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    • Hello!Thank you for your interest in Treasured. Treasured is a ministry of Gateway Church with the followingpurpose:  We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3.The name TREASURED came from the idea of redeeming children, who were previously unknown andunseen by us, and who at times have not been show great value, to be TREASURES. For those whohave gone through the foster care or adoption experience, Isaiah 45:2-3 came alive when we saw thatGod ―…will go before you and will level the mountains; I will break down gates of bronze and cut throughbars of iron…‖ to give us ―…TREASURES of darkness, riches stored in secret places…‖ and bring themto a safe home, which has greatly strengthened our faith and helped us ―…know that I am the LORD, theGod of Israel, who summons you by name.‖By taking a stand for the orphans and children in need, we draw closer to God‘s heart, who adopted usinto His family. We see this in Psalm 82:3 when God calls us to ―Defend the cause of the weak andfatherless; maintain the rights of the poor and oppressed‖ and also in James 1:27 where we read that―Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows intheir distress.‖By picking up this packet, you have expressed some interest in adoption, foster care and/or childsponsorship. We are so excited for you! Whether you are just beginning to consider this or have alreadybegun the journey, we hope this is a helpful resource for you. The most valuable resource is oftenanother person who has been (or is) on the same journey. There are many adoptive and foster familieshere at Gateway available to connect with you to answer questions and be a support to you.Please let us know how we can best serve you.~ The TREASURED Team ~ Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 1
    • Table of ContentsGATEWAY ADOPTION MENTOR FAMILIES .................................................................................................. 3GATEWAY FAMILY ADOPTION STORIES ..................................................................................................... 4FACTS AND FIGURES ...................................................................................................................................... 7ADOPTION MYTHS VS. REALITIES ................................................................................................................ 8QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER AS YOU EXPLORE ADOPTION ................................................................... 10ADOPTION FINANCES .................................................................................................................................... 11SUGGESTED QUESTIONS FOR ADOPTION AGENCY SELECTION PROCESS ................................... 14DOMESTIC AND INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION AGENCIES ..................................................................... 17RESOURCE LIST.............................................................................................................................................. 18 Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 2
    • Gateway Adoption Mentor FamiliesWhile adoption is an amazing experience, it can be overwhelming at times. If God is calling you to adopt,get connected to other adoptive families! Below is a list of Gateway families who have adopted. You willfind their names and contact information because these families WANT to talk to you. These familieshave committed to mentoring others who are interested in adopting. They want to pray for you, havedinner, answer questions, share resources and encourage you! Please don‘t hesitate to reach out to oneof these families directly or to email us at treasured@gwcbs.com and we can help you get in touch withthem as well. Name Type of adoption Email Phone Armstrong, Jimmy and Emily International Guatemala emilykarmstrong@hotmail.com 816-916-7626 Bardwell, Joe and Melissa Domestic Foster care joemel814@comcast.net 816-220-8458 Crandall, Corey and Miriam Domestic Private/Open coreyandmiriam@gmail.com 816-427-1492 Massey, Greg and Ally International China masseys4jc@comcast.net 816-224-5586 Thurn, Larry and Lacy International Peru 2LT2DT1420@sbcglobal.net 816-847-6410 Whitworth, Pat and Lee Anne International Guatemala l.whitworth@live.com 816-795-9976 Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 3
