3 first date rules that make you or break you

3 First Date
Rules That
Make You Or
Break You

The lack of information in the PUA
Community about taking women on
actual first dates (much less dating and
relationships) is a bit misleading.
By the small amount of instruction and
education the community and pick up
artist forums offers, one tends to think
that Same Night Sex is the majority of
outcomes from cold-approach pickup.
Frankly, it‟s not.

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I know we‟ll be in a bit of hot water with
the „Same Night Lay‟ companies out
there, but allow me to explain.
A cold-approach pickup is a tumultuous
art that can result in several outcomes.
From a cold-approach, you can get a
number, you can get a makeout, you can
get a makeout and a number, a Same
Night Lay, or even the infamous double
cold approach threesome made infamous
by Johnny Wolf! Frankly, the possibilities
are fairly numerous.

However, assuming you’re a normal
guy and not an obsessive compulsive
PUA Community guy with a warped
perception of reality, then the most
common (and emotionally healthy)
outcome is a first date.


Since you and a lady have exchanged
information at the club (or bar, or
bookstore, or café) and she‟s now
chomping at the bit to see you, it‟s your
job to make the first move towards a
first date both memorable, interesting
and romantic.


You‟ve taken an ABCs Bootcamp or
attended and pre-ordered Gareth Jones‟
iGame: From Text To Sex program, so
you already know how to get a girl‟s
number and get a date lined up (right?),
so we‟re going to skip that part and get
right to discussing the rules and
guidelines that make a date good so that
you can set one up yourself.
If you ask 1,000 women to describe their
idea of a perfect date, you’ll get a
multitude of answers.

If you ask them to describe best date
they‟ve ever been on, you„ll get even
more; Some will say a guy took them
rock climbing or some preferred a quiet
date at the movies.
 I went out with a girl that said I took her
on the best date of her life, and all we
did was drink 2 Diet Cokes at the bar
across the street and then make out on
her couch for an hour before hopping in
bed. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I can‟t design the perfect date for you (I
mean, I can, but I„m not going to), but I
can help you craft your own awesome
date that she‟ll never forget by teaching
you the three rules of first dates. These
are rules to live by.
First Date Rule #1 is all mental, and you
have to accept it if you‟re ever going to
have a successful first date.


First Date Rule #1: The Man Is In
Charge. Period.
Now, don‟t get me wrong; this is not old-
fashioned chauvinism. This is the only
way to ensure everything happens the
way we want it to. If we want to make
sure we get to a location in a timely
manner, we need to be in control of the
mode of transportation, whether it be to
drive or to research the transportation
effectively.

This is about being well-prepared, well-
planned, and in control of logistics.
For example: If we want to make sure
that place will be able to accommodate
us when we do arrive, we need to make
the reservations. If you want to make
sure you don‟t spend an hour getting
lost, either have GPS or printed
directions. Common sense first date
rules.


Accept 100% of the responsibility so that
if she offers to do something (foot the
bill, get the drinks, order the deserts), it
will not only be a weight off our
shoulders, it will be a pleasant surprise.
When we accept 100% of the
responsibility in arranging and
executing a date, we are in complete
control and being DOMINANT.


Now that we‟re ready to design a date,
we have to choose some things to do.
It‟s logic. I say “some things” because
one activity does not a date make. „Going
to dinner‟ is not a date, it is going to
dinner.
To make it a date, we must incorporate
the second rule of ‘giving good date‘.


First Date Rule #2: Dates Need
Multiple Locations (i.e. Mini-Dates)
Take time out to plan several places that
you can bounce to in the event that one
gets a bit stale. So many dinner dates
fail because the woman feels trapped
while guys struggle to talk about all the
things she wants to hear. At best, you
have a great conversation and at worst,
you both awkwardly pick at your food
and wish you were somewhere else.

I‟ve been there and it‟s no fun. You need
to incorporate a few different locations
(or activities) so that you can achieve
different things on the date, not just
talking and eating.
How do we choose the right places to go
to on a first date? That is where rule #3
comes in:


First Date Rule #3: RESIST the Urge
to “Give Bad Date”
In order to make sure these places
you‟re choosing are date-worthy, run
through our RESIST checklist by asking
yourself the following questions, making
sure that you can „resist‟ planning a lame
date like every other guy.
The 5 Resist Questions you need to ask
yourself are:


Is It Romantic, Sensual, or Sexual?
First and foremost, dates are not
“hanging out”, so let‟s not assume they
are. Don‟t go to the places you go with
your buddies when you need a cheap
drink, make the effort to choose a place
that is aesthetically pleasing and will help
you create the story of a romantic first
date.


