Golden Moments

   Celebrating the Golden Wedding
Anniversary of K.N.Krishnamoorthy and
       Sharada Krishnamoorthy


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On the occasion of the Golden Wedding Anniversary of our parents, we published a book and presented it to them. Called, "Golden Moments", it captures the recollections from the extended family

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  1. 1. Golden Moments
 Celebrating the Golden Wedding Anniversary of K.N.Krishnamoorthy and Sharada Krishnamoorthy
 

 

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 This book is fondly dedicated to the memory of the late parents of K.N.Krishnamoorthy and Sharada Krishnamoorthy. # 4 Ponnamal & N. Ramasubramoni # 3 Dr. K.N. Swamy 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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KNK Thatha & Charummai/ Pati by Suvedh 
 
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 K.N. Krishnamoorthy, or KNK as he is affectionately called is certainly a gentleman to be reckoned with. He is best known for organizing events such as weddings, air shows or Thiruppugazh gatherings with a huge attendances, and even trips either with family or with friends. He uses his sharp wit to pinpoint flaws in plans, and then provides quick solutions to change flawed processes and make them work. He is often put in charge of running events, and takes on these herculean tasks with an easy aplomb. To receive a compliment from him (a rare occurrence!) is a major feat. He had (and still has) very little patience with any incompetence. If he felt that something could be done by a certain time, then it should. His unfailing sense of ‘doing the right thing’ has kept him on top of things. Always an early riser, he has a boundless energy and self confidence that help portray him as someone to look up to, and indeed he is a person who is well known and respected throughout the DRDO/MIT community, the RT Nagar Cultural group, as well as the Thiruppugazh community. Here’s a toast to a man who is a force! 
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 Sharada Krishnamoorthy or Charu as she is affectionately referred to is a spiritual and creative person. She epitomizes that old adage, “behind every successful man there is a woman”. She has unfailingly done whatever is needed to support her husband in his various endeavors. She is often guileless, and is surprised when people don’t act the way she would. She has herself shown a formidable skill for organizing events all the way from teaching classes to arranging Ragaranjani katcheris to major events such as Rukmini Kalyanams. She hasn’t stopped learning and creating. She has even mastered that dastardly machine – the computer, has learned to send emails, search for information on the web, make CDs of MP3s, and has learned to blog and more, and I’m sure will be tweeting very soon! More importantly, she knows what she doesn’t know, and is not afraid to learn about new technology! Despite her uncooperative health, she often forges ahead to get things done, where she leaves people that are perfectly healthy in the dust. Her creative energy and her penchant to include everybody make her a well- respected and loved person. This is a tribute to a beautiful woman inside and out. 
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 Their journey began on April 27th 1959. They settled down in Bangalore and moved from one house to another in Vyalikkaval. Here they are at their 1st. Main Road home. 
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 They had their hands full with four children. Before long, they invested their life savings into constructing a home in Mattadahally (later renamed to R.T. Nagar) 
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 Both herald from large, nuclear families. Since they are the eldest in their respective families, there were numerous occasions for family gatherings. At Dr. K.N. Swamy’s 60th birthday (shastiapdapoorthy) in Karungulam Seated (L to R): Dr.N.Venkatasubramanian, KN. Krishnamoorthy, (Late)Ambichamy chithappa, (Late)Chithi Pati, Sujatha, (Late)Dr.KN.Swamy, (Late)RSS Vasan, Dr.N.Padhmanabhan, Dr.N.Meenakshisundaram, Ashok, (Late)Mani Mama 1st Row (L to R): (Late)Ponnamal, Sharada Moorthy, Lalitha, Rama, (Late)Ramakrishnan, Meenakshi, Shanta Vasan, Dr.N. Rajam, Jaya Sundaram, Parvatham mami, Meera 2nd Row (L to R): Lakshmanan, ??, Shivakumar, Prakash, Chitra, Sundar, Mohan, Rajesh, Kutti Maman 
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 On Sharada Moorthy’s side, the family lived in Trivandrum: Sowmini Ramakrishnan, (Late) N.Ramasubramoni, Sharada Moorthy, (Late) Ponnamal, Lalitha Krishnamurthy, (Late) S.Ramakrishnan, KN Krishnamoorthy, S. Krishnamurthy 
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 For the remainder of this book, there are recollections/ reminiscences/ anecdotes from the immediate and extended family: 









Prakash Delivered by the Postman I was six years old when Sujatha was born. While Rajesh, Mohan and I were born in Trivandrum, Sujatha was born in Bangalore. Ponnamamai (pAti) came to Bangalore to help Amma with the delivery. I remember having a completely different diet before and after the delivery. Suddenly, we were eating a lot of "keerai" (spinach) and "pavakkai" (bitter gourd). After Amma was gone from home for a few days (during which time pAti got us ready for school), suddenly there was a little baby in the house. The first thing I noticed was that the baby had a distinct blue mark on her hand. I decided that it was a postal stamp and told everyone at school that there was a baby in our house delivered by the Postman! Cuts, Falls and Bruises Being a parent of three children, I certainly relate to the fact that something or the other happens all the time. As a parent, one needs to be resilient and patient. Appa and Amma certainly had these skills - they must have, else they could not have kept their sanity! 
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 Rajesh was particularly prone to "accidents". I still vividly remember the time when we were living on the second floor on 6th Main Road in Vyalikaval. The landlord, Venkoba Rao, lived on the ground floor. There was an overhanging balcony that led from the bedroom of our house, which was above the entryway to the house below. Needless to say, there were no ledges on that balcony. We had come back from school and were playing, of all places, on that balcony - despite Amma's protests to the contrary. Mohan threw a ball to Rajesh and in an attempt to catch it, he fell all the way down on to the road below! There was blood all over. Luckily Appa had just come back from work. He calmly took a wailing Rajesh on his Lambretta scooter to Dr. Sidenur's clinic on 2nd Main Road. I had gone along - while Amma was taking care of a distraught Mohan and Sujatha at home. I must have been to Dr. Sidenur's clinic umpteen times. I distinctly remember the antiseptic odor of the place -- the odor mainly emanated from the "Compounder's" room but permeated right through the clinic! It was a husband/wife team. Both were doctors and they ran their clinic out of their home. He calmly stitched the dangling portion back onto Rajesh's lip. My job was to hold down a flailing, wailing Rajesh. No local anesthesia, no complex procedures. 
