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We can live authentically, we can create special environments that improve health and happiness but we can't do it generically. Different people react to different environments and this book explains ...

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    • ether air fire water earth Christopher Walker. M.B.a Dr. raMa prasaD. B.a.M.s. Your mind-body constitution reveals the real potential within you. 1 Thrive in your career & empower your soul. Innerwealth Homebridge Youth Program 2008 you discvoer the real potential within
    • Be In Your Element 2
    • let’s live aswe’reintentedto, let’s do aswe’reintentedto, let’s enjoy aswe’reintentedto. 3 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Copyright © Christopher Walker & Rama Prasad, 2005 - 2008 The right of Christopher Walker to be identifi ed as the author of this book has been asserted in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 First Published 2005 Re Pblished 2008 All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning or otherwise, except under the terms of the Copyright, Designs and Pat- ents Act 1988 or under the terms of a licence issued by the Copyright Licensing Agency Ltd, 90 Tottenham Court Road, London W1T 4LP, UK, without the permission in writing of the Publisher. Requests to the Publisher should be addressed to ISBN Typeset in 11/16 pt Palatino, Myriad Printed and bound by Walker Publication Pty Ltd For details contact Christopher Walker: alive@chriswalker.com.au also Rama Prasad www.ayurvedaelements.com 4
    • dedication We dedicate this work to all our parants, siblings, partners, friends, teachers, students and well- wishers, who directly and indirectly helped us learn and grow. We dedicate it gratefully to the world. 5 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element 6
    • Note This book is not intended to replace your doctor, therapist, lawyer, counsellor, coach, healer, guide, consultant or any other person who delivers specialized services to you in per- son. This book does not aim to replace your faith or ask you to subscribe to any other belief system other than the one you currently hold. This book aims to provide insights into your unique charac- ter and an awareness of what nature intended when giving you the specific and unique body constitution you were born with. 7 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Contents Background 6 Being unique 8 Your elemental lifestyle 9 Being real – Getting beyond the Ego 9 Who are you? Your True Nature 10 It’s only Natural 11 Managing your Life 12 Finding Your Element 14 Your Body Type on a Universal Stage 14 Elements in Brief 14 Your Constitutional Charts 14 The Five Elements of your Constitution 17 Determine your Natural Constitution 19 Your Constitution explained Ether Constitution 23 Summary 24 Air Constitution 29 Summary 30 Fire Constitution 34 Summary 35 Water Constitution 40 Summary 41 Earth Constitution 46 Summary 48 Summary of all Constitutions 52 Your Element At Work 58 Productivity through Constitutional Analysis 58 8
    • Real stories 59 Honouring diversity 60 Sustainability is the key 62 Ether at Work 64 Summary 68 Air At Work 73 Summary 76 Fire At Work 81 Summary 83 Water at Work 88 Summary 90 Earth at Work 95 Summary 97 Summary - elements at work 102 Relationships Element to element at Work 110 Element to Element at Home 121 Your current imbalances and balancing techniques 131 Constitutional Analysis Questionnaires 134 Health 134 Vacation and hobbies 135 Diet 137 Relationship 138 Social life 139 Business and work 142 Office environment 144 Lifestyle Master Analysis 147 The evolution of Human History 151 9 discvoer the real potential within you
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    • Be In Your Element Background Our lives are a series of choices. Making those choices as wisely as possible is important. Understanding ourselves is a great key to this wisdom. There are five elements, which together make up all life. They are: the solid particle – Earth the moisture – Water the transforming force – Fire the movement and rhythms – Air and the thought that created everything – Ether These five components are present to varying degrees in ev- erything that exists in the universe, including you. They are also present in environments, business and behaviour. They describe life and its amazing diversity in the simplest way. This is not a new science. 6,000 years ago Ayurvedic scientists found that people who lived in tune with their own subtle elements -that is their constitution, found health and happiness easily. And those who defied – or lived away from their own nature, struggled and suffered various disease. Over the years science has become complex and somewhat illogical. People have spoken of a combination of 3 elements rather than 5, and rarely have two doctors agreed on this diagnosis. Constitutional Analysis is a throwback to the simplicity and purity of the 6,000 years old discoveries. Your constitution 12 has become simple to find, easy to understand and priceless as a guide to the choices you make. What is extraordinary, is the application of this amazing study to relationships and business. Choosing staff, creating
    • productive environments, aligning healthy job descriptions with natural talents has the potential to increase the effec- tiveness of the business world, while reducing stress. In relationships people laugh more and instead of thinking about changing a partner or the way they function, they seem to be able to celebrate their differences and find humour in some of those old antagonisms. Constitutional Analysis is based on your mind-body type. Your body can tell us more about your mind, than your mind can tell about your body. The beauty of it is that, you can read these simple signs spon- taneously. So, not only do you understand yourself better, but you understand others equally well. Instead of dividing the world into demographics (locations), or psychographics (thoughts), constitutions will be a far more honest and accurate grouping of behavioural traits. Earth people act that way universally while Air people are the same the world over. Their buying patterns are identical and their product hopes the same with highly predicable needs and values. With this, the opportunity to serve clients and their re- quirements becomes more honest, accurate and spontaneous. Your constitutional analysis will reveal information right from the food you eat, the cause of your moods, identify the colours that calm you and the music that can inspire you. It makes being you, so much easier. It’s a simple way to be conscious and unique. Constitutional analysis is a great gift for youth as well. For decades, a normal child has been forced to live the way soci- ety, family, race or country wants them to live. Nobody wants 13 to know what is in them. The child goes through moulding or reshaping of various kinds. By time he or she is an adult there is a big, thick, concrete wall between their True Nature and body. This wall comprising of patterns, beliefs, person- alities, habits and so on, does not have anything to do with discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element them. His or her Pre Nature is dying inside so a life built on or based on these ‘non-constitutional’ patterns will never give fulfilment. Your Body is a monitor, representing what is going on in your mind. A healthy body indicates a pleasant mind and fulfilled life while a weak body speaks of an unhappy mind and unsatisfied life. Your Natural Constitution reflects are those proportions of the elements that comprise your unique make up. This Natu- ral Constitution is your permanent template and affects ev- erything you do in your life. Set in place at birth, it cannot be changed. 14
    • Being unique Beyond Ego and personality When we think of that feeling that makes us affirm the word “I”, we realize that it is difficult to ascertain the exact defini- tion of “I”. It is something beyond human comprehension. Hence, a person begins to know his or her body first and identifies with it. An individual says, “my body is in pain, and therefore I am in pain”. The inner self and the body are not separable. The individual says, “I ate a great meal, there- fore I am happy”. The body and its pleasures and pains are the individual’s only concerns. As we develop a bigger viewpoint, this concept of “I” wid- ens. When we start seeing ourselves not just as “bodies”, but also “thoughts, feelings and imagination”, we will be able to understand the human being more as a whole. Therefore we are not only comprised of bodies, but also minds. Thus, we begin to view life in a bigger context. We also start recogniz- ing the causes of our sufferings. When we recognize that our thoughts impact our happiness, we grow. “I am not only a physical body, I am also a great expansiveness of mind” this realization in its fullness makes one aware of a larger pos- sibility. Then, this brings about the inclusion of the body, the mind and some sense of the human spirit in the equation, “who am I?” It is this combination that we use to identify ourselves and it’s called the ego. When a person explores further, he or she begins to experi- ence the “I”-ness, which exists in a greater context than sim- ply “the self”. When this idea emerges, we must acknowl- 15 edge the rights of the individual and his or her role in the greater world. As time passes we realize that we cannot totally identify with our physical body (FEELINGS) since it is not permanent and discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element only a vehicle. Then, we know that our thoughts are just an accumulation of experiences and perceptions (EGO), condi- tioned ideas that constantly change. We cannot credit our thoughts with any REAL merit since they are simply too con- ditioned and mostly subconscious. With this awakening we can begin to understand a powerful, new, perspective on life. Then we might ask, “if this body, and these thoughts and these beliefs are not the true “I”, if I am no longer identified by my possessions, my beliefs and my actions, who am I? What is individuality? What is the ef- fect of my environment on my actions? Who am I really?” Constitutional Analysis offers this perspective, which cuts through behaviour, ego and conditioning of our minds and bodies. Constitutional Analysis is a new perspective that in- terprets our True Nature from what we had, before we began to think. Constitutional analysis mirrors your TRUE NATURE. It is not based on psychology or behaviour, and has no interest in analysing your culture, your religion or for that matter your conditioning. It is based on your DNA, and this cannot change. In order to find our True Nature we must become open and empty again. Often a person comes to us and says “Here I am. Can you help me find my real constitution?” But they experience a huge conflict because they argue that their be- haviour rather than the body type is the reality of their life. We propose that their body types are defined at birth and their behaviours are moulded by their surroundings. Constitutional analysis does not limit or judge people based on what they are doing. It simply helps people understand 16 the BEST PATH – for their unique constitutions. It is hard to be empty – to acknowledge the differences between the constitution and beliefs and to de-identify oneself with one’s behaviour.
    • Your True Nature – is that part of you that is above condi- tioning, reaction and confusion. It is pure. It is your real po- tential. To the degree that we can be honest with ourselves, cut the rhetoric and separate our emotions from our truth, is the degree to which we can live authentically and in peace with life. Who are you? Your True Nature “I want to be authentic, REAL in my life. What does it mean?” People mistakenly say – “I am an Earth predominant person because I am good at managing people,” or “I am an Ether pre- dominant person because I am good at visioning”. It is an old psychological conditioning, subject to the environment, which measures a person by behaviour and is based on the EGO. Your Real constitution is determined at birth and stays with you till death. Your Natural Constitution arrives before you think, act or react to anything in life. It exists in the womb, so it is revealed by your body type not your psychology. You can thus determine behaviours that will support you and patterns that are predictable. You may say “Oh! Now I see why I loved that music class but hated that math class.” It wasn’t the topic but the environment. “One teacher made me feel at home, the other not.” We thrive in our Element and when our Natural Constitution is fed, the sky is the lim- it. Productivity goes hand in hand with happiness, which is optimised when we are in our element. It is the same for relationships. A dynamic relationship will 17 exist between your Natural Constitution and that of your partner. Rather than change your partner, try to understand his/her Natural Constitution and support him/her in that journey. On doing this, you learn to appreciate them for who they are, and what you appreciate grows. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element The giant leap is to break away from psychology-based lifestyle and business measures and to embrace the human constitution. Beyond the tricks of the mind, the ego and the personality, which have fooled the greatest scientists for cen- turies, Natural Constitution finds the core on which you can base your choices. The beauty of finding and acknowledging your Natural Con- stitution lies in the fact that you have something fixed, which you can understand yourself. That’s not limiting in any way since it reveals your unique style. It’s only Natural The cost of separating ourselves from nature is being rec- ognized. The human cost of separating people from what is true and natural within them is becoming unquestionable. Our respect for humanity as a global family means we are re- turning to respect nature. This is inseparable from the qual- ity of the environment we live in, both internal to ourselves and external in the world at large. Knowing yourself, your True Nature, is a great contribution to this quest for a better life and a better world. This work invites you to look beyond the conditioning of your culture, your corporation and your family to find what is REAL with- in you. It invites you to explore your True Nature. Throughout history those people who have come to under- stand what is natural within them have flourished in the long term. Your True Nature – is that part of you that is above con- ditioning, reaction and confusion. We call it inspiration. It is pure. It is your real potential. The degree to which we can be 18 honest with ourselves, and find this reality, is the degree to which we can be in tune with nature and therefore be at our best. Your ‘elemental constitution’ – reveals the weather you thrive in, the foods to balance you, the exercise that suits you and
    • the career you can live in harmony with. It reveals your pos- sible imbalances and potential vulnerabilities and cautions you on what your potential lifestyle hazards are. It is like sculpting. There before you sits a rock, rough and covered in mud. You begin to chip away at its surface and slowly, through hard work, you find a beautiful sculpture within it. Our constitution is exactly like the potential that sits within this rock. Through training we need to remove the unwanted bits and discover the gem that lies within it. The first thing is to understand what is your Natural Constitution, which is the exact shape of that gem. To do this we examine the body you were born into. Then we reveal how it responds to the world around it. How it is meant to care for itself and what its natural process in life is. In other words we learn what it takes to honour who we really are in our most natural state. 19 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Elements Of Your Daily Life You wake up in the morning, eat and get to work on time. Then, you rush to meet appointments and responsibilities and attend a health program. This is your Earth element at play. When you wake up and do your exercises a part of which is meditation on a higher power, that’s your Ether at play. Then you have a schedule to follow, kids to drop off at school, bills to pay, people to contact and some issues to worry about – that’s your Air element kicking in. Subsequently, it’s time for action – analysing issues, finding solutions and working out strategies. That’s your Fire element. Finally, life is a people- thing. You have partners to say goodbye to, kids maybe, col- leagues at work, people to lead and news about the world and its human inequalities to read about, that’s your Water element. In an office, you are the CEO and it’s time to renovate. You hand the responsibility to a consultant. A short, strong wom- an who sets about proving that with lots of strong features, plenty of warm wooden features your office will create a re- ally grounded feeling for those in it. She guarantees produc- tivity will fly through the roof. Now it’s finished and your staff comes into the office. Tall people, short people, round people, strong people, fast peo- ple and slow people. Did you know that every one of those people needs a specific office environment to thrive in? Cer- 20 tain spaces suit certain body types and in fact, the new de- sign brings joy to some and grief to others. Then it’s time to renovate the home. Let’s say you are the tall, thin, Ether Predominant type and you love space. So,
    • you get a Dutch designer to come an make wide open spaces and white walls. You walk in the door – there are glass walls and white lounges. It looks straight out of Vogue But how does this affect the kids, your partner and the whole family dynamics? How does this space affect your peace of mind? Does it stimulate or pacify you? You renovated during a time at work when things were going smooth, you were not too stretched. Now your career happens to undergo a crisis and you work 24/7 to get through. So how is your home design impacting your life? Is it burning you out or building you up? Is the de- sign created when you were on top of the world going to be right while you work up from the bottom? Top of the world homes are open and spacey, bottom up are earthy and wood- en. Two homes, same family but different circumstances. Our Unique Constitution means we must honour our unique process of dealing with life’s ups and downs. If you were born a Water Predominant person then be Water, don’t fight against it in order to achieve some preconceived ideal of what a human should or shouldn’t look like. If you are Water you will be unique and different, can you love that? If you are Fire – you are unique and different. Square pegs don’t go into round holes, unless they shrink. We are not about shrinking to some ideal of personality or way of living. Self-knowledge is a more reliable guide to behaviour than adherence to arbitrarily imposed standards, though both are susceptible to error. 21 discvoer the real potential within you
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    • Weight Gravity Solidity Integriy EARTH Attraction Fluidity Flexibility Softness WATER Heat Transformation Precision Sharpness FIRE Movement Rhythm Lightness Adaptability AIR Space Wisdom Creativity Stillness ETHER 23 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Finding Your Element Your Constitution on a Universal Stage Everyone and everything is composed of these five Elements in varying quantities and proportions. Each has a unique proportion and pattern. One Element will be predominant. Sometimes more than one are predominant. The individual is grouped based on that predominant element. Thus we get Ether types, Air types, Fire types, Water types and Earth types. The whole universe can be broken down into these five groups. Merits of Elements Ether Tranquillity, peace, freedom, stillness, calmness, openness, wisdom and creativity. Air Rhythm, response, movement, cycles, adaptability, detachment and changeability. Fire Courage, analysis, solution, speed, transformation, drive, passion, intensity, heat and force. Water Love, care, compassion, connection, gentleness, flex- ibility and attachment. Earth Stability, support, reliability, grounding, establish- ment, firmness and solidity A rock may look solid but it contains all the five universal elements. If you break – even the driest rock into its com- ponents, it will contain Air, Water, Fire, and of course Earth. But what surprises many people is, that a rock also contains 24 Ether. And therefore, so do you. Ether is the thought that created the rock in the first place. An intangible force but an essential one since nothing could exist without some original design for its future.