    • Gateway Family Adoption StoriesJimmy and Emily Armstrong, International Adoption, Guatemalaemilykarmstrong@hotmail.com – jarmstrong@cerner.com - 816-916-7626My name is Emily Armstrong and Jimmy and I adopted our precious son from Guatemala. I have alwayswanted to adopt, but after working with orphans in Peru in 2008, God grabbed my heart and said ―Now.‖After much prayer and discernment with Jimmy, we began the process. I was excited and, at the sametime, unsure of what to expect. We had so many questions like ―Will it be awkward that our adopted childwon‘t look like us? Will it be hard to bond with this child? How will we afford it? How do you know whichagency to use? How will our family and friends respond?‖ I had no idea the faith journey that God had instore for us. We saw God do ―immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine‖ (Ephesians 3:20) in manyways such as financial blessing, an incredible support group, an amazing bond with our son and othermiracles explained only as the working of our Mighty God! The adoption process forced us to dependmore fully on God and built our faith in a way we had not previously experienced. The more we learnabout the plight of orphans both in our local community and internationally, the more our hearts continueto break for the millions of children who do not have a permanent home. We know that orphans are closeto God‘s heart and, by getting involved in the orphan crisis, we have been incredibly blessed. We wouldlove the opportunity to visit with anyone interested in getting involved, so don‘t hesitate to contact us!Corey and Miriam Crandall, Domestic Adoption, Private/Opencoreycrandall@gmail.com - miriamgcrandall@gmail.com - 816-427-1492Miriam‘s heart for adoption started at a young age as she watched her father help build families throughadoption as the director of an adoption agency. Corey knew little of adoption before meeting Miriam butthat rapidly changed. Shortly after we married, we spent 5 months living in an orphanage in Romania.While there, Miriam recalls asking a fifteen year old girl what her biggest dream was. She replied that shehoped to be adopted. At 15, her heart‘s desire was still to be adopted...to have a mom and dad. Coreyrecalls a specific moment when a six year old girl was injured on the soccer field. As Corey carried herinside, she was stiff as a board. She did not know how to be held, how to be comforted...it was heartbreaking. Working day after day with orphans opened our eyes and our hearts to the immense need foradoption.We knew the Lord was leading us that direction and decided to pursue domestic adoption in August,2008. At the time we had two biological children. We used an agency, Love Basket, to facilitate ouradoption. After one year of paperwork, waiting, losing a job, and praying, we travelled to Rolla, Missouriin August, 2009 to welcome our newborn son, Isaiah Matthew into our family. It was such a beautiful andamazing time for us. The adoption is open, so we have regular contact with the birth mom and we werevery happy with the agency we used. Adoption has opened our eyes more clearly to what love really is: achoice. We feel such deep and amazing love for Isaiah and are daily reminded of the Father‘s love for us,as we are His dearly beloved adopted children.We would enjoy the opportunity to meet with you, answer your questions, offer encouragement and serveyou wherever you are in the adoption process...from just thinking about it to post placement. Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 4
    • Pat and Lee Anne Whitworth, International Adoption, Guatemalapgwlaw@hotmail.com - l.whitworth@live.com - 816-795-9976After not having a biological child, and still wanting a family, we decided to adopt. We were open toadopting domestically or internationally, but felt God clearly opened doors for us to adopt fromGuatemala. During the process, we saw a picture of a precious boy named Erick on the internet andhoped he could be our son.Adoption has changed our life by not only giving us an incredible son (much sweeter than we could haveproduced!), but also opening our eyes to adoption needs in our own country and around the world. It hasmade us want to be advocates for the millions of other children who need homes. Through adoption wehave learned that God calls us to take care of the widows and orphans. We have learned that theprocess can be tiring and difficult, but can bring such incredible joy in the end.For us, the biggest challenge of our adoption was waiting through the process itself, mainly due to thepolitical structure in Guatemala at the time. We had confidence God orchestrated this union of our familyand trusted his timing. We relied heavily on friends and family for support. As far as parenting, I dontfeel the challenges have been directly related to him being adopted as much as normal "toddler issues." :)I realize there may be challenging discussions and emotions as he gets older and we try to prepare bytalking to other adoptive families and reading books on related topics.Joe and Melissa Bardwell, Domestic Adoption, Foster Carejoemel814@comcast.net – 816-220-8458Hi, we are Joe and Melissa Bardwell and we have adopted three kids from the Children‘s Division. I knewI wanted to adopt children from a young age. When I was in the third grade I watched the movie Annie.After the movie I told my dad that one day I wanted to adopt kids who needed a home. From that day on itbecame a part of my identity. The idea of taking care of kids