Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) compiled by Jeni Mawter

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Victims of prolonged Narcissistic Abuse from someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) find it extremely difficult to move on with their lives. This powerpoint explores several reasons for this (childhood wounds, sensitive personality, chemical addiction, ideologies) and offers suggestions to help a victim accept and move on from their abusive relationship(s).

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Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) compiled by Jeni Mawter

  1. 1. Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse Due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) By Jeni Mawter
  2. 2. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=186004684914075&set=a.119863101528234.19520.119720174875860&type=3&theater
  3. 3. http://southpawbeagle.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/pills-darling.gif?w=500
  4. 4. Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37 “If you are a giving, supportive person who avoids center stage and thrives on taking care of others you are at risk for Narcissistic Love” http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-btiwz- nNVqo/UNIKCW2OvgI/AAAAAAAABGk/KMO_I6PHMro/s1600/dewdrop.jpg
  5. 5. Whether you were born into a NPD family http://etc.usf.edu/clipart/24600/24664/spider_web_24664_lg.gif
  6. 6. Chose a relationship with an NPD person http://img1.etsystatic.com/000/0/5728230/il_fullxfull.352201779.jpg?ref=l2
  7. 7. Or met your NPD in some other place http://kourkenko.deviantart.com/art/Call-of-Cthulhu-Legs-353855894
  8. 8. You have experienced Narcissistic Abuse http://www.culteducation.com/dvds/heart.jpg
  9. 9. In the beginning you don‟t recognize it as Narcissistic Abuse You just know „something is wrong‟ http://dearoptimists.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/happy-2.png
  10. 10. It takes a long time to see the „cycle‟ or repeated „patterns‟ of abuse http://www.skewsme.com/img/cycle_of_abuse.jpg http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/ wp-content/uploads/2011/06/Cycle-of-Abuse.jpg
  11. 11. So the abuse goes on and on http://www.caring.com/blogs/caring-currents/prolonged-grief
  12. 12. You wonder if you‟re going crazy ? http://funny-fun-fun.com/funny-demotivational-posters/not-crazy-just-special-funny-pictures/
  13. 13. You lose your sense of self http://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1375494209_i_don_t_know_who_i_am_by_wasted49-d65uw4o.jpg
  14. 14. You lose your trust in others http://socialinfluenceconsultinggroup.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Trust-Crisis.jpg
  15. 15. You lose your trust in your own judgements and perceptions http://creativeeveryday.com/images/400/orangeline.jpg
  16. 16. You no longer believe your past It is built on lies and deceit http://picchore.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/real-eyes.jpg
  17. 17. People you considered important, no longer count http://www.cs.iastate.edu/~andorfc/people.JPG
  18. 18. You lose your dreams for your future http://rosalindadeleon.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/the20future.jpg
  19. 19. You lose your belief in human decency http://www.becauseart.com/images/diverse_humanity.jpg
  20. 20. You must acknowledge and grieve these losses http://patriciabrunnerphd.com/images/leafwater.jpg
  21. 21. You may have signs of Complex Post Traumatic Stress http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/ files/styles/image_content_width/hash/ 10/6d/106d1bb7d1739e0f901d765b0d1d448a .jpg?itok=YPfbuH0p
  22. 22. You are often exhausted http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/14
  23. 23. Remember “Knowledge is Power” http://www.dontforgettothink.com/myimages/knowledge_is_power.jpg
  24. 24. With power you can change http://www.insiderquarterly.com/knowledge-is-power https://d26houopdteji.cloudfront.net/images/q/thumb/x598%3E/quality/85/interlace/true/src/http%3A%2F%2Fjux-user-files- prod.s3.amazonaws.com%2F2013%2F08%2F21%2F23%2F03%2F59%2F554%2Ftumblr_mqxu8vru831qm3r26o1_400.jpg
