By Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome
is not a medically
recognized syndrome…
Often, you don’t
realize you are a
victim …
spouse
children
parent
sibling
friend
colleague
peer
partner
Can you
spot the person
with a
Narcissistic
Personality
Disorder (NPD)?
Because the NPD
goes undetected in
the home, school,
work-place,
organizations, and
social settings your
plight is not
rec...
People with NPD have an inflated sense of
self-importance, see themselves as
perfect and will attack anyone who tries
to p...
They require constant attention and
admiration and often use others selfishly for
their own ends. When criticized, they re...
Abuse is a pattern
of behaviour
used to establish
power and control
over another
person.
http://www.lsh.me/What-is-Domesti...
Victims often display a set, or
cluster, of symptoms due to:
physical
mental
emotional
spiritual
sexual
http://www.accpc.ca/rtr-resources-cd-emo_abuse.htm
http://fatalparade.deviantart.com/art/Caught-in-
a-Web-49655807
Victims
need
help
Victims
need
help
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-yTdToRMB3RE/TmSlw4U1TaI/AAAAAAAAA8E/S9SD5LBtkO4/s1600/terrified_face_by_graphi...
When you know
something
feels wrong …
Narcissistic
Personality
Disorder
abuse
http://guidescroll.com/2011/10/stellar-impact-tactical-maneuvers-list-for-ship-com...
Yet victims
don’t know …
www.abc.net.au
http://www.mobygames.com/game/windows/lone-survivor/screenshots/gameShotId,555880/
Narcissistic supply
comes from public
attention such as
fame, celebrity,
notoriety, or infamy or
private attention such
as...
Anything that acts as a
status symbol that
attracts attention and
admiration for the
narcissist is narcissistic
supply, fo...
NPDs believe they are
superior and entitled.
They are envious and
exploitative, controllin
g and manipulating
others witho...
http://familialramblings.com/excuses/
http://rlv.zcache.com.a
u/smiley_brain_i_tell_lie
s_print-
rec42706f3d25459d94849
11...
As a child, a healthy self-
esteem (true self) did not
develop in the Narcissistic
Personality Disordered so
they built up...
http://www.wattpad.com/15066665-backstabbing-best-friend#.Ufn1QhYzmlI
Wearing the mask is not
only emotionally
exhausting, it also means
that the NPD is
constantly on guard at
being found out....
- Narcissistic abuse is insidious because the abuse is
covert, cunning and indirect.
- Narcissists go to great pains to av...
Victims are constantly being tested
NPDs are constantly pretending.
It is impossible to know what is false and what is real.
For a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
‘Love’ is false
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
do not accept responsibility for themselves.
As such, they can’t apologize.
They justify cruelty as ‘honesty’
For whatever the reason
you entered the Dance of
the Narcissist (a behaviour
known as Codependency)
so that in the dance t...
In Narcissistic Victim Syndrome you are
looking for a cluster of symptoms to
emerge, many are the symptoms of trauma:
avoi...
NPD abuse victims
express feelings of
humiliation and
shame, and apt to self-
blame.
You have learned to
take responsibili...
Some victims
develop Stockholm
Syndrome and want
to support, defend,
and love the abuser
despite what they
have gone throu...
Victims may ‘dissociate’ or
detach from their emotions,
body, or surroundings.
Living in a war zone where
all forms of pow...
Victims are often
victimized by more than
one person.
They often internalize
that something is wrong
with them, that they
...
Victims of narcissistic abuse often appear
uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking
clarification that they haven’t mad...
Gaslighting is a technique of
psychological abuse used by NPDs
to instil confusion and anxiety in
their victim to the poin...
Confusion sets in after
incessant comments
such as: ‘You’re too
sensitive’, ‘You’re
crazy’, ‘You’re
imagining things’ or ‘...
Broken and unable to
trust themselves, they
isolate themselves
further.
The victim now doubts
everything about
themselves,...
You feel you
deserve it
You get
used to the abuse
You hope
things will change.
You’re tired.
- Victims need validation and
education about what has
happened to them.
- They need information about
Narcissistic Person...
Appropriate support in:
1)Education – schools
2)Legal – law courts
3)Medical – health
practitioners
4)Business – workplace...
One of their greatest
challenges may come from not
being believed by significant
others, either because these
others have ...
Another challenge is
denial. A victims
can’t see that the
NDP aspects of their
life is all wrong.
Victims don’t want
to fa...
http://vidablogg.files.wordpress.com/2013/02/wpid-531-have-you-ever-been-hurt2.jpg
http://kootation.com
www.uscpublicdiplomacy.org
www.shinystarlight.tumblr.com
http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/62/27/66/622766d188b6c19efa2e78836ea1d763.jpg
Please share these other links on
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-
flags-to-nar...