who needed a home and to be loved becamea major part of who I am. In fact when my husband and I went on our first date I asked him how he feltabout adoption. We talked about James 1:27 and about our passion for all of the kids who need a homeand someone to love them. After we had been married for a few years we both felt the draw towardsbecoming a foster parent. It was in the time we spent as a foster parent that God brought our threeamazing children into our lives. It was not the way I pictured adopting kids when I was in third grade, ithas been even better and I have been blessed beyond what I could have ever imagined.I am sure that every person who becomes a parent experiences a new perspective on the way theyapproach life. For us adopting our kids has given us a clearer picture of God‘s love for us. When youadopt a child from the Children‘s division there is always some part of their life that you missed. This issimilar to each of us before we are in relationship with God. We are separated from him, but he still lovesus no matter what happened before we came to him. We get an insight into the character of God whenwe experience the way we love our children despite what has happened in their lives prior to living withus. No matter what they do or have done that love will not change. That is how God feels about us. It isan amazing chance to experience a small part of God‘s character.Adoption from the Children‘s Division presents many blessings and a few challenges. One of the majorchallenges is how long you wait to find out if you will get to adopt the kids that are in your home that you Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 5
    • have fallen in love with. When we me our oldest son he was legally free for adoption so the adoptionprocess only took us three months. This is an almost unheard of time frame for adoption from the state.The younger two kids took a little while longer. They were placed in our home as infants and we waited ayear before we found out that we would get to adopt them. In that time there were many ups and downs.There were times that it appeared that we may not get to adopt the child we had loved like our own child.In those times the only thing we had to hold on to was that God was in control and he knew what wouldhappen. Those years were trying time for us. They were also defining times in our lives. As we look backon them now it is easy to see that God had his hand on the situation the entire time. The pain and fearwere not fun, but they helped shape our hearts and our character. We are thankful that we had somegood friends and family that supported us during that time.Larry and Laci Thurn, International Adoption, Peru2lt2dt1420@sbcglobal.net – 816-847-6410God started our adoption story when Larry first went to Peru on a mission trip. The orphans, theconditions they lived in and their sweet hearts weighed heavy on Larrys heart and he felt like we weresupposed to do something drastic. I could plainly see that God had done something huge with Larry ashe started to reveal to me what he had been shown while in Peru. God showed us the story of Esther thatsummer. In particular Esther 4:14, that says, "who knows if you werent put in this position, for just such atime as this", which said to us that God wanted to use us right here in this time frame..right now....to makea difference. Even if it was only ONE child.Since that initial period, details of our "adoption story" continued to fall into place. We saw these pieceslining up as more confirmation that we were doing as we had been asked. Of course no one couldprepare you as to the mountains of paperwork and red tape you have to walk through, time and timeagain. But, all along we keep our eyes focused on the LIGHT at the end of this tunnel, knowing that Godwill finish what HE has started and one day (hopefully soon) we will be joined with the daughter/sister Hehas chosen for us.Greg and Ally Massey, International Adoption, ChinaMasseys4jc@comcast.net - 816-224-5586I was running on my treadmill telling the Lord I wanted to live a life completely and totally for the Lordsglory and this thought ran through my head, "Adopt a baby". This was not a normal thought for me. Gregand I hadnt discussed it prior, but I knew it was from the Lord. I called Greg at work and told him whatthe Lord had just said to me. He said, "I think so too". He then told me that a few months earlier he hadbeen on a mission trip to Mexico and saw children who didnt have families who loved and valued themand it wrecked him. Greg then proceeded to tell me that God had begun talking to him about adopting achild since that trip. He just hadnt said anything to me. God confirmed the whisper I heard on thetreadmill with Gregs answers. And the long adoption process began.Adoption has wrecked us with the love the Father has towards us as his children. God invited us into apowerful story of adoption. We loved Myer from the absolute beginning and longed for her to know shebelonged with an unconditional love to our family. By no accident God reminded us we too are invited tobe His adopted children and He longs for us to belong to Him and know we are loved with anunconditional love. Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 6
