You are beautiful inside and outDocument Transcript
You are Beautiful Inside and OutI heard this story the other day about a woman whose parents had selected an ugly serpent as hermate. Because she was not happy with her parent‘s choice she walked far and long to the wisestwoman in the village to ask her what she should do about her predicament.The wise woman told her to wear 10 dresses on her wedding day and before she laid down thatnight with the serpent, to take one dress off, and then ask the serpent to shed one of his skins.She was to do this until she had taken off all 10 dresses and he had shed all 10 skins and thenafter the 10th skin had been shed, she was to embrace him.And so she went home with the serpent. Eager to see her prince, the woman took off one of herdresses and asked her husband to shed one of his skins. He did as she said. She took off anotherdress and asked him again to shed one of his skins and he did. This went on until 9 of her dresseshad been removed and 9 of his skins had been shed. He had one more skin to go and the woman,in anticipation of her reward, removed her tenth dress, but to her surprise when her husband shedhis 10th skin, he was still an ugly serpent.The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with theheart” ~ Helen KellerThe woman was so disappointed. How could this be; she cried! 10 skins and he is still an uglyserpent! She cried and cried and cried. And while she cried her husband held her and wiped awayher tears. So touched by his act of loving kindness, the woman turned towards her husband andembraced him. It was then that he turned into a beautiful prince. Although this is a fairy tale,there is wisdom in it as there is in all fairy tales. The true beauty of someone lies beneath thesurface.“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but whenthe darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.” ~ElisabethKubler-RossNow let‘s take a real life example.My friend Robert has been a relationship with the same woman for the past six years. He loveseverything about her except for the excess skin around her stomach due to her dramatic weightloss. It bothered him so much that it was creating distance in his relationship with her. And thething is, he did not want it to bother him, but didn‘t know how to get past it. I said to him ―whatif something happened to you and you became disfigured in some way, would you want how shefelt about you to change. He answered no. I said ―that‘s how you have to look at it.‖Even if you met someone who looked ―perfect‖ at the time that you met them, something couldalways happen and their looks could change too. Sometimes we get too caught up in what aperson looks like. And I know that its not hard not to. Every time I turn on the television I see atleast one commercial marketing some product that promises to reduce puffy eyes, eliminatecellulite, remove fine lines and wrinkles, get buns of steel or six-pack abs. Wrinkles, fine lines,sagging, dragging are not things to run away from, they are a part of getting older. It is thenatural progression life.
Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty – they merely move it from theirfaces into their hearts. -Martin BuxbaumAnd although your physical form will change and no longer meet society‘s narrow definition ofbeauty, your inner beauty will continue shine if you let it. Some things get better with age andpeople are one of them. For the most part, as we get older, we lose the angst, awkwardness,confusion and general of growing up. We gain a deep appreciation for life and a knowing ofwhat is really important.There is beauty in everyone. You are beautiful because you were born.Power of beauty inside & outThere is no better way to remember an exceptional woman than to pass forward her convictionsand ideals. Tiffany Tan has the details.This spring, a Chinese organization is looking for women who are more beautiful than theflowers in bloom. This is not a beauty pageant, a reality TV show or a matchmaking activity. It isa search for ordinary Beijing women who are beautiful inside and out. The contest will belaunched on Thursday, International Womens Day, and is sponsored by the China Soong ChingLing Foundation to mark 30 years since Soong Ching-lings Beijing residence opened its doors tothe public.With nominees from all walks of life welcome, it also aims to keep Soongs memory and spiritalive.Soong (1893-1981) is considered the "mother of the Chinese nation". She was the wife of Dr SunYat-sen, the first provisional president of the Republic of China and the revolutionary leaderhailed as the "father of modern China".After Suns death in 1925, Soong continued fighting for her husbands cause: Chinas social andeconomic development, including greater rights for women.Soong and her two sisters were the first Chinese women to be educated in the United States. (Theyoungest, Mei-ling, later married Nationalist leader Chiang Kai-shek). They attended WesleyanCollege, the worlds oldest womens college, in the state of Georgia.Soong, who obtained a Bachelor of Arts degree in 1913, is remembered by teachers andclassmates for her devotion to her country."When dynastic control of China was finally overthrown in 1911, Ching-ling tore down the oldbanner of the Chinese dragon from her wall and vehemently replaced it with the new flag herfather had sent her," a 1997 article in the Wesleyan Magazine says."Ching-ling wrote several impassioned essays for the student magazine on the subject of theChinese Revolution."
