Empathic Listening “ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
I hear you but I’m not listening!!
Hearing comes naturally ,it is not an acquired skill. You don’t have to learn to hear.
Empathic listening is a way of listening through consciousness rather than physically just listening. Additionally, responding to another person improves mutual understanding and trust.
What is Empathetic Listening?
Empathic listening is when one listens with the intent to understand how the speaker feels in addition to understanding his or her ideas
Showing empathy involves identifying with a person’s emotions and situation; even if not in agreement with them
What are the Benefits of Empathetic Listening?
Empathic listening is typically an effective technique to use in emotional situations, when there is a problem that needs resolving, or if there is a conflict present
The goal is to enable the listener to share emotions free from judgment or criticism
How do you Listen Empathetically?
Ways to listen empathetically
“ You feel…”
“ It seems like…”
“ As I understand it, you sound…”
“ It appears as if…”
“ If I hear you correctly, you’d like…”
Steps for Empathic Listening
1. Listen carefully to the speaker’s messages, both verbal and nonverbal
2. Display an open, caring posture
3. Consider the speaker’s emotional state
4. Calmly reflect back what you perceive the speaker’s feelings and meaning to be
Behaviors to Avoid
Questioning or Probing
Giving autobiographical responses (e.g. “when I was on that team…”)
Empathic Listening Tips
Be interested in the speaker
Have good eye contact and body language
Invite the speaker to expand on his or her thoughts
Respond in a tone that is appropriate for the situation
Points to Remember
Empathic listening is about the speaker, not the listener
It is not necessary to use empathic listening during an entire conversation; it is primarily a way to understand another person’s point of view
Anyone who interacts with other humans can benefit from learning how to listen empathetically; regardless of gender, race, religion, or age.
Learning to listen empathetically not only teaches children to focus, absorb, and retain more, it more importantly teaches children to get along and work out their differences by seeing things through the other person’s perspective.
Americans seem to be behind the rest of the world when it comes to empathetic listening…
As a matter of fact we are viewed by other cultures as better talkers than listeners.
Australians not only teach empathetic listening to new parents as a skill to better understand their children, but it is taught in the classroom from the moment they begin school as well.
No matter who you are, where you live, or what your religion – when we truly need to be heard we speak to the greatest “ empathetic listener,” known to mankind…