I picked the topic of parent-teen relationships. I picked this topic because in the book Twisted Tyler didn’t have a good relationship with his parents. Through out the book there were many different conflicts. I explored reasons why conflicts may occur and how to fix your relationship with your parents.
Teens push for more independence.
Conflicts occur when teens push for more freedom then there parents feel they can handle.
Parents just want to protect there kids from mistakes that they themselves made as a teen.
Parents impose rules that they expect there teens to comply with. (stress)
94% of teens who took this survey had siblings.
*Parent is using the child as a substitute for an adult friend.
~If your parent is telling you too much or depending on you excessively for companionship, you need to say so.
*Parent talks to you in a way that makes you think badly of yourself
~Calmly speak to them and explain that how they speak to you affects how you see yourself. (Meyer)
Being positive, understanding and accepting of your parent(s) will make a difference regardless of whether your having difficulty with your parents.
Try to stay in touch with your feelings by talking them out with your parent(s). (Meyer)
*56% of teens said they can not talk to there parents about everything.
*Some topics they can not talk about is boys and sex.
*Some said they couldn’t talk to there parents about anything.
*You may not always see eye to eye.
*They get on your case and nerves sometimes.
*Your parent(s) want to help and understand you but it may not always seem that way. (Meyer)
Taking care of a family is difficult and complex responsibility. This can make it difficult to get a long at times.
Three mental tools to use when trying to deal with your parents:
~Have a positive attitude despite a difficult situation.
~Bring sincerely understanding of your parent(s) and any hardships they may be going through
~Accept your parent(s) for who they are. (Meyer)
Dealing with your parents
*78% of teens said there parents jobs do not interfere with there relationship.
*83% of teens get along with there moms while only 67% get along with there dads.
* Trusting another person-even someone in your family isn’t necessarily easy.
*In order to trust someone you need to be able to understand them first.
*Sharing your feelings with your parent(s) is a good way to communicate and build trust. (Meyer)
78% of teens say they trust there parents and there parents trust them.
56% of teens say they depend on there parents while 44% think they are independent.
78% say they feel there parents can provide then with what they need(food, shelter).
*Know what they like, how they think and how they feel about what’s happening in there lives.
*Imagine what they say to themselves/ about themselves.
*Speak the truth to them in a way they can hear it, clearly and gently.
*Have fun with them.
*Treat them as equals.
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Meyer, Jared. "Dealing With Your Parents." Teen Health and Wellness. Rosen, 2010. Web. 8 Jan. 2010. <http://www.teenhealthandwellness.com/article/112/dealing-with-your-parents>.