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 On another occasion, Mohan was tripped and bumped his forehead against a rusted clasp that holds water pipes to the wall. (These pipes would run along the base of the house and the clasps would hold them in place) By this time we had moved to 1st Main Road in Vyalikaval and the closest doctor was Dr. Krishnaswamy. Here it was a father-son team that ran the clinic out of their home. The son, Dr. Rajaraman was a better tabla player than a doctor. He would beat to the tune of his father's flute. The son was a dentist and the only thing in common between his tabla playing and dentistry was that when faced with the prospect of listening to his tabla, having ones teeth pulled out when not under anesthesia seemed a better option! There was never a dull moment! Nothing but the best I did my Elementary and High School at St. Joseph's Boys' High School in Bangalore. At the time, it was considered to be one of the premier schools in Bangalore. I was fortunate enough to do well in my class. This also meant that the expectations on me were high. We used to get "report cards" at the end of each school term. The marks from the tests were transcribed by hand into the report card by the school clerk - the old, irascible Mr.Iyer . I was known as "K.N. Prakash" at school. Now, there was another "N.K. Prakash" in my class. This guy would even (gasp!) "fail" tests. Mr. Iyer had a tendency to put N.K. Prakash's scores on my report card. He even had the temerity to underline the failed subjects in red. The first time this happened, I remember trembling while taking the report card home for signature. I recall going straight to my friend Gopal's house from the bus stand. His mother said, "Don't worry. I'll take you home and explain to your father that this report card is in error." "Periyanna"/"Periambi" As you will see mentioned by other raconteur's later, we always looked forward to our regular summer sojourns to Trivandrum and Karungulam. Appa would get LTC's from the Government and we would use those to take "Island Express" from Bangalore to Trivandrum. I vividly remember all of us pressing our faces against the bars on the train window and arrive at our destination with soot-covered faces! Given the large extended family, there would always be some occasion or the other. With Appa and Amma being 
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 the oldest on their side of the family, they would be given the "seat of honor" at these functions. It was such joy to have 25-30 people at home. The women would be busy in the kitchen. The men would be busy making plans and doing the logistics for the event. That left us kids to play. We would run around the house with gay abandon. It was a time to laugh, a time to play with cousins that we were meeting after months, years. We did not have a care in the world, no "penance" to pay. We would sneak into the "paaul" (pantry) and steal some sweets that were prepared for the occasion. The only person who would even notice us was "Periyappa". (He was actually Amma's periyappa. However, everyone called him "Periyappa".) He had a nose for catching children doing "mischief". He was very firm and very stern. No one dared to work against his wishes. He was consulted for all decisions and had the final word. In Karungulam, given that thatha (Dr. K.N.Swamy) was paralyzed, Appa was the one consulted. He was referred as "Periyanna" by his kin and cousins and as "Periambi" by the rest of the village. The respect that "Periyanna" commanded was amazing to witness. Even behind his back, people would not dare do anything that he would not approve. 
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 Seated (L to R): Dr. N. Meenakshisundaram, (Late) Dr. K.N.Swamy, K.N.Krishnamoorthy Standing (L to R): Dr. N.Venkatasubramanian, Dr.N.Padhmanabhan I remember the time during Ambi chithappa's wedding when he railed after the person serving food in an aluminum bucket. I don't think that person ever touched an aluminum bucket in his life after that day! 
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 The biggest honor in the village was to carry the lord on your shoulders. It was not easy and required a lot of coordination - a single misstep by the lead person could be disastrous and even fatal. The men would all smear sandalwood on their chests and would be asked to "take their positions". Inevitably, Appa would be the lead person taking charge of the proceedings. Later, when we grew up, we followed suit and went bare-chested to the temple and even carried the lord on our shoulders! Here is a picture of Prakash, Rajesh, Mohan and Sundar in Karungulam. 
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 Wafting smells and sounds Growing up, we never needed an alarm clock or radio. Every morning, we would be woken up to the wafting smells from the kitchen and Amma would sing her Lalitha Sahasranamam and Soundarya Lahiri shlokams. To date, when I listen to any song in Bageshree, I think I am waking up to Amma's shlokam in Vyalikaval! It was quite a challenge to cook for six people, get us all dressed and ready for school. Yet, Amma would do that singing her shlokams every morning. There are some famous cooking incidents that come to mind. Amma was quite possessive of her kitchen (like any other woman) - even when relatives came home to stay for extended periods. Once chithi pati (Karungulam thatha's chithi) was staying with us and she was cooking because Amma was unwell. She used the Catherine hair oil (the label of that green bottle and label is still etched in my memory) for cooking and the potato curry ended up tasting strange! Yet she would refuse to admit that she has made a mistake! Deepavali in Bangalore Deepavali was the festival that we always looked forward to the most. Not just because it was a holiday, we would get new clothes and there was festivity in the air. We would all be woken up for our pre-dawn oil bath. Amma would already be up and about. We would 
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 get anointed with the oil, and then scraped with chika podi (Rajesh would say "chika podi thEkAdEngO"), dressed in the new clothes, eat the specially made Deepavali marundu and finally be ready for the "pattAs". There would be brass vilakkus (lamps) lit across the front wall. Friends would start streaming in from around 7:30 am and we would exchange sweets. Appa and Amma's friends We would constantly have visitors at our home in Vyalikaval. Given that there was no TV and we rarely went out, "socializing" was the most popular form of entertainment. In fact, we would have someone join us for brunch almost every Sunday. I certainly miss that nowadays - where there is no time to socialize! It would be hard to recall all of Appa and Amma's friends - but some of them definitely stand out: Jayaram mama - He was one smart guy. He had an elitist attitude. The most distinctive feature in his face was his bulging tonsil and bulbous nose. He was a poet. I still remember his neat hand written poems on various topics. We had a variation of "Humpty Dumpty" - which ended with "Jayaram mama thin and Chhabra mama stout". Chhabra mama - He had a cherubic face and constantly smelled of cigarette smoke. Kota mama - He had an infectious laugh and would talk in a loud voice. Appa's famous joke is once Kota mama was talking on the phone (in Bangalore) to his boss in Delhi. A person passing by his office asked Kota mama's secretary why he was talking so loudly. She said, "Sir is talking to his Boss in Delhi." The person responded, "Why does he not use the telephone?" Somasundaram mama - He would not speak much. His brilliance was evident from his demeanor. Somehow, whenever we saw him (or he was mentioned in conversation), we would all break into singing, "Somasundara madana mohana jai jai panduranga" :) His son, Sriram Somasundaram completed his P.hD. from Case Western and is currently a Staff Scientist at Pacific Northwest National Laboratory. 