    • Your Constitutional Charts When you evaluate your constitution you will end up with a chart like the first one in the series below. It will reveal dif- ferent proportions of the five elements. This, if measured at birth and death, will never show any change. But the other charts change constantly. Our lifestyles, our minds, the food we consume, the work we do and more. Each has their own constitution. Digging a hole for example is an earthy task, thinking is an etheric task, mixing with people is Air and nursing them can be Water and anything to do with change, is Fire. So our lives rock and roll through a series of charts like the second, third, fourth and fifth ones below. There are hundreds of such lifestyle charts and they add to the Constitution of your environment. Mismatch your natural constitution with your environmen- tal constitution and you will develop disease, unhappiness and a serious conflict with nature — and nature never loses a fight. Let us look at the charts in more detail. We have taken an example of a Fire Predominant person be- low, with Earth as his secondary element in the first chart. Ether, Air and Water are present but in less quantities. So we state that the individual is Fire Predominant. We can also say that they are Fire –Earth Predominant. This is a wonderful gift -because Paul, the individual in the example can see his strengths and weaknesses, know what fits him best at work and home and can find his ideal life- 25 style. They can design their office to include lots of Fire and Earth based ingredients. This is called happiness and fulfil- ment. Use your elements to live as nature intended. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Purple = Ether, Blue = Air, Red = Fire, Green = Water, Black = Earth 26
    • Now there are four environmental charts here on display. They represent Paul’s lifestyle, state of mind, food and over- all dynamics. In other words the last chart depicts Paul’s life, and how much of each element he is using. You can see a huge difference between his Natural Constitution and his overall lifestyle. In the last chart you can see his Fire is way into excess, his Ether is in excess, and his water is slightly out of balance. His Earth is depleted. Even when we know what is good for us we sometimes don’t live well. This has been made very complex by the myriads of advice given and the overwhelming number of self-help books in the global market. Add to this the easy access we have to an ever-increasing variety of choices, and living in your element is becoming a minefield. I think Paul can be excused for losing the plot. But the cost to Paul will be deadly if he doesn’t fix the ex- cesses and depletions in his elements. This 52 year old gentleman started experiencing heartburn and irritability (excess Fire), sluggishness (excess Water), anxiety, insomnia (excess Ether) and insecurity (depleted Earth) over 3 months. A Fire - Earth person, Paul runs his own successful finance firm in a country town. He has a fairly suitable lifestyle for his constitution. Good family and children, comfortable house, some long-term investments, hobbies -like hunting, buying and selling properties. It all gradually manifested as he seriously started thinking of expanding his business, dealing with some old legal issues, talking to his lawyer and thinking about sending his son to the city for higher studies. Instead of an open discussion with his family, he is bottling up all his thoughts and anxiety and is over burdening his Ether. Slowly, he started eating a 27 lot of spicy, oily food (excess Fire & Water) and drinking a lot of coffee (excess Fire). Now if this goes on for several months, the effects can be devastating. At work, his mood has become short and snap- discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element py (excess Fire). He is less playful with the kids and his busi- ness partners are getting warning signs. His anxiety (excess Ether) is making his decisions poor, his confidence uncertain and his intuitions absent. He is tired a lot, finding himself sitting down on the lounge at night and nodding off. He is drinking a good bit of Scotch and his health is definitely go- ing downhill. By reading the rest of this study you will find ways to diag- nose and change your lifestyle and work to suit your consti- tution. That’s the key. You don’t change yourself. But, you change what you do. When Paul put a lifestyle matrix into place, he made the fol- lowing adjustments: Inspired by an ‘elemental’ consultation Paul adapted the fol- lowing aspects of his lifestyle: 1. Discussed his issues with all the relevant people (using Ether and Fire intelligently). Giving them sufficient time to express their views and concerns. 2. Starting an alkaline and light diet. 3. Starting eating homemade meals or eating from home to avoid acidic items. 4. Increasing his water intake (cooling down the aggravated Fire & Water). 5. Started making a ‘to do’ list on paper instead of his head. 6. Prioritising his ‘to do’ list (using Fire & Earth wisely). 6. Starting cardio and weight training (for long-term health and wellbeing). 28 Here is a great opportunity for you to tailor your lifestyle and work style to your True Nature, and like Paul, get back to the life you love living, long term.
    • Elements of your Constitution Ether Air Fire Water Earth tall Medium shorter thin boned small boned Medium boned thick boned heavy boned long frame thin frame Medium frame round frame square frame long wrists small wrists Medium wrists Fleshy wrists thick wrists long fingers thin Medium fingers short fingers strong fingers fingers long jaw line Fine pointy jaw sharp jaw round soft jaw square strong jaw Narrow hips small hip bones Medium hip Broad hips square strong bones hip long feet small petite feet Medium feet small feet Broad flat feet swan robin peacock pelican eagle Deep eyes Glancing eyes piercing eyes round eyes hard eyes square narrow small high Medium rounded square strong shoulders shoulders shoulders shoulders shoulders long Muscles thin Muscles Good medium round soft Big firm muscles muscles muscles Delicate agile sharp soft Firm 29 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Everything is Relative What’s short? What’s tall? What’s soft and fleshy? What’s heavy and what’s light? Everything is relative. In finding our constitution, we talk a lot about body charac- ters and therefore relativity. If you live in Indonesia you are tall maybe less than 5’10” and in California it might be 6’4” and as a Masai warrior it might be 6’10” – each of these indi- viduals are tall, relative to their family and race . If you take an American to Japan, they tower over the Japa- nese. But truly, back in America they are average. So we are talking about being relative to your original culture. Also, height is only one of many variables, what we are looking for in determining your constitution is the whole story. Your jaw, your head shape, your shoulders, your ankles, your wrists, your nose and your eyes are all a part of the story. This will become clearer as we progress. Determine Your Constitution Your score should be based on how you feel when you are healthy and normal. Don’t choose ‘what you want to be’. There is no better or inferior body type. If you notice that you ‘want to be’, acknowledge an imbalance -you will know why. If you behave and live like another body type, it brings serious imbalances. Life becomes fulfilled when you behave like your inner self. This questionnaire is to find your inner nature. Be yourself. If you have doubts regarding your attri- 30 butes, ask your friends or someone reliable, you trust. The score: 0 = the statement does not apply to you, to 10 = applies to you 100%. Add up the scores and total them in the right hand column for each element.
    • Ether 0 -10 total 1 i am tall compared to the other members of my society 2 i am tall compared to the other member of my race 3 i have long limbs, fingers, and finger nails 4 My skin is thin and translucent 5 Air 1 i am small in size 2 i can be classify as petite 3 i have a light-weight body type 4 i have a slim body with small bones 5 Fire 1 i have a firm jaw 2 i am medium height and weight 3 My body is warm and i like colder weather 4 i have well defined muscles, even without working out 5 Water 1 i am heavy boned 2 My body is soft and smooth 3 My body is strong, my shoulders are rounded 4 My body has lots of curves and circles (large circular eyes) 5 Earth 1 i have strong and heavy bones 31 2 My body is stocky, firm and solid 3 My shoulders are wide and square 4 i have wide hips and a broad forehead 5 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element An Ether type should spend more time on Ether lifestyle, Ether food, Ether relationships, Ether hobbies and so on. That is how they honour their predominant 32 element.
    • We’re all going on a summer holiday Hi Guys, what are you doing for the Christmas holidays? Dianne (Ether): Well, we wanted to go to a romantic, isolated Is- land in the Pacific for a few weeks just to get away from it all for a while. But I don’t think there are any seats and well, we haven’t made up our minds yet. Roland (Air): We are going to India – and when we get there, I am going to a conference, then will travel down to the South to meet my friend’s parents, then back to the Ashram, and then over to the other side. We are also going to do some training and visit an Ayurvedic clinic. Jason (Fire): The Murray Marathon is on and what I want to do is win the fastest Kayak section over the race. Its 45 degrees cen- tigrade and my support crew will not enjoy the flies or the heat but it’s for a good cause, so I am training everyday. Joan (Water): We are going to my mother’s house. She’s not well and we thought it was about time we paid her a visit. I have put my trip to the Monastery off until June and will do some volun- teer work at the local school while I am over with Mum. I think my husband will stay home. Tim (Earth): We’re travelling to London. We’ve booked the tick- ets last Christmas, got an amazing deal flying on the wing, the kids should enjoy that. In London we’ve rented a car, well a horse drawn cart and will be staying in a friends house (actually the 33 barn) – I also got the company to put us up in a hotel for a night because I can fit a day’s work in between Christmas and New Year’s Day. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether ther people are tall and thin boned. Perspective is Ether’s gift. Ether people see the world from a long way off and therefore have an amazing sense of fantasy and possibility. Ether people love space. Both physically in homes that are open and airy, and personally, thriving on lots of time alone. Ether people are rarely hampered by reality and we should be careful to support them in their fantasies and dreaming. It is this great asset that they bring to the world of business and family, providing often surreal, but always imaginative visions of the future. If it is time to expand your sense of possibility in life, find yourself an Ether person and ask their opinion. It is usually astronomical. As a result of this almost other-worldly skill, Ether people are often hard to understand. Their sense of time is rarely ac- curate and their own attention to detail is poor (such details tend to stifle the Ether imagination) Philosophical by nature, Ether people need the space to dream, write, paint and think. They are creative and are known to overwhelm those whose duty it is to make practi- cal sense of their ideas, because they never stop imagining. Inspiration is the realm dominated by the Ether people. When each of us, no matter what our elemental strengths, need to reach into the worlds of vision, inspiration and pur- 34 pose, we must tap our own resource of Ether. To do this we simply eat, find the space, and embrace the lifestyle elements of the Ether person. Ether people tend to overuse the Ether element in life. Ex-
    • cessive reading, excessive thinking and excessive planning agitate Ether. When this happens, Ether people can make no sense at all. They can become ungrounded, highly emotional and self-deprecating, during which time, they are always ready for a quarrel. The solution in these unbalanced times, is to put water, or earth lifestyle elements around them. Another potential problem for most Ether people is that they get trapped in their head and forget about all practicalities. They can become unreliable and often spaced out with too many options on their mind. They are often anxious, eas- ily worried, and many thoughts pass through their heads in a short space of time. Ethers often worry themselves to an early death. Being anxious, they also might also be prone to strokes and heart attacks. The Ether person, who chooses to stay in balance with his or her Element, will surround themselves with the following support. 1. Earthy advisors and coaches (ether people often gravitate to ether advice, which is like petrol on a fire) 2. Space – physical and emotional (in order to think) 3. Stillness – meditation, swimming and walking 4. Regularity in food, food quality, snacks that are healthy and abstinence from stimulants (smoking, nicotine sub- stitutes, coffee, tea, alcohol, drugs) 5. Respect for the real world issues of being on time (early for appointments) and predictability Environmentally, Ether people cope badly with extremes 35 such as heat, cold and wind. From a medical perspective, these Ethers have an ‘sensitive metabolism.’ The digestive organs are their most vulnerable region. The large intestine, brain and nervous system are most at risk. They can often get circulatory problems if not careful. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether thrives on tranquillity. It needs peace, space and free- dom in order to manifest. Ether predominant people are of- ten their own greatest enemies, attracted to interesting things like a moth to a flame but they are often disturbed by their own inquisitive nature. Ether evolves from stillness so in or- der for your etheric character to come forward you’ll need to create meditative space and personal mind control to bring it to the world. Ether can be silent in meetings and at home because they are conversing in their heads. They are dreaming the reality. Ether is one solution to personal trauma. Ether also thrives on silence – the music of the universe. But soothing, gentle, meaningful classical instrumentals are also etheric by nature. The sounds of nature are Ether’s heart. This together with the color white and other very natural pastel colours make Ether environments a very sacred place to be. Famous Ether predominant people are Goliath, God, Ed- mund Hillary, Elle McPherson, Mohamed Ali, Nicole Kidma- nn, Kerry Packer (has all 5 elements strong), Rumi, Socrates, Cleopatra, Hermes, Pythagorus, Columbus, Patanjali, and most NBL Basketball players. Summary - The Elements of Ether Constitution Elements in life Tranquillity, peace, freedom, stillness, calmness, 36 openness, wisdom and creativity. Elements in nature and body Hearing, expression, wisdom, subtle, space, empty, cold, light
    • Strong elements Ability to think deep, to accept new ideas, and see the whole picture Profession Philosophy, charity, adviser, planning, creative ideas. Body nature Tall, long limbs, slim, slender. Mental disposition Open, accepting, thinker. Favourite phrases I have an idea. Let’s think about it. What is your philosophy? There is no right or wrong. Elemental spending Books, music, philosophy Favourite games and sport High jump, chess, magic Emotional predominance Openness, neutral, non-judgmental Type of elemental love Universal, selfless, impartial, unconditional Climatic preference Loves warm, bright climate. Doesn’t like too dark, damp hot or cold. 37 Need of sleep Around 5-6 hours of rejuvenating sleep Need of food and drinks discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Small, light meals, occasional drinks Negative environment Loneliness, isolation, extreme emotions, pressure Weaknesses Others think I am impractical Things we hate Confinement, boredom, strict routines, heavy exercises Mantras Ham or Hum Chakras Vishuddha Systems Brain, hormones Symbols Dot, spark, long line. We would like your suggestions on the new office design…… Jenny (Ether): Space, we need space, there’s nothing worse than cramped up dingy offices. I think large windows, lots of light, white furniture, Swedish design and a few side boards. The board table should be glass. I have some ideas about the art on the walls. But first we should get the Astrologer to define the best date to open it, the Feng Shui man to layout the energy and the Shaman to bless the corners. I have an energetic healer 38 who would come in twice a week to purify the air.
    • James (Air): I agree with Jenny, space is good but we don’t need offices. An open plan is better since we need to be able to see each other. We need communal areas over there and we could have the dark lounge suite design and ergonomic chairs, with wooden tables, or we could have black tables with ergonomic walls with bright green contrast to the office. Even if we put one office over there it is important that anything we install should be movable. Fran (Fire): Who give a rat’s arse? Get the thing in, build your offices. We’re wasting valuable time. Make sure there’s a bar area for entertaining, the boardroom has Nintendo and the paintings on the wall have some life to them. Goodness all this fussing and fluffing around…… We need television remote, high tech computers and automatics speech recognition, I want robotics at reception. July (Water): I think the walls should be a softer color and the chairs all in a lounge style with cushions. The entry foyer could be a garden with soft fountains. Piped music and a nice ar- rangement of pure health water over there. I think the offices should be arranged in a Turkish Harem design with cushions and coffee tables. Computers should be hidden from view and the massage rooms need to be clean and warm. Bob (Earth): The filing cabinets down that wall, the wooden board table all the biggest and the best. I want leather back chairs, and mine should be larger than everyone else’s. I want wooden floors. We can fit more than 10 people in Jenny’s office and those cushions and stuff can be put in the store room. This place is going to work like a top. You watch. 39 discvoer the real potential within you
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    • Air A Air People are small and thin boned. The gift of the Air person, is connection. Air is the bridge between the etheric world of stillness and the real world of action. Air people thrive on complexity, their ability to link and conceptualise events and ideas is an amazing asset. Air people are extremely creative. Their gift is in huge de- mand in environments where people need diverse possibili- ties and potential brought under some control. In the world of concepts, Air people weave the web that links opportu- nity with possibility. The complexity of life is in essence its beauty. The multiplic- ity of shapes and forms, and colours and objects all inter- act to create one amazing whole. It’s like creating the whole from unrelated parts, the merging of movement, like a dance where diverse talents are harnessed to become one under- standable performance. If it’s time to improve, expand and develop through the art of communication, Air people have the gift. They thrive in multi-media, complexity and music and dance-related pro- fessions. Air people love to teach their skills. They are the happiest teachers. You would love to walk with this person, do things with this person and even live with this person –as they would be so easy going, never stiff with their plans, ideas or likes and dislikes. 41 Air people tend to over-use the Air element in life. Excessive talking, excessive travels and excessive changes can aggra- vate Air and deprive Air people of the other elements in life. When this imbalance happens the undercurrents are tremen- dous: minds are busy, anxieties and worries dominate achy discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element bodies, tense muscles, dry skin and blocked thinking result. It gives rise to the expression “air head”. When each of us has an Air imbalance, we can easily fall into frequent quarrels and we can suffer from poor memory and irregular body rhythms while becoming quite unpredictable. This can lead to anxiety and hypersensitivity. Another potential problem for most Air people is that they can become unreliable and often spaced out with too many options on their mind. From a medical perspective, Air Predominant people have a ‘sensitive circulation.’ Their skin, circulatory system and large intestine are most at risk. They often suffer from vascu- lar and stress-related illnesses. Overall the Air type has cold, unstable and very changeable properties. They are cured and brought back into balance by everything that grounds them and makes them heavier, warmer and more stable. It all happen only when they are out of balance. In balance, Airs are like butterflies -adaptable, easy going, light and agile and always moving. Healthy Air people love a carefree life. They love to switch between work and play at will. They need a lot of light, moist and warm food items to maintain health. They need to eat when they are hungry. This is because external factors influ- ence their appetite easily. The Air person, who chooses to stay in balance in his or her element, will surround themselves with the following sup- port. 42 1. Grounding environments where there is routine (Earth), love (Water), motivation (Fire) and freedom (Ether). 2. Rhythm – a regular daily schedule that is difficult to change.
    • 3. An active environment where their creativity can flourish – dance, art etc 4. Pleasant music, yellow colours, harmonious conversation with friends. Regular warm oil massages by a supportive, calm and sensitive individual. 5. Warmth of every kind is important including well-heated rooms, warm clothing, warm weather Air people live in a world of their own, prioritising things which seem secondary to everyone else. They are active people who move from one task to another with grace and speed. Air is the element of touch- the tangibility of things and people. Air people need a lifestyle where many opportunities are available even if none are taken. They need to know that there are choices. Air types love to talk and are creatively stifled where conversation is restricted. Chaos overwhelms the Air element, spinning it out of control. This includes in- formation which conflicts with either their existing belief set or contradicts previous data. People love the Air energy. It’s a sort of letting go, sharing and a can-do energy. Air people are full of ideas and usually very easygoing for they can change on a dime. Air music is any music that swings, grooves and flows. From Opera to Modern and Latino, anything that is not repetitive and monotonous. Just like the music – Air energy loves different color, stripes spots and patterns. Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa were Air Predominant people staying ‘easy’ in the most complex of circumstances. 43 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Summary The Elements of Air Constitution Elements in life Rhythm, response, movement, cycles, flow, detachment (positive) and changeable. Elements in nature and body Touching, locomotion, gas, movement, rhythm, cycle, cold, light Strong elements Ability to switch between jobs, quick to learn and to do new things Profession Teaching, music, communication, multimedia, performance art. Body nature Small, petite, short, slim. Mental disposition Adapting, changing, easy going. Favourite phrases Take it easy. Tell me about it. Which one? They change all the time. Elemental spending Beautiful things, changeable 44 Favourite games and sport Long distance, marathon, cycling Emotional predominance Enthusiasm, ability to try new things.