    • Facts and FiguresWhat is the need? Over 130 million children have lost one or both parents. Every 18 seconds another child becomes an orphan, without a mother or father. At least 16.2 million children worldwide have lost both parents. Every 14 seconds a child loses a parent due to AIDS. Conflict has orphaned or separated 1 million children from their families in the 1990s.Where are they? 43.4 million orphans live in sub-Saharan Africa, 87.6 million orphans live in Asia, and 12.4 million orphans live in Latin America and the Caribbean. 1.5 million children live in public care in Central and Eastern Europe alone. In some countries, children are abandoned at alarming rates, due to poverty, restrictive population control policies, disabilities or perceived disabilities, and cultural traditions that value boys more than girls. At any given point there are over 500,000 children in the U.S. Foster Care system. There are 1,755 children in Missouri and 336 children in Jackson County awaiting adoption in the foster care system. There are 8,973 churches in Missouri and 525 in Jackson County….so that means if every church (or specifically 65% of churches) in Jackson Country adopted 1 child waiting to be adopted, there would be no kids waiting.What happens to the children? Orphaned children are much more likely than non-orphans to be working in commercial agriculture, as street vendors, in domestic service and in the sex trade. Unaccompanied boys are at high risk of forced or voluntary participation in violence and armed conflict. Orphanages, childrens villages, or other group residential facilities generally fail to meet young peoples emotional and psychological needs. (from http://www.showhope.org/Resources/TheNeed.aspx , www.moheartgallery.org and http://www.dss.mo.gov/re/ ) Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 7
    • Adoption Myths vs. RealitiesAccording to a recent national study, 81.5+ million people have considered building their family throughadoption. Sadly, for the vast majority of these people, the journey ends with the many myths of adoptionsthey have heard. Because most never get past the myths of adoption, they never experience the miracleof adoption. For most of us, the only information we ever had about adoption has been mostly myth.These myths need to be dispelled. So, we present here some of the myths of adoption-and the true andwonderful realities that counter those myths for those who want to dig deeper and know the truth: Myth RealityThere are no babies being placed for 20,000 or more U.S.-based infants are placed for adoption eachadoption in the U.S. year.Adoptive parents must wait five years The average wait in a domestic adoption is less than two years.or more for a baby. Costs of private domestic adoptions average $15,000 and public adoptions from the foster care system have very little costAdopting parents pay extortionate associated with them. After the Adoption Tax Credit, the cost isamounts -- tens and tens of thousands comparable to that of giving birth in a hospital. There is a federalof dollars. adoption tax credit, which is currently up to $13,170 of qualified adoption expenses for international adoptions and is a flat credit for special needs domestic adoptions.Birth-parents can arrive at any time to Once an adoption is finalized, the adoptive family is recognized asreclaim their child. the childs family by law. Most birth-mothers today are older than 18. In most cases, itsBirth-mothers are all troubled teens. lack of support and/or resources that causes them to place their children for adoption. Children in state care have most likely experienced some sort of trauma in their lives and for various reasons, often neglect or abuse, have been placed in foster care. However, by educating yourself and preparing for your childs needs before completing the adoption, you will be more prepared to face any challengesChildren in foster care have too much that may come up. Children in foster care, just like any children,"baggage." have enormous potential to thrive when given love, patience and a stable environment. Just ask U.S. Senator Ben "Nighthorse" Campbell, Minnesota Viking Dante Culpepper, Washington, D.C. Mayor Anthony Williams, or Miss USA 2000 Lynnette Cole. They were all once foster children who were adopted by caring adults. The term "special needs" is somewhat misleading, because it can mean that the child is older, a minority, or requires placement with his/her siblings — in other words, a child who has a "specialAll children in foster care have some need" for a family! While some children are dealing with physicalkind of physical, mental or emotional or emotional concerns, just like other children, they need thehandicap; thats why they are classified nurturing and support that a permanent family can provide. Manyas "special needs." foster children are in the "system" because their birth parents werent protective and nurturing caretakers, not because the children did anything wrong. Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 8
