going to jail Getting a bad reputation
How to Control 1st stage: Do not react 2nd stage: Do not get hurt 3rd stage: Do not think otherwise
Either control the anger OR Accept it as your natureBut then Do not complaint that 1. I want peace, 2. happiness and 3. good relationship
Remember Anger is absolutely and always harmful to me and to others It is my own creation. I can decide whether I have to be angry or not Match stick has a head and no brain
What to do? Awareness: Be aware it is “Anger” Acknowledgement: I have become angry Accept: It was my responsibility Detach: Who am I? I am a peaceful soul. Peace is integral part of my personality. Anger is not my nature. Introspection
Introspection1. It is absolutely harmful in all ways2. It is my own creation3. Change your belief system which is usually based on past experiences4. List the triggers and try to avoid them in future5. Note down gain or loss
Short pencil is better than a long memory. Use it to reduce your anger Write down everything which you do not like on a peace of paper and burnt it or throw it away Do not remember past bad experiences. Let them be washed away by flowing water like a river
Speak LessSpeak in low tone Speak sweet
RememberDo not criticize, condemn or complainBecause it makes you angrySay sorry at the right moment
A compilation of stress reduction techniques for channeling one’s angry feelings into socially acceptable directions Ability to cope and deal with stress
When you are ANGRY and UPSETremember…1-2-3 TURTLE
1 – Go inside your shell THINK before you ACT Take a “Time Out” Time heals everything Leave the room
2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths Time to RELAX Calm yourself down
3 – Walk Away Think of a good solution
Ways to Stop an Argument Never accuse a person ofbeing wrong. Admit your mistakes. Be pleasant and polite. Get your opponent sayingyes. The objective is to havethat person stop regardingyou as the adversary.
ANGER MANAGEMENT I stop blaming others and myself.1. Blaming only keeps people upset.2. Blaming is a way of not respecting people.3. I express my feelings and then try to work things out.
ANGER MANAGEMENT Steps to taming anger1. Know what pushes your buttons.2. Know your body’s anger signs.3. Stop and think!4. Cage your rage…it’s your choice.5. Decide what to do.
ANGER MANAGEMENT 1. Calm down 2. Name the problem 3. Find solutions 4. Pick the best solution 5. Evaluate the solution 6. Congratulate yourself 7. Show mutual respect 8. Make changes if necessary 9. Review the solution that was picked