    • Type of elemental love Object and reason can change the object of love frequently Climatic preference Loves warm, sunny climate. Hates windy, cold. Need of sleep Around 6 hours of rejuvenating sleep Need of food and drinks Light, warm and moist food items. Influenced easily by external factors. Negative environment Hyperactive, changeable, fluctuating Weaknesses according to others Others think I am too vague and fluctuating Things we hate Not having few different (variety in) jobs at the same time Mantras Yam Chakra Anahata Systems Vascular and nervous system Symbols Crescent, hexagon, wave or a small line. 45 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Lunch orders please Mark (Ether): I’d like a green leaf salad with no mayonnaise, slightly crisp carrots with a bit of broccoli, mineral water at 13 degrees and a golden delicious apple, crisp but not hard. Thank you. Lucy (Air) – Chicken salad please, with warm, steamed veggies. A can of sparkling mineral water and a small cake, thank you. Oh! or maybe I’ll have some Nori rolls with vegetables and a bowl of miso soup… but if it’s too heavy don’t bother, I’ll go without. Sam (Fire): Chicken salad sandwich with salsa sauce, chilli dip and a cup of coffee…and a can of cola. Make it snappy. Please. Donna (Water): I’d like a vegetable quiche with lamb cutlets crumbed with a bun and a bowl of soup please, if that’s ok – not too much trouble, can I help you carry it? I would also like to get something for Mary because she might be back from her meet- ing by then and she’ll be hungry. Steve (Earth): I’d like a steak sandwich (8 oz medium rare) with tomato ketchup and a side salad. I’d like two apples, one for now and one for after. Don’t let them over charge you for the apples. I’d also like a can of mineral water. 46
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    • Be In Your Element Fire Strong build, good muscle tone, average height. Fire people are gifted with the drive, the passion, the power to change, transform and evolve. Fire people pave the way for new life. Fire is the warrior, the king, the analyst and the strategist. Competition is the keynote of the Fire people. They thrive when there is a challenge and are easily bored when the status quo is unchangeable. If it is time to grow, change, innovate and improve your world, find a fire person, they will motivate and direct you wisely. When the change is undertaken, remember to let go or you may find yourself and your world under the continu- al microscope of change, change and more change. You won’t find a more direct – straight to the point element than Fire. Fire people love to face difficulties or challenges in life. Known for their courage and passion, Fire people pos- sess the drive. They are able to analyse situations and find solutions so the world of consulting, transformation and preaching has typically brought Fire types to the fore. Fire people tend to overuse Fire. Excessive analysis, competi- tion, judgment, speed, hot food, excess alcohol and stimula- tion agitate Fire. When this happens you’ll quickly see frus- tration, rudeness and anger. The warm hearted leadership of Fire gives way to power and force. In these times, to settle their imbalance, they need cooling – fast. This means a Water or Earth lifestyle needs to be injected into the Fire world to slow it, calm it and relax it. 48 If you want to see the latest technology, visit a Fire office. They love those new gadgets. This is one of their sources of ultimate pleasure. Strong colours bring out Fire and constant feedback and rewards keep the Fire alive.
    • When each of us loses balance in our Fire element, we be- come acidic, irritable and frustrated. We start to lick our old wounds, ask for apologies and send guilt in all directions. Our anger can take a steep curve toward vengeance and vio- lence if it is left unchecked. The Fire person, who chooses to stay in balance, will sur- round themselves with the following support. 1. The freedom to move, let go, and find spaces where Fire is needed (change) 2. Self Awareness – the ability to understand where Fire is simply not welcome – (healing, people management and human development) 3. Competitive environments – where laziness, lack of drive, confusion and uncertainty don’t thrive 4. Good food, and avoid excess of stimulants of any kind, including sugar, chocolate, wine, coffee and cigarettes. 5. Cool friends and environments that nurture and support recovery Fires love a fast, progressing, bright world. They want change, now, here. They love to have a challenging relation- ship, work and hobbies. Challenge fuels them. Environmentally, Fire people thrive on a moist, winter cli- mate, green trees, blue water and shades to cool them down. The ideal location for their life would be a waterfall sur- rounded by tall leafy trees, a cozy cottage with the fastest in- ternet connection and the latest laptop to deal with the inter- national stock market at the flick of a finger. Their choice of 49 holidays will be similar. Beaches, surfs, water sports, snowy mountains and rainforests are their usual destinations. Ev- erywhere awaits the challenges for them. Or else they create them. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Medically speaking, Fire people are sensitive around their liver, blood, gall bladder, small intestine and heart. This is because most of them overuse heat and hotspots of the body get affected easily. Usually they respond well to the cooling alkaline diets and early to bed routines. They contract rashes and inflammatory conditions easily. Most of these Fires suf- fer from heartburn, psoriasis or an itchy scalp. When in balance, they are warm, courageous, passionate and intense in everything. The Fire lifestyle is an active one. Many advertisements pro- moting healthy lifestyles use Fire lives as examples to the rest of the world. They run on the beach, look fantastic and can save the drowning dog. Fire is fast, so there’s a continual drive for improvement. Never let it rest -says Fire, and even at home though it might be considered critical, it is Fire’s af- fection. They invented the phrase “if you rest, you rust”. In their relaxed moments Fire-Predominant people are often exhausted. They will play till they break then need urgent repair, but once repaired they’ll say thanks and run out the door for more. Once they can control this tendency they en- joy a long, healthy life. They want the fastest best and big- gest and then want the slowest, easiest and most comfort- ing to recuperate. Warm, light atmospheres suit them in this situation. Fire imparts greater sensitivity to sight, which means when- ever you are looking around – the Fire element is awake. This also corresponds to the digestive Fire, so most prob- lems associated with digestion are Fire problems. The sacred symbol for Fire is the triangle with the point facing upward, sharp and direct. 50 Famous Fire-predominant people include Napoleon, King Arthur, Hercules, Zena -the warrior princess, Zorro, Super- man, Batman, Batwoman.
    • Summary The Elements of Constitution Elements in life Courage, analysis, solution, speed, transformation, drive, passion, intensity, heat and force. Elements in nature and body Seeing, modification, electric transformation, warmth, hot, light Strong elements Strong commitment, driven and passionate approach Profession Marketing, negotiating, analysis, solving, competitions Body nature Medium frame, good muscle definition. Mental disposition Analytic, fast, driven, passionate, competitive. Favourite phrases The world is too slow! Can I market it? I am passionate about it. That can’t be right? Elemental spending Luxury, latest equipment and tools 51 Favourite games and sport Sprints, gymnastics, rowing Emotional predominance Courage. Ability to understand and resolve. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Type of elemental love Once decided, it is intense and passionate Climatic preference Loves cool climates and waterfronts. Hates hot, damp conditions. Need of sleep Around 7 hours of rejuvenating sleep Need of food and drinks Strong appetite, need to eat/drink in time Negative environment Aggression, judgmental, violence, anger Weaknesses according to others Others think I am too compulsive and demanding. Things we hate Anything that is slow or gentle Mantras Ram Chakras Manipura Systems Digestion, metabolism, Symbols Upward directed triangle. 52
    • The Clothes I love Hi I’m Jane. I’m an Ether type. And I love, love, love clothes. I love clothes that make me feel like I am flying, or whole and full. I love clothes that fly in the wind and make me feel free. I love anything soft and gentle on my skin. I’m not big on jewellery, but I love diamonds and precious stones be- cause they speak to me. I’m Jenny. I’m Air. I love clothes that flow with me. I’m not a real fancy dresser, but great boots, tight jeans, tights and beautiful colours are important. I think and breathe through my clothes, they show off my personality so they are im- portant. My favourite stuff is Versace and Dolce Gabbana. Prada does it for me too, but usually I can find great clothes anywhere. I love Bali, the soft fabrics and the colourful t- shirts. Jewellery? Well, if it’s been designed by a designer I like, I will wear it. Also I wear sacred things, like crosses and charms. My name’s Robin. I’m Fire. For me, clothes represent a huge part of my presentation to the world. I think you dress for success, and because of that I have a large wardrobe of busi- ness suits and wild outfits. If I am at work I wear great suits and shoes but when it’s time to party, I let it all out. People are surprised at the “two me’s”. They think I am this pow- er dresser, but when I meet them out they see the fashion queen. I confess to being a fashion victim. Jewellery, if I can’t lift the carrots, I’ll wear it. Amellia here. I’m a water type. Clothes for me need to be comfortable. I don’t like anything tight and I am certainly not interested in fashion for the sake of fashion. I have some amazing outfits and love to dress well but it’s what is inside 53 a person that’s important, not the outside. I love wool and avoid synthetics at all cost. Jewellery? I have a charm that my Grandmother left me. I have a beautiful necklace that my mother gave me on my 21st birthday. They mean a lot to me. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Eileen, that’s me. I am Earth. Practicality is the key. I love good design that works for me. I love things that make me look who I am and I have clothes that I can wear anywhere. I am a bit conservative when it comes to lashing out money for fashion though. I love good things and buy them but I don’t go overboard. I love those things that last. It’s worth paying a few extra dollars for things of quality and style. I think fashion – for fashion’s sake – is a waste. Jewellery? I have some semi-precious stones mounted on a gold thread, and I have some family jewels that I love. I still wear the same ring that I got from my first boyfriend and I really think it makes me happy. 54
    • Water Soft flesh, heavy bones, curvaceous. Water people are the most caring. They symbolize kindness and compassion. Water people are born to love and nurse. They are amazingly sympathetic. It is Water that the Greeks referred to as the element that gives rise to life. Water occupies 70% of the surface of the planet. It has eroded the Grand Canyon, wearing things down rather than dominate them. Water always gets its way and it’s more an evolution than a revolution, collusion rather than a force. Water people are rarely driven to put the material aspects be- fore human considerations. Even a person whose element is not primarily water, will put on weight if he or she develops a deeply humanitarian philosophy. If it is time to deepen your human touch, to bring deeper lov- ing values to your family, or to learn how to nurture and care for yourself, find a water person to guide you. By nature, Water people are patient, tolerant, peaceful, friendly and al- truistic; also loyal, considerate and compassionate. Globally the element water protects the innocent, defends the rights of children, protects and stops the forest from annihi- lation. Water creates corporate care and ethics programs and builds child care facilities. It brings an ambulance when we need it and a doctor or nurse to help us when we are down. Water is universal bonding, a peace-loving element that will go to great lengths to protect the human aspect throughout. 55 You will find them in any business related to nurturing, car- ing, helping and compassion. Many nurses, chefs, careers are Water types. They love swimming and most water ex- ercises. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Water types tend to overuse their water element in life and indulge greatly in Water food (sweets, carbohydrates, oils), too many Water emotions (hoarding, attachment), too many Water excuses (I am slow), and Water relationships (depen- dant). During unbalanced periods, Water people start put- ting on weight and accumulating fluids and fat in wrong areas of their body. When any of us overdo our Water element, we gain weight, become sluggish, start feeling depressed, hopeless and inse- cure. It is easy for us at this stage to become dependent and clingy. Often when our water element goes into imbalance, we get addicted to food, especially the sweet variety. Sometimes in the struggle to keep the promise “I will be al- ways there for you” they forget about their own basic needs, and get dissatisfied with themselves. Slowly they build an extra fat layer to cover it up. Another water challenge is boredom. This is usually covered up with extended sleep. Unfulfilled Water people resort to compensating their missing pleasure through eating. They often end up with water retention, swellings in the face, hands and feet. A further problem is their tendency to cor- pulence, which can lead to metabolic diseases such as dia- betes. Medically speaking, Water people have a weak circulatory and lymphatic systems. Their adipose tissues need constant toning, their muscles can loose shape easily, pancreas may be over worked and respiratory system can be watery (mu- cousy). Water people go through the worst emotional shock when there’s violence or cruelty around them. If prolonged, this 56 pain can give them gout and high cholesterol. Even the stron- gest wrestlers – Water Predominant people – are not prone to immediate acts of violence. The Water person, who chooses to stay in balance in his or her element, will surround themselves with the following support.
    • 1. Plenty of opportunity to care for others. 2. Constant connection with friends and family, who are the essence of Water people’s life. 3. Rigorous and regular low impact exercises and sports. 4. Love – lots of tenderness and feelings. 5. Respect for the real world issues of being on time (early for appointments) and predictability. On a football field – one water player might rush in violent- ly to defend his or her team mate or another might block a tackle or spin a ball rather than chuck it. Water people are comrades -very friendly and supportive. We associate love with this Water element. Whenever we feel it, Water is present. Add a bit of Fire to Water, you get the chemistry of romance. Water Predominant people bring a great deal of compassion to the world. Water Predominant people feel that the world is harsh and are always defend- ing people, and their right to be passive. Those who stand for non-violence are using Water (need an abundance of this element) and once, priests and care-givers were strongly of the water element. Often those involved in right-to-life issues are Water Pre- dominant people. While their counterparts – Air people ar- gue for more choices, Water types meditate a lot. They love the passive connection and are drawn to such practices as Eastern Healing and well being. Water Predominant people don’t always make good busi- ness managers but do make great people careers like hu- man resources and nursing. They are ideal in environments where people need to care about themselves and others. Wa- ter types bring fluidity to life circumstance, and love envi- 57 ronments where people care. Taste is a water function. No wonder we go in for tasty food when we need some comfort. The symbol that most repre- sents the Water element is the circle, curves and oval shapes, smooth rounded and gentle. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Romantic, nostalgic people that they are, the waters gravi- tate to lakes and forests where there are smooth soft slopes and easy paths. When it comes to music, Water people love the violin, vocal harmony and lullabies. Summary - The Elements of Constitution Elements in life Love, compassion, connection, flexibility, attachment (positive) caring and sharing. Elements in nature and body Tasting, creation, liquid, moist, gentle, soft, heavy, cold, heavy Strong elements Ability to be “always there for you” Profession Caring, nursing, mothering, safety measures Body nature Curvaceous and circular body, soft, gentle, plump. Mental disposition Sentimental, caring, gentle, loving, slow, others come first. Favourite phrases Are you OK? Is it safe? It helps. It is OK to make mistakes. 58 Elemental spending Clothing, food, safety, comfort items Favourite games and sport
    • Swimming, gymnastics. Emotional predominance Love. Ability to sympathize. Type of elemental love Sentimental, attached, nostalgic Climatic preference Loves warm, dry climate. Cold climate can be depressing. Need of sleep Around 8 hours of rejuvenating sleep Need of food and drinks High flexibility in time and quantity In negative environment Attached, greed, obsessive Weaknesses Others think I am attached and worry easily. . Things we hate Not having anyone around to share your thoughts or food Mantras Vam or Vum Chakras Swadhishtana Systems Lymphatic, Plasma 59 Symbols Circle, curve or oval discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element On Family Peter (Ether): I truly want children, but they must come from love at the right time. I may not have children of my own, I might adopt, because there are so many starving children needing homes. I am not sure that I need to sire my own, I could just adopt some. I will see when the right moment comes. For now, I just hope that the world can understand the needs of the hungry. And I do have my career and lifestyle to consider, so we’d need home help, that’s essential. Bob (Air): Kids? I love kids, I would love to have a big family, 3 or 4 and they’d be so happy. I want to have them before I’m 30, so I can spend lots of time with them, go on holidays with them and teach them about art and music and dance. I’d love to have kids, to tell you the truth, I’d probably have more in common with them than most adults. Kids need attention, that’s what I think and you can’t trust that to others all the time. Dave (Fire): Absolutely, I want kids as many as possible. As long as I have a partner to take care of them, wash them, bring them up, take them to school, do the nappies. Only joking, ha gotcha. Na I love kids and it’d be really great. I can see us down the park playing ball, swim- ming riding bikes and great holidays – I’d be a great Dad, just got to find me the right woman. Paul (Water): It’s a big responsibility to bring children into this earth. Of course I want children but you need to be ready.You need to give them time and love – it’s no use just shuffling them off to school but a parent needs to devote a lot of their life to their children, create a safe and loving home. I think too many people jump too soon. I look after my sister’s kids sometimes – you know kids just need warmth and love. They are a little ratty sometimes but that’s kids. Gary (Earth):– A marriage needs children. And I plan to have at least 60 2. Two is good because they can keep each other entertained. The important thing is education. Kids need a good home and a sound education. I’ve booked our children into the best school I can find already. They aren’t born yet, but they have places reserved. It costs a mint but I think it’s worth it, don’t you, Honey?
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    • Be In Your Element Earth Heavy frame, strong bones, solid body. Security is a gift Earth people enjoy and this is felt through the roof over our heads, the money in our banks, the food on our tables, the clothes on our backs. Meeting obligations, making and keeping promises, being there when we need to be relied upon are the qualities of Earth elements. Earth people are solid, realistic and highly structured. They are not easily moved by the wind or storms so they are the clear thinkers when there is trouble afoot. The Earth repre- sents the capacity to make good what has been given to us all, our potential. Earth elements hold the world in place. It is responsible for the laws, the rules. It is Earth that determines the forces that create matter, hold us in patterns and make life predictable and safe. Earth Predominant people manage everything and organize others. If you are around an Earth person you may find your- self being organized. They tell you what is the most practical and time-tested method. By nature, Earth Predominant people are strong, determined, friendly and caring also loyal, considerate, and dependable. They always love to talk about the history –‘when I was a young lad…’. They remember the milestones and civil wars and when the highway was built. Earth people tend to overuse their Earth element. When this 62 goes off balance, they become ‘bossy’ and tell others what to do all the time. Once committed, an Earth person may fulfil his or her obligations at the cost of their life. Earth people are the most reliable among the five elements for punctuality and reliability in a material sense. This becomes their spiri- tual practice.