    • Anyone can adopt, including single people, couples without children, and families who already have children by birth or byAdoptive parents must be married and prior adoption. However, many foreign countries and some privatewithout children. agencies have specific requirements as to the marital status, age, and number of children, or religion of people who adopt the children. Many prospective adoptive parents are influenced by this fear/myth. The truth that is testified to over and over again afterI am not sure I can love an adopted adopting, is that you can and do love an adopted child just aschild the way I love a biological child. much as a biological child. Love is not so much a matter of blood- line, as love-line. It is relationship.Myths compiled from aspiranet.org,beliefnet.com, andadoptioninformation.com. (From www.howtoadopt.org ) Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 9
    • Questions to Consider as You Explore AdoptionDeciding to adopt is a big decision! It can be difficult to process all of the factors that contribute tomaking a decision. Below you will find some questions to help you think through your views on adoption.These questions are not designed with a ―right‖ or ―wrong‖ answer in mind. Instead, they are a discussiontool. Please know that there are many Gateway families, with a diverse array of experiences andbackgrounds, that would love to listen and talk with you as you consider the life changing adventure ofadoption. Feel free to contact us at treasured@gwcbs.com with questions or for more information. 1. What are my biggest fears regarding adoption? 2. Do/will my close family and friends support my decision to adopt? If not, why? 3. How do I define the concept of family? In other words, what is a family? 4. What personal experience(s) do I have regarding adoption – whether positive or negative? 5. Does adoption seem ―normal‖ to me? 6. If married, does my spouse have the same ideas about adoption? 7. What have I done thus far to educate myself about adoption? 8. What, if anything, do I feel that I would lose or be ―giving up‖ if I choose to adopt? 9. Why do/would I want to adopt? 10. How do I feel about birthparents (i.e., the biological parents of children who are adopted)? 11. How do I know if adoption is right for me? 12. How do I feel about loving a child who is not biologically related to me? (from www.tapestry.irvingbible.org ) Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 10
    • Adoption Finances1. God‘s Perspective Always keep in mind….God is called Jehovah-Jireh, ―the Lord will provide‖. See Genesis 22:14. When God asks you to do something, He will provide.2. Costs of Adoption (very rough estimate)  Domestic Adopion = $8,000 - $30,000  International Adoption = $20,000 - $40,000+  Foster to Adopt = generally, this is a free process, but legal and other possible fees can be incurred.3. Financial Options  Federal Adoption Tax Credit o In 2011, the maximum adoption credit is $13,360 per child. o The credit is refundable, meaning that eligible taxpayers can get it even if they owe no tax for that year. In general, the credit is based on the reasonable and necessary expenses related to a legal adoption, including adoption fees, court costs, attorney‘s fees and travel expenses. Income limits and other special rules apply. o See: http://chrisitianallianceblog.org/?p=864 o See IRS Tax Topic 607: Adoption Credit (www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc607.html )  Missouri Adoption Tax Credit o Up to $10,000 over a five year period. Use form MO-ATC. o This is actually a ―special needs‖ tax credit, but various ethnic backgrounds also apply. o This is not a refundable credit, meaning you can only claim the credit for the year up to your tax liability, and then you carry forward the balance until you are able to claim the full $10,000. You cannot file this prior to July 1st each year and have to file it by April 15th. They then determine how much money they have available after all of the claims are filed for this period and refund the money in June. They go by receipt order so you will want to file it as soon as you can after July 1st to make sure you dont have to wait another year. Dates are different for resident and nonresident children. Call 573-526-8733 for more information o See http://dor.mo.gov/taxcredit/atc.php  Direct Grants o Directly awarded to family or adoption agency for adoption expenses o Given without repayment or fundraising. Based on financial need o Grants range from $1,000-$10,000+ o Examples:  www.showhope.org  http://64.123.230.204/kinsmanredeemer/index.html  www.lydiafund.org  www.adoptionresourcefoundation.com  http://katelynsfund.org  www.giftofadoption.org  http://www.seaoffaces.org/grants.htm  www.helpusadopt.org  www.katelynsfund.org  www.achildwaits.org  http://www.abrotherslove.org  Check out an updated adoption grant chart at www.resources4adoption.com Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 11