  25. 25. Change Your Thinking http://1.bp.blogspot.com/- Adh6j6oqLes/Ufff3p2dV- I/AAAAAAAAC9o/cEkAZrT9NxU/s1600/ Marianne-Williamson-quote.jpg
  26. 26. Stop trying to change the NPD into something they‟re not http://www.critteroos.com/demo/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/leoduck-338x279.jpg
  27. 27. Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship http://covermyfb.com/media/covers/thumb/sSDJpdiZ70PorVs1.jpg
  28. 28. You can‟t cure a NPD with love or attention http://www.pwnage.ro/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/epic-love-fail.jpg
  29. 29. Stop feeling sorry for the NPD http://fc04.deviantart.net/fs70/i/2013/019/5/2/gloomy_and_pity_by_cupcakebutcher-d5s0hq9.jpg
  30. 30. Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Then you‟re a likely source for Narcissistic Supply http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5222/5685196984_958dfda0d3.jpg
  31. 31. Are you a Codependent? http://www.foh.hhs.gov/eapnews/consortium/images/codependent.jpg
  32. 32. Are you hoping for „Happily Ever After‟ ? http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5222/5685196984_958dfda0d3.jpg
  33. 33. Still believe in super heroes? http://piximus.net/media/1752/retired-and-old-superheroes-8.jpg
  34. 34. And that the good guy always wins? http://onestophumour.com/uploads/good_guy_harry_8045478621.jpg
  35. 35. Think again … http://livenerddierepeat.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/how-a-bad-guy-dies-in-the-wasteland.jpg
  36. 36. www.roadkilltshirts.com
  37. 37. Take back your control http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/47
  38. 38. Change your mindset http://www.anonymousartofrevolution.com/2013/06/if-you-dont-control-your-mind-someone.html
  39. 39. Realize you fell for an illusion http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-eTasg6PL1UQ/Tha- FZDlk1I/AAAAAAAAADU/lvKsJpIYN90/s320/Masks.jpg http://mikehoolboom.com/thenewsite/wp- content/uploads/2013/04/tumblr_mk83e16rEP1qzr6ooo1_500.jpg
  40. 40. Grieve the relationship you never had http://thelovenotebook. tumblr.com/page/55
  41. 41. Why did you fall for an NPD? http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/24800000/Opposites-Attract-tdis-duncan-and-courtney-24829236-1424-674.png
  42. 42. The NPD identified your inner wounds http://itakeoffthemask.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/03/1091652_asian_autumn_3.jpg
  43. 43. The NPD told your wounded inner child exactly what it wanted to hear and you felt great http://www.edsia.net/_Media/pastedgraphic_17-13_med.png
  44. 44. Feeling „Great‟ becomes your Chemical Addiction http://3.bp.blogspot.com/ -HiWgnyCzqzE/UG3PTik4RLI/ AAAAAAAAJHg/1B-RPxVv1go/ s1600/brain+chemicals.jpg
  45. 45. www.teens.drugabuse.gov http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com
  46. 46. To move on from Narcissistic Abuse You must work on your wounds and chemical addiction http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-c5pBNSJRHfg/Tv8fVfz8MaI/AAAAAAAACVo/ku-IiVEi0qw/s400/bandaid1.png
  47. 47. Why were you drawn to the NPD‟s charisma ? http://celeitydachshund.files.wordpress.com/2012/10/cool-wiener-dog-sunglasses.jpg
  48. 48. Beware “The Halo Effect” It clouds our judgement http://www.crazywebsite.com/Website-Clipart-Pictures-Videos/Halloween_Clip_Art/Halloween_Costumes_Pets_Angel_Devil_Dachshunds- 1.JPG
  49. 49. NPDs are „A soul with no footprints‟ Caution: Quote by Invicta Ma, 28 Jan 2009 http://farm2.staticflickr.com/1127/5148224080_7b4acaf514_b.jpg
  50. 50. No empathy, sympathy, remorse. http://th00.deviantart.net/fs70/300W/i/2010/144/d/6/Heartless_and_Soulless_by_MyLittleDuckie1116.jpg
  51. 51. You are a soul with your own thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit, future, dreams http://payload.cargocollective.com/1/0/128/14564/ARAMRP2.jpg
  52. 52. The NPD must feed off your soul You are the strawberry www.littleblogoflettinggo.com