    • When any of us have an Earth imbalance, we become domi- neering, stoic and stubborn. We can become obsessed with others and this may look bossy. Love and affection of an Earth predominant person may feel like control. They want to know where people are and what they are doing. If you are with an Earth Predominant person you may find it a little annoying but it is actually their way of giving love. They believe everything has a place and things should always be in those exact places. Anything sitting in a wrong place, like a book or pen, will drive them crazy. No wonder others call them control freaks! If careless, overused Earth element in life can mean that Earth people slowly develop fibroid growths, enlarged or- gans, deposits in their blood vessels and ruptured arteries and organs. They can tolerate that kind of pain or suffering before they take any step. Their “Get on with it” attitude sometimes kills them. Environmentally, Earth people are designed to live in any climate. They need food at regular intervals, while an rou- tine keeps them happy. Earth people thrive on real world physical work like building, gymnasiums or managerial work –they thrive in it. Earth people are very trustworthy, and they expect the same from the rest of the world. They are true to their word and love others to be in integrity around them. They are deeply hurt by the breaking of trust or commitment. This to them is sacred. Solid environments suit the Earth Predominant persons. They are meticulous in their ideas and work out the fine 63 details before proceeding with everything. Take a holiday with an Earth Predominant person and you will find that they have everything planned out. The strength of this is that little is left to chance. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Earth Predominant people love property investments. They feel a kinship with construction and building. They will hire a good team of people around them to get the job done but really when it all boils down, Earth is in control. Because Earth Predominant people love order, they are at- tracted to shapes like squares and rectangles. The ancient Greeks built their buildings based on symmetry, proportion and order, a perfect motto for the Earth Predominant person. Everything fits into a mould for earth and so their ability to carry through any plan or idea is second to none. Once an Earth person gets their teeth into something, they’ll rarely let it go until it’s done (or dead). The Earth person, who chooses to stay in balance in their ele- ment, will surround themselves with the following support group. 1. Etheric visionaries and creative people to stimulate prog- ress 2. Space – strong furniture, oak and wooden floors 3. Gymnasiums where strength and stamina can be sus- tained 4. Protein rich food 5. Respect for creativity, philosophy and the enjoyment of free thinking and exploration Formality comes easy for the Earth people. They dig the idea that one and one make two and therefore always want to know the order of things, what goes where and who’s in charge of whom. Punctuality is their key, on time every time – consistency and predictability. What antagonizes the Earth Predominant person most are unruly situations – such as those that Ether or Air Predomi- 64 nant people thrive in. When there is a lack of punctuality the Earth Predominant person takes this very personally and finds it disturbing to his or her peace of mind. Also resis- tance is a real bug bear for the Earth Predominant person. Described often as a very stubborn character element, Earth gets extremely agitated when there is resistance or stubborn- ness..
    • The environment and lifestyle that most upsets and antago- nizes the Earth Predominant person is uncertainty, doubt- fulness and complexity, summarized as chaotic. This pushes every Earth button and earth people go to hell and back to try and remedy this chaos. The most common positive feedback Earth Predominant people get is that they are kind-hearted, supportive and ex- tremely practical. If you have an Earth person behind you, you can do almost anything. To a fine edge, Earth Predomi- nant people can be relied on for all details. Kind-heartedness is an earth quality. They will care for those they love and have taken responsibility for. It is often trans- lated as controlling but at the end of the day this control is about saving time, money and energy. Whereas some ele- ments learn by experience and waste a lot of precious earth time doing so, Earth tries everything to avoid such waste. To this end, Earth types don’t know when to let go. They hold and hold unable to sense the difference between support and interference. They always mean well. Earth people are tena- cious and wonderful business and personal partners because you can trust them. This raises the challenge for Earth Pre- dominant people because of their loyalty – sometimes they go outside the boundaries of contracts and relationships be- cause they can’t bring themselves to leave. Survival for them can become a double life. Earth Predominant people are traditionalists. They treasure family and history and hold onto air looms for years and years. Their favourite color is brown and their lifestyle can be best described as earthy, hands-on outdoor real world living. Don’t cramp an Earth Predominant person indoors – that’s a killer. 65 Finally, you’ll know the Earth Predominant person from one distinctive action, their handshake, a firm, big grasping friendly full hand grab. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Summary The Elements of Earth Constitution Elements in life Stability, support, reliability, grounding, establishment, firmness and solidity. Elements in nature and body Firmness, stability, density, hardness, weight, coldness. Strong elements Ability to stick to a plan and complete a project successfully Profession Management, organizing, administration, training Body nature Solid, firm tissues, rectangular shoulders, jaw & forehead. Mental disposition Routine & rules, systematic, factual, methodical, repetitive. Favourite phrases Let me do it. I am a firm believer. Be right always. Elemental spending Essential things, security, deposits, investments Favourite games and sport Weight lifting, body building, throwing. Emotional predominance Boldness. Ability to deal with responsibility. 66 Type of elemental love Solid, firm, possessive. Climatic preference Enjoy warm or hot very well.
    • Need of sleep Around 8-9 hours of rejuvenating sleep Need of food and drinks Quantity and time are fixed Negative environment Controlled, compulsion, rigid, stiff Weaknesses according to others Others think I am too dominating and stubborn. Things we hate Lousy routine, change of routine, mismanagement, unruly Mantras Lam Chakras Muladhara Systems Musculo-skeletal Symbols Rectangle or square 67 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element On Cars Ether: A clean, easy to operate car with less pollution Air: A car with GPS, dvd, music system and a phone Fire: A fast sports car (if possible really expensive and flashy) Water: A car that can carry everyone. Earth: An antique car or a car that can last a lifetime. 68
    • Summary All Constitutions Elements in life Ether Tranquillity, peace, freedom, stillness, calmness, openness, wisdom and creativity. Air Rhythm, response, movement, cycles, flow, detach- ment (positive) and changeable. Fire Courage, analysis, solution, speed, transformation, drive, passion, intensity, heat and force. Water Love, compassion, connection, flexibility, attachment (positive) caring and sharing. Earth Stability, support, reliability, grounding, establish- ment, firmness and solidity. Elements in nature and body Ether Hearing, Expression, Wisdom, Subtle, space, empty, Cold, Light Air Touching, Locomotion, Gas, Movement, rhythm, cy- cle, Cold, Light Fire Seeing, Modification, Electric, Transformation, warmth, Hot, Light Water Tasting, Creation, Liquid, Moist, gentle, soft, heavy, Cold, Heavy Earth Smelling, Excretion, Solid, Firm, stability, dense, hard, Cold, Heavy Mantras, chakras, systems & symbols of elements Ether Ham Vishuddha Brain, hormones Spark, long line. Air Yam Anahata Vascular, nervous Crescent, hexagon, wave or a small line. 69 Fire Ram Manipura Metabolism Upward directed trian- gle. Water Vam Swadhishtana Lymphatic, plasma Circle, curve or oval. Earth Lam Muladhara Musculo-skeletal Rectangle. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Strong elements Ether Ability to think deep, to accept new ideas, and see the whole picture Air Ability to switch between jobs, quick to learn and to do new things Fire Strong commitment, driven and passionate ap- proach Water Ability to be “always there for you” Earth Ability to stick to a plan and complete a project suc- cessfully Profession Ether Philosophy, charity, planning, creative, idea. Air Teaching, music, communication, multimedia. Fire Marketing, negotiating, analysis, solving, competi- tions Water Caring, nursing, mothering, safety measures Earth Management, organizing, controlling Body nature Ether Tall, long limbs, slim, slender. Air Small, petite, short. Fire Medium frame, good muscle definition. Water Curvaceous and circular body, soft, gentle, plump. Earth Solid, firm tissues, rectangular shape, shoulders, jaw, forehead. Mental disposition Ether Open, accepting, thinker. Air Adapting, changing, easy going. Fire Analytic, fast, driven, passionate, competitive. 70 Water Caring, gentle, loving, slow, others come first. Earth Routine, systematic, factual, methodical, repetitive.
    • Favourite phrases Ether Let’s talk about it. What is your philosophy? I have an idea. There is no right or wrong. Air Take it easy. Tell me about it. Which one? They change all the time. Fire The world is too slow! Can I market it? I am passionate about it. That can’t be right? Water Are you OK? I s it safe? It helps. It is OK to make mistakes. Earth Let’s do it. I can manage it. I am a firm believer. Be right always. Elemental spending Ether Books, music, philosophy Air Beautiful things, changeable Fire Luxury, latest equipment and tools Water Clothing, food, safety Earth Essential things, security Favourite games and sport Ether High jump, chess, magic, Air Long distance, marathon, cycling Fire Sprints, gymnastics, rowing, Water Swimming, gymnastics. Earth Lifting, body building, throwing. Emotional predominance Ether Openness. Non-judgmental. Air Enthusiasm. Ability to try new things. Fire Courage. Ability to understand and resolve. Water Loving. Ability to sympathize. 71 Earth Boldness. Ability to deal with responsibility. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Type of elemental love Ether Universal, selfless, impartial, unconditional. Air Object and reason can change the object of love. Fire Once decided it is intense and passionate. Water Sentimental, attached, nostalgic. Earth Solid, lasting relationships, possessive. Climatic preference Ether Loves warm, bright climate. Doesn’t like too hot/dark, damp hot or cold. Air Loves warm, sunny climate. Hates windy, cold. Fire Loves cool climates and water-fronts. Hates hot, damp conditions. Water Loves warm, dry climate. Cold climate is depressing. Earth Enjoy warm or hot very well. Cold is not exciting, but they don’t complain. Need of sleep Ether Around 5-6 hours of rejuvenating sleep Air Around 6 hours of rejuvenating sleep Fire Around 7 hours of rejuvenating sleep Water Around 8 hours of rejuvenating sleep Earth Around 8-9 hours of rejuvenating sleep Need of food and drinks Ether Small, light meals, occasional drinks Air Appetite is influenced by external factors Fire Strong appetite, need to eat/drink in time Water High flexibility in time and quantity 72 Earth Quantity and time are fixed and regular
    • Negative environment Ether Loneliness, isolation, empty, depletion Air Hyperactive, changeable, fluctuating Fire Aggression, judgmental, violence, anger Water Attached, greed, obsessive Earth Control, compulsion, rigid, stiff Weaknesses according to others Ether Others think I am impractical, as I see too much Air Others think I am too vague and fluctuating. Fire Others think I am too compulsive and demanding. Water Others think I am attached and worry easily. Earth Others think I am too dominating and stubborn. Things we hate Ether Confinement, boredom, routines, heavy exercises Air Not having variety at work, life Fire Anything that is slow or gentle Water Not having anyone around to share Earth Change of or lousy routine, bad management 73 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Your Element At Work To be yourself and play to your strength in any situation is a great power. This doesn’t imply that there’s something you can’t do, but it does imply that you are built for certain things on a long-term basis. If you have heavy bones, then marathon running may not be sustainable. One or two mara- thons might be ok, but after that you’ll wear out. Or if you’re fleshy – then the 100 meter sprint is not going to be good for you, nor is it fun. Knowing your constitution at work means that if you are invited to do a certain task, you’ll know how to do that task, your way. If you do it somebody else’s way, they may be happy about it, but you won’t be able to keep it up for long, it’s not your way. For example a lady who was Water element was asked to manage an office of lawyers. She did a sincere job of it, but they complained daily. They sent her to training programs and all manners of training but she didn’t change enough. She came to me stressed and broken. Her Water way of managing was not wrong nor could it be changed – it was just her way. Her company wanted something different. When she realized this, she left. Understanding your constitution means sustainable prac- tices, and authenticity. Each element, each constitution de- serves its own path, its own voice. Constitutional Analysis is an attempt to hand the responsibility back to the individual to manage their uniqueness. 74 The net result of all this is performance is fun, personal bal- ance, wellbeing and ultimately a less stressed and more ac- cepting world. We are confident that if you complete the reading, your entire approach to the community, business and self-awareness will be changed forever.
    • Productivity through Constitutional Analysis Inspiration in business means productivity. Unlike motiva- tion, which comes from the outside, inspiration comes from within. The source of inspiration is therefore the individu- al themselves. Inspiration comes when we feel right about what we do and how we work. From time immemorial, humans had close contact with na- ture. This revealed the truth of their life, health and happi- ness. Knowing your constitution gives you a deep awareness of your unique “way of doing things”. When we are in tune with our True Nature much of the stress of life falls away. We find a certain comfort in being ourselves. This is an extremely conscious approach to life and work. The ideal presented in this book is a celebration of who we are, rather than a book about how to change. Finding your constitution can explain 99% of what is happening to you in your life and therein help you find a best path to live with integrity to who you are. We all have all five elements so we can do any job. Stress, burnout and organizational violence come about because people of the wrong constitution are doing the job that does not suit them. The falseness of business styles causes huge 75 stress and communication breakdowns in business. Being productive, balanced and healthy, however, means working within in our Natural Constitution, and being in our Element. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Emma’s story Emma is a 37-year-old Water Predominant person, working for a debt recovery company for the past 10 years. The job offered her a fairly good pay and a 5-minute walk to the of- fice tempted her to take this job as she had a toddler to look after. Over the past few years Emma noticed she has been eating a lot and more frequently after returning home from work. Weight is therefore a critical problem. She started experienc- ing low self-esteem and a kind of worthlessness along with sluggishness and need for longer sleep. She didn’t have a lot of energy left to do exercise after work and home duties. She was trying to support the staff at the office in her own way –but the “Fire-Earth” predominant colleagues believed she was the ‘odd one out’ in the office. Her work was deval- ued and she was often the subject of office gossip. Gradually she developed mild anxiety, worried about everything, and started taking Lozac for her heartburn. In an elemental mind-body consultation she realized that her satisfaction comes from a Water environment (caring, nurs- ing, nurturing) and Water emotions (compassion and love). The last thing she wanted to do was getting money from helpless people, which was her business. She resigned and within two days she was offered a job that she could identify with. 76 Key: Light blue= Ether, Blue = Air, Red = Fire, Green = Water, Brown = Earth
    • Lisa’s Story Lisa presented a lot of chronic signs of stress during an el- emental mind-body consultation. In a medical sense she had serious levels of depletion (lack of energy, drive, minerals, fluids, nutrition etc). Sleeplessness, constipation, shifting body pain, thinning of hair and nails, extremely low libido, memory loss and cracking and painful joints were some of her symptoms. When she started suffering greenstick frac- tures and nerve pains she got serious about her health. Af- ter several investigations neurologists named her disease as ‘undiagnosed neurological condition’. Constitutionally she was a classical Air person. Lisa always weighed between 50 and 55 kilos. She could be described as slim, light and very chatty. In her teens and twenties she devoted her life to music and dance. However, she denied that she had any reason to be stressed. Her husband is very caring and made more than enough money. They owned houses, cars and boats. She was teach- ing at a school nearby because she loved teaching kids. Key: Light blue = Ether, Blue = Air, Red = Fire, Green = Water, Brown = Earth 77 In a consultation some interesting things came up. A brilliant schoolteacher and a devoted wife, Lisa had lots of friends as well. There were a lot of demands and it was easy to as- sume, Lisa was behaving like her Water mum in ‘giving’. She organized (Earth element skill) various kinds of gatherings discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element for her friends, husband’s friends and her 5-year old son’s friends. At school, most of the time, she was managing (Earth element skill) rather than teaching. This was not intentional. She was an experienced teacher. Experienced teachers usu- ally handled managerial roles as an unwritten rule. She just followed that. Once she realized the problem, she discussed it with her hus- band and took a 6-month break from the work. She rested, rejuvenated and took time to prioritise her life. Really honouring diversity What we want to encourage is the evaluation of the Con- stitutions, so a Business can manage the unique characters of each individual within it, rather than expect generic re- sponses to generic circumstances. We are driving away from value-based leadership toward a respect for individuality. Diversity means honouring uniqueness. We need diversity within business. Cycles are nature’s law. Everything changes from chaos to order, continuously. If the culture is Water based, stability will be the catch cry. If the culture is Fire based, most others in the business will burn out from constant change. The key is to know how to adapt, manage and live in fluctuating circumstances. Organizational cultures are spiritually corrupt unless they account for all five elements. Cultures must flex. The Fire Predominant people – needed for change management and innovation must be able to thrive. The Water Predominant people looking after the humanitarian sides need space and Earth, Air and Ether must be welcomed. Corporate culture 78 kills this freedom of spirit. These five elements must all have their offices in one place. This is truly the challenge of business life, but it’s absolutely essential to great corporate performance that it works well.
    • To manage in your element is not to deny it. If you are Ether, there’s no use in trying to quench that part of you because the company culture says, if it doesn’t add up, it isn’t worth talking about. An Ether Predominant person in that envi- ronment would absolutely guarantee misery. Constitutional analysis is all about managing by constitution to bring out the best in everyone. So we create a culture of no culture. In an environment where diversity is the key, constitutions are respected and jobs, duties and tasks are allocated accord- ingly. It goes further than this. Imagine a boardroom stacked with one constitutional type. Let’s say, they are all Earth. Then as a board, due diligence will be extremely accurate. But then a tall, wide eyed, etheric person comes in and starts celebrating the future possibilities of the business. The Earth Predomi- nant people would collude and have him or her thrown off the board. The shareholders would love the Ether Predomi- nant person because he or she is a visionary with big prom- ises. The Board itself would then need to invent and justify the departure of the Ether member, probably the Chairper- son, because they were absolutely out of their element in his or her presence. We want to change this so we all recognize the element of each person in a blink of an eye. Then, well the Etheric Chair person could speak to the future, the Earthy board could speak to reality, and everyone would see that both are essen- tial. This scenario is a real life case study in one of Australia’s largest public corporations. Belinda is a slim, tall woman with wide shoulders. She was working as a creative director for a private company. She had a window office with simple table and a set of draw- 79 ers over against the wall. When the new management and changes came, she was given a more important office in a more congested area of the building where people could see, speak and connect with her as they needed. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element They thought this a good idea in order for the work to flow faster and more accurately. She started contracting all the seasonal bugs and her sleep was affected. A Constitutional Analysis revealed she was an Ether pre- dominant person who, after the changes, got frustrated with congested space and started losing energy and vitality. She spoke with her new bosses and went back to the limitless- sky-filled large window. Now life is back to normal. David is a strong, broad shouldered stocky guy who loves his tennis. He’s the company sales programmer responsible for managing all the 200 delivery trucks, their drivers and their sales. In his office the walls are filled with charts and pins all over the place. The names of each route correspond with different areas and territories. His primary job is to manage the team, make sure they get their trucks filled with the right ice creams and that they are aware of any new point of sale deals the company is offering. He was promoted and did such a great job at building sales that they put him in charge of Training and Development for the sales team. Immediately, David started putting on weight. His tennis suffered and he injured his knee. Twice he lost his temper in a Training Program and threatened one of the staff. A Constitutional Analysis revealed David was an Earth pre- dominant person who, after the changes, became extremely stressed at the unpredictability of his new job. He wrote a training manual, a monthly system was put in place, they hired a professional trainer and David went back to his old self. Jenny was the General Manager for a public company. She 80 was of medium height, rounded shoulders and what we call fleshy with a soft, rounded body. Her employment track re- cord was a disaster. She had the final say in who was to be hired and nearly everyone she put on, did not make it past the trial period.