At around this time, "she began to speak out against the conditions of women in China, whichexpressed her ideals of liberty and equality", according to an online profile of Soong by BrandeisUniversity in Massachusetts.After the outbreak of the Sino-Japanese War in 1937, Soong organized the China DefenseLeague, which did medical and child welfare work around the country. The organization hassince become the China Welfare Institute, with programs in maternity and child health care,preschool education, as well as out-of-school education.In 1981, shortly before her death, Soong was named honorary president of the Peoples Republicof China."For the Chinese, Soong Ching-ling is the representation of female beauty. She is a perfectcombination of Chinese traditional virtue and a spirit that keeps pace with the times," says ShaoQun, head of business development at the Former Residence of Soong Ching-Ling.In April, the China Soong Ching Ling Foundation will announce the 10 winners of theirinaugural "beauty contest". It will be just in time for when Beijings flowers start blooming.Achieving Beauty Inside OutBeauty is more than what’s on the outside. How good you look and feel stems from your innerhealth and vitality. Fortify your skin, hair and nails by eating foods packed with key nutrientslike protein, and vitamins and minerals such as vitamin E and folic acid, and calcium, iron andzinc.Get the most from your workouts – eat before you exercise. Staying energized during aworkout helps you burn those extra calories to help you lose weight and work harder at liftingweights to tone and shape your muscles. Start your workout well fueled, by eating healthy foodslike LUNA bar or fresh fruit about an hour before you exercise.Eat healthy fat for glowing skin and a strong immune system. Special types of healthful fatsfound in foods such as fish, nut, avocados, and olive oil, are crucial for healthy skin and nervefibers. These fats boost your immunity, fight inflammation, and keep joints well lubricated.Snack on nuts instead of potato chips and spread avocado on bread instead of margarine orbutter.Reduce signs of aging with an ample array of oxidants. Free radicals, which damage cells andtissues and can lead to such diseases as cancer, have been singled out as a fundamental cause ofaging. Antioxidants, including vitamins A, C, and E along with special substances calledphytochemicals found in fruits and vegetables, help stop the action of free radicals. Antioxidantscan also be found in almonds, natural peanut butter and some nutrition bars.Substitute candy bars with nutrition bars for a healthy pre- or post workout fuel. Nutritionbars make great stand-ins for candy bars because they contain less fat and fewer calories. What‘smore, some bars, like the LUNA bar, taste great and come fortified with 25 to 100 percent of theDaily Value for many vitamins and minerals – a benefit you would seldom get from a candy bar.
Drink between 1.5 and 2 quarts of water per day and when exercising, drink 5 to 12 ouncesof fluid for every 15 minutes of exercise. The moment you start exercising, your body beginslosing water through sweat, and this fluid loss quickly compromises performance. Drinkingplenty of fluid aids in dissolving and transporting the water-soluble nutrients through your body,regulating body temperature and removing unwanted substances. Staying well hydrated alsohelps keep your skin feeling firm and smooth.Understanding BeautyJust as we are attracted to beauty, we are also affected by our perceptions of beauty. Magazines,advertising, the different environments you may find yourself in through the week — it doesn‘tmatter where you go, issues of ‗beauty‘ and ‗image‘ follow. It colors how you perceive and reactto others, and it deeply affects how you identify yourself. Our approach is key in definingbeauty. To feel beautiful is to to feel attractive based on attributes that we possess as individuals.Understanding beauty is to not shrink back from life, but to thankfully recognize and embracethe gifts one has been given and use them to empower and better others. Fathers have theopportunity to reflect a healthy perception of beauty into the lives of their sons and daughters. Asyou walk through this study, allow yourself the time to reflect on how your own father invested(or didn‘t invest) in a meaningful definition of beauty within your own life. But remember, dad‘sare human too, and many people have not experienced this sort of meaningful relationship . As aresult, our perception of beauty, and how we are made beautiful, has the potential to becomeskewed.It’s OK to Be Different, Different is Still Beautiful I modeled a great deal as a teenager, but I don’t fit the mold set by the modeling industry. I am not the willow six-foot-tall blond you often see sashaying down the runway.I am 5‘5″ and due to childhood illness I have been completely bald since I was nine years old.My hair loss is due to Alopecia Areata, an auto-immune disorder for which there is no cure. Theonly physical side effect of the disease is hair loss, but the emotional and social impact ofgrowing up bald is huge. I was constantly teased and tormented at school, had few friends andwas told that I would never find a husband. Fearing rejection, I hid the fact that I wore a wig forfifteen years, even as an adult, even while modeling.One day my son, then only two years old approached me while I was sitting in the bed watchingTV. He gently rubbed my baldhead and said, ―Momma, your hair is so pretty!‖ As I began toquiz him it hit me that he really did think that my bald head was pretty. He didn‘t see me asdifferent than any other normal person WITH hair. What love he must have for me. He wascompletely at peace knowing that his mother is bald, it didn‘t bother him a bit. His acceptancechallenged me to change my life and I decided to start by changing the way I thought aboutmyself.
