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In every office (no matter the size or age of the company), there is always that one guy whose ego can’t seem to fit in the room when you or your team is in it. There are many ways to identify this ...

In every office (no matter the size or age of the company), there is always that one guy whose ego can’t seem to fit in the room when you or your team is in it. There are many ways to identify this guy with the big ego, he…
• Overly uses the word “I” or “Me” when he should be saying “Us” or “We”
• Is consistently telling everyone in the office about his great ideas, how he is the one driving the results, and how nothing gets done unless he is working on it
• Feels that he must micromanage everyone around him in order to feel like he is in control of everything
• Likes to delegate projects and tasks to everyone else, because he is bigger than that remedial task
• Is constantly one upping everyone with his better story, nicer office, and commissions earned
• Makes sure that everyone in the room knows he is there

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  •               Art  of  the  W ingman  for  Business  is  dedicated  to  the  businesswomen  and  businessmen  who  seek  greatness  beyond  their  own   and  find  their  successes  through  helping  others  succeed.  The  Business  Wingman  follows  the  path  of  the  selfless  person.     Battling  Big  Egos  at  Work     Key  Points   • Keep  calm  and  remain  selfless   • Take  big  actions  and  diminish  his  ego   • There’s  strength  in  numbers,  it’s  about  the  efforts  of  the  team     In  every  office  (no  matter  the  size  or  age  of  the  company),  there  is  always  that  one   guy  whose  ego  can’t  seem  to  fit  in  the  room  when  you  or  your  team  is  in  it.  There  are   many  ways  to  identify  this  guy  with  the  big  ego,  he…   • Overly  uses  the  word  “I”  or  “Me”  when  he  should  be  saying  “Us”  or  “We”   • Is  consistently  telling  everyone  in  the  office  about  his  great  ideas,  how  he  is  the   one  driving  the  results,  and  how  nothing  gets  done  unless  he  is  working  on  it   • Feels  that  he  must  micromanage  everyone  around  him  in  order  to  feel  like  he  is   in  control  of  everything   • Likes  to  delegate  projects  and  tasks  to  everyone  else,  because  he  is  bigger  than   that  remedial  task   • Is  constantly  one  upping  everyone  with  his  better  story,  nicer  office,  and   commissions  earned   • Makes  sure  that  everyone  in  the  room  knows  he  is  there        
  •       Pretty  much,  you’re  feeling  that  his  ego  is  driving  you  crazy  and  is  making  you  feel   like  screaming  at  the  top  of  your  lungs.  There  are  probably  times  when  you  just   want  to  punch  him  in  the  face.  But,  don’t  give  in  to  his  attitude  and  remember  the   guiding  principles  of  the  Business  Wingman.  Remember  that  your  selfless  actions   will  only  diminish  his  ego  and  raise  the  visibility  of  your  team.     Business  Wingman  Definition:     A  Wingman  is  anyone  who  selflessly  supports  others  into  and  around  any  social  or   business  situation,  and  cares  more  for  the  team’s  welfare  and  success  than  his/her   own.     Here  are  3  key  points  to  battling  that  office  ego:     1) Keep  calm  and  remain  selfless.   Remember  that  as  a  Wingman,  you  have  the  duty  of  staying  strong  for  your  team   and  setting  the  example  of  how  to  battle  big  egos.  The  first  thing  is,  don’t  let  his  ego   get  to  you  and  let  it  diminish  you  or  your  team’s  morale.  Secondly,  it’s  important  to   understand  that  the  origin  of  his  ego  may  be  fear.  Psychologists  have  made  parallels   to  egos  and  fear,  in  that  the  more  they  fear  the  world  around  them,  the  more  they   use  ego  to  shield  themselves  from  reality.  Maybe  it  could  be  that  he  has  a  fear  of   failure  and  is  masking  that  fear  with  ego.  No  matter  the  reasoning,  remember  that   the  acts  of  the  selfless  Wingman  have  no  fear  because  he  relies  on  the  power  of  his   team,  and  collectively  the  efforts  of  that  team  will  prevail.     2) There’s  strength  in  numbers,  it’s  about  the  efforts  of  the  team.     A  great  reference  to  team  is  one  from  Malcolm  Gladwell’s  book,  The  Tipping  Point.   He  writes  about  the  Power  of  Context  and  that  the  small  things  that  a  group  of  
  • people  does  can  influence  its  environment.  The  influence  that  he  refers  to  is  not   solely  the  actions  of  just  you,  the  Wingman.  He  is  referring  to  the  actions  of  a  group   of  people  or  the  team  that  can  cause  things  to  tip.  "Human  Behavior  is  sensitive  to   and  strongly  influenced  by  its  environment.  As  Malcolm  Gladwell  says,  ‘Epidemics   are  sensitive  to  the  conditions  and  circumstances  of  the  times  and  places  in  which   they  occur’"  Wikipedia/The  Tipping  Point.  Your  Wingman  duty  is  to  be  that  team   catalyst  and  influence  the  change  in  behavior  of  the  team.  Drive  your  team  to   success  and  you  will  see  the  situation  tip.  This  in  turn  will  drive  change  and  force  big   egos  out  of  the  office  place.     3) Take  big  actions  and  diminish  his  ego.   Referring  to  Gladwell’s  notion  of  the  Tipping  Point,  he  also  refers  to  his  concept,  The   Law  of  the  Few.  This  law  is  similar  to  the  80/20  Principle,  “which  is  the  idea  that  in   any  situation  roughly  80  percent  of  the  'work'  will  be  done  by  20  percent  of  the   participants"  Wikipedia/The  Tipping  Point.  He  furthers  says  that  3  different  types  of   people  enact  this  Law  usually:  Connectors,  Mavens,  and  Salesmen.  In  every  group,   there  will  be  one  of  each  and  your  job  as  the  Wingman  is  to  be  the  catalyst  for  each   of  these  3  types  of  people.  Enabling  your  team  to  act  and  continue  to  drive  results  in   the  workplace  will  create  great  actions  that  will  overshadow  his  ego  and  the   Wingman  and  his  team  will  prevail.     Remember  that  as  a  Business  Wingman,  patience  is  a  virtue  and  acting  at  the   appropriate  time  makes  all  the  difference.  Timing  is  everything.     Amidst  the  chaos  of  the  workday,  you  need  to  remember  to  stay  true  to  your  guiding   principles  and  that  the  selfless  acts  of  the  wingman  will  overshadow  his  ego  and   prevail  in  the  long  term.       Visit  our  blog  at  http://www.artofthewingman.com.