Maybe it‟s uber-romantic and has got
soft jazz and candle light (good for
strong connections), or maybe it‟s less
traditional and there‟s rock on the juke
box and kitschy, vintage colored lights
(good for injecting some indie fun into a
date).
Either way, make sure there is an
ambience that is different from her
standard trip out of the house, so you
can build the connection and create a
movie-like experience.

Is It Entertaining?
When you go to this new place, will you
have to be constantly filling time with
questions and stories about yourself, or
will there be times where you can both
sit back and enjoy the environment?


Whether it be a museum with interesting
exhibits or an amusement park with a lot
of things to see and do, make sure
you‟re in a dynamic environment that
can stimulate her senses and take a little
of the load off your back.
Adrenaline is also a great addition to a
date, so be sure to choose at least one
location that gets her blood flowing, like
bumper cars or rock climbing.


Is It Simple?
This is the other side of the „Entertaining‟
coin: You don‟t want an activity that is
too complicated to enjoy. Playing a game
of ping-pong is a fun activity that is both
competitive and simple, therefore,
making a great date activity.


Entering into a Texas Hold „Em
tournament might seem fun if you‟re
both into it, but it will be a very
complicated affair .
The two of you will be doing so many
other things that you won‟t have time to
build a connection. On top of that, you
will sacrifice most all of the other
elements of a good date location, as well!


Can You Isolate?
Whether it be to increase intimacy in
conversation (building deeper rapport) or
pure sexual escalation (when the time is
right!), make sure that your location has
the option of letting you two be alone.


Being on a date with someone that isn‟t
enjoying your company is pretty bad, but
being on a date with a girl who is ready
to go home with you when there‟s
nowhere to do it is even worse! Make
sure that you two can get a little private
time together, if need be.


Is it Suitable?
This is a really important aspect of a date
and fits in the VERY important category
of “Calibration”. Is your date location
somewhere you think your girl (or ANY
girl) would want to go to, and is it even
appropriate for a date, at all?


Good examples of places that are
suitable for first dates are:
Museums
Cafes
Planetariums
Amusement parks
Beach


Bad examples of places that are NOT
suitable for first dates are:
The movies (how are you going to talk to
her?)
Family reunions (she„ll feel awkward not
knowing anyone!)
Any kind of memorial (depressing!)
Or hit-or-miss options that she might
REALLY like (in which case, they would
be good) or might not care about at all
(like a concert or art gallery).

Hit or miss options are best saved for
second or third dates, when you know
the girl better.

Where and How Do You Take Her
Afterwards?
Much like „Isolation‟ being able to extract
from a particular location is really
important.


Whether it be to move to your next date
location to jumpstart a fading night or to
head back to your bedroom for the final
element, does this place offer a quick
opt-out so that you can move onwards
and upwards?
Now that you‟ve begun to understand the
important elements, you can easily craft
a great first date yourself. Start by
arranging a time and place to meet,
discussing travel details and then choose
your locations!

A Few Helpful First Date Tips:

You only need a few good locations
to make a lasting impression: Choose
places you know well and control the
variables of.


Enhance your strengths to
Demonstrate Higher Value: If you are
terrible at pool, playing pool is not a
good date activity.

Instead, head over to miniature golf,
where you can teach her a thing or two,
and look impressive while doing it
(sorta).


Always have something to talk
about: Whether its writing interesting
things down or practicing your improv
and bantering skills, ALWAYS assume
that you will be in control of the
conversation for the first 30 minutes to
an hour.


Even if a woman is attracted to you,
sometimes they‟re waiting for you to give
them something to go on. So have a few
conversation topics ready and obviously,
avoid the first date conversation killers:
religion, politics, and death.


Get it on your terms, but be sensitive
to her: When making the date, be sure
to be in control, but also know that
things may arise that you didn‟t expect.

If she‟s allergic to fish, swap out the
sushi place to keep the date flowing
smoothly


Stay flexible: Along the lines of the last
tip; having a plan is great, but it should
not be limiting. If she keeps talking
about how much she‟d like to see a
particular movie that neither of you have
seen, head on over to the theaters to see
when it‟s playing, even if it‟s not on the
agenda or the ideal situation. Your
spontaneity will impress her more than
the arcade you had planned will.


Like anything, practice makes perfect, so
be sure to refine and tweak each
individual element, rule, and guideline
every time you date so the next is always
better than the last!
Good luck planning and executing your
great first date!
Find out more about First Date Rules for
Men :
http://www.abcsofattraction.com


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