    • When asked, Jenny said, “I really care for these people, I re- ally want to give them a chance. Some people are really des- perate and I want this company to give people a fair go”. Constitutional Analysis revealed that Jenny was a Water Pre- dominant person. Her primary concern other peoples’ well- being. Unfortunately, the jobs were stressful and demand- ing. Her choices were made on the wrong criteria. So she hired a Personnel consulting firm to manage the interviews and make the selections. The company has not looked back since. In Constitutional Analysis: there is a simple philosophy: manage people to their constitution. Summary Ether Vision, Inspiration Air Communication, Networking Fire Marketing and Sales Water Human Resources Earth Management, finance Sustainability is the key Usually, in our constitution, one or two elements are stron- ger than the rest. For example we may be born with a lot of Fire and low Water. So we’ll have sustainable capacity in Fire heavy behaviour regarding lifestyles for instance and unsus- tainable behaviour in water heavy lifestyles (and work). This determines the elemental constitution of that individual, the range of abundant and limited elements in their constitu- 81 tion. Knowing someone’s constitutional make up indicates that you know their natural rhythm and understand their natural essence. It goes for all of nature’s creations. For ex- ample if there is a tree and it is high in the Earth element then it will be a strong tree in the face of nature’s challenges. But discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element if that tree is predominant in the air element it will blossom and flower many times over but will not be highly resistant to storms or virus that may come from time to time, it needs shelter and protection from those elements. Each and every person is born with a certain constitution, which means a body and mind suited to sustaining perfor- mance in diverse tasks. Everything is possible but sustain- ability is the key. For example would you ask a person to farm a field by hand if they weighed 50kg and had thin and brittle bones? In elemental analysis instead of considering people based on what they have done, say, or would like to do, or even seem qualified to do, we identify people based on what their constitutions can sustain. In this we are sug- gesting that somehow, in the process of birth, a template and a soul are born and the body most often reflects its unique- ness. Your body type – your constitution affects your capacity to perform certain functions on a sustainable basis. For example a person with a thin wiry build will not enjoy a job involving tremendous physical labour like carrying heavy boxes and loading trucks. Similarly if the person is well built, and they are asked to sit and count matches everyday, they will be- come stressed and ill. Their body types determine a natural disposition toward certain types of work. Everything under heaven has a purpose. Acquire the courage to believe in yourself. 82
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    • Ether at Work Doing business with Ether Predominant types is a very spe- cial treat. Ether Predominant people are kind, gentle and love tranquillity, peace, freedom and stillness. They thrive when the world is calm and open. They honour wisdom and creativity in others and themselves. Cramp their style and you are sure to meet significant resistance. You have to give them lots of space to think and feel and contemplate the outcome. This may be frustrating because it feels like you are wasting your time with them. Ether Predominant people will delay making any business decision always looking for perfect and finally settling for less when they recognize that perfect is a theory and actuality has blemishes. The strength of Ether in business is their deep thinking ideol- ogy. They are very open to new concepts and love a debate on anything theoretical. Sometimes nothing happens with Ether – it’s all hypothetical but this is a vital ingredient of any business, in fact for some it’s the key to success. Ether guarantees that you are seeing the whole picture. Even to the point of distraction they will open every window, ev- ery door and every possibility until exhausted you finally understand that there were more angles to this venture than first met your eye. Because of their big heart and this ability to think way out- side the square, Ether Predominant people gravitate to ca- reers where philosophy, charity, planning and conceptualis- ing are emphasized. Often we label the Ether Predominant person the entrepreneurial spirit – the free-thinking big ideas person, but of course they need a team of doers in order to 85 actually make anything happen in reality. Ether Predominant people thrive where the climate is warm and bright, if it’s too cool or too hot they melt or freeze into their cocoon and become unproductive. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element When doing business with Ether don’t be in a rush, it’ll turn them off and they will not make good decisions under time pressure. Be friendly and open and avoid any form of con- finement, strict rules and heavy approach. Ether Predomi- nant people respond well to diversity, new ideas and ques- tions like, “What do you think about that?” You’ll know when Ether Predominant people are engaged in the business, because they’ll say “lets talk it over” or “I have a thought” or “I think we all ought to discuss this openly” – of course what they mean is “your ideas stink and I have a better one, which I forgot to mention in our earlier debrief and I thought of yesterday after 6 months of working on the project and it’s probably going to change the direction of the whole businesses, but it’s a good idea and I want to find an environment to mention it where you won’t shoot me down for doing so”. This is Ether’s great skill – never stop creating – but unfortunately there’s no off button. Strangely with such a potentially antagonistic mindset of never ending ideas – it is judgment and criticism that is Ether’s Achilles heel. They shut down and run when they feel that the environment they are in is judgmental or con- trolling. It’s a managerial nightmare. Getting the best from Ether means openness yet, from a commercial viewpoint if the project keeps changing it’ll never be built and certainly not on budget. Not only this, but the people around Ether go mad trying to put their finger on exactly what they are meant to be doing and what they should do with all the work they did on the last idea which this new idea replaced. Ether Predominant people love gifts of books, music and anything to do with the philosophy of their passion. Mind you, they already spend half their spare cash on those things 86 so be careful not to duplicate. They love the world of magic and spiritual concepts and always love to play games that involve “what if”. Anxiety is a warning sign, when Ether hits the stress wall,
    • anxiety builds on anxiety to almost guarantee impractical and some times disastrous discussions that looked good in the short-term but have huge long term ramifications. That’s why Ether Predominant people need to manage their cool, they need lots of meditation, relaxation and things that al- leviate stress (sometimes sex is the cure all). But if you are in business with an Ether person, and he or she is not ad- equately relaxed (sex) then, be warned – your life and your business are in jeopardy, the next thing they do might undo whole years of effort. Spirituality that involves peace and compassion favour the Ether Predominant person, calming music and spacious countryside retreats – lakeside or rain- forest holiday homes are the perfect antidote to the stress of business life. If Ether Predominant people become deactivated, unmoti- vated and depressed then the beach with rolling waves, fresh air and lots of walks in the cool evening are the key. Make sure they understand the difference between the antidote for excess (stress) and deficiency (lost motivation). Excess needs pacification so the green and tranquillity of lakes and coun- tryside are the destinations. Deficiency is when the world has lost its charm and the thrill of being you has vaporized, work has become a drudge which is when Ether needs environments which uplift, stim- ulate and these are oceans, winds and starlit skies. By the way, if they are going to the beach, sun baking or extreme ex- ercises in the hot sun are not advised. Excess sun and Ether are a bad mix, and a guarantee for skin problems, anxiety and disease. Negotiations with Ether Predominant people take on a won- drous almost mystical feel. They love to trust and can’t get past their uncertainties unless there’s a good connection to 87 the other party. Cross them and they become tyrants. The words Ether love to hear are: easy going, new things, vari- ety, take it easy, anything else, another way, and best of all, “what do you think – feel about that?” discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Office environments that activate Ether are spacious, plain colours, silk, simple white and pastel. Calm music and open space activates the Ether in everyone. But it is Ether Predom- inant people who can live and work in these environments – long term. Environments that pacify Ether – if they have gone to excess are green, watery, gentle and cushioned. To the extreme, if Ether is in stress mode they need Earth beneath their feet, solid thick timber, deep walls, security and strength from both the space and those around them. One has to know the signs. Ether of all the elements can swing quickly from ex- cess to deficiency. The one environment will just not do. Ether needs options – the country home to pacify their stressed out overloaded self and the city home with space and open plan in order to stimulate their natural self into action. Some architects build multi-function spaces where rooms change within a house. In an office environment, Ether will walk around looking for a calming area, when their own office space (should be acti- vating) becomes just too much. It can be reflected in the cars they drive. An activating car will be a large four wheel drive or something that says – “get away from it all, and I love space” but this will only do if there is not enough activation of the Ether element in the work day. Most Ether Predominant people love the warm cozy comfort of a luxury car: the warm seats, the smell of comfort and the smooth music playing in the quad speaker stereo. This is a car for the highly used Ether Predominant person – looking to pacify themselves – a meditation on the move. Ether Predominant people are symbolized in the animal 88 world by the human mammalian: the Ape. More evolved than the animals they co-habit with, yet, in the wild it is only their brain that can guarantee their survival. Under equipped in the speed and armour departments – the human mammal relies on sensory skill and premeditated plans to out-wit the
    • rest of its species. Just like in the human mammalian species there are thousands of varieties – from smaller and faster to bigger and more powerful. If Ether Predominant people are going to succeed in busi- ness, they need to embrace certain absolutes. The word itself conjures resistance in an Ether reader. But absolutes means that there are keys to success for Ether Predominant people in the business world, that make being Ether an absolute guaranteed winning edge. These keys are: Focus on willpower – willpower is mind over matter, learn- ing to concentrate on being in one place, mind, body and heart. Ether can drive the car, dream of next year’s oppor- tunity, talk on the mobile phone and carry on adjusting the car seat, all at the same time. It all seems to happen at once but to the observing passenger it feels like there is nobody at home, back seat drivers were invented to help Ether drivers remember when to turn left. Goals – now for some of the other elements goals are natural. In fact as you’ll see later for some elements we recommend that goals be dropped. But Ether, well – life can be lived in two ways: virtual reality and reality. It can be lived in your head or in actuality. Both are good, but if Ether has the am- bition to create in the real world, not just dream and dream of how it could be, or should be, then, goals, timelines and deadlines that force their hand into decisions and conclu- sions are essential foods. Discipline and schedules are foreign to Ether. Everything gets done eventually in the Ether world but the trouble is that life is ruled by other elements too. Other people need to interact with Ether, and those interactions demand some sort of predictability for both commercial and emotional comfort. 89 So Ether needs to have sympathy for the worlds of others where time is a regular consideration, deadlines and profit are important and change is not always good. Finally, as mentioned elsewhere in this book nutrition is the discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element key for Ether Predominant people. Consistent meals, snacks, and a good regular diet regime with not too much variation will ground and support the beautiful free spirit and open hearted lifestyle of the Ether business person. Summary - Ether element at work Business of elements Philosophy, entrepreneur, plans, creativity, ideas, openness Actions to impress your Ether boss Always go back to your philosophy. Be open. Accept. Words to impress your Ether boss Open, the whole picture, philosophy, charity, meditation, humanitarian Feng Shui to inspire your Ether employees Open spaces, large windows/doors, skylights, gentle music Hooks for Ether elements What do you think? Upgrading office software The new thing is here! Identifying the need for upgrading The office that supports the Ether element Spacious, lots of gentle sunlight, subtle colours, soft surfac- es The feedback that inspires the Ether element It was deep and subtle 90 News or behaviour that stifles the Ether element Stiff structure, extreme emotions, heavy pressure, change- ability Ether’s most challenging work colleague
    • Overpowering Earth, sentimental Water, over-demanding Fire, shifty Air Things that the business should use Ether to do Planning, advisory Things that the business might find someone else to do. Managing people, cleaning up after, forceful marketing, an- swering to millions of questions Music that Ether will thrive on Subliminal, low volume, classical instrumental Colours that will inspire Ether Sky, subtle, pastels Ether Predominant people David Duchovny, Pearce Brosnan The Ether mind always asks Why. Why did it happen? – the big picture Benefits of the Ether element wisdom, creativity, openness, emptiness Challenges of the Ether element Depletion, absence, memory loss, vague, confusion, anxiety, fear, delusion Building personal energy Walking, moving, space, passes, neck and scalp massage, nerve exercises, absorption, nature Leakage of energy comes in the following Confusion, anxiety, delusion, 91 Holding personal power Environment, calm, self-confidence Keys to success discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Goal setting, focus, routine and schedule, nutrition, peace of mind How to activate Ether elements through activities Meditation, dark room, choosing things thoughtfully. How to activate Ether elements through colours & design White, simplicity, plain colours, silk, white or pastel colours How to activate them through nutrition & cooking Fasting, spinach, flowers, raw, salads How to activate them through herbs and therapies Brahmi, Gotu Kola Increasing Ether element Opening, inspiration, vow of silence Decreasing Ether element Mobilizing, moistening, stabilizing, warming, grounding 92
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    • Air At Work Amazing – that’s the expression people use when doing business with Air Predominant people. How can you have so much happening, keep hold of the reins, have so many balls in the air and be so calm? While the rest of the world struggles with one or two tasks at the same time – air thrives on hundreds. The energy can be at best frenetic, but Air Predominant people love the multi-task- ing approach. They love it when there are a hundred things happening at once even though they may complain “no one takes responsibility around here” but it’s really impossible to take responsibility around an Air Predominant person. They want a finger in every pie and if it’s not happening fast enough they’ll have it done, completed, delivered and paid for before the office arrives for work next day. Working with air is such a creative experience, the true lateral thinker, the hands on manager Air people are those leaders who in the movies have twenty assistants running behind them with mobile phones ringing at a frenetic pace even as the star signs autographs and is cool. No matter who you are, around an Air Predominant person in business, you al- ways feel like he or she is going to step in and take over – it’s like being an assistant rather than a team member. The strength of air in business is this potent hands-on style. It is ideal in creative and unpredictable environments where customer service is unique or where design and creativity require constant input. Fashion and magazine management where opinion rather than fact determine the look and feel of 95 the magazine requires air leadership because the leader has to be in 100 places at once, guaranteeing the look and feel is consistent. Air Predominant people love the rhythm of life, movement discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element of any sort is a joy for air, the challenge-response cycle is their bliss. So, Air Predominant people thrive around people especially where ideas and thoughts and concepts are being engaged and developed. Rather than philosophical in ap- proach Air Predominant people are practical, they just love twenty ideas more than two. The irony for air is their detachment. They may be thinking one thing one day and the complete opposite the next and they don’t even blink. For air, ideas and thoughts are just variables, pawns on the chess-board and they are worthless apart from the stimulation in the quest for right answers. What an exceptional ability! Being receptive to 100 differ- ent possibilities, no urgency to choose one, an ability to al- low those ideas to co-exist and yet, productivity happens. Changeable you might ask. Air Predominant people can change on a dime. They truly embrace diversity but never really let go of control, no matter how much an Air Predomi- nant person may say –“I want you to take responsibility for this” they never really let go. So, in the long-term, people just move to an organic style of interaction, nothing is concrete until the Air manager says so. Another notable asset for Air – is the speed at which they learn. Talk about a sponge for information, Air can hear it one day and be teaching it the next. Their dexterity makes them ideal communicators – the elements who invented in- teractive leadership, the perfect teachers (can grow staff well because they are never far from the action). Air is creative. Always innovating, holding hands and guid- ing people. If the staff is open to it, they’ll learn so much and the result is exceptional. Air Predominant people iter- ate solutions by working with those people who are at the 96 coalface. Air Predominant people really make management a people experience. However, be mindful that it can be demotivating for highly skilled and experienced people to be “interfered with” all
    • the time. Air sees no problem with stepping across the lines of territory of possessiveness around whose work is whose. They just love the process, the cycles of think-do-work and so can’t even imagine the possessive nature of those whose work has come to reflect an element of their personality. Air says – “Just change that a bit” – worker thinks – “I designed that all day yesterday”. Air learned something and thinks, “we can improve that” and the worker invested their heart and soul into it. One is attached the other is not. Because of this wonderful skill at multi-tasking, Air Predom- inant people gravitate to business areas that provide vari- ety. Rather than manage a business, Air Predominant people manage projects – they prefer outcomes that can be seen and are variable, many projects rather than one business. Air Predominant people are also prolific in the performing arts, dancers, artists and musicians, where skill and diversity cre- ate a dynamic complex yet team orientated environment. Since air moves gracefully between situations they make great travellers, able to move here and there in a moment. Teachers and trainers whose life is orientated around being available for many people at once, different audiences every day – Air can sustain the demands. Adaptable, continuously changing and innovative, Air Pre- dominant people are determined. They hold onto the result, even if the process looks complex they are always commit- ted to the outcome. Air thrives in warm sunny climates, but easily depletes and exhausts itself in windy and cold envi- ronments. Air Predominant people struggle in places where such extremes exist, like Canada – hot summers and frozen work performance. Air is symbolic of the bird world. They are able to fly around 97 to make good, taking seeds from place to place, collecting the food for their young and returning faithfully to nest. Birds fly south for the winter – unlike the bear – birds know that cold frozen and windy climates are no place for them to thrive. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Sometimes people call Air Predominant people air-heads. That means they appear scattered. But Air Predominant people are not scattered in their own mind, they just explore options and more options and alternatives and more alterna- tives. Air is about the dance – Air Predominant people are not scattered when it comes to the outcome, their approach instead of direct is to explore and touch a million points – but the result is never in question. If you want to be on the right side of air in any negotiation or sales situation know that they love the following language: “Hey take it easy,” or “tell me about it” (they love to share their thoughts verbally). Or “which one do you love?” Or “you are so adaptable”. In business they’ll sign the deal and on the way out the door be talking about the next deal or even changing the last one. If they buy a home, they are look- ing in the paper for another new home before they move in. Always looking for the options, always creative and always inspirational, Air Predominant people are the multi-skilled multi-faceted ones amongst us. In closing a deal with an Air Predominant person, let them choose. If you narrow the options they may feel that’s there’s only one choice. In your opinion there may be only one, but air loves the freedom to choose. Avoid lack in variety, my way or the highway is absolute guarantee of lost respect with Air Predominant people. They eventually talk themselves into their own right answer. Remember options and options, ben- efits and benefits and most important of all, learn to listen. When it comes to surprises, Air Predominant people love them. They love special treats and when it comes to gift time, well it might be better to give them a gift voucher, what is great today may be worthless to them tomorrow. The first question Air Predominant people ask is where did you get 98 it? What they actually mean is – “If I don’t like it, which I do, but if I don’t, can it be changed?” Without that information, Air Predominant people cannot embrace the moment fully. Air Predominant people are built for speed and endurance.