    •  Matching Grants o Matching Grants of up to $4,000/per child ($1-for-$1 match) o Others donate tax-deductible gifts. Church, family, friends become engaged financially & prayerfully o Average Scenario: Matching Grant of $2,500 - mobilizes an additional $5,000 - average total grant funds for your adoption = $7500 o Examples:  www.lifesongfororphans.org  http://ggam.org  www.handinhandadopt.org  Interest-Free Loan o Reduces initial, upfront ‗cash-flow crunch‘. o Couples sign a covenant agreement to repay - monthly or annually and can use Adoption Tax Credit to repay loan. o Examples:  www.lifesongfororphans.org  www.abbafund.org  www.achildwaits.org  Other ideas o Employer Adoption Assistance  A number of companies have adoption assistance programs built into their benefits with some providing between $2,000 - $10,000 o The military provides $2,000  http://military.adoption.com/army/military-adoption-benefits.html o Sell t-shirts  http://www.showhope.org/AdoptionAid/ShirtsOfHope.aspx  http://www.adoptionbug.com/fundraiser.htm  http://www.147millionorphans.com/Adoption-Fundraising_ep_41.html  http://www.annifororphans.com/ or http://www.facebook.com/AnNiDesigns o Sell coffee  https://www.justlovecoffee.com/RegisterFamily.aspx o Garage sale o Walk-a-thon o Holiday Homes Tour o http://abbafund.wordpress.com/2008/02/25/fundraising-ideas/ o Great overall website covering all adoption financial options:  http://www.resources4adoption.com/  ―Both Hands‖ Adoption Funding o http://bothhandsfoundation.org/ o Innovative tool to remove financial barrier o A team fixes up a widow‘s home. Renovation provided for free to widow (donated labor & construction materials). Sponsorship donations help fund adoption expenses. See James 1:27 o 100% of donated sponsorships are used for adoption expenses. Disbursed as Adoption GrantPurpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable thechurch to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families.Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 12
    •  Real life examples  Adopting 1 yr old, cleft lip, India (already had 2 children in family) o Adoption Cost: $31,350  $3,300 - from savings  $10,000 – adoption loan  $2,500 – adoption matching grant  $12,906 - donated, result of matching grant  $3,000 – direct grant from organization  $2,000 – unexpected property tax refund  $300 - garage sale proceeds that friend held  Adopted 2 yr old, China (already had 5 children in family) o Adoption Cost: $25,050  $2,000 gift from their church  $2,000 savings  $2,000 sold personal items  $3,000 matching grant  $9,716 donated, result of matching grant  $1,000 result of giver after reading newsarticle  $2,000 (2) anonymous givers $1,000 each  $3,500 sister donated FF miles to pay for flights/airfarePurpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable thechurch to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families.Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 13
    • Suggested Questions for Adoption Agency Selection ProcessUse of a licensed adoption agency is generally required when pursuing an international adoption.The specifics of an agency‘s adoption program vary considerably by country. The following is a list ofsuggested questions that are designed to help families in selecting an adoption agency for an adoption.Families should also ask additional questions relating to specific country programs. However, a veryimportant consideration in selecting an agency is determining whether the agency is a ―good fit,‖ and thiscan generally be achieved by ensuring that the family has accurate information and realistic expectationsabout the agency, its services and costs and its adoption process (in particular estimated wait times). Inaddition to obtaining answers to the following questions, adoptive families are strongly encouraged toread carefully any contracts or policies that they are asked to sign or agree to by the agency and to askquestions (including consulting an attorney, if necessary).General Questions about the Agency: What are the agency‘s requirements for adoptive families (e.g., age, marital status (including previous divorce(s)), number of children already in the home, religious, criminal background, financial, health considerations)? Note: Requirements will vary by country. How long has the agency been in operation? In what countries does the agency have adoption programs? How long has the agency had an active adoption program in the country of interest? Has the agency‘s program in the country of interest ever been suspended or terminated (as a result of loss of accreditation or