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E-coach Training- Japan, September 2011-                  Arjo de Vroome                  Projectmanager & Trainer
Me, my wife and AgapeMK West Africa   Willeke   CC The                           Netherlands
Who knows how often the word “god/God” is typed in Google    everyday worldwide?        •   2,000 times        •   20,000 ...
Who knows how often the word “god/God” is typed in Google    everyday worldwide?        •   2,000 times        •   20,000 ...
Seekers in the 21st century
Seekers in the 21st century          • “What is life all about?
Seekers in the 21st century          • “What is life all about?          • No Christian family or friends
Seekers in the 21st century          • “What is life all about?          • No Christian family or friends          • 25% o...
Seekers in the 21st century          • “What is life all about?          • No Christian family or friends          • 25% o...
Seekers on the net                     (WJ?-participants)                              Barbara (Australian lady):   I Sann...
Our mission/calling• We need to be..  – available on the net  – help seekers nd answers  – offer them a safe place  – bring...
KnowingGod
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           – The Father’s loveletter
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           – The Father’s loveletter           – Interv...
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           – The Father’s loveletter           – Interv...
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           –   The Father’s loveletter           –   In...
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           –   The Father’s loveletter           –   In...
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           –   The Father’s loveletter           –   In...
KnowingGod      •   Originally a French evangelism          website           –   The Father’s loveletter           –   In...
WhyJesus?-course
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course        • It’s all about Jesus!
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course        • It’s all about Jesus!        • Pe...
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course        • It’s all about Jesus!        • Pe...
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course        • It’s all about Jesus!        • Pe...
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course        • It’s all about Jesus!        • Pe...
WhyJesus?-course        • Interactive, anonymous online 5-          week course        • It’s all about Jesus!        • Pe...
Plans for 2011-2012• New languages in progress  – Japanese version - launch Sept 2011  – Russian version - launch Septembe...
Purpose of the training
Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers
Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples
Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples• Practice what we learn
Purpose of the training•   Train you in how to coach online seekers•   Show you real-life examples•   Practice what we lea...
Purpose of the training•   Train you in how to coach online seekers•   Show you real-life examples•   Practice what we lea...
Purpose of the training•   Train you in how to coach online seekers•   Show you real-life examples•   Practice what we lea...
Topics to coverThe seeker’s world:       Crossing the       QDC: The art of “It’s my choice!”       ‘spiritual river’    c...
Topics to coverThe seeker’s world:       Crossing the       QDC: The art of “It’s my choice!”       ‘spiritual river’    c...
The seeker’s world: “It’s my choice!”
“It’s my choice!”     MyLife
“It’s my choice!”                      MyLife        Its my life    Its now or never    I aint gonna live           foreve...
“It’s my choice!”                      MyLife        Its my life                            “The greatest gift    Its now ...
“It’s my choice!”                    MyMedia & MyFriends• Media  –   iGoogle  –   Ipod(video)  –   YouTube  –   iPhone
“It’s my choice!”                     MyMedia & MyFriends• Media   –   iGoogle   –   Ipod(video)   –   YouTube   –   iPhon...
“It’s my choice!”                     MyMedia & MyFriends• Media   –   iGoogle   –   Wh       Ipod(video)   –   YouTubeate...
“It’s my choice!”    MyReligion
“It’s my choice!”                 MyReligionReligious supermarket
“It’s my choice!”                 MyReligionReligious supermarket     Indian taxi-driver
“It’s my choice!”                 Alice, the seeker“I don’t know exactly what ‘faith’is expecting from me. The thingsI rea...
“It’s my choice!”          Lessons learned (past 10 years)• Seekers are looking  for...   – A place where they are     all...
The traditional approach Jesus Christ:        Start with  Do’s and don’ts- Your Only Hope -   what’s wrong
Let’s see how we try...“At the airport”-video 1 & 2
The traditional approach      X      Oh, oh, they’re     having another evangelism event
The traditional approach      X     But, then how?!      Oh, oh, they’re     having another evangelism event
Crossing the river: How?                                 People in a                                 relationshipNon-     ...
Crossing the river: How?Traditionalapproach:We build a bridge                                 People in a                 ...
Crossing the river: How?                             And we yell from theTraditional                             other sid...
21st century approach                                      People in a                                      relationship  ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river                                       People in a                       ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their ...
What is an e-coach?
De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions,...
De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions,...
De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions,...
De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions,...
De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions,...
De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions,...
Pro le of an e-coach• Has a solid and active spiritual walk with Jesus• Is an active member of a local church/congregation...
Your role as an e-coach              in prayer• Pray for those that visit the website, that it will have  impact on their ...
Your role as an e-coach              in contact• Be faithful in answering   – New contacts within 24 hours   – Respond to ...
Your role as an e-coach            in contact• Treat the communication con dentially• Be careful about sharing personal in...
Question Driven Coaching The art of connecting - I      Important principles
Religious Supermarket
Question Driven Coaching                 messenger/messageimportantness                messenger                          ...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
Question Driven Coaching                  the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’
Question Driven Coaching                  the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’  ...
Question Driven Coaching                  the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’  ...
Question Driven Coaching                    the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’...