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 Bhattacharya mama - Yet another brilliant engineer. He and his wife spoke with think Bangla accents. They were our only Bengali friends. Their son, Himanshu Shekar Bhattacharya (aka "Bapa"), was Mohan's classmate. Much to Mohan's chagrin, he would always finish at the top of his class and his mother would make it a point of bragging about Bapa's accomplishments whenever she visited our home. Once, Appa and Amma had to go somewhere on a Sunday morning and they had agreed to look after us. I still remember aunty yelling out to remind me, "Prohosh. Remember, ten phorty phie ah". Chaturvedi mama - He was one of the folks (along with Appa) who went to France for training. My most distinct memory of him was in the CASSA office picnics, he would be the most boisterous. He would sing loudly and take the effort to engage with the kids. Natarajan mama – He was a friend, philosopher and guide for all of us. His prowess in astrology led to our consulting him for most activities. When I joined BITS, Pilani Appa could not come to enroll me. It was Natarajan mama who came as his proxy. Krishnaswamy mama – If there was one person that we could turn to for help for just about anything, that was Krishnaswamy mama. In fact, among all of the friends mentioned so far, he and his children are the ones that we continue to maintain regular contact. Govindan mama – We came to know Govindan mama and Nalini mami when they started building their house in R.T. Nagar. Now that we are all away from Bangalore, our greatest solace is that they are close to Appa and Amma and can help them in a time of need. Ranganathan mama – Rangu mama and Leela mami were our neighbors in 1st Main Road. Leela mami and Amma were such close friends that on any given day, either Leela mami would be at our house or Amma would be at Leela mami’s house. In a sense, they became part of our family and we would share our trials and tribulations with each other. 
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 Rukmini mami – Rukmini mami was the only family that we had in Bangalore. She was Appa’s cousin. Her son Prakash Krishnaswamy was a role model for all of us – with his penchant for Western Music and Hindi speaking friends! Mami would regale us with stories when we were young. If Appa and Amma had to travel to attend to pressing family responsibilities, Rukmini mami would come to stay with us during the time they were away. During such sojourns, she would tell us stories, make sure we were all well loved and looked after. Although her worldly experience made her more than an elder stateswoman, she was always a friend, a mentor and an advisor – almost an equal. She commanded respect, love and adulation not from her age or her experience but from the way she carried herself - with dignity, with pride and with a lot of love. 
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 My introduction to this family began very reluctantly on my part – I was being compelled by my parents to go “visit” with these people during a rushed day trip to Delhi a day before I was supposed to leave for Ohio – back to my mice and my experiments. After all, I hadn’t even met the guy and here he was already calling the shots, insisting that I be “seen” by his parents! Anyway, I went, gnashing teeth (with a terrible cold to boot) and all. We met at the Hyatt Regency hotel and the one thing I remember most was that I was most taken with the grandmother (who sympathized with me struggling with my cold and wished I could have gone to their house to have hot milagu rasam!) The parents, I treated with disinterest, telling them that my specific immediate goal was to finish my research work. The rest, as they say, is history. Where to begin? When Prakash and I met, one of the vital things we discussed was how important family was to each one of us. I think that was one of the major “selling” points for the both of us. I knew that I would “get along” with almost anybody that matched my personality. But what I got was a big bonus – I could relate to this new family because they were warm people and quite like what I was used to families being. Amma, with her kindness, gentle manner, and understanding was ready to be of help no matter what her health was. She is the heart of the family. Appa, with his discipline, 
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 organization and the “right” way of how things are done kept this family running and is the mind of the group. There probably are innumerable occasions when both Amma and Appa have contributed to make our lives easier to deal with. I did manage to spend quite a bit of time with them when they moved from Delhi to Bangalore and helped them unpack and set up the RT Nagar house. This was probably the time that I got to know them. Every visit since has only made the bonds tighter; highlights include celebrating Akshay’s ayushyahomam (you had to be there to see/feel their pride in their grandson!), the sashtiabdapoorthy trip (when Akshay was down with chickenpox); their visit when the twins were born (I think they would have easily logged hundreds of hours of singing just to get them to go to sleep!); Amma’s visit to join us to celebrate the twins’ first birthday; our pilgrimage tour (with my broken foot!) to Karungulam and Tiruchendur; our Mysore trip; their trips to Fremont; and the list goes on…. I think the best testimony to these two people is in their family. By instilling in their children the right values, the moral ethic, the compassion and sense of responsibility that I see in Prakash on a day-to-day basis, and in Mohan, Rajesh, and Sujatha from what I hear of and from them would have to be things that they learnt by example from their childhood. Their generosity with the time they lavish on people and causes around them are laudable. I have seen that same generous spirit in Amma and Appa. Appa continuing to work (be it the Thiruppugazh involvement or his consulting work) well after his retirement from a busy demanding, successful career is another trait that is praiseworthy. Amma’s pride in her music, her compassion for the less fortunate, her piety, her pride in her children and grandchildren, her desire to cosset her family, her patience with her grandchildren irrespective of her own health is amazing. I can only hope that some of these attributes have passed to the next generation! So, congratulations! Here’s wishing them many more years of healthy, peaceful, and happy marriage. 
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 Mohan What drink will you have? A few years ago, when Amma visited Melbourne, we went to Paddy and Padma's farmhouse. Our friends, Raju and Meena were also there. We got there a bit late. Raju, Paddy and Padma were drinking red wine. Meena was drinking white wine. As she poured out a glass of red for me, Meena asked Amma, "What would you like to drink?" (pointing to an assortment of bottled juices on the table)! Amma said, "Please do not give me red wine. I actually prefer white!" That story has grown "eyes and ears" and, some 10 years on, is still doing the rounds in Melbourne! Odd-and-Even numbers: A few years back when, I was living in 7 Wanda Street, Mulgrave, Amma visited Melbourne. One day, after an evening walk, she got a bit lost. She walked on the side of the road opposite to our home and could not find "7 Wanda Street" between "6 Wanda Street" and "8 Wanda Street". I ran after her as she had over-shot our house. I then pointed out to her that she would find "7 Wanda Street" on the opposite side of the road! It then struck her and she blurted out. "Oh that's nice! One side of the road has even 
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 numbers and the other side has... ummm! ummmm! urrrrr! uneven numbers!" S for Sharada: This one was in England. Amma had rung an airline company to re-confirm an airline ticket. The sales agent must have asked her for her name and Amma said "Sharada Krishnamoorthy". Possibly stunned by the intrinsic simplicity of the name and the fact that it somehow sounded slightly different to Meg Smith, the agent may have asked Amma to spell her name. Amma: Well first name is SHARADA Agent: Can you spell that please? Is that F? Amma: No no. S... S for... S for... S for Sharada! Black but Nice: This one was in England too. Amma had just returned from USA after visiting Prakash. We picked her up from Heathrow airport. On our way back from the airport, we asked her whether her flight was comfortable. She said she was fine and that the flight was fine. She said, "Actually I was sitting next to this friendly woman. She was black..... but she was nice!" So much for PC! Movie Stories: We were not allowed to go to movies as we were growing up. I won't blame Appa and Amma for this! After all Rajesh had a nose that was either permanently running or bleeding! I had a wheezing problem on tap! Sujatha would always cry loudly and launch into a Bharatanatyam dance if a mosquito even said "hello" to her! And Prakash.... was Prakash! So who would want to drag 4 kids with an assortment of issues and problems to the movies! However, within days of seeing it, Amma made sure that she told us the story of every movie that she would go to see with Appa. I remember gathering around the wrought-iron Usha sewing machine as she stitched a garment and recounted the story of the movie she would have just seen for us! I still remember the stories of movies like "Pattikada Pattanama", "Thanga Padakkam", "Manmatha Leelai", "Anand", "Andaz", etc. The most difficult story for her was "Apporva Ragangal". When I think back, I must say she skirted around the "tricky" moments of that story with remarkable 