    • So if you go out at night with an Air Predominant person be careful for you may not get home till breakfast. They can dance all night but can’t eat more than a mouthful before they are satisfied. So if you are planning an evening with an Air Predominant person – quality of food not quantity is the key and then entertainment and activity is their passion. If you are doing business with air – then join them in the dance, not too heavy on the facts, let them ask – give them time to talk themselves around, enjoy and keep it light until they are ready to dig in. Their questions will be so exact you’ll be stunned at the accuracy. Like a bird circling above waiting for the right moment, Air will await and prepare before div- ing into the hard core of the days business. The challenge in business for Air Predominant people is the impression they give the world that they are too vague, too airy and always fluctuate. It is not so really, but to the lion, the bird circling above the prey is wasting it’s time. Air Pre- dominant people need to understand this about themselves so they are not drawn into the Fire too quickly so that criti- cism doesn’t cause them emotional upset. When you are around an Air Predominant person and they say “I am so confused” then you are witnessing the result of stress in their lives. Confusion is air’s answer to exces- sive stress. This confusion can eventually lead to hyperac- tivity, instability and over changeability (no commitment). Pushed even harder with more stress, and air begins to have panic attacks, fear can overwhelm them and their lives, mind and work environment can become cluttered and scattered. Nothing gets done. Now, this is a big problem for Air. First they take on far more than any other element could consider in a day, and then – if they go into excess – i.e. they overdo their Air element – they 99 turn their day into a knotted ball of string, huge amounts of activity but going around in circles. Even one such experi- ence in an office can undermine authority of Air for the fu- ture. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Air needs lots of Earthy support and it has to be cut off where Earthy management can stop the spin and get the job done. An Air person often doesn’t even know that he or she is stressed except for a little bit of isolation they may feel once the others withdraw. Earthy management can draw the line and air must be able to accept that at some point, ideas and options must give way to productive discipline and staff moral. Now, if air is in excess the perfect space for air is amongst the green grass of home. A warm slowness, logs on the fire, a cozy comfy couch, strong arms and a plate of Earthy veg- etables (even meat) will bring balance. Far away from digital and electronic devices, a log cabin in the middle of nowhere. No real effort – just a time to be still and let the mind calm. Yoga classes on a daily basis are good and plenty of water can help balance a spinning Air. Long warm (not too hot) baths and spa treatments with oils can also help calm the excess of air. The ideal office to activate Air is busy open plan, where peo- ple can see and talk and share – but there must be variety – mixed temperaments, colourful walls and active phones. Air thrives on the variety of life. But in places where the energy is intense and frenetic, Air needs calm. Unpredictability is not good for Air, threatening or unsafe spaces are detrimen- tal. If it all gets too much, Air Predominant people end up in the gymnasium at lunchtime preferably doing aerobics, fit- ness dance classes or on a tread mill for half and hour. If Air people are not active in their work (deficiency) then living near flowing water, playing music and running long distances is great (their home can become a musical night- mare for the neighbours). Diving into music, photography and the arts is an Air bliss stream. But if Air is working to ex- 100 cess at work then stability at home is the key. Warm, sunny, windless places with lots of still water and smooth rhythm, predictable and safe, tranquil and at peace.
    • Summary - Air element at work Business of Air elements Communication, inspiration, adaptability, variety, co-ordi- nation, rhythm Actions to impress the Air boss Bring variety. Go with the flow. Show your adaptability. Words to impress the Air boss Easy going, new things, variety, take it easy, anything else, another way Fung Shui to inspire Air employees Curious things, surprises, rhythmic patterns, variety Hooks for Air elements Do you want to tell me? Upgrading office software What do you think? Discussion, information gathering The office that supports Air elements Curious things, color patterns on walls and floor, different colours The feedback that inspires Air elements It was a brand new style News or behaviour that stifles Air elements Stiff structure, extreme emotions, heavy pressure, insecurity Air’s most challenging work colleague 101 Overpowering Earth, sentimental Water, over-demanding Fire, vague Ether Things that the business should use Air elements to do Multimedia, communication discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Things that the business might find someone else to do. Managing people, cleaning up after, forceful marketing, get- ting deeper into a subject Music that Air will thrive on Pop, fast rhythms Colours that will inspire Air Stripes, repetitive patterns Air Predominant people Gwyneth Paltrov, Kylie Minogue The Air mind always asks What? What happened – looking for solutions Benefits of Air elements Movement, options, circulation, action, adaptation Challenges of Air elements Stuck, fluctuating, unstable, worry, hypersensitive, depres- sion, unstable, wrong movement, aches Building personal energy Mind control, nerve control, power breathing, face exercises, silence, stillness Leakage of energy comes in the following Overwhelm, change, lack of nurturing, giving it away (seek- ing approval) Holding personal power Food (protein), nervous control, confidence in Karma Keys to success 102 Nurturing, recovery, stillness, kindness to self, not too many changes How to activate Air elements through activities Communication, enquiring, relaxation, requesting, asking,
    • searching, walks. How to activate Air elements through colours and design Yellow, patterns, rhythm, waves How to activate them through nutrition and cooking Eating on time, cabbage, broccoli, bitter tastes, drying How to activate Air elements through herbs and therapies Aloe, bitters Increasing Air elements Mobilizing, motivation, deep breathing Decreasing Air elements Opening, moistening, stabilizing, warming 103 discvoer the real potential within you
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    • Fire At Work If there’s a need for a competitive culture, Fire is your ele- ment. They are ideal in these situations – they love a chal- lenge. Even in a Yoga class, Fire Predominant people are looking around to see who they can compare themselves to. It makes for growth, fast change, transformation and drive. Sometimes people feel that whatever the work they are doing, it could not be what God intended for them. They blame the work. The missing piece here is not what is wrong with the work they are doing, but rather understanding the work they are performing right now in the context of their destiny. Highly motivating Fire Predominant people can burn oth- ers out with their high energy and high expectations. They push and they push the goal in mind and sometimes the hu- man cost and the nitty gritty details get left behind. Fire Pre- dominant people are the keys to change, to getting through the tough times and to growth in the good times. If you are negotiating with a Fire Predominant person keep the energy alive and supportive. If things become slow and gentle and soft and spacious they’ll switch off. Language that Fire loves to hear is: precise, sharp, clear, pic- ture this, powerful, intense, holiday and retire. This is ener- gy, yet Fire knows the gift of calm relaxed lifestyles. Appeal to Fire by agreeing with them on their ideas that the world is too slow (they will spend a lot of money to help speed up progress). Therefore technology is a Fire birthday and they love time saving devices even if, after the fiddling about, 105 there’s potentially more potential for lost time. In the office, Fire Predominant people like strong color, viv- id and sharp definitions, activated square shapes and lots of light. Energy in a Fire office is like the New York stock discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element exchange and Fire Predominant people can do that job for a lifetime whereas most other elements would struggle in a week. When there is deficiency in Fire, in other words, there’s nothing to compete with, Fire needs to activate this deficiency through exercise, action and direct application to task. Fire thrives in comparison so most biographies of inspi- rational people are read by Fire. It needs mentors it respects and can grow to match and then another and another. Fire needs role models and mentors they can compete with. If there are situations that need understanding, analysis and resolution Fire can do it best. They love the sprint, the physi- cal middle distance: rowing and gymnastics, human against the elements sporting environments and therefore thrive in the marketplace. If it’s Christmas gifts you are looking for, remember Fire loves technology, faster and better (not bigger), things with luxury appeal and tools to make life more functional. Be cautioned though, Fire in excess leads to aggression and violence. If there’s not Fire and passion at work they bring it home with lots of expectations and energy. The wonder- ful domestic bliss they create with their big heart can turn sour if their Fire is not being consumed in the outside world of work and sport. Fire is always asking “when will it hap- pen?” or “when did it happen?” Time is life to Fire energy. Stress for Fire results in illness. Acidity, joint problems kid- ney stones and blood pressure, Ulcers and tension can lead to many side affects even stroke and heart failure. Like in a pressure cooker, pressure can build and build while the in- ternal components struggle with the overload. 106 Always prone to excess, Fire Predominant people can become ill, if there is too much of a good thing. The ideal balance for Fire during periods of excess is watery places. Places of tran- quillity and calm, with soft trickling water, Zen gardens and
    • warm baths. Fire Predominant people thrive in cool water- front environments. They swing to excess and unhappiness in hot, damp places. The animal of nature that best represents Fire is the lion. King of the jungle – or so it thinks, its pride and ego defend its domain. A voracious appetite, a ruthless capacity to do what must be done, stealthily and fast, the lion is in many ways the most vulnerable of animals in the jungle yet, in the right conditions – a powerful fighting machine. If you are in business with Fire, celebrate the passion and purpose this element brings to your world, give them the lead on new development and take it back when the hard yards are crossed. Keep the details out, look at the big pic- ture and be sure not to step in their way. Pictures paint a thousand words for Fire, they can’t wait for the slow people to catch up so be sure to have plenty of first aid on hand if you are working with them. Fire remains a wonderful spir- ited element that can transform and change any situation in the shortest possible time. The keys to success for Fire Predominant people are: mod- eration, middle path, calmness of mind, and plenty of physi- cal exercise. Big hearted and caring, Fire Predominant people are always ready to help, you only need a gentle challenging gesture, glance or a word of request and they’ll be on to it. They are also prone to burnout. Excessive play, work, demand, relax- ation well, fire people can become obsessed with anything. Fire Predominant people are not the ideal ones to be in charge of your business. The reason is that Fire Predominant people are built for speed, for surging, challenging and continuous 107 rigorous examination. They come with new ideas, new ways to do the same old thing. People just can’t keep up with Fire management. Water, Earth, Ether and Air all struggle to sus- tain the pace. Not only that, the market is quite often unable to keep up with the changes. Business thrives, profit wise at discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element least, on doing something repetitively. Fire would have no part of it, but the mantra would be to do it, change it, do it, and change it again. Like being permanently in transforma- tion, Fire never stops innovating. The strength of Fire is tenacity, intensity, analysis and cre- ative application. Ideal where marketing is concerned or change analysis – where time is of the essence. Just do it, is a Fire energy slogan. Jump and see says Fire. Summary - Fire elements at work Business of elements Marketing, motivation, analysis, negotiation, power, inten- sity Actions to impress the Fire boss Be precise, clear, forceful and sharp, and use illustrative phrases. Be warm. Words to impress the Fire boss Precise, sharp, clear, picture, powerful, intense, holiday, re- tire, relax Fung Shui to inspire Fire employees Strong colours, sharp corners, speed, lighting Hooks for Fire elements Can you see it? Upgrading office software What after upgrading? Analysing the pros and cons 108 The office that supports Fire elements Strong colours, latest technology, and possibility for promo- tion
    • The feedback that inspires Fire elements It was efficient and precise News or behaviour that stifles Fire elements Stiff structure, extreme emotions, changeability, insecurity Fire’s most challenging work colleague Overpowering Earth, sentimental Water, shifty Air, vague Ether Things that the business should use Fire people to do Marketing, strategy making Things that the business might find someone else to do Managing people, cleaning up after, answering to millions of questions, getting deeper into a subject Music that Fire will thrive on Romantic, war songs Colours that will inspire Fire Bright and strong shades Fire Predominant people Russell Crowe, Mel Gibson The Fire mind always asks When? When did it or will it happen? Relevant or not. Benefits of the Fire element Heat, change, transformation, judgment, passion, analysis Challenges of the Fire element Acidity, joint problems, stones, frustration, anger, reactive ulcers 109 Building personal energy Associations, moderation, stillness, listening, Tai chi, trans- ference discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Leakage of energy comes in the following Frustration, anger, acidity, over-exertion, trying too hard Holding personal power No ego, stillness, core values Keys to success Moderation, active, not reactive, open heart, love How to activate Fire elements through activities Exercise, action, application, interaction, analysis, compari- son. How to activate Fire elements through colours and design Bright colours, sharp edges, warmth, digestives How to activate them through nutrition and cooking Chewing well, spices, herbs, vitamins, enzymes, pickling, fermenting How to activate them through herbs and therapies Peppers, garlic, steam, sauna, working out Increasing Fire elements Warming, encouragement, sweating Decreasing Fire elements Opening, mobilizing, stabilizing, cooling, drying 110
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    • Water at WORK In business, nature and nurture are often in conflict and the motives for profit and wellbeing are sometimes challenging each other. Water represents wellbeing in true sense of the term. When you are working with Water elements: always put people first. That way you can be assured of their in- volvement and probably achieve the profit you desire. The profound gift Water Predominant people bring to busi- ness is bonding. They connect people, nurture and build amazing loyalty. They are ideal maintenance managers, slow paces, highly predictable and generous, the company and you will float along with many good employee feedback reports. Water Predominant people want to know how what you are doing will affect people. They see performance and produc- tivity from a human angle and love the ideals of compassion and humanity. Water Predominant people build flat compa- ny structures – trying to empower even the most challenged employees to happiness and reward. If you are selling or negotiating with Water Predominant people, use the words: feel calm, peaceful, bathe, waves, and business ethics. In an office, Water Predominant people are activated by cooling colours, fluid designs, flexible objects (plants and lamp stands) circles ovals and smooth, soft fab- rics. If Water is being highly active at work, then the home may become almost slothful. Water can really let go when it needs to, creating a lifestyle akin to the couch potato. Books, tele- 113 vision and fluids take the Water Predominant person to paradise and back but like all the elements too much can be detrimental. If the Water element is not activated at work then we find a very caring partner at home. Some would say smothering if done to excess. The Water Predominant person discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element likes to be right and rarely stops before things happen the way they want. Stress for Water means withdrawal. Now on the couch add a bowl of ice cream and some chips and Water people feel like they are on the inside and the world is on the outside. Its an easy existence for Water under stress, but this is incompat- ible with business success and achievement. Possessiveness, attachment and holding on are signs of a Wa- ter person gone into excess. Balance is required. Water Pre- dominant people can become self-righteous, which means they are in serious overload, because Water people’s last stand against collapse is to become self-righteous. Be careful with this indication of stress. The perception many people have of this caring constitution is one of deeply attached and a worrier. This may, from time to time be the truth, but what is true caring other than attach- ment and concern. It is a matter of balance, anything done to excess can be smothering. If you want to get on the good side of a Water Predominant person, speak these words, slowly: “Are you ok?” “Is this safe?” “It helps if ……” When its time for a birthday gift, Water people love cloth- ing, food and anything that makes life and the world for that matter – a safer place. Rarely do Water Predominant people enjoy being alone, with no one to care for it can be a night- mare for them. If it’s a one person office, Water may find it hard, and if there are numbers and numbers then definitely Water Predominant people will find it a long-term struggle to stay healthy (not impossible – just not natural). 114 When Water Predominant people go to an extreme they put on weight. That in turn makes it hard for them to be active which means they put on more weight. That makes it harder to be active and the cycle goes on.
    • Water people are very proud. First it is a willingness to let go. When something isn’t working, rescue just breeds des- peration. When it’s time to let go, it takes a lot of energy and courage (Fire) and Water people do have that within them. Further, they must acknowledge that a lot of the world cannot understand the feminine side to success and achievement. As a strong representative of compassion and peace Water people will often be accused of being too gentle or too kind or easily manipulated. That is the truth for Water, they are kind and vulnerable to manipulation but that is something they know and understand and their compassion guarantees that the world will get over it. Water Predominant people of all the elements must under- stand the process as being different and special, human and powerful. Water takes a long time to wear down rock, but because it stays consistent it does wear down and it always achieves its end. Water easily suffers depression in cold and damp environ- ments. You find that in Northern climates where the winters are long and dark, there are many Water Predominant peo- ple who suffer enormously. Once they would have migrated south because the environment dictated it, now they defy nature. Water Predominant people need to be compassion- ate with themselves first Water. Warm and dry is heaven for Water. If work is not stimulating a Water person, they don’t feel that they have enough opportunity to give care to people, then, it’s vital they activate their Water element in their personal life. Taking a massage, stretching in a gentle yoga class, keep- ing the fluids up and joining people who have their hearts in the right place are typical Water. Being in nurturing envi- 115 ronments with their partner, so they can both celebrate the beauty of the Water being. Water people thrive in sporting environments involving swimming and steadiness like archery. Keeping the mind discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element active through study and maintaining a healthy physical emphasis without emphasis on weight but more on healthy food, good air, cardiovascular exercise and lots and lots of love. In a world where numbers and facts often dominate the business environment, Water Predominant people are like a breath of fresh air. Not always in alignment with maximum profit goals, they need to be mindful of the sort of culture they work in. And for those who employ Water people, they too need to be conscious that if they listen to Water – in the end they’ll surrender profit for feeling good. It’s the chal- lenge the world has right now to find just this balance. Water is always there to care, even if it costs them the job. Water elements believe people and their wellbeing come first. The Buddha was a Water guy. Summary - Water elements at work Business of elements Safety measures, connection, care, gifts, complements, re- sponsibility Actions to impress the Water boss Stress on how you care about things, how you feel, the abil- ity to share. Be gentle. Words to impress the Water boss Feel, calm, peaceful, bath, sweet, waves, massage, business Fung Shui to inspire Water employees 116 Water themes, round corners, soft cushions, crystals Hooks for Water elements How do you feel?