Question Driven Coaching                    the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’...
Question Driven Coaching                    the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’...
Question Driven Coaching                    the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’...
Question Driven Coaching                    the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’  - ‘preaching’...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions* Ge...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. T...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. T...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. T...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. T...
Question Driven Coaching               the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. T...
Question Driven Coaching                the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. ...
Question Driven Coaching                the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. ...
Question Driven Coaching                the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. ...
Question Driven Coaching   the art of connecting
Asking questions: the underestimated tool
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people      You
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people      You                        JohnnyX
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people                         1      You                        ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people    * I talk, other listens                              1 ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people    * I talk, other listens    * No interest in the other p...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people    * I talk, other listens    * No interest in the other p...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people    * I talk, other listens    * No interest in the other p...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people                         1      You                        ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening                         1      You            ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening                         1      You            ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening  * I listen, other person talks               ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening  * I listen, other person talks  * No way to s...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening                         1      You            ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions                         1  ...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions    * I talk and listen at t...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions    * I talk and listen at t...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions    * I talk and listen at t...
Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions    * I talk and listen at t...
Let’s practice what  we’ve learnedWriting a welcome message
Write a welcome message• Welcome the person to the course• Shortly introduce yourself• Ask a question• Respond to the welc...
The art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s la...
The process
From sign-up to completion• Participants sign up for the course• Match between the participant and the e-coach is made by ...
Question Driven Coaching Practical steps to bring people         closer to Jesus
Question Driven Coaching              Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacle...
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone
Question Driven Coaching         Get to know someone - general info•   General social info: age, family, study/work, kids,...
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - spiritual position        2?                       3?                      1...
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts          ?
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts          ?
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts          ?
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts          ?
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts          ?
Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts          ?
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground
Question Driven Coaching   Look for common ground: agree* Agree when the other one is right* Don’t object directly against...
Let’s practice!  Back to Alice
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching                          Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethin...
Question Driven Coaching              nding a connection point•   It has something to do with faith•   It’s something posi...
Question Driven Coaching              nding a connection point•   It has something to do with faith•   It’s something posi...
Question Driven Coaching     A talk with Alice
Question Driven Coaching               A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?
Question Driven Coaching               A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?Alice: A man with a mission…...
Question Driven Coaching               A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?Alice: A man with a mission…...
Question Driven Coaching                A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?Alice: A man with a mission...
Question Driven Coaching     A talk with Alice
Question Driven Coaching               A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?Alice...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?Alice...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?Alice...
Question Driven Coaching     A talk with Alice
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thise...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thise...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thise...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thise...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thise...
Question Driven Coaching     A talk with Alice
Question Driven Coaching              A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... Go...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... Go...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... Go...
Question Driven Coaching                 A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... Go...
Question Driven Coaching     A talk with Alice
Question Driven Coaching                  A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.
Question Driven Coaching                  A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question re...
Question Driven Coaching                  A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question re...
Question Driven Coaching                  A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question re...
Question Driven Coaching                  A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question re...
Question Driven Coaching        A talk with Alice - next steps to take•   “How can you nd out who God is?”•   There is onl...
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles
Identify the obstacles     Back to Alice...
Question Driven Coaching                        Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me.The things...
Question Driven Coaching                        Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me.The things...
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4...
Question Driven CoachingRemove the obstacles: ask questions - 1
Question Driven Coaching  Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1• I read somewhere that you can’t experience  love if the...
Question Driven Coaching  Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1• I read somewhere that you can’t experience  love if the...
Question Driven Coaching  Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1• I read somewhere that you can’t experience  love if the...
Question Driven CoachingRemove the obstacles: ask questions - 2
Question Driven Coaching  Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise  from the...
Question Driven Coaching  Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise  from the...
Question Driven Coaching  Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise  from the...
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4...
Making comparisons “At the airport”-video - 3
Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 1
Question Driven Coaching  Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 1Diana: “I am very curious about the facts. I keep thinking...
Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 2
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of diffe...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of diffe...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of diffe...
Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 3
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in...
Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 4
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but...
Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 5
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk t...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk t...
Question Driven Coaching    Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk t...
Removing obstaclesExercise in making comparisons      Using a Biblical story
Question Driven Coaching          Make comparisons - exerciseBenny• is happily married• has two daughters (between 20-30 y...
Question Driven Coaching     Make comparisons - exercise“People that change their mind at the last minute and turn to God ...
Question Driven Coaching       Make comparisons - guidelines*Must come out of the life of the other person’s life*Is there...
Question Driven Coaching            Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4...
Question Driven Coaching     Using the Bible
Question Driven Coaching              Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?
Question Driven Coaching               Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something
Question Driven Coaching               Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something...
Question Driven Coaching               Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something...
Question Driven Coaching               Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something...
Question Driven Coaching               Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something...
Question Driven Coaching               Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacl...
Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit
Question Driven Coaching          Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work (John 3: 16)
Question Driven Coaching            Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work (John 3: 16)  For God so loved the world, t...
Question Driven Coaching         Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own  (John 5: 17...
Question Driven Coaching            Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own  (John 5:...
Question Driven Coaching             Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own  (John 5...
Question Driven Coaching          Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks...
Question Driven Coaching            Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus as...
Question Driven Coaching             Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus a...