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
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Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
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Narcissistic Victim Syndrome - the Fallout of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A Powerpoint by Jeni Mawter
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder is an insidious and destructive personality disorder that creates chaos for individuals, families, workplaces, schools, and communities. It often lies at the heart of bullying, yet it is often not recognised or managed properly. Victims of Narcissistic Personality Disorder have gone through cycles of relationship abuse and need to understand what has happened to them. This powerpoint is a start to education, understanding and empowerment.

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  • I have to endure working with a narcissist co-worker. I feel helpless, yet, I need to realize that I cannot change her. I need to change me. But it's SO frustrating to watch the incompentancy.
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  • Thanks. This is the first time I've heard anyone say "Sense of a limited future" (page 49.) Thank you! Not sure how it happened or developed, but I can relate.
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  • Thanks a lot!
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  • @mary239 Thinking of you and sending warm wishes. Jeni
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  • Your article is very consoling. It made me very sad too, particularly for our Mother. She did everything right throughout her life but it was never enough for him. We all left home very early and live ordinary lives. We guide our Children as best we can, we praise their successes and achievements. The older I get, more difficult it is to understand a Parent behaving in such a way towards their own Children not to mind our Mum, who loved and cared for him so much. The frustration and rejection are the hardest parts to deal with, even in mid-life. Thank you.
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  1. 1. By Jeni Mawter
  2. 2. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is not a medically recognized syndrome…
  3. 3. Often, you don’t realize you are a victim …
  4. 4. spouse children parent sibling friend colleague peer partner
  5. 5. Can you spot the person with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?
  6. 6. Because the NPD goes undetected in the home, school, work-place, organizations, and social settings your plight is not recognized. http://shaikhhashim.blogspot.com.au/2011/12/alone-wallpaper.html
  7. 7. People with NPD have an inflated sense of self-importance, see themselves as perfect and will attack anyone who tries to put a chink in that "flawless" image. They exhibit grandiose, self-centered, egotistical patterns of behavior that can cause a lot of psychological trauma to those around them. http://www.ehow.com/how_5508911_heal-narcissistic-abuse.html
  8. 8. They require constant attention and admiration and often use others selfishly for their own ends. When criticized, they react with blaming, insults and put downs, causing the subjects of their rage to feel rejected, hurt, humiliated and powerless. They also distort reality, often contradicting themselves, lying or denying events of the past to make themselves look better. They make us doubt what we know and wonder whether we're the crazy ones. http://www.ehow.com/how_5508911_heal-narcissistic-abuse.html
  9. 9. Abuse is a pattern of behaviour used to establish power and control over another person. http://www.lsh.me/What-is-Domestic-violence-.html
  10. 10. Victims often display a set, or cluster, of symptoms due to: physical mental emotional spiritual sexual
  11. 11. http://www.accpc.ca/rtr-resources-cd-emo_abuse.htm
  12. 12. http://fatalparade.deviantart.com/art/Caught-in- a-Web-49655807
  13. 13. Victims need help
  14. 14. Victims need help http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-yTdToRMB3RE/TmSlw4U1TaI/AAAAAAAAA8E/S9SD5LBtkO4/s1600/terrified_face_by_graphic_jay-d36ebeq.jpg
  15. 15. When you know something feels wrong …
  16. 16. Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse http://guidescroll.com/2011/10/stellar-impact-tactical-maneuvers-list-for-ship-combat/
  17. 17. Yet victims don’t know … www.abc.net.au
  18. 18. http://www.mobygames.com/game/windows/lone-survivor/screenshots/gameShotId,555880/
  19. 19. Narcissistic supply comes from public attention such as fame, celebrity, notoriety, or infamy or private attention such as admiration, flattery, acclaim, fear, or even repulsion. http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m23uoznilI1r7dpi1o1 _400.png
  20. 20. Anything that acts as a status symbol that attracts attention and admiration for the narcissist is narcissistic supply, for example, a flashy car, expensive property, designer clothes, being a member of a church, cult, club, or a business. http://clentonfarquharson.co.uk/2011/07/
  21. 21. NPDs believe they are superior and entitled. They are envious and exploitative, controllin g and manipulating others without empathy, guilt or remorse. www.meaningfulmama.com
  22. 22. http://familialramblings.com/excuses/ http://rlv.zcache.com.a u/smiley_brain_i_tell_lie s_print- rec42706f3d25459d94849 110a766178d_wad_8byvr _512.jpg http://rlv.zcahe.com.au
  23. 23. As a child, a healthy self- esteem (true self) did not develop in the Narcissistic Personality Disordered so they built up defences to create a ‘false self’ in public. This is akin to wearing a public mask. http://baconstrip.deviantart.com/art/dr-jekyll-and-mr-hyde- 10308371
  24. 24. http://www.wattpad.com/15066665-backstabbing-best-friend#.Ufn1QhYzmlI
  25. 25. Wearing the mask is not only emotionally exhausting, it also means that the NPD is constantly on guard at being found out. They become overly sensitive to narcissistic injury which is any perceived threat (real or imagined) to the NPD’s self-esteem or self- worth. http://philsphil.wordpress.com/tag/narcissistic-rage/
  26. 26. - Narcissistic abuse is insidious because the abuse is covert, cunning and indirect. - Narcissists go to great pains to avoid being observed publicly as being abusive. - The Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde behaviour creates fear, distress, confusion, inner turmoil, and chaos for the victim. - The constant ‘walking on eggshells’ and attempting to avoid further conflict can be crippling.
