2. Welcoming of the bridegroom: The bride's father and other members
of the family ceremoniously welcome the bridegroom to the marriage
hall. At the entrance to the wedding hall, which represents the bride's
residence, her parents welcome the groom with the flower garland.
3. Two ladies representing the bride and the groom perform Aarathi to clear the
aura with banana-wick lamps on a tray. Thereafter, to the accompaniment of
Nathswaram ( a wind music instrument) and Thavil ( a percussion instrument)
the Tholan and the bride's parents lead the groom to the Manavarai, the flower
festooned nuptial seat, where the priest awaits to perform the ceremony.
4. The Tholan wets the groom's feet
with the Chempu (a bronze vessel)
of water, a gesture lavished on an
honoured guest, and he in in
return rewarded with a gold ring
for his good grace.
5. The bride is then performs patha poojai for her parents. She is
given dress from the groom’s house to wear for the wedding. Once
the bride is taken away to be dressed up the groom is brought to
the mantap near the holy pyre after being given a pathapooja by
the bride’s brother.
6. TYING THALI
•The most important part.
•Legend has it that the thaali was
originally a tigers claw or tooth,
and if look at the thaali in the
picture can see the stylized tooth
shape. The groom gifted his bride
with this token of his bravery
(apparently he was supposed to
have killed the tiger himself, quite a
feat in the days before hunting
rifles!) and as a symbol that he was
brave enough and strong enough to
protect and provide for her
7. SAPTAPADI ( 7 STEPS)
•May this couple be blessed with an abundance of resources and
comforts, and be helpful to one another in all ways.
•May this couple be strong and complement one another.
•May this couple be blessed with prosperity and riches on all
levels.
•May this couple be eternally happy.
•May this couple be blessed with a happy family life.
•May this couple live in perfect harmony… true to their personal
values and their joint promises
•May this couple always be the best of friends.
8. After which the groom takes the right foot of his bride and places it on
a granite stone, Ammi Mithithal, and slips a Minji, a silver ring, on her
second toe, indicating she be as strong and steadfast as the stone in
the face of adversity.On completing the second round the groom slips a
second Minji on the second toe of her left foot. Arunthathi Paarthai at
this stage is the groom showing the bride the star Arunthathi. It is
significant that Arunthathi, wife of the referred sage Vashistar, virtuous,
chaste and devoted, was placed among the stars to be a model for all,
both man and woman, to emulate.
9. The priest first blesses the couple, showering them with rice, a
symbol of happiness, prosperity and fertility, followed by the
parents of the groom, the bride, their close relatives and the
guests. The wedding ceremony ends with an Arathi as the
newlyweds stand at the Manavarai.
Editor's Notes
The tying of the thaali is the most important ceremony in an Indian wedding, similar to our custom of exchanging rings. An Indian woman takes the thaali to be the most esteemed token of love offered to her by her husband.