    • Upgrading office software Did you back it up? Safety measures and precautions. The office that supports Water elements Soft cushions, water features, food and drinks, a big custom- er care department The feedback that inspires Water elements It was extremely touching News or behaviour that stifles Water elements Stiff structure, heavy pressure, changeability, insecurity Your most challenging work colleague Overpowering Earth, over-demanding Fire, shifty Air, vague Ether Things that the business should use Water people to do Customer care, support for employees Things that the business might find someone else to do. Managing people, forceful marketing, answering to millions of questions, getting deeper into a subject Music that Water will thrive on Sentimental, love Colours that will inspire Water Watery shades, blue and greens Water Predominant people Estella Warren, Oprah Winfrey The Water mind always asks Who? How did it affect people? Are they ok? 117 Benefits of Water elements Magnetism, bond, coordination, connection, nurture, love, attachment discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Challenges of Water elements Sluggish, weight gain, procrastinate, slow, greed, clingy, at- tached, retention, clogged Building personal energy Health program, exercise, posture, magnetic walking, ten- sion exercise, memory skills. Leakage of energy comes in the following Hopelessness, unmotivated, laziness, low metabolic life- style Holding personal power Focus on result, association, clear motive Keys to success Vision, chunk it down, healthy food, personal trainer How to activate Water elements through activities Water Massage, stretching, fluids, relationship, connections, sharing, caring. How to activate them through colours and design Cooling colours, circles, ovals, fluid, flexible things, smooth and soft fabric How to activate them through nutrition and cooking Eating more frequently, oils, sugars, carbohydrates, boiling, steaming How to activate them through herbs and therapies EPA, fish oil, swimming, rowing, baths, massage Increasing Water elements Moistening, care, lubrication 118 Decreasing Water elements Opening, mobilizing, stabilizing, warming, drying
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    • Earth at Work When the ancient gods built the Earth Predominant people, they did so because it was time to get something done, to ac- tually make it happen. When it’s loyalty, trust and reliability at stake in the material world, Earth has it all. The Earth Predominant person is the manager, the one who, given a formula for success will ensure it will happen at any cost. They are the builders, the ones who manage the ideas thoughts and visions of the world and bring them to form. Yes, Earth is behind the Great Wall of China, the pyramids of Egypt, the great human made monuments to the powers of human will, Earth is the builder of dreams. Beneath every great enterprise is Earth energy. The owners or entrepreneurs don’t have to be Earth but they cannot live or survive or grow without Earth Predominant people. These are the people that ask how – rarely why. In the business world stability, support reliability, ground- ing, establishment, firmness and solidarity are the call of the Earth energy. Earth Predominant people stick to a plan, and guarantee completion of any project or endeavour. On sports teams, they are the unflappable, the anchor, the link in the chain. You can always rely and put your trust in the hands of an Earth Predominant person. So when negotiating with Earth keep in mind they love me- thodical, firm and on time commitments. They rely almost 100% on experience to prove anything and thrive when strat- egy is clear, a plan is set in concrete and integrity is made a 121 strong core value. In the office, Earth Predominant people love those brown leather lounges with the buttons stuck in, the fabrics are always rough and durable and the coffee table is 6 inches discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element thick wood. Steel and metal beams can be exposed because it’s a feeling of strength and reality and rectangular shapes for Earth are pleasing to the eye. Strong shoes, long lasting materials, and many antiques reveal the essence of Earth in an office. Earth Predominant people love facts. “Cut to the chase now what are you trying to say?” may as well be their favourite line. Earth Predominant people often spark off Ether and Air who might very well lament the opportunities that aren’t be- ing pursued, rather than focus on the ones that are. While other elements worry about why and who, Earth people con- centrate on when and where. If Earth indulges in excesses, it can, like the other elements, turn strengths to weaknesses. Commitment can turn to abso- lute stubbornness, loyalty can turn to blindness, attention to detail can turn to time wasting retentiveness, and reliabilities can turn into stiff and frozen mindsets. Earth Predominant people are strict at the best of times – discipline is easy for them, but when stress takes Earth into excess, strict can be- come downright mean and stick to the knitting can become stubborn and obstructive. Earth is the element of control. Ether may be the element of imagination, Air the element of possibilities, Fire the element of transition and Water the element of humanity. Earth is the element of control. What use would imagination, possibili- ties, transformation and humanity be, if there was no food on the table, if the electricity didn’t flow to our homes or the water we drink was contaminated. What use would a busi- ness plan be without Earth to follow through with the details and implementation. In the eyes of others, Earth can appear dominating and stub- 122 born but this is a negative twist to a wonderful gift. Howev- er, Earth can, in spite of outer appearances take a lot to heart and when under extreme pressure or when out of control, develop very deep levels of low self-esteem. If this happens, Earth must seek support, otherwise their decisions in testing
    • situations may lean toward an ego gratification rather than a healthy business logic. For the Earth Predominant person who is not fully stimu- lated in their work, it is vital to activate the Earth element in their private life. Weight training is ideal, balanced with affirmations, investments, real estate development and sta- bility in family matters. When it’s time to buy your Earth Predominant person a gift, consider that Earth Predominant people are essential people. Cosmetic life is no value to them. The gift must be real but functional. Useless paper-weights will not survive the day they were presented. If you need a bold, responsible, can-do-anything type of a leader you need not look beyond Earth. But if creative, vari- able, uncertain, no planning and totally unpredictable en- vironments are essential for your success, then, those Earth Predominant people you work with should be kept well away from that ruckus. It will just not make for productive dynamics. When it comes time to negotiate or sell to an Earth Predom- inant person, well it’s very reasonable to use these words: Lets do it, lets manage that and let’s stick to a plan. Earth loves anything that has solid routine, well-documented rules, provides a systematic plan, and is factual, methodical and repetitive. The animal that most represents the Earth element are those that build. The elephant, strong and stable, the beaver fo- cused and determined, the bull, strong and unstoppable, the hippopotamus – safe and guarded, the bear – storing things for winter and the dog, reliable, faithful and a friend for life. 123 By the way, if you are working with Earth Predominant people, never throw things out. Earth Predominant people store and store and store and store things. Just in case they are ever needed. They put things away, they file things they discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element organize even the rubbish is well organized. Earth Predomi- nant people hold on tight to the past, they value it, it pro- vides security for them so be careful – those of you who are obsessed with letting go the past, Earth Predominant people have good cause to hang onto it, this is the Earth beneath their feet. When it comes to climate – Earth Predominant people thrive in hot places. They can also cope extremely well in cold cli- mates. So there are few places on the planet where this ele- ment cannot thrive, which is just as well, because they are the foundations beneath the building of cities and offices and businesses and forests. Without Earth Predominant people, we would all be living nomadic existences. Summary - Earth element at work Business of elements Management, supporting, routine, methodical, reliable, sup- port Actions to impress the Earth boss Perform the things you are supposed to. Follow the routine. Be on time. Words to impress the Earth boss Methodical, firm, on time, experience, strategy, integrity, routine Fung Shui to inspire Earth employees Solid timber, metal frames, brick walls, natural fibbers, dry plant parts 124 Hooks for Earth elements Could you do it? Upgrading office software Where is the manual? Systematic upgrading.
    • The office that supports Earth elements Hierarchy, structured and systematic, solid timber furniture, earthy shades The feedback that inspires Earth elements It was a solid work News or behaviour that stifles Earth elements Extreme emotions, Heavy pressure, Changeability, Insecu- rity Earth’s most challenging work colleague Sentimental Water, over-demanding Fire, shifty Air, vague Ether Things that the business should use Earth people to do Management, Training Things that the business might find someone else to do. Cleaning up after, forceful marketing, answering to millions of questions, getting deeper into a subject Music that Earth will thrive on Traditional, historical Colours that will inspire Earth Woody, rocky colours Earth Predominant people Arnold Schwarzenegger, Paul Newman The Earth mind always asks Where? Give me the facts. Cut to the chase. Benefits of Earth elements 125 Gravity, integrity, stability, firmness, density, real, truth, fact Challenges of Earth elements Stiff, frozen joints, inflexible, strict, stubborn, resistance, ob- structive. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Building personal energy Passes, massage, vision, arts, breath, gratitude, muscle stretch. Leakage of energy comes in the following Fixed routine, mundane, conformity Holding personal power Thoughts, metabolism, beliefs, gentleness Keys to success Adaptability, compassion, big Picture, teamwork. How to activate Earth elements through activities Weights, firming, affirmations, building, investment, depos- its, stability. How to activate them through colours and design Dark, brown, rectangle, rough, heavy fabric, shoes, timber, metal, cotton How to activate them through nutrition and cooking Protein rich diet, saturated fats, baking, grilling, roasting, frying How to activate them through herbs and therapies Minerals, metals Increasing Earth elements Stabilizing, support, toning Decreasing Earth elements Opening, mobilizing, moistening, warming, softening 126
    • Summary - Elements at Work Business of elements Ether Philosophy, Entrepreneur, Plans, creativity ideas, openness Air Communication, Inspiration, Adaptability, variety, co-ordination, rhythm Fire Marketing Motivation, Analysis, negotiation, power, intensity Water Safety measures, Connection, Care, gifts, comple- ments, responsibility Earth Management, Supporting, Routine, methodical, reliable, support Actions to impress your boss Ether Always go back to your philosophy. Be open. Accept. Air Bring variety. Go with the flow. Show your adaptability. Fire Be precise, clear, forceful and sharp Use illustrative phrases. Be warm. Water Stress on how you care about things, how you feel, the ability to share. Be gentle. Earth Perform the things you are supposed to. Follow the routine. Be on time. Words to impress your boss Ether Open, the whole picture, philosophy, charity, meditation, humanitarian 127 Air Easy going, new things, variety, take it easy, any- thing else, another way Fire Precise, sharp, clear, picture, powerful, intense, holiday, retire, relax Water Feel, calm, peaceful, bath, sweet, waves, massage, discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element business Earth Methodical, firm, on time, experience, strategy, integrity, routine Fung Shui to inspire your employees Ether Open spaces, large windows and doors, skylight, calming music Air Curious things, surprises, rhythmic patterns, vari- ety Fire Strong colours, Sharp corners, speed, lighting and colours Water Water themes, round corners, soft cushions, crys- tals Earth Solid timber, metal frames, brick walls, natural fibres, dry plant parts Hooks for elements Ether What do you think? Air Do you want to tell me? Fire Can you see it? Water How do you feel? Earth Could you do it? Upgrading office software Ether The new thing is here! Identifying the need for upgrading Air What do you think? Discussion, information gathering Fire What after upgrading? Analysing the pros and cons Water Did you back it up? Safety measures / precautions. 128 Earth Where is the manual? Systematic upgrading.
    • The office that supports your element Ether Spacious, lots of gentle sunlight, subtle colours, smooth surfaces Air Curious things, color patterns on walls and floor, different colours Fire Strong colours, latest technology, and possibility for promotion Water Soft cushions, water features, food and drinks, a big customer care department Earth Hierarchy, structured and systematic, solid timber furniture, earthy shades The feedback that inspires your element Ether It was deep and subtle Air It was a brand new style Fire It was efficient and precise Water It was extremely touching Earth It was a solid work News or behaviour that stifles your element Ether Stiff structure, extreme emotions, heavy pressure, changeability Air Stiff structure, extreme emotions, heavy pressure, insecurity Fire Stiff structure, extreme emotions, changeability, insecurity Water Stiff structure, heavy pressure, changeability, insecurity Earth Extreme emotions, heavy pressure, changeability, insecurity Your most challenging work colleague 129 Ether Overpowering Earth, sentimental Water, over-demanding Fire, shifty Air Air Overpowering Earth, sentimental Water, over-demanding Fire, vague Ether discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Fire Overpowering Earth, sentimental Water, shifty Air, vague Ether Water Overpowering Earth, over-demanding Fire, shifty Air, vague Ether Earth Sentimental Water, Over-demanding Fire, shifty Air, vague Ether Things that the business should use you to do Ether Planning, advisory Air Multimedia, communication Fire Marketing, strategy making Water Customer care, support for employees Earth Management, training Things that your business might find someone else to do Ether Managing people, cleaning up after, marketing, answering to millions of questions Air Managing people, cleaning up after, marketing, getting deeper into a subject Fire Managing people, cleaning up after, answering to millions of questions, getting deeper into a subject Water Managing people, marketing, answering to mil- lions of questions, getting deeper into a subject Earth Cleaning up after, marketing, answering to mil- lions of questions, getting deeper into a subject Music that you will thrive on Ether Subliminal, low volume, classical instrumental Air Pop, fast rhythms Fire Romantic, war songs Water Sentimental, love Earth Traditional, historical 130 Colours that will inspire you Ether Sky, subtle, pastels Air Stripes, patterns
    • Fire Bright and strong shades Water Watery shades, blue and greens Earth Woody, rocky colours People that are like you Ether David Duchovny, Pearce Brosnan Air Gwyneth Paltrov, Kylie Minogue Fire Russell Crowe, Mel Gibson Water Estella Warren, Oprah Winfrey Earth Arnold Schwarzenegger, Paul Newman Your mind always asks Ether Why? Why did it happen – the big picture Air What? What happened – Looking for solutions Fire When? When did it or will it happen? Relevant or not. Water Who? How did it affect people? Are they ok? Earth Where? Give me the facts. Cut to the chase. Benefits of your element Ether Wisdom, creativity, openness, emptiness Air Movement, options, circulation, action, adaptation Fire Heat, change, transformation, judgment, passion, analysis Water Magnetism, bond, coordination, connection, nur- ture, love, attachment Earth Gravity, integrity, stability, firmness, density, real, truth, fact, grounded Challenges of your element Ether Depletion, absence, memory loss, vague, confu- 131 sion, anxiety, fear, delusion Air Stuck, fluctuating, unstable, worry, hypersensitive, depression, unstable, wrong movement, aches Fire Acidity, joint problems, stones, frustrated, anger, reactive ulcers discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Water Sluggish, weight gain, procrastinate, slow, greed, clingy, attached, retention, clogged Earth Stiff, frozen joints, inflexible, strict, stubborn, resistance, obstructive. Building personal energy Ether Walking, moving, space, passes, neck and scalp massage, nerve exercises, absorption and nature Air Mind control, nerves control, power breathing, face exercises, silence, stillness Fire Associations, moderation, stillness, listening, Tai chi, transference Water Health program, exercise, posture, magnetic walk- ing, tension exercise, memory skills. Earth Passes, massage, vision, arts, breath, gratitude, muscle stretch. Leakage of energy comes in the following Ether Confusion, anxiety, delusion, Air Overwhelm, change, lack of nurturing, giving it away (seeking approval) Fire Frustration, anger, acidic, over exertion, trying too hard Water Hopelessness, unmotivated, laziness, low meta- bolic lifestyle Earth Fixed routine, mundane, conformity Holding personal power Ether Environment, calm, self-confidence Air Food (protein), nervous control, confidence in Kar- ma Fire No ego, stillness, core values 132 Water Focus on result, association, clear motive Earth Thoughts, metabolism, beliefs, gentleness
    • Keys to Success Ether Goal-setting focus, routine and schedule, nutrition, peace of mind Air Nurturing, recovery, stillness, kindness to self, not too many changes Fire Moderation, active, not reactive, open heart, love Water Vision, chunk it down, healthy food, personal trainer Earth Adaptability, compassion, big picture, teamwork. How to activate your elements through activities Ether Meditation, Dark room, choosing things thought- fully. Air Communication, Enquiring, relaxation, request- ing, asking, searching, walks. Fire Exercise, Action, application, interaction, analysis, comparison. Water Massage, Stretching, fluids, relationship, connec- tions, sharing, caring. Earth Weights, Firming, affirmations, building, invest- ment, deposits, stability. How to activate your elements through colours and de- sign Ether White, Simplicity, Plain colours, silk, white or pas- tel colours Air Yellow, Pattern, Rhythm, waves Fire Bright colours, Sharp edges, Warmth, digestives Water Cooling colours, Circles, ovals, Fluid, flexible things, smooth/soft fabric Earth Dark, brown, Rectangle, Rough, heavy fabric, shoes, timber, metal, cotton 133 How to activate elements through nutrition and cooking Ether Fasting, Spinach, flowers, Raw, salads Air Eating on time, Cabbage, broccoli, bitters, Drying discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Fire Chewing well, Spices, herbs, vitamins, enzymes, Pickling, fermenting Water Eating more frequently Oils, sugars, carbohydrates Boiling, steaming Earth Protein rich diet, Proteins, saturated fats, Baking, grilling, roasting, frying How to activate your elements with herbs, therapies Ether Brahmi, Gotu Kola, meditation, fasting Air Aloe, Citrullus, counselling, cardio Fire Peppers, garlic, steam, sauna Water EPA, fish oil, swimming, massage Earth Minerals, metals, body building Increasing elements Ether Opening Inspiration Vow of silence Air Mobilizing Motivation Deep breathing Fire Warming Encouragement Sweating Water Moistening Care Lubrication Earth Stabilizing Support Toning Decreasing elements Ether Mobilizing, moistening, stabilizing Warming, Grounding Air Opening, moistening, stabilizing Warming Moistening Fire Opening, mobilizing, stabilizing Cooling Drying Water Opening, mobilizing, stabilizing Warming Drying Earth Opening, mobilizing, moistening Warming Softening 134
    • Relationships Element to element at Work Thoroughly to know oneself, is above all art, for it is the highest art. - Theologia Germanica Constitutional Analysis is not just about discovering the pre- dominant element and discarding all other duties in your life. Your constitution is not an excuse. Everyone must use all their elements in their daily life to be successful and fulfilled. One can access and activate any element to be practical in a specific situation. Every element can be your strength or weakness. The difference is in the use of awareness or atten- tion. What follows is a study of how two elements work together. ‘Strength’ is the nature when we are healthy and ‘mindful’. The ‘challenge’ happens when we are out of balance and ‘mindless’. 135 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether /Ether Tranquillity meets wisdom. Life is full of unlimited ideas, beautiful thoughts, deep and wise conversations, peaceful and fulfilling discussions. Ether enjoys these without being bothered about right and wrong. They seek knowledge from each other. Strengths: They are patient, calm and can see the truth from any angle. They can separate and discuss any specific layer of reality. If their conversations and discussions are outlined, structured and supervised, these two can produce some groundbreaking ideas and plans. Challenges: “Did you say something?” the first Ether asked. “Did you hear something?” the second Ether replied. This indicates lack of action. Ethers can sit and talk all day, theory is perfect, application can be a challenge, but the need is for the earth element to come to the fore and ensure that this business doesn’t forget the bottom line. Actually putting two Ether people in the one place is akin to having two cars and one driver. They are such a unique breed that it is very uncommon for Ethers to hang out together unless there’s a very strong need for tall team players. 136