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 aplomb! Often the stories would take their own course! For example, if she were to tell her version of "Sholay" to us, Amitabh Bachchan may not have died in the end! And certainly, in her recounting of "Sholay", Dharmendra and Hema Malini would not "fall in love"! But these stories would make our day as we grew up despite the fact that more often than not, the session would end in a disaster as Rajesh would have miraculously jammed his leg or hand (or both) against the spinning wheel (or the foot pad) of the wrought-iron Usha sewing machine! He would cry! Sujatha would cry -- she always did! Prakash would do a "Duh", roll his eyes and wander off into the sunset. And I'd just sit there wondering "what the..."! But those story sessions were certainly fun. Although at surface level it may appear that these may demonstrate that Amma takes one foot out just so that she can put the other one in, that is not my assessment of her at all. What this actually demonstrates in my view is a child-like, untainted innocence that is at the core of her being. She worries not what people will think of her and would rather assume goodness in everyone around her. Although she did have friends that she had named "Mundukanni" and "Ottakuchi", the wine story and the "black but nice" story demonstrate that all she wants to do is "fit in" and that she does not really have a hate-bone in her body. More power to her! Rukmini Mami and the cups: Raising 4 kids can't have been easy especially when two of them (the pretend-dancer and the nose-bleed dude) were somewhat troublesome, one who was always in a "Duh Zone" and one who was, for some reason, called either a oomakottan or mochakottai -- I could never figure that one out! Anyway, it made it hard for Appa and Amma to visit their relatives, attend a poonal or wedding or just go on holidays! On the rare occasions that they did go out of Bangalore for a few few weeks or so, we would have either Rukmini mami or Paati (aka, Kopokoi, Kopatussssss, Kops) stay with us. On one such occasion, Rukmini mami had an extended stay with us of over a month or so. It was fun because Rukmini mami would always have a story to say to put us to bed every night. We were also introduced to a pre-bed-time cup of hot milk with pepper and turmeric. Rukmini mami somehow did not like the stainless steel cups in our 
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 home. She felt that the cups -- which were carefully machined in Trivandrum -- were too big and, as a result, had a rather high centre of gravity. She concluded that the way to resolve this was to flatten the somewhat rounded bottom on these cups! So, one evening, she took it on herself to grab a stone and proceeded to bang in the bottoms of each of the stainless steel cups. All 30 of them were banged in and "disfigured". Even as she did it, I remember thinking to myself, "Oh oh! This ain't looking good. This may be the last of the bed-time stories and pre-bed-time hot cup of milk with pepper and turmeric"! It was! Amma came back, saw the flattened cups and proceeded to attempt flattening our respective backsides for not intervening in the said act of Rukmini mami. Balaji stores I remember this incident involving Appa from when I was in Class-6 I think. It was the last day of school and I had received a whole stack of new books for Class-7 the following year. I got them all home and realized that my brand new "Chemistry practical exercise book" was in tatters. A rat appeared to have had the corner of that book for breakfast! Later that evening on Appa's return we would all sit around the new books and do the "book binding exercise" with that awful smelling brown paper roll. Appa hadn't arrived from work yet and I was dreading the moment he would set eyes on the tattered practical note book! Lest he thrash the daylights out of me for having accepted a torn book, I quickly trudged off to Balaji Stores on 2nd Main Road. I told "Mr Balaji" that I had purchased the book from there and did not realize that it was torn! "Mr Balaji" believed me and kindly offered me a replacement. Feeling rather smug about my rather devious exchange, I returned home! My jaw hit the floor as Appa opened the door! He saw the book in my hand and asked where I had gone. I saw the world flash past my eyes. I told him. He asked me to go to Balaji stores, apologize to "Mr Balaji" and get my tattered book back! I did. That incident also taught me an incredibly valuable lesson at a young age. Pocket money 
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 This incident was again around the Class-6 vintage. I was in Baldwin Boys' High School by then. This was a "posh public" school. Rich kids went there. Kids like Jayesh Lakhani, Sanjay Udani, and Sudarshan Chari would arrive from places like Palace Orchards, Kumara Park Extension and Indira Nagar would get dropped by car driven by chauffers in white hats and starched uniforms. And here I was, driven by Aslam in a dirty brown uniform on bus 17B from Vyalikkaval. I had envy! Serious envy! It was further fueled by the fact that the rich kids would splurge on chikkies, oily curry puffs and rich cakes at the school canteen. They had "pocket money" you see! So, I gathered my courage one day and asked Appa, "Could I receive 'pocket money' from next week onwards?" Appa looked at me as though I was a deranged Martian! I still remember that look. It wasn't one of anger, but one of sheer incredulousness. He calmly said, "The problem with school trousers these days is that they have pockets. If we snip the pockets off your trousers, you won't need 'pocket money" will you now?" Another valuable lesson there for me. I told myself that I had to be thankful for what I had -- which was really a lot. Moreover, I still had a pocket, even if it had nothing in it! I also learned to learn to live within my means. 
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 Wedding Reception: Everyone knows that Appa is quite finicky when it comes to organizing transport, especially for train drop-offs and pickups. He would often (no, on reflection, change "often" to "always") organize a car pick-up way ahead of when we would have to leave. Often we would get to Cantonment station just as the Bangalore Mail was pulling into the station; but on its way to Bangalore City and not from Bangalore City! The result would be an uncomfortable one and a half hour wait at a horribly smelly and ill-lit Cantonment Station where one could be pre-occupied with any combination of the following activities: (a) slapping mosquitoes against ones hand, (b) slapping mosquitoes against a random passer-by's hand, (c) contemplate purchasing a coffee that has just enough sugar in it to convince oneself that one is not consuming hot water, (d) purchase a magazine from a news-stand that one would not be able to read in the dark of that station anyway, (e) walk aimlessly to the other side of the station and walk back! Anyway, there was this one occasion when I had to attend a cousin's wedding reception in Jayanagar or some such place. The reception was to start at 7.30pm and I was aiming to get there only at 8pm. So I rang the local cab company and asked for a cab to pick me up at 7pm! Appa overheard this conversation, rang them a few minutes later and changed it to a 5pm pickup, saying that it could take me some 2 and a half hours to get to Jayanagar -- he did not want me to be late! Moreover, it was pouring down with rain that evening and he said that the trek to Jayanagar would take even longer! I tried all sorts of delay tactics! But that did not work. In fact, it got worse! At 4pm I wasn't yet "ready" and the cab had not yet arrived. Fair enough. We had all agreed on a 5pm departure! But then Appa started to get quite tense! He asked that I get ready immediately! And so there I was... ready at 4.15pm for a 7.30pm reception. The bride and groom were probably asleep at the time. But hey! I was ready looking for mosquitoes to pass by! At about the same time, Appa stormed out of the house, went straight to the cab company and dragged the driver by his ears back home! The cab, which needed to arrive only at 7pm, but was booked for 5pm, was at our doorstep at 4.30pm! Precisely 5 minutes later, I was in said car, ostensibly because I "was ready anyway"! 
