Detroit & West Michigan ConferencesMarch 19, 20, & 21, 2012
Psalm 119:10-16“I am single-minded in mypursuit of you; don’t let me missthe road signs you’ve posted.I’ve banked your promises in thevault of my heart so I won’t sinmyself bankrupt. Beblessed, God; train me in yourways of wise living.
I’ll transfer to my lips all thecounsel that comes from yourmouth; I delight far more in whatyou tell me about living than ingathering a pile of riches. Iponder every morsel of wisdomfrom you. I attentively watchhow you’ve done it. I relisheverything you’ve told me of life,I won’t forget a word of it.”
The Pastor, The Internet, ANDPornography/Obscenity
Pornography/ Obscenity: What’s the Difference?Pornography – sexually explicit materialthat portrays violence, abuse, coercion,domination, humiliation or degradation forthe purpose of arousalObscenity – “hard core porn”pornographic material that is beyond whatmajority of society will tolerate
1.What are your personal markers to alert you when your energy and spirit are low?2.What needs do you have right now?3.What needs are not being met?
“Youre blessed when youreat the end of your rope.With less of you there ismore of God and his rule.” Matthew 5:3 The Message
M – meditationE – exerciseD – dietS – sleepS - support
Counseling1. In which areas are you trained to counsel?2. How many sessions?3. Where do you counsel?
Pastoral Care Visits1. What boundaries have youdeveloped?2. Does anyone know who youvisit, where or when?3. In what ways do you offercompassion and care withoutbecoming enmeshed in thesituation?
Dual Relationships1. In what ways do you guardagainst dual relationships?2. Who is yourlover/partner/spouse’s pastor?3. What boundaries do youestablish when a dualrelationship is unavoidable?
Technology1. What guidelines have you developedregarding the use of your phone? Textmessages? To whom is your cell numbergiven?2. What personal boundaries have youdeveloped regarding information sharing on-line?3. What guidelines have you establishedregarding facebook “friends” who arecongregation members when you move toanother appointment?
1. How do you care for yourselfspiritually, emotionally, and physically?2. In what ways do you meet your needsbeyond the setting of ministry? List theactivities in which you engage that areunaffiliated with your role as a pastor.3. In what ways do you seek to meetyour needs for love, intimacy andaffirmation as a person?
If someone is drowning, secure yourself before you swim out to save them.Otherwise both of you will drown.