I decided that: 1. Bald is beautiful 2. I will love myself 3. I will be confident in my abilities 4. I will have peace in knowing that I am baldLetting other people see meI accepted that I could live with being bald. I wanted to help others. After many nights ofwatching the news and seeing it full of violence in schools often brought on by low self-esteem ,I knew I had found my mission. I wanted to help children understand why teasing hurts andhow much damage it can do. I knew the effect teasing had on the way I saw myself growingup. I wanted to spare other kids from being made to feel worthless because of someone else‘sthoughtless comments.It was during this time that I was booked as a guest on The Learning Channel‘s show ―A Make-Over Story.‖ I was so excited! I was getting the works and it would be aired on nationaltelevision with millions of viewers! I was going to get a little bit of celebrity. Then reality hit mewith one simple question – was I willing to take my wig off on camera? Would I show them thereal me?I lost sleep thinking about it. The thought of going bald, and on television made me nauseous. Inever even left the house without my wig. Finally, I agreed that if necessary, they could show mebald but I‘d rather it be split second and not focus on me. They assured me that they probablywouldn‘t even need to do it so don‘t worry about it.Showing the world the real meThe first day of filming, the producer didn‘t ask me if I wanted to film bald, she simply told mewe were going to. It was the best thing that could have happened because there was no time tothink about it, I just did it! When it was over, I had a natural high and when I was alone with myhusband later that afternoon he looked at me and said, ―I‘m really proud of you – that took guts. Ireally think this show could reach people and touch someone‘s heart.‖ And you know, that‘s all Ireally wanted to do.I’ve gone through years of humiliation and low self esteem because I was different. I prayedfaithfully for healing but my hair never came back. After fifteen years, I finally came to therealization that the only way God (a God who I know loves me so much) can stand by and watchall of these terrible things happen to His own child is because He knows that He has great thingsin store for me.I would have given anything to have someone tell me they understood what I was goingthrough, that it was OK to be different, that if I just hung in there and was strong I would bevictorious. It would have made all the difference in the world. I could have been spared so manydoubts, questions and fears. Since I didn‘t have that person, I want to be that person.I know how hard it was to grow up “different” and be a Christian and have a Savior to call onthat was faithful and loving. I can‘t imagine how hard it must be to go through life‘s hurt and
trials alone. God loves you with a love that embraces you whether you are over weight, underweight, handicapped or like in my case bald.If you are alone or hurting, you can have personal relationship with Jesus Christ like I do. Allyou have to do is ask Him.God knows your heart so it doesn‘t matter which words you use, but here‘s a suggested prayer:Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I openthe door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Saviour and Lord. Take control of mylife. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of woman youwant me to be.If this prayer expresses the desire of your heart, pray it right now and Christ will come into yourlife just as He promised. If you invited Jesus Christ into your life, thank God often that He is inyour life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more aboutyour relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you‘ll experience life to the fullest.Beautiful Inside and Out"If eyes were made for seeing,then Beauty is its own excuse for being." (Ralph Waldo Emerson, Poems, The Rhodora)The renowned 19th century American poet and essayist herein expresses one of the mainphilosophic tenets of the Western World: "Beauty is its own excuse for being." Indeed, WesternCivilization appears to be built on the adoration of Beauty. From fair Helen of Ancient Troy -dubbed by 16th century British bard, Christopher Marlowe, "the face that launched a thousandships," - down through the meanderings of time until todays Miss Universe Beauty Pageant,beauty has played a central role on the stage of history.Beauty, however, is not limited to the appearance of women. Its significance may be recognizedas well in a