Perhaps most of all this is a novel about relationships, about the survival of family love and close friendships even in a time of such crude savagery.
Moosa and his family protect Suleiman in his exile.
Moosa’s displaced survivor guilt Faraj is alive because Najwas intervened and asked for Ustath Jafer’s help Moosa sees this as betrayal – other have given their live for the resistence “cant bear looking at him…. The betrayal in his eyes” (p207) Leaves Libya and never sees Faraj again
Transcript of "In the Country of Men - THEME - Family and relationships"
In the style of a
The moral dilemma!
Does one sacrifice one's family for the
sake of the larger good, or protect one's
family at all costs?
…A time of
Mother & Son – Home &Away
-the soap opera
• Even fifteen years of exile cannot
• A sons intimacy with his mother “has
since occupied the innermost memory I
have of love”
• A mother’s love causes her to send him
away to protect him from the regime.
• He protects Suleiman in exile
• Will he overcome his displaced survivor
– Faraj is alive because Najwa intervened and
asked for Ustath Jafer’s help
– Moosa sees this as betrayal – other’s have
given their live for the resistance
– “cant bear looking at him…. The betrayal in
his eyes” (p207)
• He leaves Libya and never sees Faraj
• An undying loyalty for a best friend
• They Die a Brothers death
Parents and the Single Child
• ”woman was no
• “Mother and father
were objecting to
• BUT they
• ”reinvent life and
make black days
Then why oh why…
• did his parents send Suleiman to Egypt.
• “in every direction I turned but they
the good, the bad & the ugly
• Even the bad relationships such as
Najwa’s family who create her “black”
• And the unpleasant neighbours she
forces herself to be ingratiated
When Faraj Returns …
• Family is made to work (On the surface)
• Um Massoud and Ustath Jafar are united
despite their apparent distaste for each
• Moosa and Jude Yaseen (the father of the
“disappointed gaze”)remain close
because they are family
– Faraj’s unofficial ‘brother’ takes in Suleiman
and all that entails
as they cemented
their own sense of
exiling me to Egypt,
something I find it
hard to reconcile
This is not a quote, this is what I
think Suleiman would be thinking
Matar does this for us with
Suleiman’s final words….
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