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Notes on : The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People:
Restoring the Character Ethic
Stephen R Covey

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  • 1. Notes on :The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Restoring the Character Ethic Stephen R Covey 1. Be proactive (Principles of Personal Vision) 2. Begin with the end in mind (Personal leadership) 3. Put first things first (Personal Management) 4. Think win-win (Interpersonal Leadership) 5. Seek first to understand then to be understood (Empathic Communication) 6. Synergise (Creative Cooperation) 7. Sharpen the saw (Balanced self Renewal) 1
  • 2. OVERVIEW  “HABITS” defined: A habit is an intersection of knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge is about what is to be done and why. Skill is about how something is done. Desire is concerned with motivation or wish to do something. Creating a habit requires work on all these three dimensions. KNOWLEDGE SKILL DESIRE  EFFECTIVENESS defined: It is a function of (i) what is produced and (ii) the producing asset and the capacity to produce. Effective achievement is optimum production with care for the preservation of the assets responsible for production. These assets are- physical, financial and human. This means a balanced use of assets.  These principles apply to individuals, families and organizations. HOW TO READ THE BOOK:  Read this book completely once to get a sense of the theme. 2
  • 3.  Go back time and again to the principles contained in each habit and work to expand your knowledge, skill and desire.  Try to explain and share the principles you have learnt with others.  True effectiveness is a function of what is produced (P) and the capacity to produce (PC) it: the first is necessary while the second is to be developed and maintained. Balance both P / PC  Seven Habits practiced will CHANGE you: Self-growth. PRIVATE VICTORY: HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE STIMULUS FREEDOM RESPONSE TO CHOOSE INDEPENDENT WILL SELF AWARENESS IMAGINATION CONSCIENCE Self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we „see‟ ourselves- self-paradigm, the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness. Do not allow yourself to be influenced by conditioning or conditions. Our behavior is a function of our decisions based on our conscious choice, and not our conditions. 3
  • 4. Do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditionings for your behavior; make it a product of your own conscious choice, based on values. The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of a proactive person. Taking the initiative means recognizing our responsibility to make right things to happen. Act before you are acted upon: not facing reality would have been to accept the reality that what is happening in our environment had to determine us. Within our circle of concern, there are some things over which we may not have any control and others that we can do something about. We can identify those concerns in latter group by circumscribing them within a smaller circle of influence. Proactive people focus their energies in the circle of influence. They work on the things they can do something about. The problems we face fall in one of three categories: (i) direct control-problems involving our own behavior. (ii)indirect control- problems involving other people‟s behavior. Or (iii) no control-problems we can do nothing about such as our past or situational realities. c. of concern No concern Concern: c. of influence Health, family, problems at work, etc. Working on our habit solves direct control problems. They are within our circle of influence. These are „private victories‟ of habits 1,2 and 3. Changing our methods of influence solves indirect control problems. These are „public victories‟ of habits 4, 5 and 6. No control problems involve taking the responsibility to change the line on the bottom of our face to smile, to genuinely and peacefully accept these problems and live with them, even though we don‟t like them. 4
  • 5. CHANGING OUR HABIT CHANGING OUR METHODS OF INFLUENCE CHANGING THE WAY WE SEE OUR ‘NO CONTROL PROBLEMS’ * IN CHOOSING OUR RESPONSE TO CIRCUMSTANCE, WE POWERFULLY AFFECT OUR CIRCUMSTANCE The proactive approach is to change from inside out: to be different, and by being different, to effect positive change in what is out there. RESOURCEFUL I CAN BE MORE DILIGENT CREATIVE COOPERATIVE Not to acknowledge a mistake , not to correct it and learn from it is a mistake of a different order. It is important to immediately admit and correct our mistakes so that they have no power over our future and we are empowered again. The power to make and keep commitments to ourselves is the essence of developing the basic habits of effectiveness. 5
