A female is battered every nine seconds. [California Alliance Against Domestic Violence, 1994]
It is estimated that one third of all high school and college students will have been in an abusive relationship by the time they graduate. [Levy, 1992]
Relationship violence is the number one cause of injury to women ages 15-44: more than rapes, muggings and car accidents combined. [Center For Community Solutions, 1997]
Violence happens in same-sex relationships too. When it does, gay and lesbian teenagers often don’t know where to turn for help. If they are not comfortable telling people that they’re gay, that makes the situation even harder. (AzCADV)
Girls are not the only ones who are abused physically or emotionally in relationships. Boys also experience abuse, especially psychological abuse. Boys rarely are hurt physically in relationships, but when it happens it’s often severe. Boys can also be pressured or forced into unwanted sex, by girls or other boys.(AzCADV)
is jealous and possessive, won't let you have friends, checks up on you, won't accept breaking up?
tries to control you by being bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, not taking your opinions seriously?
puts you down in front of friends, tells you that you would be nothing without him?
makes you worry about his reactions to things you say or do?
uses weapons to threaten and intimidate you?
has a history of fighting, loses temper quickly, brags about mistreating others?
grabs, pushes, shoves, or hits you?
pressures you for sex or is forceful or scary about sex?
gets too serious about the relationship too fast?
abuses alcohol or other drugs and pressures you to take them?
has a history of failed relationships, and blames the other person for all the problems?
makes your family and friends uneasy and concerned for your safety?
makes you feel like you need to apologize to yourself or others for your boyfriend's behavior when he treats you badly?
These are all considered RED FLAGS
What do you experience being in an abusive relationship?
Low self esteem
*The isolation of abusive relationships provides an ideal climate for the progression of addictions.
i.e. Drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, cutting.
Cassie’s Story Barbara Dehl is a 47-year-old mother of 4 daughters who lives in Nampa, Idaho. On December 4, 1999, after nearly a 3 year battle with local authorities in Soda Springs, Idaho, her 17 year old daughter, Cassandra “Cassie” Marie Dehl, a high school senior, was killed by her abusive older boyfriend. After several years of beatings and attempted strangulation at the hands of her boyfriend, Cassie died. Her boyfriend’s truck plunged 400 feet from a forest service road into an old abandoned mining pit. Cassie’s abusive boyfriend was not in the truck as it crashed down the embankment, but Cassie was. This accident was not reported for more than 15 hours and the fact that Cassie was in the wreckage and left at the scene was not reported for nearly 18 hours. When investigators finally arrived at the scene, Dehl’s beautiful 17-year-old daughter, who wanted to be a first grade teacher, was dead, her body frozen solid. Cassie suffered years of abuse at the hands of her boyfriend and it was learned after her death that her boyfriend strangled Cassie days before she died.