Question Driven Coaching          Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks...
Question Driven Coaching             Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus a...
Question Driven Coaching           Prayer and the Holy Spirit•   God is at work•   We cannot do anything on our own•   Jes...
Question Driven Coaching             Prayer and the Holy Spirit•   God is at work•   We cannot do anything on our own•   J...
To nish up....A few testimonies :-)
WhyJesus?              Participant testimonies“My e-coach helped meout in discoveringanswers to myquestions. She reallylis...
WhyJesus?                        E-coach-testimonies “Asking questions has helped me avoid ‘preaching’ to my participants....
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  • Transcript of "Ecoachtraining japan sept2011"

    1. 1. E-coach Training- Japan, September 2011- Arjo de Vroome Projectmanager & Trainer
    2. 2. Me, my wife and AgapeMK West Africa Willeke CC The Netherlands
    3. 3. Who knows how often the word “god/God” is typed in Google everyday worldwide? • 2,000 times • 20,000 times • 200,000 time • 2,000,000 times • 20,000,000 times
    4. 4. Who knows how often the word “god/God” is typed in Google everyday worldwide? • 2,000 times • 20,000 times • 200,000 time • 2,000,000 times • 20,000,000 times
    5. 5. Seekers in the 21st century
    6. 6. Seekers in the 21st century • “What is life all about?
    7. 7. Seekers in the 21st century • “What is life all about? • No Christian family or friends
    8. 8. Seekers in the 21st century • “What is life all about? • No Christian family or friends • 25% of searches on Google has to do something with the supernatural
    9. 9. Seekers in the 21st century • “What is life all about? • No Christian family or friends • 25% of searches on Google has to do something with the supernatural • People want to make their own choices, want to determine their own path in life
    10. 10. Seekers on the net (WJ?-participants) Barbara (Australian lady): I Sanne (Dutch teenager): For don’t believe but I’msome time now, I’ve been looking for God.thinking about ‘believing’. I Enric (Romanianfeel attracted to God. I want man)After all that I’veto believe but I don’t know gone through in life,where to start... I’ve lost my faith in god. But last Sunday at a Christian event, I Klaudia (Polish lady) I found it agian. Now have a feeling there is I’m sitting here with a something missing in lot of questions about my life. There has got to god and jesus. be more than a good career and money....
    11. 11. Our mission/calling• We need to be.. – available on the net – help seekers nd answers – offer them a safe place – bring them into contact with Christians (online/ offline) – partner with churches and other Christian organisations
    12. 12. KnowingGod
    13. 13. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website
    14. 14. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter
    15. 15. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter – Interview with God
    16. 16. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter – Interview with God – Who is Jesus? (short)
    17. 17. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter – Interview with God – Who is Jesus? (short) – Testimonies
    18. 18. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter – Interview with God – Who is Jesus? (short) – Testimonies • Sinner’s Prayer
    19. 19. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter – Interview with God – Who is Jesus? (short) – Testimonies • Sinner’s Prayer • Nearly 2,5 million people indicated praying to Jesus
    20. 20. KnowingGod • Originally a French evangelism website – The Father’s loveletter – Interview with God – Who is Jesus? (short) – Testimonies • Sinner’s Prayer • Nearly 2,5 million people indicated praying to Jesus • Next step: WhyJesus?
    21. 21. WhyJesus?-course
    22. 22. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course
    23. 23. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course • It’s all about Jesus!
    24. 24. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course • It’s all about Jesus! • Personal e-coach
    25. 25. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course • It’s all about Jesus! • Personal e-coach • Preparation for ‘next step’
    26. 26. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course • It’s all about Jesus! • Personal e-coach • Preparation for ‘next step’ • Worldwide: 12 languages, local and international partners
    27. 27. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course • It’s all about Jesus! • Personal e-coach • Preparation for ‘next step’ • Worldwide: 12 languages, local and international partners • 6,500 participants (650 e- coaches) a year
    28. 28. WhyJesus?-course • Interactive, anonymous online 5- week course • It’s all about Jesus! • Personal e-coach • Preparation for ‘next step’ • Worldwide: 12 languages, local and international partners • 6,500 participants (650 e- coaches) a year • Question Driven Coaching- method
    29. 29. Plans for 2011-2012• New languages in progress – Japanese version - launch Sept 2011 – Russian version - launch September 2011 – China - exploratory talks with potential partners
    30. 30. Purpose of the training
    31. 31. Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers
    32. 32. Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples
    33. 33. Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples• Practice what we learn
    34. 34. Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples• Practice what we learn• Answer your questions and discuss ideas
    35. 35. Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples• Practice what we learn• Answer your questions and discuss ideas• Hear what God is doing in your life
    36. 36. Purpose of the training• Train you in how to coach online seekers• Show you real-life examples• Practice what we learn• Answer your questions and discuss ideas• Hear what God is doing in your life• Pray with and for each other
    37. 37. Topics to coverThe seeker’s world: Crossing the QDC: The art of “It’s my choice!” ‘spiritual river’ connecting
    38. 38. Topics to coverThe seeker’s world: Crossing the QDC: The art of “It’s my choice!” ‘spiritual river’ connecting
    39. 39. The seeker’s world: “It’s my choice!”