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 I was out of the house at 4.35pm and in the cab. I asked the driver to head out to Mekhri Circle, asked him to drive up and down that road that leads to Yeshwanthapur and then returned home! I then actually spent half an hour in the cab just outside our R. T. Nagar home! I could not get back into the house because Appa and Amma had left for a bajanai! I spent the half hour reading a magazine -- possibly purchased at Cantonment Station the previous night! Then, out of pity for the cab driver, I asked that we start driving towards Jayanagar. I instructed the cab driver to drive slowly! I also asked the cab driver to chose the worst routes that would grab all possible traffic jams. I was collecting traffic jams like Ria, Madhuri and Sanjana would collect sea-shells on a sea-shore! The cab driver must have thought that I was cuckoo that evening. Every time I said to him, please make another round of this lovely Kempe Gowda Circle, he looked at me as though I was from another planet! I must have driven to Mysore and back that evening! The wedding reception was at 7.30pm. After all my delay tactics, the best I managed to do was to get to the hall at 7.00pm. The bride and groom had not even arrived. Indeed, they only arrived at 8pm! Yet, every time I think of this story, I can only think of Appa's concern as well as his attention to detail, his assiduousness and his meticulousness. Proud of You: There are several things that I am proud of when I think of Amma and Appa. But, in my book, there are two things that stand out: (a) Amma and Technology, (b) Appa and event organization skills. It can't be easy to live in a technology-rich world that is moving at such a fast pace of change. But none of this appears to faze Amma. She takes to the generation dominated by eMail, mobile phone, mp3's, iPod, Chat, Wiki, social- networking and much more, like a duck to water. Kudos to Amma for this. Despite his bouts of extreme tension during such gigs -- which frankly worry me -- I think that Appa was made for event organization and event management. It is not often that you get a person who cuts across all elements from visioning of an event, to strategic planning of the event to attention to detail. He has it all -- and in spades! He would be a boon to any event planner in the world. I am forever in awe of his passion for this as well as his ability to pull things off with aplomb. 
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 earned money. I have learnt from you not to be frivolous or laissez-faire with my spending! I am sure this trait is a frustrating point for many people around me as I am not a spendthrift. However, building a good foundation for self-sufficiency is a key trait that I have learnt from both Appa and Amma. The lost Diamond There was a mad panic when we realized that there was a stone missing in Amma’s nose ring. It was late in the evening and suddenly we realized that there was a diamond missing in the nose ring. Out came the stories about how the ring was made and how sentimental it was and how expensive it was. Everyone at home started asking about the last steps, the tracing of movements all things that Sherlock Holmes would be proud of. Every nook and cranny of the house was scanned…finally the diamond was found by Sujatha…it was in the carpet in the corridor. Needless to say the carpet was unceremoniously dumped after that and Sujatha was hailed as the hero! All’s well that ends well…Amma was absolutely relieved! Grown men do not cry! Growing up we had regular trips to Trivandrum. The trips in the summer were filled with excitement. Meeting with Lalitha Chitti, Murali, Thatha, Pati, Periappa and Perimmai made the trips very eventful. Memories of those trips are permanently etched in our collective memories. On one such trip, to Trivandrum (I think it was for Lalitha Chiti’s wedding) was eventful. Everyone had gone over to hear the “story telling” master Santhana Gopalachari. He was legendary. He was narrating the Ramayana and on this day the story was the episode relating to the abduction of Sita. The story was intense, emotion filled and the narrator had got so much into the story that he was weeping uncontrollably. I bolted home convinced that he was done for the day. I was trying to explain to Amma and Pati (Ponnama Ammai) why I was home early and that the rest of the folks should be back home soon. Both of them patiently explained that the outburst was perfectly normal and that grown men do cry!! Is it a duck? After Appa returned from France, one fixture in the front room was a clock. It had numbers for the hour and the minute display and every minute/hour the top half of the 
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 number would drop to reveal the bottom half of the next number. A fascinating contraption. Growing up, we never got to stay up beyond 9 or at the latest 9:30. I often wondered what happened after 23:59. I had no occasion to observe this and touching the clock was never in question. One day we had to go to the railway station to pick up Padhu Chittappa and family (they were heading into Bangalore for the poonal of Prakash/Mohan). The train was delayed and we got home at 11:45 pm. I got to stay up late to observe the clock go past 23:59 and say the magical 0:00. The funny thing with the clock was that one of the sleeves was missing on the minute hand. After 03 would flip you would see the bottom half of 05 as the bottom half of 04 was missing. It was an intriguing sight of the triangle of the 04 and the curved bottom of 05. A weird duck like object. It was also interesting that despite the heavily motorized nature of the clock that name that all of us had for the clock was odd…we simply called it “Digital” The Arch We used to live on 5th main road in Vyalikkaval on the 2nd floor of Venkoba Rao’s house. The house had an arch above the gate at the base of the steps which was not doubt meant for plants that creep over the arch. Needless to say that there were no plants over the arch and the arch was a magnet for kids. Dangerous at it was I loved balancing over the arch and flirting with danger. However one day I slipped and fell down! Hard! Amma had to pick me up and rush to Dr Seshadri and eventually to K C General As 