otherwise)? If so, why and for how long? What is the current adoption climate in the country of interest? How stable has the country program been in recent months/years? Does the agency have any religious or denominational affiliation? How long has the agency‘s director been working in the adoption field? How long has he/she been the director of the agency? How long has the director for the country of interest (i.e., the country program director) been working with adoptions from the country of interest? What is the education and licensing background of the agency‘s director and professional staff? Will the agency provide contact with families who have recently used the agency to adopt from the country of interest (i.e., family references)? Are families allowed to specify the gender of the child they wish to adopt? Note: The ability to specify gender will vary by country. How are waiting children cared for in the country of interest (i.e., orphanages/institutions, foster homes, etc.)? How is the funding for such care provided? Does the agency have any affiliations with orphanages, social service agencies, facilitators or others in the country of interest that will be significantly involved in the adoption process? If so, obtain details regarding such arrangements (including the length of such relationships). Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 14
    • Questions about Fees and Costs: What fees and costs are charged by the agency in connection with the adoption process and when are they due? What costs and expenses will likely be incurred in addition to the agency‘s fees and costs (i.e., home study expenses, legal expenses, filing and processing expenses, etc.)? Note: It is advisable that you request a total estimate for all fees, costs and expenses that can be expected in connection with the adoption process – not just the agency‘s fees and costs.Questions about Wait Time:Note: All questions regarding wait times should be asked in relation to a specific country program. What is the current estimated wait time for families? How many families are currently waiting? Note: Wait times at most agencies are often highly dependent on the adoptive family‘s parameters (e.g., age, gender, race of child, and health factors that the adoptive family is willing to consider). To the extent that an adoptive family has already determined certain of its fundamental parameters, questions regarding wait times should be asked in specific relation to those parameters (e.g., what is the estimated wait time for an infant girl?). Have average wait times for families increased, decreased or remained generally the same over the past several years (and if they have increased or decreased, why)? How often should I expect to hear from the agency workers during the waiting process?Questions about the Agency’s Previous Placement Experience: How many children has the agency placed in each of the past five years from the country of interest? What number of failed adoption placements has the agency experienced in each of the past five years (i.e., how many instances of a family being matched with a child but such match did not result in a final adoption)? Note: Although generally uncommon even in the context of domestic adoptions, ―failed placements‖ are even more uncommon in the context of international adoption and the risk of a failed international placement will vary greatly by country.Questions about the Agency’s Matching and Finalization Process: What children are available in the country of interest (i.e., children of what age, gender, sibling groups, etc.)? How does the agency‘s matching process work for the country of interest? If interested in domestic, how does a birth mom choose the adoptive family? Are all domestic adoptions open adoptions, or are some of them semi-open or closed? What /who decides the openness of an adoption? What background information (e.g., medical, social, family history, etc.) is generally available regarding the child and/or the child‘s biological family? If adopting an infant, how involved is the adoptive family with the birthparent(s) prior to the baby being born? If adopting a newborn, when is the baby generally placed with the adoptive family? In International adoption, does the agency provide pictures and/or video of the referred child? Once matched, does the agency provide the adoptive family with pictures and/or videos of the child? Does the agency provide updates regarding the child‘s growth, medical condition and/or development? Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 15