  • 6. PERSONAL VISION Explain ‘Proactivity’ V R responsible for our own lives V decide, not conditions Values, not feelings V make things to happen V R ‘proactive’, OK? SE CU RI TY POWER CENTER GUIDANCE W I S D O M In order to write a personal mission statement, we must begin at the very center of our Circle of Influence. That center is the lens through which we see the world. Whatever is at the center of our life will provide us security, guidance, wisdom and power. Security represents –Sense of Worth, Identity, emotional anchorage, self-esteem, and basic personal strength/weakness. Guidance means – source of direction in life, internal frame of reference that interprets for you what is happening out there, implicit criteria that govern moment by moment decision making and doing. Wisdom- Perspective on life, Sense of balance, Understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other. Power is the faculty or capacity to act, the strength and potency to accomplish something. It is the vital energy to make choices and decisions. 6
  • 7. These four factors are interdependent- security and guidance bring true wisdom, and wisdom becomes the catalyst to release and direct power. When these four factors are present together, harmonized and enlivened by each other, they create the great force of a noble personality, a balanced character a beautifully integrated individual. 7
  • 8.  True effectiveness is a function of what is produced (P) and the capacity to produce (PC) it: the first is necessary while the second is to be developed and maintained. Balance both P / PC  Three kinds of assets: Physical, Financial and Human. Effective use of all three means that while achieving production, the assets need to be developed and maintained.  It is not what happens to us but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.  To begin with the end (goal, purpose, target to be achieved) in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination.  Things which matter most should not be at the mercy of things which matter least  Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things  The Laws of Love and the Laws of Life:  When we love unconditionally, we help others to feel secure and safe, validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity and integrity.  As human beings we are responsible for our lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions and not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to our values. 8
  • 9. BRAIN DOMINANCE THEORY LEFT HEMISPHERE RIGHT HEMISPHERE More logical / verbal More intuitive / creative Deals with words Deals with pictures Deals with parts and specifics Deals with whole & relations between parts With analysis (break apart) With synthesis (Put together) Sequential thinking Simultaneous & holistic thinking Time bound Time-free One side or the other tends to dominate in any individual; Cultivate ability to ‘cross over’ Between both sides. Consciously use our both sides to understand a situation or issue. 9
  • 10. SEVEN HABITS OF EFFECTIVE PEOPLE RESTORING THE CHARACTER ETHIC By STEPHEN.R. COVEY Seven Habits Of Effective People Be proactive Begin with the end in mind Put first things first Think win-win Seek to understand, then be understood Synergize Sharpen the saw Proactive model: freedom to choose; no conditioned response Personal Leadership Know where U R going; then go on…. Mind’s visualization, plan and achieve Leadership is: doing the right things Management is about doing things right Monitor change; respond correctly: rescript! Principle centered 4 factors give balanced personality (security, guidance, wisdom & Power) The lens through which U C the world security, guidance, wisdom, power 10
  • 11. U R self esteem, identity, sense of worth Implicit criteria-governs decision making U R sense of balance, perspective on life Strength to achieve – to be effective by cultivating higher habits Personal Management: Put first things first R U an effective manager of UR self ? Follow UR own deep values, their source. Act to actualize UR proactive first creation. Organize & execute around priorities  FIRST:Important-Urgent, then [+Important-not-urgent] Focus on relationships & results Know when U got to say a firm ‘NO’ First:Important-urgent ACTIVITIES: CRISIS PRESSING PROBLEMS DEADLINE DRIVEN PROJECTS Second: Important-not-urgent ACTIVITIES: PREVENTION RELATIONSHIP BUILDING RECOGNIZING NEW OPPORTUNITIES PLANNING, RECREATION Third:Not important- urgent ACTIVITIES: Interruptions, some calls Routine with deadline Popular activities 11
  • 12. Fourth:Not important-not-urgent (control these) ACTIVITIES: Trivia, busy work Time wasters Workaholism Postponing routine  Maintenance! Pleasant Activity SIX CRITERIA FOR ORGANIZING:  1. COHERENCE, 2. BALANCE,  3. QUAD2 FOCUS, 4. A ‘PEOPLE’ DIMENSION, 5. FLEXIBILITY,  6. PORTABILITY BECOMING A SELF MANAGER: IDENTIFY ROLES ADAPT DAILY / ORGANIZE-WEEKLY ORGANIZE- LONG TERM FOCUS ON RELATIONSHIPS Delegation to Time & to people If we delegate to time, we think efficiency If we delegate to other people, we think effectiveness Delegation with 1 to 1 supervision- may not be effective Delegation to Time & to people Delegation with mutual faith- Effective Stewardship delegation: State desired results- give guidelines- resources- accountability- consequences- Trust 12
  • 13.  Six major deposits that build the emotional Bank Account: 1) Understanding the individual; 2) Attending to the little things; 3) Keeping commitments: 4) Clarifying expectations; 5) Showing personal integrity; 6) Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawal. 13