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 Appa was still at work Jayaram mama (who used to live in the room above (3rd floor) helped as we went to the hospital and got my mouth fixed (4 stitches…that was painful). This was certainly not the first time that Amma had to run around dealing with the problems of one of the kids…How she put up with all the shenanigans has never ceased to amaze me!! Radio Our Radio was an interesting device. It was assembled by Appa and had some interesting valves, transformers and other interesting objects. Progressively, bits and pieces kept falling off but the radio amazingly worked. One day the knobs fell off and hence we had to resort to getting rid of the chassis. The only way to operate it as a result was to tweak the stubs of the rod to tune/change the volume. One could move the lever in the device to tune it as well. One day I was operating the device to tune it and Mohan was operating the knob to tune it aw well except we were intending to go in opposite directions (me to All India Radio and Mohan to Vividh Bharati (I presume). There was only one possible outcome…the tuner broke. There would now be no way of finding out which frequency we were listening to! Both Mohan and I were in a mad panic. Instead of heading out to play, that evening we hid under the bed hoping that Appa would not find out when he returned home from work…we were not so lucky! The news every morning Every morning we got into the habit of listening to the news first in Hindi and then in English at 8:00am. Just before we headed off to school (and Appa to his office). This was a routine for a very long time. Initially I was convinced that there was someone inside the radio because of the way the announcement came through (we are talking 1967/1968 here). The news used to always start with, This is All India Radio, the news read by …I for the longest time was convinced that the voice actually said…”This is John in the Radio” Amma and Appa did very little to dispel the myth. Every morning It is a routine that still lives with me to this day. Every morning without fail Appa would wake up and digest (no make that devour) the newspaper for at least 45 minutes before doing anything else. Being informed about the world around him was just the way he 
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 operated. I cannot recall a single exception to this rule. This is a habit that I have picked up and has become part of my daily routine. I am sure that people around me must be wondering what this guy does waking up at 5 am in the morning! I used to read the newspaper on the train on my way into work but for the last 12 years I have been driving in to work in Canada. I do feel that I am a better person as a result of being better informed! A package from Delhi Initially on 5th main road, we used to live above Chandrasekhar’s house. On one occasion, Appa had gone to Delhi on a trip. All I remember was that he was meant to come back home late one night. The next morning, Prakash said that Appa had returned late night with a surprise. When I came out of the room I saw a now Moda in the room and asked him if that was the surprise. No, “go into the bedroom and see, It is a baby”. For the longest time, I lived in the belief that Sujatha was someone that Appa had got from Delhi as a gift for Amma! A conspiracy We had to buy milk from the Bangalore dairy milk booth every morning. Appa or Amma would wake one of us up at around the time that the van was off loading the mike at Fernando’s shop. One of us had to go and pick up the milk from the spot outside Popular store. Without fail every time I was awoken, I was convinced that I was that target of a conspiracy. As invariably, whenever I was awoken to get the milk, my response was, “not my turn”. Needless to say these protests fell on deaf ears! Rush to the front door Every evening when the gate at the 7/17 Vyalikkaval house was opened, we know that it announced the arrival of Appa back from work. The squeak was inimitable. There would be a mad rush between Mohan and I to get the front door opened. It was a competition and every day someone got to win and claim bragging rights. This day was no different. I was in the kitchen (sneaking a combination of sugar and Ghee…affectionately called manAngatTi…don’t ask why) and Mohan was in the study room. When the gate squeaked, there was a mad rush. As I went past the hall and the front door was in sight, I was already claiming victory! Just as I passed the threshold of 
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 the hall into the front room, I felt the smile getting even wider when BANG! Mohan’s head was lodged firmly in the cheek! He did not stop…and went on to claim victory by opening the door. Appa had to rush the kid again to hospital…stitches again. The artist It was incredible the talents that Amma possessed. She was a singer, a painter, a Veena player (a south Indian sitar hero) and teacher pretty much picked up things very quickly became proficient at it in a short period of time…many of the fads were passing phases. Beads, wire baskets, croquet, Jute weaving knitting. If she put her mind to it, she was able to quickly figure out the basics and soon become ultra efficient at it. The key was she was always willing to disseminate the information to a few folks around her and motivate many around her to get to her level of proficiency rapidly. I once remember seeing a cotton filled rabbit that she had made, stitched on to a cloth (which was framed). It looked so real that I was convinced that initially it was an actual rabbit! Watching my first game of Cricket The date was Jan 7th 1973. It was a Sunday. The game was MCC VS. South Zone. The game was being played at the newly created M Chinaswamy stadium. This was my first game of Cricket that I was seeing live…seeing many of the legends that I had only heard of. Bangalore seldom got to host many games involving international players. I was seeing the likes of Pautadi, G R Vishwanath, Venkatraghavan, Chandrasekhar, Abid Ali, Dennis Amiss, Tony Lewis and Alan Knott. I remember on that day that we went to the game, Pautadi got a century(and declared) and Alan Knot hit a brisk 156. It was a strange experience for me as when people shouted fielded, I was not sure what was happening…was that out? A terrific introduction to the game of Cricket live for me, it gave me an appreciation and affection (some say obsession) for the game that I share till this day! 
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 open arms and gave my parents the confidence and reassurance that their daughter was going into a family that would accept her as their own. Every marriage has its fair share of ups and downs. I am sure 50 years have seen a lot of that in Appa’s and Amma’s lives. Rajesh and Mohan have regaled me with stories from their childhood, the tough times and more importantly the fun and happy times that they all cherish. Appa and Amma have raised four absolutely wonderful children and they are obviously so because of the values, guidance and love that they have received from their parents. I applaud them for their patience, perseverance and all the sacrifices that they have made to ensure that their children got the best that they could give them in life. Nakul, Ria, Rajesh and I are so looking forward to this reunion in July! It will be THE most memorable event in our lives. I hope Amma and Appa have an absolute blast free of worries and intense event planning! It is time for us to take over and give back to them more than what they have given us, if that is indeed possible! Happy 50th Wedding Anniversary, Amma and Appa! 