    40. 40. “It’s my choice!” MyLife
    41. 41. “It’s my choice!” MyLife Its my life Its now or never I aint gonna live foreverI just want to live while Im alive - Bon Jovi
    42. 42. “It’s my choice!” MyLife Its my life “The greatest gift Its now or never you have been I aint gonna live given is the forever freedom to makeI just want to live while choices” Im alive - Dennis A. Curyer - Bon Jovi
    43. 43. “It’s my choice!” MyMedia & MyFriends• Media – iGoogle – Ipod(video) – YouTube – iPhone
    44. 44. “It’s my choice!” MyMedia & MyFriends• Media – iGoogle – Ipod(video) – YouTube – iPhone• Social networks – Facebook – LinkedIn: 55M+ members worldwide
    45. 45. “It’s my choice!” MyMedia & MyFriends• Media – iGoogle – Wh Ipod(video) – YouTubeate ve r, w – iPhone• Social networks he – Facebook n ev er, wh – LinkedIn: 55M+ members worldwide ere ve r
    46. 46. “It’s my choice!” MyReligion
    47. 47. “It’s my choice!” MyReligionReligious supermarket
    48. 48. “It’s my choice!” MyReligionReligious supermarket Indian taxi-driver
    49. 49. “It’s my choice!” Alice, the seeker“I don’t know exactly what ‘faith’is expecting from me. The thingsI read, I hear and that happen…I really like the ideas Jesus standsfor. But not everything, and Ifind it hard to go to a churchbecause I think the people overthere take everything literally.”
    50. 50. “It’s my choice!” Lessons learned (past 10 years)• Seekers are looking for... – A place where they are allowed to ask all questions and nd answers – A place where they can say anything they think – A place which offers choices and ‘next steps’
    51. 51. The traditional approach Jesus Christ: Start with Do’s and don’ts- Your Only Hope - what’s wrong
    52. 52. Let’s see how we try...“At the airport”-video 1 & 2
    53. 53. The traditional approach X Oh, oh, they’re having another evangelism event
    54. 54. The traditional approach X But, then how?! Oh, oh, they’re having another evangelism event
    55. 55. Crossing the river: How? People in a relationshipNon- with God,believer in living in“the land “the landwithout with God”God”
    56. 56. Crossing the river: How?Traditionalapproach:We build a bridge People in a relationshipNon- with God,believer in living in“the land “the landwithout with God”God”
    57. 57. Crossing the river: How? And we yell from theTraditional other side: “Cross theapproach: bridge!”We build a bridge People in a relationshipNon- with God,believer in living in“the land “the landwithout with God”God”
    58. 58. 21st century approach People in a relationship with God,Non- living inbeliever in “the land“the land with God”withoutGod”
    59. 59. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    60. 60. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    61. 61. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    62. 62. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    63. 63. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    64. 64. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    65. 65. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    66. 66. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    67. 67. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    68. 68. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    69. 69. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    70. 70. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    71. 71. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    72. 72. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    73. 73. 21st century approach1. We lay stonesin the river2. We must go to theother side ourselvesand stimulate peopleto put their foot on astone. ! People in a relationship with God, Non- living in believer in “the land “the land with God” without God”
    74. 74. What is an e-coach?
    75. 75. De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions, whohelps them take (their first) steps ingetting to know Jesus Christ andprays for them
    76. 76. De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions, whohelps them take (their first) steps ingetting to know Jesus Christ andprays for them
    77. 77. De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions, whohelps them take (their first) steps ingetting to know Jesus Christ andprays for them
    78. 78. De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions, whohelps them take (their first) steps ingetting to know Jesus Christ andprays for them
    79. 79. De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions, whohelps them take (their first) steps ingetting to know Jesus Christ andprays for them
    80. 80. De nition of an e-coachSomeone who listens to people, whocomes alongside them to help themfind answers to their questions, whohelps them take (their first) steps ingetting to know Jesus Christ andprays for them
    81. 81. Pro le of an e-coach• Has a solid and active spiritual walk with Jesus• Is an active member of a local church/congregation• Open to learning• Knowledge and experience with faith and the Bible• Can handle/deal with difficult questions and criticism of the Bible• Knows his/her own limitations with regard to questions for help• You don’t know everything!• Is aware of the times we live in, culturally-in-touch• Has a group of prayer-partners supporting him/her
    82. 82. Your role as an e-coach in prayer• Pray for those that visit the website, that it will have impact on their lives• Pray that they will make a choice to follow Jesus (1 Tim. 2:1-6, John 16:8-11)• Pray that they will respond to your emails• Pray for Gods wisdom and discernment through His spirit in responding to emails• Get prayer-partners to support you• Encourage your contact to pray
    83. 83. Your role as an e-coach in contact• Be faithful in answering – New contacts within 24 hours – Respond to responses within 72 hours• Be an encouragement to participants• Answer every question so that you help them (re)discover who God is – Ask questions – Challenging – Loving – To-the-point• Realize you are an ambassador of Jesus Christ
    84. 84. Your role as an e-coach in contact• Treat the communication con dentially• Be careful about sharing personal information (e-mail, tel-numbers, facebook, address, etc.)• We’re available to help you (as a back-up) for difficult questions• Don’t look at websites which con ict with your faith• Limit your time online
    85. 85. Question Driven Coaching The art of connecting - I Important principles
    86. 86. Religious Supermarket
    87. 87. Question Driven Coaching messenger/messageimportantness messenger message God’s 1. 2. Kingdom
    88. 88. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
    89. 89. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
    90. 90. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’
    91. 91. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words
    92. 92. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words * One-way traffic
    93. 93. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words * One-way traffic * Not effective in today’s interactive world
    94. 94. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words * One-way traffic * Not effective in today’s interactive world - ‘the gospel’:
    95. 95. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words * One-way traffic * Not effective in today’s interactive world - ‘the gospel’: * Word never used nowadays outside church