  53. 53. You ask „Should I let them go?‟ www.themoonlover.blogspot.com
  54. 54. Let them go
  55. 55. Letting go means gaining control http://www.zengardner.com/files/Letting-Go-Open-Hands.jpg
  56. 56. Why give the abuser control of your power, your energy, your life? http://fc01.deviantart.net/fs12/f/2006/330/8/2/_Megalomaniac__by_HomeBass.jpg
  57. 57. Change your expectations Do not expect: … an NPD to make sense http://wp.patheos.com.s3.amazonaws.com/blogs/unreasonablefaith/fil es/2012/01/thomas-paine-arguing-600x305.jpg Do not expect: … validation from an NPD http://funnythings247.com/page/di/didn-t-really-meant-to-hurt- you.html
  58. 58. Change your expectations Do not expect: … an NPD to take the blame http://fc09.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2011/341/7/0/all_your_fault_by_mok ithewolf-d4iggs6.png Do not expect: … an NPD to compromise http://images.sodahead.com/polls/003846865/300255638_my_way _answer_3_xlarge.gif
  59. 59. Change your expectations Do not expect: … an NPD to be responsible http://rlv.zcache.com/its_not_my_fault_post_card- rb99fb4e7c36949d8861bfafceecff491_vgbaq_8byvr_512.jpg Do not expect: … an NPD to apologize http://images.sodahead.com/polls/001341047/i_m_sorry_answer_3_xlarge.jp eg
  60. 60. Set boundaries http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/11/99/b5/1199b509ae0f1445f4fd5fad0632bcf7.jpg
  61. 61. Limit contact, set clear boundaries or use a mediator http://www.heritage-tech.net/images/initial-overlaps.png
  62. 62. Apply the „No Contact‟ rule http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-VM1LvxHeZRY/UMEEhrbpVhI/AAAAAAAAAQM/KXTNCeliQw8/s400/Don-t-give-up- on-writing-writing-31408863-640-520.jpg
  63. 63. No Contact means … http://balancejoyanddelicias.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/no.gif No emails No phones No letters No instant messaging No communication via a 3rd party
  64. 64. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-2SqJpoAze_4/TfbOabBITOI/AAAAAAAACHY/vFhi0TysLFQ/s1600/panda+mean+copy.jpg
  65. 65. The NPD keeps coming back because of an insatiable need for Narcissistic Supply http://friendsoftype.com/2012/09/insatiable/
  66. 66. An NPD person won‟t let you go no matter how hard you fight http://www.lubpedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Funny-Valentines-Day-Wallpaper-2.jpg
  67. 67. Stop the Cycle of Abuse Stop being the source of Narc Supply Attention Adulation Compliments Admiration Subservience Showing fear Liking them Being manipulated Being deceived ww.educationviews.org
  68. 68. Reclaim your Inner peace … http://injusticebydesign.files.wordpress.com/2013/08/wowmorebullshit.jpg
  69. 69. … or suffer the consequences Is this what you truly want? http://www.mayanrocks.com/blog/sylviaplath-desire-destroy.gif
  70. 70. The NPD abuser always returns It is part of the „cycle‟and need for Supply http://mymorningmeditations.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/what-doesnt-kill-you.jpg
  71. 71. Ignore NPD tools of manipulation Guilt Fear Pity Threats Violence Blackmail Financial abuse Character Assassination http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/182n8u0ce8lxgjpg/ku- bigpic.jpg
  72. 72. Build and educate your support network http://lifecoachsn.angelfire.com/images/coachlogo.gif
  73. 73. Arm and educate yourself/others about High Conflict Divorce Protect your Assets http://www.cursio.com.au/thumbnaillarge/10.jpg
  74. 74. Stop blaming yourself The Narcissistic Abuse has happened! https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=194702810710929&set=a.119863101528234.19520.119720174875860&type=3&theater
  75. 75. Prepare for a Marathon Effort http://farm6.staticflickr.com/5019/5482504987_3010db9dae_z.jpg
  76. 76. http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/55
  77. 77. Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic- personality-disorder-compiled-by-jeni-mawter http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim- syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter

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