Western World that has given primacy throughout the ages to music, literature,drama, painting, and the other "fine arts." Upon close examination, much of todays world seemsto be focused on "aesthetics," the celebration of the various faces of Beauty.What is the true purpose of Beauty? Does the Torah also give it primacy?Shlomo Hamelech, the "wisest of men," warns us: "False is grace, and vain is beauty, the womanwho fears the Lord shall be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). The Torah seems to take the oppositestance; not only is Beauty not a prominent factor, it is even dangerous in that it is "false." Itwould seem that its importance is to be denigrated.Yet, the Gaon of Vilna takes us deeper when he brings Shlomo Hamelechs statement injuxtaposition to the Torahs description of the Matriarchs. Why, asks the Gaon, should the Torahmake note of the beauty of the Matriarchs, calling Sarah, Rivka, and Rachel "beautiful in form,and beautiful in appearance," if this beauty is "vain" and "false?" He answers that there are
different types of physical beauty. There is physical beauty that is only "skin deep," onlyphysical with no spiritual concomitant. There also exists physical beauty which is at basespiritual, an emanation of an inner beauty, causing observers of this individual to remark: "Whata perfect Creation, beautiful inside and out." This, concludes the Gaon, was the startling beautyof the Matriarchs, a beauty that emanated from the inside out.How radically different than a woman who has only physical beauty, whom Shlomo Hamelechcompares to a "gold ring in the nose of a sow." What is this metaphor meant to illustrate? Goldsymbolizes honor and importance; it adorns thrones, scepters, and crowns. A nose ring whichwas a symbol of beauty, especially one made of gold, is most incongruous in the snout of theswine, a disgusting beast that uses its snout to dig in revolting places. So is the physical beauty ofa woman who does not aspire to the pursuit of Truth a falsification, an enticing peel devoid of itsnourishing fruit.The nation of Israel descends from Shem, the youngest son of Noach; ancient Greece wasdescended from Yefet, Noachs oldest son. The Torah traces the roots of their national characterto a single incident: Upon hearing from their brother Cham that their father lay intoxicated andexposed in his tent, they remedied the embarrassing situation by covering him. "And Shem andYefet took a garment, and put it upon both of their shoulders, and went backwards and coveredthe nakedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their fathersnakedness" (Bereishet 9:23). Rashi tells us the consequences of this action for the descendants ofthe three sons: Cham who disgraced his father is cursed that his descendants will be led intoslavery naked and barefoot; Yefet who assisted his brother in covering his fathers disgracemerits honorable burial for his descendants, and Shem, who initiated the action, merits tzitzit forhis descendants.While we can understand the consequences of Chams action, the distinction between that ofShem and Yefet is more subtle, for, did they not both together perform the same dignified deed?In truth, the actions of Shem and Yefet were vastly different. Shem who initiated the meritoriousdeed was motivated by an internal stimulus, seeing beyond the physical disgrace to thedegradation of the "image of G-d," the entire spiritual domain. His reward is tzitzit, a physicaltool that enables him to see beyond the physical world to the spiritual world above. Yefet, whofollows Shems lead, concurring that human disgrace must be removed, is responding merely tothe external stimulus. He is rewarded with the external trappings of human dignity - honorableburial."G-d has granted Beauty to Yefet, and he will dwell in the tents of Shem" (Bereishet 9:27). TheBeauty granted Yefet, and his progeny, the nation of Greece, is external; the Beauty of the finearts, the worship of the physically beautiful - Beauty which is "its own excuse for being." Yet,this Beauty is intended to dwell in the tents of Shem and those of the nation of Israel, to assist inthe glorification of True Beauty - the inner beauty of the soul and spirituality. As history soclearly demonstrates, from the ancient political and cultural struggles between Classical Greeceand Israel, down through the ages until that of the contemporary Jew surrounded by WesternCivilization, True Beauty must either emanate from within or at least assist and glorify this innerBeauty - the Eternal Truth of Torah!