    96. 96. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words * One-way traffic * Not effective in today’s interactive world - ‘the gospel’: * Word never used nowadays outside church * Biblical times: Good news (of new emperor)
    97. 97. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’ - ‘preaching’ * Long monologues and words * One-way traffic * Not effective in today’s interactive world - ‘the gospel’: * Word never used nowadays outside church * Biblical times: Good news (of new emperor) * Apostles used it to connect
    98. 98. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
    99. 99. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
    100. 100. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’
    101. 101. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions* Get to know him* Find out where he is spiritually* Find out where there are potential obstacles
    102. 102. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language * Forget about your own ideas * Use words of his world * No Christian jargon
    103. 103. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language * Forget about your own ideas * Use words of his world * No Christian jargon NEW WORDS
    104. 104. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language * Forget about your own ideas * Use words of his world * No Christian jargon
    105. 105. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language4. Make a tailormade connection * Connect to his world * Connect to his questions * Connect to his life
    106. 106. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language4. Make a tailormade connection * Connect to his world * Connect to his questions * Connect to his life
    107. 107. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language4. Make a tailormade connection5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself –Give him freedom to maneuvre, wander off –Encourage him to try something new –Encourage him to take a next step
    108. 108. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language4. Make a tailormade connection5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself6. Offer a choice * Don’t force him where to go next * Give him options
    109. 109. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language4. Make a tailormade connection5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself6. Offer a choice * Don’t force him where to go next * Give him options
    110. 110. Question Driven Coaching the art of connecting
    111. 111. Asking questions: the underestimated tool
    112. 112. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people
    113. 113. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people You
    114. 114. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people You JohnnyX
    115. 115. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people 1 You JohnnyX
    116. 116. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people * I talk, other listens 1 You JohnnyX
    117. 117. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people * I talk, other listens * No interest in the other person’s questions 1 You JohnnyX
    118. 118. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people * I talk, other listens * No interest in the other person’s questions * Dumping my story 1 You JohnnyX
    119. 119. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people * I talk, other listens * No interest in the other person’s questions * Dumping my story * Avalanche of bible-texts 1 You JohnnyX
    120. 120. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people 1 You JohnnyX
    121. 121. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening 1 You JohnnyX
    122. 122. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening 1 You JohnnyX 2
    123. 123. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening * I listen, other person talks 1 You JohnnyX 2
    124. 124. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening * I listen, other person talks * No way to steer conversation 1 You JohnnyX 2
    125. 125. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening 1 You JohnnyX 2
    126. 126. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions 1 You JohnnyX 2
    127. 127. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions * I talk and listen at the same time 1 You JohnnyX 2
    128. 128. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions * I talk and listen at the same time * More interest in what the other person is saying 1 You JohnnyX 2
    129. 129. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions * I talk and listen at the same time * More interest in what the other person is saying * Way to steer conversation 1 You JohnnyX 2
    130. 130. Asking questions: the underestimated tool1. Preaching at people2. Listening3. Asking questions * I talk and listen at the same time * More interest in what the other person is saying * Way to steer conversation 1 3 You JohnnyX 2
    131. 131. Let’s practice what we’ve learnedWriting a welcome message
    132. 132. Write a welcome message• Welcome the person to the course• Shortly introduce yourself• Ask a question• Respond to the welcome message• Give it back• Respond to the response• Give it back• Evaluate: how did the welcome message come across? How did the response come across? What can learn from this?
    133. 133. The art of connecting1. Stop “preaching” at people ‘the gospel’2. Ask questions3. Translate the message into Johnny X’s language4. Make a tailormade connection5. Help JohnnyX discover it himself6. Offer a choice * Don’t force him where to go next * Give him options
    134. 134. The process
    135. 135. From sign-up to completion• Participants sign up for the course• Match between the participant and the e-coach is made by the coordinator• Website sends automatic e-mails to the participant and the e-coach• Participant answers the questions of each theme before moving on to the next theme• E-coach responds in the Dialogue-module• Interaction takes place through the Dialogue, message- board and chat• At the end of the course, participants are invited to a next step
    136. 136. Question Driven Coaching Practical steps to bring people closer to Jesus
    137. 137. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4. Remove the obstacles - Ask questions - Make comparisons* Using the Bible* Role of prayer and the Holy Spirit
    138. 138. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone
    139. 139. Question Driven Coaching Get to know someone - general info• General social info: age, family, study/work, kids, relationships• Religion: muslim, atheist, agnostic, Christian....• Christian: nominal, liberal, searching, wandering, active, not, ...• God: self, none, impersonal, all gods the same, 1 God• Jesus: did not exist, human, teacher, a prophet, Son of God, =God• Cross: not cruci ed, chose to do it, not dead, dead, + resurrected• Mission: vague, to bring people to God, die for mankind, die for sins, for me/my sins, out of love
    140. 140. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - spiritual position 2? 3? 1? Mission Cross Jesus God Church Christian Religion General
    141. 141. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts ?