    •  What are the travel requirements for the country of interest (i.e., are families required to travel in order to bring their child home or is an escort service available as an option)? Are both parents (if applicable) required to travel? How long must they stay in country?Questions about Services Provided by the Agency: What pre-placement training does the agency offer to adoptive families? What other support services does the agency provide (e.g., support groups, social events, newsletters, etc.)? What post-placement services for adoptive families are provided? What help or services are available for adoptive families experiencing post-placement challenges and difficulties relating to their adoption – specifically relating to parenting children of a different racial, ethnic and/or cultural background? What humanitarian aid/support does the agency provide to the countries in which it operates? What counseling and support services do the birthparent(s) receive both prior to and after the adoption?Disclaimer: This document is not intended to constitute, nor does it represent, legal advice of any kind. Aqualified attorney should be consulted with respect to any legal questions or issues. Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 16
    • Domestic and International Adoption AgenciesLove Basket Countries: Domestic, Haiti, India, Zambia, Embryo Adoption Phone: 636-797-4100 Website: www.lovebasket.orgLighthouse Countries: Domestic Phone: 816-361-2233 Website: www.lighthousekc.orgJackson County Children’s Division Countries: Domestic--adoption from foster care Phone: 816-889-2595 Website: www.kcchildren.org or http://www.dss.mo.gov/pr_cs.htmBethany Christian Services Countries: Domestic, China, Columbia, Ethiopia, Guatemala, Haiti, Hong Kong, Lithuania, Philippines, Russia, South Korea, Taiwan, Ukraine Phone: 314-781-6363 Website: www.bethany.orgDillon International Countries: China, Ethiopia, Ghana, Haiti, Honduras, Hong Kong, India, Korea, Nepal, Russia Phone: 314-576-4100 Website: www.dillonadopt.comHolt International Countries: Bulgaria, China, Ethiopia, Haiti, India Korea, Nepal, Philippines, Thailand, Uganda, Vietnam Phone: 816-822-2169 Website: www.holtintl.orgChildren’s Hope International Countries: China, Columbia, Ethiopia, Russia, Vietnam Phone: 888-899-2349 Website: www.childrenshopeint.orgAdditionally, Focus on the Family has a resource list on their website with some recommended agencies. To findtheir list, go here: http://www.family.org/sharedassets/correspondence/pdfs/Parenting/Adoption_Referrals.pdf Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 17
    • Resource ListThe resources we have provided are just a place to start. We trust that these resources will be helpful toyou. We may not necessarily agree with or endorse every idea and opinion contained in them. Please useyour judgment and discernment as you read and consider these and any other adoption resources.The best resource we can provide you is contact with one of our mentor families. Please contact uswith any questions or concerns at treasured@gwcbs.com or directly contact any of the mentor families.We are glad to serve you.BooksRaising Adopted Children by Lois MelinaDear Birthmother, Thank you for our Baby by Kathleen Silber and Phylis SpeedlinAdoption is a Family Affair! – What Friends and Family Must Know, Patricia Irwin JohnstonFields of the Fatherless, C. Thomas DavisThe Connected Child, Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross and Wendy Lyons SunshineToddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft, Mary Hopkins-BestTwenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, Sherrie EldridgeSecret Thoughts of An Adoptive Mother, Jana Wolff (Comment: A very honest account by one adoptivemother, but may be off-putting to some readers)Successful Adoption: A Guide for Christian Families by Natalie Nichols GissespieTapestry Books (www.tapestrybooks.com) has many adoption-related books for all ages.Internetwww.howtoadopt.org - an adoption education site by Show Hopewww.showhope.org - foundation established by Steven Curtis Chapman to help children find their way toforever familieswww.kcchildren.org - Jackson County Children‘s Divisionwww.childwelfare.gov/adoption - US Department of Health and Human Services Administration forChildren and Familieshttp://www.davethomasfoundation.org - Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoptiontapestry.irvingbible.org - an adoption ministrywww.adopting.com - general adoption websitewww.adoption.com - general adoption websitewww.adoptionsupport.org - The Center for Adoption Support and Education (CASE)www.adoptivefamilies.com - Adoptive Families, a national adoption magazine.www.empoweredtoconnect.org - highlights the underlying biblical principles of The Connected Child andoffers new insights for parents.www.pactadopt.org - focus is on adoption of children of color Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 18
    • MagazinesAdoptive Families Magazine (www.adoptivefamilies.com)Adoption Today (www.adoptiontoday.com)Fostering Families Today (www.fosteringfamiliestoday.com) Purpose Statement: We will educate the church regarding foster care, adoption and child sponsorship and will enable the church to meet the needs of these children and foster/adoptive families. Psalm 82:3; Isaiah 45:2-3 E-mail us here: treasured@gwcbs.com Page | 19