How to Be Beautiful Inside & OutHow To Be Beautiful Inside & OutBeauty is often described as being seen in the eye of the beholder, but, true beauty is not just thatwhich is seen; its both inside and out. Contrary to popular belief, beauty is not just a gift that oneis born with as a birthright, but one that is acquired through sometimes tedious work anddiligence. Truly achieving and becoming beautiful inside and out means that personalappearance must go hand in hand with values as a subtext to the souls desires and the spiritsintent.Instructions 1. o 1 Exude health from within. One of the building blocks to being beautiful inside and out is to practice healthy habits. You are what you eat, and if you insist on consuming unhealthy foods or cook using unhealthy practices, you will not be as beautiful as possible both inside and out. Eating a balanced diet that includes 64 ounces of water throughout the day as well as foods like leafy greens, fruits, nuts, oats, wheat, fish and chicken will yield a healthier body inside and out. o 2 Spend some time on your outward appearance. Take extra time to choose clothes that compliment your body type and shape, as well as accentuate your features with accessories. Ensuring that you have a clean and well-kept appearance is a must, as is taking time to exercise to improve or maintain your appearance. o 3 Define and live by your own personal belief and value system. In most situations, we as individuals know how we feel about a situation despite outside influences. Defining what our own personal beliefs are and living by those values will align the body and mind. You will also seem like a more genuine person to others if you practice what you preach. o 4 Respect others individuality and opinions. Even if you have learned to practice the values you believe, your attitude can prevent you from respecting other peoples choices to be themselves. Either through pompous arrogance or self- indulgence, disrespect of others is a pitfall that you should not fall victim to, as it doesnt make you more valuable or better than them. o 5
Volunteer your services when possible. You can allow your internal beauty to grow by mentoring others in various programs, helping in your local community, or simply being a shoulder to lean on when someone comes to you for help. Not only will volunteering make you more beautiful inside, but it will add beauty to the lives of others as well.Steps 1. 1 Go to bed very early, on the evening to that special day. On the D-day, wake up early in the morning. 2. Stretch yourself and wake up and sit on your bed with a very beautiful and confident smile. Thank God for giving you such a beautiful life and such a beautiful morning. 3. Brush and floss your teeth for that charming white smile. 4. Take a really nice self-indulging warm shower after shampooing and conditioning your hair. Scrub your body very well with a body scrub. Use pumice stone for your heels. 5. Get out of the shower and moisturize your entire face and body with a face cream and perfumed body lotion respectively. Spray on your favorite deodorant. Deeply moisturize your feet. 6. Put on your favorite inner garments, dress and your favorite perfume. 7. Spread hair softener on your beautiful hair and comb it softly and slowly as this will prevent hair breakage and will enhance hair manageability. 8. 8 Do a few yoga stretches(Surya Namaskar)to improve your blood circulation. 9. Have lemon tea with honey as it is the best tea to kick start your beautiful day.Have your cereal and a cup of warm honey water(it is a rejuvenation drink).
10. Before getting out of your house, spray your shoes or sandals with an air freshener or deodorant.Do not forget your sunscreen lotion. 11. Face the world with a smile. Greet your neighbours, friends, newspaper boy and everyone whom you know. Smile with a gratitude to this universe for whatever you are. Say Thank You with a heartfelt smile to all those who acknowledge your beauty. Help the people around you. 12. Say no to junk food today. Eat healthy and have lots of water. 13. Come home with a smile and indulge yourself in a relaxing chamomile bubble bath for 10 to 20 minutes. 14. Have a hot soup before your healthy dinner. Drink a cup of chamomile tea before 30 minutes of sleeping.Tips Keep your house clutter free. Avoid watching movies (horror or violence) before bedtime. Go to bed before 11pm. Avoid coffee and carbonated drinks completely. Smile. No sarcasm or frustration.