    142. 142. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts ?
    143. 143. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts ?
    144. 144. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts ?
    145. 145. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts ?
    146. 146. Question Driven CoachingGet to know someone - missing parts ?
    147. 147. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground
    148. 148. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground
    149. 149. Question Driven Coaching Look for common ground: agree* Agree when the other one is right* Don’t object directly against someone’sstatements (especially at the beginning)* Try to step into someone else’s shoes* Don’t emphasize the differences but thesimilarities
    150. 150. Let’s practice! Back to Alice
    151. 151. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    152. 152. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.” What is Alice talking about? What are possible connection points?
    153. 153. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    154. 154. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    155. 155. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    156. 156. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    157. 157. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    158. 158. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me. Thethings I read, I hear and that happen… I really like the ideasJesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hard to go to achurch because I think the people over there do take everythingliterally.”
    159. 159. Question Driven Coaching nding a connection point• It has something to do with faith• It’s something positive• You both agree wholeheartedly• It’s common ground• It can serve as a good start for further conversation• And possibly lead into the direction of Jesus
    160. 160. Question Driven Coaching nding a connection point• It has something to do with faith• It’s something positive• You both agree wholeheartedly• It’s common ground• It can serve as a good start for further conversation• And possibly lead into the direction of Jesus Let’s see how e-coach Peter proceeded...
    161. 161. Question Driven Coaching A talk with Alice
    162. 162. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?
    163. 163. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?Alice: A man with a mission… somebody that was sent bygod to get mankind on the right track again.
    164. 164. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?Alice: A man with a mission… somebody that was sent bygod to get mankind on the right track again.Peter: Was he the Son of God? Was he God himself?
    165. 165. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who was Jesus according to you?Alice: A man with a mission… somebody that was sent bygod to get mankind on the right track again.Peter: Was he the Son of God? Was he God himself?Alice: I don’t know…I have to say that it is difficult for me to say God, I’d rathersay god, because I think it is an ‘all’, not one god which isbetter than the others, allah, jahweh, shiva, vishnoe, the godand goddess of the witches...
    166. 166. Question Driven Coaching A talk with Alice
    167. 167. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?
    168. 168. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?Alice: The people messed up… the Roman empire didn’t dotoo well after all! There are rules given to interact with eachother in this world and Jesus came to make this clear.
    169. 169. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?Alice: The people messed up… the Roman empire didn’t dotoo well after all! There are rules given to interact with eachother in this world and Jesus came to make this clear.Peter: And that was it?
    170. 170. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: What was Jesus doing here then? What was hismission?Alice: The people messed up… the Roman empire didn’t dotoo well after all! There are rules given to interact with eachother in this world and Jesus came to make this clear.Peter: And that was it?Alice: That was it... Isn’t that enough? He was a messengerfrom god, he made the people believe in god again andwanted them to live by his rules.
    171. 171. Question Driven Coaching A talk with Alice
    172. 172. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thisearth, and then it’s all over?
    173. 173. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thisearth, and then it’s all over?Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life afterdeath?
    174. 174. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thisearth, and then it’s all over?Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life afterdeath?Peter: Well, I want to know whether you think what Jesusdid was only of signi cance for how we live on earth today?
    175. 175. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thisearth, and then it’s all over?Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life afterdeath?Peter: Well, I want to know whether you think what Jesusdid was only of signi cance for how we live on earth today?Alice: uhm, I indeed think so, Peter. I don’t believe in aheaven, with angels on clouds and harps etcetera, andneither in a hell with re and ames
    176. 176. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: So Jesus ‘saved’ me that I can live for 80 years on thisearth, and then it’s all over?Alice: Are you asking me for my thoughts about life afterdeath?Peter: Well, I want to know whether you think what Jesusdid was only of signi cance for how we live on earth today?Alice: uhm, I indeed think so, Peter. I don’t believe in aheaven, with angels on clouds and harps etcetera, andneither in a hell with re and ames…
    177. 177. Question Driven Coaching A talk with Alice
    178. 178. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?
    179. 179. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will alwaysbe.
    180. 180. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will alwaysbe.Peter: How do you know?
    181. 181. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will alwaysbe.Peter: How do you know?Alice: god is the love in the eyes of my husband, the smile onthe face of my kids, the owers in the bank along the highway.
    182. 182. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AlicePeter: Who is God and how do you know?Alice: god is it all... God has always been there en will alwaysbe.Peter: How do you know?Alice: god is the love in the eyes of my husband, the smile onthe face of my kids, the owers in the bank along the highway.Peter: Ok, this it what you believe, but a lot of people won’tagree. How do you know this is God? Or do you just give it thisname?
