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From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
From Anger to Intimacy
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From Anger to Intimacy


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  • 1. From Anger to Intimacy
    Chapter 1 – You Don’t Have To Live That Way Anymore
    • Anger: A God-give Emotion
    • 2. Event  Emotion  Anger  Sin
    Chapter 2 – Recognize: Identify Where Anger Appears
    • Stuffing, Spewing, Studying (3 S’s)
    Chapter 3 – Halt: Breaking the Cycle of Anger
    • Buttons from Men and Women form a Anger Cycle
    • 3. Either one of us can already break the Anger Cycle
    Chapter 4 –
    Own: Taking Responsibility
  • 4. Own: Taking Responsibly
    Three Expressions of Anger (3 R’s)
    Repay, Replay, Resolve
    Five Tactics To Resolve Anger (5 C’s)
    Call a Time-out
    Cry out to God
    Commit to Forgive your Mate
    Choose a Different Reaction
    Create Judgment-Free Zones
    Expectations Towards Resolution (3 E’s)
    Expect Problems and Misunderstanding
    Expect that you’ll need a Lot of Patience
    Expect a Lot of Trial and Error
  • 5. What does it look like the most?
  • 6. Answer: Your another hand …
  • 7. You and your spouse are a PAIR
    A Lot of Similarities …
    A Lot of Differences …
    Have you ever complained your left-hand for not holding chopsticks?
    DO NOT complain your spouse … you can “train” your spouse, but not complain.
    What should the expectations be?
  • 8. Another story about complaint
    W: Why can’t you turn off the light after using the kitchen? How many times do I need to tell you again?
    H: Whatever …
  • 9. Behind the story …
    Fact 1: H turned on the kitchen light because he wanted to be nice and cut an apple for W.
    Fact II: H forgot to turn it off after that.
  • 10. Why did they get angry?
    W was REPLAYING Fact II, and turning blinded on Fact I.
    H was REPAYING, because he was not recognized for Fact I, and turning blinded on Fact II.
  • 11. REPLAY
    Are you a Replayer? (Page 102 – 103)
    What can be replayed? What can’t?
    Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is notable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things
    Philippians 4:8
    Counting the fault from your own, not from others.
    Counting the grace from others, not from your own.
    LamB 2:8
  • 12. REPAY
    Got hurt  Protect yourself  Repay
    Fact I: Repay can hurt your spouse.
    Fact II: Repay cannot protect you.
    Fact III: Repay can form a cycle.
  • 13. REPAY is a Double Blade
    You only see the wound on your own.
    You can’t see your spouse also got hurt when he/she hurt you with a double blade.
    Healing: it takes time but God can do it.
  • 14. RESOLVE
    Call a Time-out
    My dear brothers, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen [and] slow to speak.
    James 1:19
    Slow down your Own
    Take time to understand your spouse first, rather than rushing yourself to reflex with a [bad] response.
    LamB 8:2
  • 15. RESOLVE
    Cry Out to God
    But He gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
    James 4:6
    Humble your Own
    “God, thank You for my wife. She has just pushed my button. I appreciate that so much, God. She’s a great tool that You are using in my life to help me mature with You”.
    From Anger to Intimacy: page 109
  • 16. RESOLVE
    Commit to Forgiving Your Mate
    Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as God, through Christ, has forgiven you.
    Eph. 4:31-32
    Untie your Own
    When you choose to forgive, on the other hand, you untie the knots put into a relationship by letting go of the offense. And the moment you forgive someone, God unties your own tangle.
    From Anger to Intimacy: page 90
  • 17. RESOLVE
    Slow down your own
    Humble your own
    Forgive your mate
    Untie YOUR tangle
  • 18. RESOLVE
    Choose a Different Reaction
    After looking at himself … goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.
    James. 1:24
    Find out your Own
    Many people approach the Bible as a man approaches a mirror. They just glances inside like a man glances in the mirror, and then they are gone. Yet if you spend time in the Scriptures, you not only discover who you are, but you also discover who you are created to be.
    From Anger to Intimacy: Page 93
  • 19. RESOLVE
    Create Judgment-Free Zone
    First take the plank out of your own eye then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
    Matt. 7:5
    Recognize the big log in your Own
    In a judgment-free zone, your spouse can share all of her deepest insecurities. He can share his deepest fears and doubts. He or she can share without fear of being rejected, abandoned or mocked. Judgment-free zones are one of the hallmarks of a secure marriage.
    From Anger to Intimacy: Page 95
  • 20. Summary
    LamB 2:8
  • 21. Exercise
  • 22. Exercise
    Nui Nui
    Joyce L
    Joyce Y
  • 23. Exercise (page 88 -89)
    Count 3 Graces from Your Spouse
    Count 3 Faults from Your Own
    Pray with John 15: 1-5
    Thanksgiving and Forgive Each Other