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 carefree and swam in the water without fear. I probably played with my cousins who were closest to me in age, Ashok and Meera, although I don’t remember exactly what we played. We did spend a lot of time on those steps leading to the temple both during the day and at night! The garudasevai days bustled with activity (and several photo ops!). The grandiose flower arrangements and the fervent chanting was mesmerizing. The Deeparadhanais were the highlight with flashes of brilliant color blinding the eyes. Phoren Return Appa went to France for almost a year when I was about five. I have very little recollection of how we passed the time while he was gone. It seemed to be interminable. I remember being corrected to say, “my father has gone abroad” as opposed to “my father has gone to foreign’, and that was it. When Appa came back, there were lots of goodies. There was a huge doll (it seemed big at that time as it was probably about 3 or 4 feet tall). Amma took the doll and showed it to me and then promptly locked it in the hall cupboard. The same thing happened to the police car and the motorbike with the remote control that my brothers received. Those got locked up too. These toys were to be seen and not played with. In fact, they were kept so carefully that I have a suspicion some of them STILL exist! Ask Sundar, and he'd recount his favorite car with great gusto ("It was a yellow car with blue stripes on the bonnet. It had humvee-style wheels. Appa would proudly set it on the center table and switch it on! It had a lever near the front- wheels that would release detecting edge of the table, upon which the car would reverse and set off in a different direction")! There was also a chemistry set that Prakash received. His set was allowed to come out and we were allowed to reverently watch while he played with it. Being the ‘Golden Son’ surely had its perks ;-). The prettiest thing Appa brought (besides the gorgeous chiffon saris and various materials for Amma) was a gondola that played music when keyed, and had a couple dancing to the melody. This occasionally got removed from the shrine in the cupboard and was displayed for visitors. I remember watching it with yearning wishing I were on the boat dancing whenever the key got turned. One of the most memorable things that used to happen after Appa’s return from France was the photo watching sessions. He had all his pictures converted to slides, and would load them into the slide projector and we’d have slide 
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 shows with the picture projected onto the wall while he explained the sights and sounds of Europe. It was as if we saw the whole place with him. He had a good balance of places as well as people. His camera was also put to good use when he took pictures of all of us in our school uniforms and in dressed up clothes – some smiling and some not!. I remember one particular striking photo taken at Cubbon Park with us and with Lila Mami, Renganathan Mama, and Maya and with beautiful bougainvilleas in the background. Those were good times indeed. Escape to Trivandrum I was quite privileged to be the one to accompany Amma on a trip to Trivandrum. This was when I was in 1st Standard. I’m not sure if all the required paper work was filled out at Stella Maris School but when I got back, Ms. Fatima (my class teacher at that time) was quite puzzled as to where I had gone. One of my classmates blurted out that I had gone to Mysore, and although I denied it, that story just stuck. We spent quite a while in 2nd Puthen Street. Kunju Chitthi was also there with Priya. All the boys were missing. It was a conspiracy to keep them out (not that Priya or I complained!) I do remember picking out golu dolls for the house. I remember being amazed by the number of golu dolls that were packed for each family. We got a beautiful Saraswati doll although I really wanted a Krishna that was dressed as a cowherd. I also remember all the ladies making a lot of things, including Appalams. Not knowing that Appalam maavu (dough) was quite pungent, I believe I blurted out (to Amma’s chagrin) “Amma, nee kushu pottaiya?” at the nascent aroma. Ponamammai had a blast repeating and embellishing that story to no end! Murali was still around and she was left in charge of keeping Priya and I occupied most of the time, which only added to the fun. That was one Holiday that I still remember and relish. The day the Sky fell Our neighbors ran a school called “Nandanavana” and held Sai Bhajanais every Saturday night. These Bhajanais were quite well attended, and were heard throughout the street. The clashing cymbals incited a lot of people into usually joining in the fervor. This was a time we were all growing up in the 7/17 house. It would be an understatement to state merely that Mohan and Rajesh fought a lot. As close as they were (and are), their epic 
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 arguments often ended in brawls. Their wrestling was so appalling that Amma had to tell me to let her know the minute they started battling with dire threats to them on the consequences of such actions. Of course being given an important job of telling on my brothers was one I HAD to take seriously. They did indeed have another clash that ended up in what seemed to be a boxing match. I, in all my wisdom and glee that Mohan and Rajesh would now get into trouble, immediately went to Amma and told on them. I expected her to rush to them to stop the fight. Instead, …“THWACK”. I got whacked! I got whacked HARD! Not being prepared for this, I let out a yowl of indignant fury and then immediately started wailing. You see, it happened to be a Saturday night. It also happened to be the very night that Amma had decided to record the Sai Bhajanais on the new tape recorder … The Nazia Tapes Rajesh and Mohan, needless to say, loved to tease. They still do. Our neighbor (after the odious Nandanavana school closed down) re-acquired his house and then renovated it, and moved in. They rented their upstairs to a nice family with 2 boys the same age as Mo and Raj. Both sets boys happened to own the same LP Nazia Hassan album with “Disco Diwane” and other songs (which we all sang to with much gusto then but now allude to with typical adult horror at our taste in music). It didn’t take very long to realize that Mr. Doraiswamy Iyengar hated the song. It got on his last nerves. So of course, being good samaritans, Mohan and Rajesh played the music at the loudest volume. Then, as soon as it got over, the boys next door would play it over again at the loudest volume… and so on back and forth until Amma got wind of what they did…. I don’t think the LP has surfaced again. To compete or die trying Ms.Anantam, my Sanskrit teacher was famous for running competitions. These involved memorizing and reciting slokas from all over. When I was little, I hated the stage or having to do anything in front of a whole bunch of people (strangers or not). Of course I was told that I would participate. I learned what I needed to, but choked when it was my turn. I had a terrible case of stage fright. When I go home, Amma got to know that I didn’t perform on stage. I got quite a beating! 
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 The Delhi/Musoorie Trip One summer, Appa was invited to attend a conference at the Hill Station called Mussoorie in the foothills of the Himalayas. His organizational fervor kicked into high gear, and he made it into a full-fledged trip starting from Delhi, moving through Rishkesh and Haridwar and ending up in Mussoorie . Delhi was, to put it bluntly, scorching hot. The withering heat was debilitating to even the strongest person. Steam would rise out of the sidewalk. Appa had an agenda, and by golly we were going to stick to it. We took a tour of Delhi, and climbed up the interminable steps of the Qutb-Minar at which point I don’t think anyone in the group cared about the history but rather getting the tour over and done with. I was parched and asked for something to drink – but instead a kind neighbor offered a cucumber saying that would be better. The dastardly cucumber decided it didn’t like my stomach and immediately decided to come out… the wrong way. Poor Amma had to go find a way to clean up the tourist bus, while Appa yelled at anyone and everyone responsible for giving me the cucumber in the first place. Of course, the stop at Rishikesh and Haridwar and had the requisite snanam in the Ganges. Rishikesh was very pretty with the town built around the fast flowing river. There were some adventures in restaurants and a few mishaps (some green faces) which got Appa to a quick boiling point. Haridwar was quite polluted even then, and the river flowed quite fast to my consternation. Taking a dip in it still causes me to shudder. My favorite part of the Delhi/Mussoorie trip was indeed Mussoorie . The weather was beautiful. We got to immerse ourselves in the gorgeous beauty of the Himalayas. During the daytime, all the kids were out playing various games. We made some good friends. There were parties in the evening, which were quite enjoyable. However, the family stuck together and came away from the whole trip with lots of memories that could be relived. Of all the trips we made as a family, this has been my most memorable. In fact, it might have been the only trip with all four kids! I got to be lucky to accompany Amma and Appa on several trips – but this was one trip where everyone was included. Saharsranamams Sahasradinams Appa’s organizing talent came to the forefront during the Vishnu Saharsanamam days. 
