Some couples enjoy erotic spankings, and some of the couples that enjoy erotic spankings misunderstood my statement above. "Im upset with your attitude today, honey. Were going to have sex with some erotic spankings thrown in there to help you get your attitude fixed," sounds pretty absurd to me. This is NOT a "fun", "exciting", or "sexual" activity to be done whenever you feel like it. Spankings (under a discipline sense) are not fun, exciting or sexual. If you do find spankings to be those things, then information about erotic spankings is what youre looking for.
Weve established erotic spankings will not be discussed on this discipline presentation since they have nothing to do with Domestic Discipline. One commenter asked if I felt discipline spankings and erotic spankings could not co-exist in a marriage, and later went on to ask if I felt they could not work together. This comment/question confused me some, since I feel it was asking two different questions. Do I feel discipline spankings and erotic spankings can co-exist in a marriage? Of course they can.
A couple that practices Domestic Discipline can include erotic spankings in their sex life. What they do during intimate times is their business. Absolutely discipline spankings and erotic spankings can co-exist in a marriage.
Do I feel discipline spankings and erotic spankings can work together? No, I do not. Going back to the point I made earlier, one cannot correct a behavior by having sex. When sex gets mixed in with discipline, it confuses the brain. Literally. One begins associating discipline with sex, and it causes increased problems in behavior.
In a discipline instance, people associate poor behavior with subsequent discipline. If sex gets involved in any way, one then associates discipline with sex. So, when sex and discipline get mixed together, the association then becomes poor behavior leads to subsequent sex. As general human nature, people enjoy sex. When this happens, future poor behaviors increase since the one acting out knows sex will follow (after the disciplinary action), which is something they enjoy.
Domestic discipline sex, ultimately, is reinforcing the poor behavior and thus will increase the likelihood of it repeating. Discipline spankings and erotic spankings CANNOT work together. That last paragraph was kind of confusing so Ill illustrate my point. Here is the thought process: Poor behavior --> Discipline --> Sex
Naturally, through the transitive property (If A = B and B = C, then A = C), this then becomes: Poor behavior --> Sex That cant happen unless you want to see an increase in poor behavior, which is essentially the exact opposite of what Domestic Discipline is intended to do. So, once again, discipline spankings and erotic spankings cannot work together. I understand spanking, even in a discipline sense, can be arousing. Im not arguing that point at all. It can be. But, after the little spiel I went on about how mixing sex with discipline is a no-no, I obviously highly recommend NOT mixing sex with discipline.
If this is difficult for you to do, change the way you spank. Start to spank over the underwear or light clothing rather than bare-bottomed. After the comforting, do something to take your mind off of sex. So how long after a spanking (a discipline spanking) should you wait to have sex? For best results, I recommend you wait until her buttocks feels 100% better. I understand why people were confused by what I said, and the difference between punishment spankings and erotic spankings.
They fall under the same category (spankings) but are two completely different things. Just like apples and oranges. Same category (fruit), different things. One last thing I want to say before I end this - Domestic Discipline is one ASPECT of a marriage. I think that covers everything I wanted to put within this entry. I hope it clarified, but maybe it didnt. I dont know. I talk a lot sometimes. Anyway, as always feel free to comment or ask questions in the comments section of the presentation.