Meditation for householders
Meditation means cultivating the mind to
achieve insight wisdom and ultimately-
liberation_to sense an openness of heart
and a clear seeing.
Based on our inherent quality of
intelligence, we can attain enlightenment
while living household life and
contemplating impermanence within our
What is ‘cultivating the mind’?
To understand the mind you have to watch
and pay attention with an uncluttered and
Try to experience watching yourself in
silence. That silence is the silence of the
mind free from discriminations, free from
likes and dislikes, free from clinging to
To meditate, no need to sit in
Thoughts and emotions by themselves are
just momentary and possess no life of
their own. By clinging to them you prolong
Only when your mind is free from clinging
and rejecting, you can see anger as
anger, desire as desire. Understand and
deal with anger, desire and ignorance as
they occur. Train your mind to watch itself
even while you are busy with your normal
Mindfulness + Equanimity
If you can be mindful without judgement
and without likes and dislikes then you are
practicing with an inner silence and
Staying with the moment and viewing
everything without likes and dislikes.
What is equanimity?
Equanimity is when the heart begins to
open and we find a capacity to experience
all that the world presents_ with balance,
with love with openness.
Begin to listen to our relationship to world,
to observe it, to learn from it and learn a
wise way of relating to it.
Sila, Panna, Samadhi
A truly silent mind is relaxed, yet alert and
sensitive to its surroundings. This is
because it is devoid of judging, clinging or
rejecting yet compassionate.
The silent mind is free from hatred, anger,
jealousy, confusion and conflict.
By their nature, thoughts are transient and
go if the ‘I’ interferes and says ”Let them
How can excessive indulgence in
sense pleasures be avoided?
Can you experience sense pleasure
without being a slave to it?
To be free of sense pleasure is neither to
cling to it nor to run away from it but to
learn to be free in yourself.
Realize your freedom in the present
moment being mindful in the moment.
Right Speech [Samma vaca]
Refrain from: falsehood, slander, harsh
words and frivolous speech
Right Action [Samma kammanta]
Abstain from: killing, stealing, sexual
Right Livelihood [Samma ajiva]
Abstain from: trading in arms, human
beings, animal slaughter, intoxicants and
The Four Noble Truths
Right Understanding [Samma ditthi]
Knowledge of the four noble truths:
Suffering, Cause of suffering, Cessation of
suffering and Way leading to the
Cessation of suffering.
Right Thoughts [Samma sankappa]
Thoughts free from: Lust, attachment, ill
will and cruelty
Penetrating insight wisdom
[Understanding + Intents]
To look into yourself directly is to come
back to your own source and to reach an
inner equilibrium and silence.
It is only from this inner equilibrium that
you can view the outer chaos objectively
as a circumstantial situation.
See the cause behind the chaos , resolve
it in the best way for the circumstances.
Samadhi: Striving to Freedom
Right Spiritual Effort
Right Perseverence _Collectedness
Samadhi: One Pointedness of Mind
Right Effort [Samma Vayama] : To discard
evil that has already arisen; To prevent the
arising of unarisen evil; To develop
unarisen good; and To promote the good
that has already arisen.
Right Mindfulness [Samma sati]:
Mindfulness with regard to body, feelings,
mental formations and ideas, thoughts,
conceptions and things (dhammas).
Right Concentration [Samma Samadhi]:
One Pointedness of Mind
Put first things first
Are you an effective manager of yourself ?
Follow your own deep values, their source.
Act to actualize your proactive first creation.
The Laws of Love and the Laws
When we love unconditionally, we help
others to feel secure and safe,
validated and affirmed in their essential
worth, identity and integrity.
As human beings we are responsible
for our lives. Our behavior is a function
of our decisions and not our
conditions. We can subordinate
feelings to our values.
Organize & execute around priorities
FIRST: Important -Urgent,
Focus on relationships & results
Know when you got to say a firm ‘NO’
Six major deposits that build the
emotional Bank Account:
1) Understanding the individual; 2)
Attending to the little things; 3)
Keeping commitments: 4) Clarifying
expectations; 5) Showing personal
integrity; 6) Apologizing sincerely when
you make a withdrawal.
Intelligent living avoids passivity and
impulsiveness and practices patience
and panna [wisdom]
Intelligent living means skilful and creative
The ordinary living awareness itself is
where the essence of spirituality can be