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 The daily chanting went on for 40 nights at a designated person’s house, and then there was a culmination ceremony on the last day. We held this at our house for a few sessions. The TTD Kalyanamandapam people had also agreed to hold this at one of the rooms. Unfortunately, half way through one of the sessions, they had an issue and informed the group that they couldn’t hold the session there anymore. Appa immediately stepped up and saved the day by offering to finish off the session in our house. If Appa set his mind to it, the impossible became mundanely possible. He learned whatever it was he needed, and saw to it that even the littlest details weren’t overlooked. He also got to have sessions held at the Mysore Maharaja’s daughter’s house. Amma, of course made it all possible by doing the necessary background work to make it all successful. Thanks to their interest in the Vishnu Sahasranamam, I don’t feel lost whenever I hear it, and am able to confidently join in. Globie danced Has it been mentioned that Mohan and Rajesh teased a lot? Well it permeated through to music and dance lessons. My poor music teacher was relegated to the misnomer “Globie” due to the unfortunate shape of his rather immense cranium. He was a good singer, but came quite infrequently. So my infrequent music lessons were alas quite frequently interrupted. My dance lessons didn’t fare that well either. I fear Rajesh and Mohan will have to demonstrate their “Thaiyya Thai” to compellingly reveal the reason behind that. Their relentless teasing was not the only reason I lost out on continuing dance, but it helped in bringing on the rapid demise of that art in the house. I wish I had continued. However, what I take from this is Amma's attitude. While I'm sure she was disappointed, she didn't let it show. She just continued taking me to dance performances whenever possible. She also continued to take me to pattu katcheris (especially the rama navami katcheris at Sheshadripuram college) to help me maintain my interest in music and dance. Thiruppugazh is for ladies only Appa was not always the Thiruppugazh icon that he is today. A young teacher called Venkatraman used to teach classes. Amma offered to have the classes held in our house. So once a week, people would come to our house, and then lessons would be held. Appa 
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 would be relegated to sitting on his scooter in the portico until the class ended. This didn’t stop him from mocking the whole concept. He’d have us rolling on the floor laughing by imitating one particular singer, and would burst into a loud and raucous Umbartharu Thenu Mani, Kashi vaakiiii yennnnnnnnnnnnnn. He did this much to Amma’s consternation. Some of the songs must have permeated through – because if you look at him now you’d think he was born singing Thiruppugazh songs! I wonder whom the joke is on now! Bootlegged goods: Appa once went on an official trip to Delhi. This was when we were still living in our Vyalikkaval house. It was just a usual trip, and nothing big happened, except when he returned… He had taken a suitcase that was exactly the same as what someone else on that same flight had. He didn’t notice anything amiss until he started unpacking. We all heard a startled shout form him. Instead of his clothes, he found unopened brand new electronics goods. It turned out that his suitcase was inadvertently mixed up with another person’s bag. Luckily, Appa’s tag was on his bag, and the other person was able to track Appa and exchange bags! Kuruvi Kadai Amma was a huge help for me when Sanjana was born. One of the things she would do is tell Sanjana stories. As a baby, Sanjana would just stare for hours at her Charummai while she was told story after story. I believe Charummai/Charu Pati managed to tell all her grandkids the Kuruvi Kadai. All her grandkids love the songs Kannum Pooti Urangu and Chinna Chinna Padam Vaithu Kanna Nee Vaa. Sanjana still likes when someone sings a song to her right before she goes to sleep. Now that they are older, she makes it a point to find new jokes. Her grandsons all seem to have an extra gene for humor that snuck in. So she tells her jokes and has them cracking up. What a legacy! Around the world in 80 days Appa and Amma made a rare long trip. They rarely seem to venture out of Bangalore to visit, and so this trip was quite unique in the sense that they went around the world and visited all their kids before they went back to India. They were able to pull it off by visiting Oz, and then CA, Toronto and Houston. They have visited a couple of times 
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 since. The songmaker Amma was and still is a resolute songwriter. Not only does she sing songs written by other authors (Meenakshi Sutha, Arunagirinathar), she has also composed quite a few songs. Her big burst of inspiration hit when she came to help for Suvedh’s childbirth. She composed and set music to about five different songs in as many days. Her creative juices still flow and have hopefully permeated through to the grandkids. Retirement? What does that mean! KNK is actually officially retired... since 2002. You wouldn’t know it, because he still keeps working. Perhaps he does it to keep himself occupied. The question is, does the work call him back? Or is HE pulled back. It seems that he is still quite in demand, especially for his ability to get things done and organize everybody. He has continued strong well past retirement. He is so dedicated to his work; he even went back to work barely three weeks after his bypass surgery. The rare compliment! Appa rarely compliments people. When he does pay you a compliment though it is so sincere that the sun shines and you feel good about yourself for days. I remember yet another of Anantham's art competitions. While my friends were all drawing complex mythological figures and Gods and Godesses, I was at a loss. Apparently Amma's drawing talent did NOT show itself even remotely in my genes. So I drew a Sun up on top of the page, and a pot with a flower growing out of it at the bottom of the page. I was 6 or 7 years old. I was surprised to receive a third prize award for this paltry drawing. Appa was looking through the drawings, and looked at mine and said, "This one makes the most sense. I like it!". It was enough to make me happy for days! What does CASSA stand for? Appa worked at CASSA for a long time while we were all in Bangalore. Part of his duties included keeping up the morale of the office by arranging yearly "CASSA Days". He would organize shows and games so well that we would all look forward to this day every year. One year he had arranged for a shadow puppet show. I loved it. Another year, he gave my dance teacher a chance to show off her students, and I danced with my 
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 friends Gita and Janaki. Another year, he had arranged a complex game that involved working with a partner and "flying" around the world just using mere poster boards! He would come up with these games, and execute them to perfection. One year, the game was a quiz. There were prizes at the end. Prakash did so well that he was one of the last two standing. The last question Appa asked was "What does CASSA stand for". Prakash knew the answer. His clear voice rang out amongst all the participants with "Center for Aeronautical Systems Studies and Analyses". The look of pride on Appa's face was priceless! I'm sure Appa would have been even prouder if he had heard "VaImanikiya Prakriya Adhayayan tatha Visleshen Kendra" Oh Canada! Appa and Amma made a visit to the US after he retired the first time. Their intent was to visit Prakash and then us (in Hudson, Ohio) and then while in Ohio to make a quick foray into Canada to visit Rajesh. Unfortunately, Appa was quite busy tying up loose ends that he did not get a Canadian Visa. The plan was for us to take them to Buffalo, apply for the Visa, receive it, and then drive on to Mississauga. We left quite early in the morning because we wanted to make it to the consulate at Buffalo before they opened so that we could be one of the first few served. We got there in record time with Srikanth at the wheel. The visa process involved obtaining a number, waiting for your number to be called, then submitting your application, and then waiting further instruction. All of this went smooth, until the point of submitting the application. Appa had filled out "Retired Civil Servant" in the form under "Occupation". Being the Honest Abe that he is, he did not see any flags when the person behind the window started asking him questions: Lady: "What did you do before you retired". Appa: "I was a director of a Lab" Lady: "What Lab" Appa: "ADRDE" Lady: "What does that stand for" (yup - ya'll know what's coming!) Appa: "Aerial Delivery Research & Development Establishment".... this was post 9/11....OUCH! The Canadian Embassy didn't veto his application but stated that they would have to send 
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