    183. 183. Question Driven Coaching A talk with Alice
    184. 184. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.
    185. 185. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know whoGod is and whether he is there or not?
    186. 186. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know whoGod is and whether he is there or not?Alice: I don’t know, that is why it’s called believing I thought,right?
    187. 187. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know whoGod is and whether he is there or not?Alice: I don’t know, that is why it’s called believing I thought,right?......
    188. 188. Question Driven Coaching A talk with AliceAlice: I just give it this name.Peter: Ah! Then the question remains: how do you know whoGod is and whether he is there or not?Alice: I don’t know, that is why it’s called believing I thought,right?......So what do we know about Alice so far?
    189. 189. Question Driven Coaching A talk with Alice - next steps to take• “How can you nd out who God is?”• There is only one way.• God needs to reveal HIMSELF.• How should he do that?• What would convince you?• What do you think about the idea of God becoming a man?• He did JUST THAT! That man is called Jesus…• In that case it is awesome!!
    190. 190. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles
    191. 191. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles
    192. 192. Identify the obstacles Back to Alice...
    193. 193. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me.The things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like theideas Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hardto go to a church because I think the people over there dotake everything literally.”
    194. 194. Question Driven Coaching Alice“I don’t know exactly what ‘the faith is expecting from me.The things I read, I hear and that happen… I really like theideas Jesus stands for. But not everything, and I nd it hardto go to a church because I think the people over there dotake everything literally.” What is Alice’s obstacle?
    195. 195. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4. Remove the obstacles - Ask questions
    196. 196. Question Driven CoachingRemove the obstacles: ask questions - 1
    197. 197. Question Driven Coaching Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1• I read somewhere that you can’t experience love if there is no evil.
    198. 198. Question Driven Coaching Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1• I read somewhere that you can’t experience love if there is no evil. – Response with a statement: • Babies can experience their mother’s love even if they don’t know evil yet.
    199. 199. Question Driven Coaching Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 1• I read somewhere that you can’t experience love if there is no evil. – Response with a statement: • Babies can experience their mother’s love even if they don’t know evil yet. – Response with a question: • Can babies experience their mother’s love while they don’t know evil yet?
    200. 200. Question Driven CoachingRemove the obstacles: ask questions - 2
    201. 201. Question Driven Coaching Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise from the dead
    202. 202. Question Driven Coaching Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise from the dead – Response with a statement: • God is our Creator. He created the world. He can then also raise the dead.
    203. 203. Question Driven Coaching Remove the obstacles: ask questions - 2• I nd it hard to believe that dead people rise from the dead – Response with a statement: • God is our Creator. He created the world. He can then also raise the dead. – Response with questions: • Do you think God had anything to do with the creation of our world? • If God is our Creator, couldn’t he also raise the dead again?
    204. 204. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4. Remove the obstacles - Ask questions - Make comparisons
    205. 205. Making comparisons “At the airport”-video - 3
    206. 206. Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 1
    207. 207. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 1Diana: “I am very curious about the facts. I keep thinking it’s a bit vague. Like when they say heaven is a paradise. Nobody ever came back to tell us it’s really nice up there. How can you believe this?”
    208. 208. Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 2
    209. 209. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of difference to you in what kind of house you live? I mean: if you had to choose between a nice house WITHOUT your husband, or in a lesser house WITH him? What would you do?
    210. 210. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of difference to you in what kind of house you live? I mean: if you had to choose between a nice house WITHOUT your husband, or in a lesser house WITH him? What would you do?Diana: A lesser house with him…
    211. 211. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 2Peter: Well, it is like this: does it make a lot of difference to you in what kind of house you live? I mean: if you had to choose between a nice house WITHOUT your husband, or in a lesser house WITH him? What would you do?Diana: A lesser house with him…Peter: Exactly!!!! Because it is more important with WHOM you are there then WHERE you are. Heaven is a paradise, because God is there. God is love. The place that is full of love is a paradise. Do you see?
    212. 212. Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 3
    213. 213. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in heaven with God, than that I am in a nice place up in the air?
    214. 214. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in heaven with God, than that I am in a nice place up in the air?Peter: Absolutely. If you, so to speak, are in hell, but you’re close to God, it’s not hell anymore. If you are in heaven, but you nd nothing of God anymore, then it’s hell!
    215. 215. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 3Diana: So you mean, that it’s more important that I’m in heaven with God, than that I am in a nice place up in the air?Peter: Absolutely. If you, so to speak, are in hell, but you’re close to God, it’s not hell anymore. If you are in heaven, but you nd nothing of God anymore, then it’s hell!Diana: Very sharp.
    216. 216. Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 4
    217. 217. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”
    218. 218. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”Peter: God wants a RELATIONSHIP with you. With everything that goes with it. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t listen, but that might be because we pray the wrong things.
    219. 219. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”Peter: God wants a RELATIONSHIP with you. With everything that goes with it. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t listen, but that might be because we pray the wrong things.Diana: But I don’t only ask him things, I also thank him.