  27. 27. Victims are constantly being tested
  28. 28. NPDs are constantly pretending. It is impossible to know what is false and what is real.
  29. 29. For a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder ‘Love’ is false
  30. 30. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder do not accept responsibility for themselves. As such, they can’t apologize.
  31. 31. They justify cruelty as ‘honesty’
  32. 32. For whatever the reason you entered the Dance of the Narcissist (a behaviour known as Codependency) so that in the dance there was: 1) a pleaser/fixer (victim); 2) a taker/controller (narcissist/addict); 3) and an enabler (supporter). www.writemybrainsout.wordpress.com
  33. 33. In Narcissistic Victim Syndrome you are looking for a cluster of symptoms to emerge, many are the symptoms of trauma: avoidance behaviour, loss of interest, feeling detached, sense of a limited future, sleeping or eating difficulties, irritability, hyper- vigilance, easily startled, flashbacks, hopelessness, psychoso matic illnesses, self-harming, thoughts of suicide etc.
  34. 34. NPD abuse victims express feelings of humiliation and shame, and apt to self- blame. You have learned to take responsibility for the narcissist’s behaviour because you are constantly told the problem is your fault. www.great-terriblebeauty.tumblr.com
  35. 35. Some victims develop Stockholm Syndrome and want to support, defend, and love the abuser despite what they have gone through. www.theibanker.com
  36. 36. Victims may ‘dissociate’ or detach from their emotions, body, or surroundings. Living in a war zone where all forms of power and control are used against you (intimidation; emotional, physical and mental abuse; isolation, economic abuse, sexual abuse, coercion, control etc), the threat of abuse is always present. Dissociation is an automatic coping mechanism against overwhelming stress.
  37. 37. Victims are often victimized by more than one person. They often internalize that something is wrong with them, that they deserve this kind of abuse, and then resign themselves to their fate.
  38. 38. Victims of narcissistic abuse often appear uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking clarification that they haven’t made a mistake or misheard something. Confidence may be so low that they have trouble making simple decisions. They will not be aware that this is caused by an abusive technique called ‘gaslighting’.
  39. 39. Gaslighting is a technique of psychological abuse used by NPDs to instil confusion and anxiety in their victim to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. With gaslighting, the victim initially notices that something happens that is odd, but they don’t believe it. This moves to defence as the victim fights against the manipulation.
  40. 40. Confusion sets in after incessant comments such as: ‘You’re too sensitive’, ‘You’re crazy’, ‘You’re imagining things’ or ‘I never said that.’ Gradually, the victim cannot trust their own perceptions and doubt themselves. This often leads to depression. www.fanpop.com
  41. 41. Broken and unable to trust themselves, they isolate themselves further. The victim now doubts everything about themselves, their thoughts and opinions, their ideas and ideals. They become co- dependent on the abuser for their reality. http://fullofbeautifullybrokenthings.wordpress.com/tag/i solation/
  42. 42. You feel you deserve it You get used to the abuse
  43. 43. You hope things will change. You’re tired.
  44. 44. - Victims need validation and education about what has happened to them. - They need information about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its toxicity in relationships. - They need education about how they have contributed to their situation through co-dependence. - They need therapy to deal with symptoms.
  45. 45. Appropriate support in: 1)Education – schools 2)Legal – law courts 3)Medical – health practitioners 4)Business – workplace 5)Religion - 6)Family - members
  46. 46. One of their greatest challenges may come from not being believed by significant others, either because these others have not seen the private face of the narcissist or because they themselves are in the narcissist’s thrall. http://www.datpiff.com/Markey-Mcfly-No-One-Believes-Me-mixtape.300713.html
  47. 47. Another challenge is denial. A victims can’t see that the NDP aspects of their life is all wrong. Victims don’t want to face the fact that someone they have a relationship with, is an enemy. http://fc07.deviantart.net/fs70/f/2010/303/5/e/evil_eye_b y_rosaliehale1910-d31sfvo.jpg
  48. 48. http://vidablogg.files.wordpress.com/2013/02/wpid-531-have-you-ever-been-hurt2.jpg
  49. 49. http://kootation.com
  50. 50. www.uscpublicdiplomacy.org
  51. 51. www.shinystarlight.tumblr.com
  52. 52. http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/62/27/66/622766d188b6c19efa2e78836ea1d763.jpg
  53. 53. Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red- flags-to-narcissistic-personality-disorder- compiled-by-jeni-mawter http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/movi ng-on-from-narcissistic-abuse-compiled-by- jeni-mawter
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