    220. 220. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 4Diana: You say: “I know God is there and loves you”, but how do you feel that? I’ve already been praying for so long and I don’t feel anything as a result. I don’t know if I ‘ll ever get a reaction back”Peter: God wants a RELATIONSHIP with you. With everything that goes with it. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t listen, but that might be because we pray the wrong things.Diana: But I don’t only ask him things, I also thank him.Peter: Ok, let me ask you a question.
    221. 221. Question Driven CoachingRemove obstacles: make comparisons - 5
    222. 222. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk to you the same way that you talk to God. What would you think about that?
    223. 223. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk to you the same way that you talk to God. What would you think about that?
    224. 224. Question Driven Coaching Remove obstacles: make comparisons - 5Peter: Suppose you have a kid. And that kid would talk to you the same way that you talk to God. What would you think about that?Diana: I honestly must admit that I would think: “You ask me for so much and blame me for so much. You only want to see things happen.” Yeah, if you look at it that way, I probably indeed pray for the wrong things.
    225. 225. Removing obstaclesExercise in making comparisons Using a Biblical story
    226. 226. Question Driven Coaching Make comparisons - exerciseBenny• is happily married• has two daughters (between 20-30 years old), of which one is already married and has kids• lives on a luxurious farm• is very rich and keeps horses for his hobby• does generally believe in God, but has a lot of questions
    227. 227. Question Driven Coaching Make comparisons - exercise“People that change their mind at the last minute and turn to God are hypocrites to me. I can’t imagine God accepts them just like that. Those people do wrong their entire lives and suddenly everything is ok? That can’t be!” - Benny What would be a good comparison to use (from the Bible)?
    228. 228. Question Driven Coaching Make comparisons - guidelines*Must come out of the life of the other person’s life*Is therefore very easy to understand/relate to* Must look very much like the problem that wasaddressed* Is a real-life example of a spiritual truth* Jesus used comparisons a lot too…* It is a way of customizing the gospel.
    229. 229. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4. Remove the obstacles - Ask questions - Make comparisons* Using the Bible
    230. 230. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible
    231. 231. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?
    232. 232. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something
    233. 233. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something* Let them look it up themselves (online)
    234. 234. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something* Let them look it up themselves (online)* ASK what they think about it
    235. 235. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something* Let them look it up themselves (online)* ASK what they think about it* Never use texts as an argument
    236. 236. Question Driven Coaching Using the Bible* Can you make a comparison rst?* ASK if they want to read something* Let them look it up themselves (online)* ASK what they think about it* Never use texts as an argument* If they respond positively: give them homework to doand agree to talk about it at a later point in time
    237. 237. Question Driven Coaching Steps to take1. Get to know someone2. Look for common ground3. Identify the obstacles4. Remove the obstacles - Ask questions - Make comparisons* Using the Bible* Role of prayer and the Holy Spirit
    238. 238. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit
    239. 239. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work (John 3: 16)
    240. 240. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work (John 3: 16) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through Him might be saved.
    241. 241. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own (John 5: 17, 19; John 15: 5)
    242. 242. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own (John 5: 17, 19; John 15: 5) But Jesus said, “My Father has never stopped working, and that is why I keep on working. Jesus told the people: I tell you for certain that the Son cannot do anything on his own. He can do only what he sees the Father doing, and he does exactly what he sees the Father do.
    243. 243. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own (John 5: 17, 19; John 15: 5) But Jesus said, “My Father has never stopped working, and that is why I keep on working. Jesus told the people: I tell you for certain that the Son cannot do anything on his own. He can do only what he sees the Father doing, and he does exactly what he sees the Father do. I am the vine, and you are the branches. If you stay joined to me, and I stay joined to you, then you will produce lots of fruit. But you cannot do anything without me.
    244. 244. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love (John 9:31, 13:35)
    245. 245. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love (John 9:31, 13:35) We know that God listens only to people who love and obey Him.
    246. 246. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love (John 9:31, 13:35) We know that God listens only to people who love and obey Him. If you love each other, everyone will know that you are my disciples.
    247. 247. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love• We need to be united(Joh 17: 21)
    248. 248. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love• We need to be united(Joh 17: 21) Jesus prayed: I want all of them to be one with each other, just as I am one with you and you are one with me. I also want them to be one with us. Then the people of this world will believe that you sent me.
    249. 249. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love• We need to be united• We will see more (Eph 3: 18)
    250. 250. Question Driven Coaching Prayer and the Holy Spirit• God is at work• We cannot do anything on our own• Jesus asks us to obey and love• We need to be united• We will see more (Eph 3: 18) I pray that you may have power, together with all the Lords people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ...
    251. 251. To nish up....A few testimonies :-)
    252. 252. WhyJesus? Participant testimonies“My e-coach helped meout in discoveringanswers to myquestions. She reallylistened to what I had tosay” - Roxanne“Shortly after nishing WhyJesus?, I joined a local churchand am currently attending the Alpha-course.” - Tim
    253. 253. WhyJesus? E-coach-testimonies “Asking questions has helped me avoid ‘preaching’ to my participants. I’ve really also discovered that people tend to believe something more easily if they discover it themselves” - Stephan“I just prayed with my participantin the chat this evening and shegave her life to Jesus! Halleluja!!” - Sheila
    254. 254. Q&A
    255. 255. Pray together

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