    • Ether /Air New theme meets a perfect caption! Tranquil Ether has met the dynamic Air. It is almost like Ether suddenly discovered a new window overlooking the most beautiful ocean after being in the same room for a half a century. Strengths: Ether’s inspired ideas meet Air’s unlimited possi- bility. Air admires the Ether wisdom while Ether admires the blooming world of options around them. This dynamic duo is a rare business combination but ideal, where Ether needs legs to act on visions. Air loves to implement and can run the 20 horses at the front of the Ether carriage at once. When the relationship works the other way round and Ether works for Air, Air gets wonderful creative ideas and they make a great creative team. Challenges: “What were you talking about for the past 2 hours?” Ether wonders. “Where were you?” asks Air. “You are a total scatterbrain” Ether thinks. “Is someone living in your head?” thinks Air. Air talks, Ether listens. As Ether lis- tens, Air talks. Air doesn’t wait for any response. Ether change their minds like most people change their underwear. So Air acts on Ether’s ideas and then feels it to be a waste of energy and money if the ideas aren’t grounded with some Earth en- ergy. These two geniuses put together in business carve out new ground but go bankrupt so often because there is an in- finite escalation in creative ideas. A great business team with absolute desperate need for an external management struc- ture, good business practices and earth managers to return profits. Artists of this type need an Earth Manager to handle their affairs. 137 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether /Fire Ideas on Fire. A flame learns to be still. Being with Ether is meditation for Fire. Now, Ether feels cantered, gets more fo- cused and becomes more precise. Strengths: Deriving inspiration from Ether, Fire is ready for business. Ether is excited about how their ideas acquire a new ‘fierce power’ when they are with Fire. Ether is activated and now ready to get dirty! Yes, the Ether/Fire combination in business is a force to be reckoned with. Amazing ideas and creative genius merge with analytical skill, opportunism and dynamic energy. Nothing can stop them, apart from reality. Challenges: Reality bites. “When are you going to put your ideas into practice?” Fire demands. “Life is not just about marketing and making money” Ether replies. Ideas won’t work by themselves. Ether doesn’t realize this easily. Fire smells it miles away. Fire’s growing appetite and obsession with the result can drive Ether away. The main is- sue is for Ether to not overwhelm Fire with ideas, and for fire to give Ether space to generate ideas without trying to make sense of all of them. Remember, Ether people think out loud. These two are a winning combination in business as long as they have a team to actually manage the business and get things done (Earth and Air) 138
    • Ether /Water Water get a new ideology for their nurturing side. Ether wit- ness a new practical meaning to their philosophy –giving. Calmness surrounds them. Strengths: A lot is said in silence. A lot is heard in silence. This perceptive and intuitive duo can make an office heaven. Make sure there is plenty of Fire, Air and Earth to assist you in making things happen. Yes, the Water/Ether combination is such a humane and adventurous dynamic. Ether thinks ahead, and Water makes the path gentle and kind. It’s the ideal duo for humanitarian and earth changing action. Challenges: Silent Ether and emotional Water can be dull. They might lack drive and practicality. “Don’t behave like my mother!” Ether yells. “When are you going to start tak- ing responsibility?” Water is irritated finally. The significant pitfall of this couple in business is ideology. One may prefer to dream while the other rescues and protects people from the ravages of change. Together, they might become so philo- sophical about how nice the world could be if there were no bad things happening, they would need to live in an Ashram or somewhere in sweet Thailand in order to survive. Care- ful in business you two, you could wind up blowing smoke down each others noses, getting inspired and enthusiastic on one hand and deluded on the other. 139 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether /Earth Philosophy is finally put into practice! If Ether inspires Earth with their ideas, Earth can spend their whole lives on it until fruition. Ether has never seen this before! Strengths: All those ideas and plans get an extremely ‘prac- tical’ facelift. They are ready for action. Ether is amazed at the sight of a seed’s evolution into a tree. Earth is stunned at the beauty when the seed is born. This combination can work to build a physical world of an amazing futuristic and competitively “untouchable” idea. In partnership these two can’t lose unless… Challenges: Responsibility and ego is the same thing. Ego can kill this working partnership unless there is a clear handover of power and a demarcation of responsibility. Earth people are the nuts and bolts of production and management, Ether people are the ideas and vision. Neither is perfect for Sales and Marketing. “I don’t want to tell you what to do, I am not your Daddy” Earth screams. “Actually, I know you are not, but you could relieve me of some of this responsibility” Ether responds (running out the door to find a quiet place to sit). “Control, control, control” Ether screams. “Cripes” says Earth, bewildered and frustrated “I thought you wanted help?” Ether can be hyper sensitive, Earth can be insensi- tive to emotional variance. If you ever see a war movie on TV with the good guys and bad guys, these are the elements who rule the opposing armies. A brilliant if not dramatic duo of the 20th century was John Lennon (Ether) and Yoko Ono (Earth). 140
    • Air /Air Dynamic duo. Carefree spirits. Life is freedom for them. Strengths: The office is now filled with fun and lightness: Open windows with no dividers, Notepads and pens flying through the air. Who else would dare to install a music sys- tem to motivate their colleagues in the premises? The mas- ters of communication well, they talk and talk and talk. They need to take note of their discussions and ideas. Give them a schedule, ask them to split responsibility and they com- plete your task before you get back to your chair. Every huge problem becomes simple for this pair of light-hearted busi- ness partners. They talk themselves out of any trouble. Challenges: Two angry cats in a bag? Scatterbrains? Blocked communication? Inconsistent and unreliable? Don’t know what to say? This partnership can go round and round in circles improving on something until it loses its flavour. Cre- ative dancers for example need a choreographer to avoid cat- fights, because Air people have so many options, so many ideas, so many possibilities, and they become attached to be- ing heard. So Air need a supervisor, a manager, a clear out- come, a deadline and close management to avoid wasting money and time arguing over the color of the curtains on the Titanic. 141 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Air /Fire Dancing wind and a blazing flame! Strengths: A team with enthusiasm and drive, momentum and spark. They discover new ways of living. Air gets some rocket fuel for their ideas. Fire tastes a new direction from this harmonious combination. Both are fast, willing, pow- ered and directed. If they don’t get carried away, they will produce stunning results swiftly indeed. Challenges: “You are too critical?” Air complains. “Did you change your mind, again?” screams Fire. Ahh… but every- thing has its other side. If not careful, these two people can quickly get on each other’s nerves. These two need to learn to slow down. What drives fire mad is uncertainty, what Air loves are options and alternatives. What fire sees as uncer- tainty is what Air can see as Options. What Fire sees as get- ting on with the job, Air sees as disrespect for their ideas. Fire is the horse at the starting line, eager to race while air is the jockey waiting for the bell trying to tame the energy for the right moment. 142
    • Air /Water Elusive Air and embracing Water. Now the Water learns to flow with grace. Air learns to make ripples in Water. Strengths: The right combination of a talker and a listener. Communication at its perfect best! Water’s great compassion makes them ideal listeners; Air’s great brains make them convincing talkers, a match made in heaven. Provided they are not in excess. Air can be like a fly in a bottle buzzing around looking for best answers and ideas. Water is like the person watching the fly buzzing around but just waiting for it to settle. It’s a good artistic duo. Challenges: “It’s all just talk” sobs Water. “You can’t expect me to be in the office all the time” warns Air. Ahhh… Nature and nurture the contradiction in the universe. Air and Wa- ter are the sources of some of the greatest comedies. Com- edy is composed of these two elements, Jerry Seinfield and George, Laurel and Hardy, Abbot and Costello, Sylvesster and Tweety, The Muppets, Homer Simpson and Marge (al- though Marge could be ether) are all instances of this. You’ll often see these two in domestic relationships but rarely in business relationships. 143 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Air /Earth Communication-action team. Air, being a voracious talker, articulates well and the Earth is in constant action. Earth can try to match that through action! Strengths: Earth is amazed at the ease of Air and Air is amazed ‘how he/she can do this over and over!’. Earth can’t believe how easily Air lets go of things and events. Air can’t believe how reliable and trustworthy Earth is. This team walk their walk and talk their talk. Challenges: “Stick to your subject” Earth warns. “Don’t be too stiff” Air retorts. The situation is something akin to Dan- ny De Vito falling in love with Kylie Minogue. I love Lucy and her husband, Mr. Practical, Marilyn Monroe and anyone who could ground her, Madonna and her critics. The creative side of life is always balanced by the earthly reality. The more creative the individual, the more his or her need for earthly support. Earth and Air can be an amazing team as long as they can work out the conflict between creative license and the need to pay the bills at the end of the month. Air will give it all away because there’s more where that came from (so they believe) and Earth would give nothing away, because what you got is better than what you were promised. A great business team as long as there’s a clear set of rules and roles. Remember, Earth is the element of management so if you want to stay in business, this element is best left to have the final say. 144
    • Fire /Fire Explosive, fast and furious as a team. This is the best combi- nation to analyse and resolve any problem. Strengths: Lots of coffee, spiced crisps, sleepless nights and push-ups during a long schedule. As two eagles soar high above the clouds where most other birds cannot fly, Fire and Fire are like two fingers in a glove. They are like the two sides of a coin. They are the team, the hands that help. Fire on Fire is affirmative. Fire needs affirmation, support in all areas, they thrive on being praised and believed in greatly. Challenges: “I am better than you” grunts the first Fire. “In your dreams” shoots back the second Fire. Ego clashes are on the agenda. This team has all the potential to become world beaters, or each others beaters. This is the sales team that work together all year yet clash violently at the com- pany Christmas party. Or, who go to a conference as nice, motivated people and end up naked in the swimming pool at four in the morning before they present the next day’s program’s keynote address at 7.00am. This is the pair that brings passion and motivation to any group, but can lead the group with the same passion and motivation in the com- pletely wrong direction. They are the loudest wheels, get the most attention and what’s worse, they can whip each other up into a frenzy. Treat them like two dragons at the end of a leash, they will be pulling you in whatever direction they smell their prey, anywhere as long as there’s a hunt and a chase, well…. they are onto it. Two fires mean double trou- ble. Watch your partners when two or more fires get together and egg each other on. Rarely is one fire, let alone two fires, good for managing anything. They change it, even when it doesn’t need changing. 145 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Fire /Water A ‘precise and caring’ team. Strengths: The precision and speed of Fire is exciting for Wa- ter. The gentle support from Water inspires Fire. Fire inspires Water and Water cares for Fire. Water is the human side and Fire is the heart and the spirit. They combine beautifully to create stimulating marketing and advertising programs. They feel right to be in business together. Water is primar- ily a people element, emotional sensitive and therefore into long term relationships, which helps Fire. Fire can use those pieces of information to pacify and humanize brilliant mar- keting slogans and opportunities. It is an intensely emotional team. Winning and losing will bring tears to their eyes. Challenges: “You are too slow, the market will pass us by while you are still contemplating your navel?” yells Fire. “Slow down a bit, you are going to upset the whole team” Water complains. If you want to stereotype this pair, imagine a trade union meeting. The company represented by Fire and the Union represented by Water. Or the Red Cross, negotiat- ing with warriors in a war to bring aid to refugees. Fire has a big heart but a lot of righteousness and conviction, Water has a big heart too, but like a mother’s, it’s for all humanity. The arguments come when Fire sees what they are doing as good for business and Water sees it as bad for relationships and customer care. It’s a healthy conflict and therefore a good business partnership. 146
    • Fire /Earth Fast and practical partners. They rebuild worlds faster than any other team. Earth gives Fire solid fuel. Fire loves it. Fire burns, transforms and changes the world. Strengths: Earth’s practicality and Fire’s strategic approach make them the most ferocious and integrated team. Fire builds while Earth sustains. Fire injects the energy, Earth holds it. Fire initiates Earth sustains. You both are blessed with a dynamic that can change the world. New things are infinite and you make them work Challenges: “Why do you change things all the time?” asks a frustrated Earth. “How many times do I have to repeat it?” Fire replies. “We are looking for the best, to be the best and if we can adjust it in order to be the best we should”. “But that is going to cost us time and money. What we have is perfect, it meets the clients’ needs, it’s what we promised, it’s on time and on budget. The most important thing is to under promise over deliver. You must meet your commit- ments. Not change things and innovate all the time” “Shut up, I’ll do what I want” says an overheated Fire. “Until you apologize you don’t get paid” Earth digs in. The war of the roses has begun. Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers But to be fearless in facing them. Let me not be for the stealing of my pain But for the heart to conquer it. Tagore 147 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Water /Water They are born to nurture each other and anyone around them. The intelligent Water/Water team can hold your at- tention for hours. They are deep lakes of stillness. They are calm oceans of silence. When the water moves, you see them everywhere –inside, outside- they surround you. Strengths: They become magnetic in their work. They can sell anything to you with their sincere and sensual sales ap- proach. They don’t talk a lot. They don’t force you into any- thing at all. They don’t play that ‘it is too expensive for you’ trick. They will tell you ‘if you don’t want it, don’t buy it’. Whatever they are selling be it food or chocolate, when they ask you ‘would you like to try it?’ your soul won’t say ‘no’. Business with Water means you feel like you are looked after from all corners. Challenges: Dreams! Obsessions! Sometimes they will have to open the windows and face the real world. A fire can compete for the best way forward, Water can have the same argumentative relationship, but arguing about the best way back. “It used to be better before” says one Water. “Oh no! There was a time before that when we used to really care” says Water 2. “Ahh Luxury” objects Water 1. “When we were kids we had it so tough ….. ” Water 2. “We used to dream of eating glass.” “When we were kids well.. we never got fed…..” on and on it can go. Water on water can end up like the English soap Coronation Street. Always sharing the “what’s wrong with this situation” can become an obsession. They will try to outdo each other for the worst, saddest and most heart wrenching viewpoint. 148
    • Water /Earth Water is poetry to Earth’s facts. Water gets some good grounds. Strengths: What could be better than Earth and Water mixed with clay and moulded into any and every shape? Earth doesn’t stop working, Water doesn’t stop supporting. When- ever Water loses its shape, Earth becomes a vessel. When it comes to issues like rescue, or offering humanitarian aid, working in extreme circumstances like disaster relief or refu- gee aid, this is the perfect team. The heart and soul of Water will care and give while Earth’s determination and precise attention to detail will implement aid making best use of limited resources. These two are the perfect Human Rights team. In a busi- ness environment this is the team that enters the scene after a change has occurred. After a change, these two create a steady atmosphere, rebuild trust and create a strong sup- portive culture. Challenges: Water, the sensitive flower can’t smile too long under a domineering Earth. But there’s a potential problem. Earth wants control and Water refuses it. Slow pace, that’s the main problem with these two. They combine perfectly to slow things down. They slow change, they slow progress and both these elements have enormous investment in the status quo, while revering the past. This is the duo which needs to take nerve pills when change is afoot. With these two in charge of a business, change is usually forced on them and it can come with a lot of Fire attached. Water and Earth are elements with jobs-for-life. They can bury an organiza- tion in protocol, politics, red tape, legal disputes and what- 149 ever else they can muster, to avoid both organizational and personal change. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Earth /Earth This team is built to last and born to build. They accumulate a lot of wealth and property, are an extremely stable and a productive team. Strengths: They respect each other, as they are mutually pre- dictable and reliable and they love it. They know each other. It is a sort of unbreakable team. They trust each other and divide their work systematically using time-tested, practical plans. Put them into practice. The result is predictable. The growth is stable. Challenges: Stoic. That’s it. Stoic is the word for them. Take the emotion out of anything and you have the metaphysics of it. You have the bottom line. This is the core of the uni- verse. Business runs on a specific fuel: money and money is made by business. Without money there is no business. If you run out of money, no matter how much Water care, Fire marketing, Air concepts and Ether inspiration, you have, it’s over. So Earth needs to take these elements out of the equa- tion in order to drive the ship. But some say the universe is not filled with particles and atoms, it’s filled with ideas. So, Uncle Scrooge was earth. If you take all the other ele- ments out and fill the world with earth, it would be an hon- est, simple, truthful place, but where would creativity come from? Where would the spark be? And the spirit would be all, but dead. It is the blend of all elements that makes any- thing worth doing. Although earth must, at the end of the day be in control of the fundamentals, if earth, earth, earth and earth work together, one might be financially stable, but eventually, because of lack of change, there is the danger of becoming uncompetitive. 150 Every one has been made for some particular work and the desire for that work has been put in every heart Rumi
    • Relationship Element to element at Home Your element interacts with all other elements naturally. The idiosyncrasies of your relationships depend on these differ- ences. How you share time, how you manage your love life, how you distribute duties and how you can create long term support for each other is dependant on your elemental con- stitutions and how they interact. Relationship is an art. It is a form of meditation. Why does one fall in love with another? Why are some connected with others? There could be dozens of reasons: conscious and unconscious. But regardless of intent, respect for each other begins when you understand what part of your partner can- not be changed. What is their natural way of life and how this differs from yours. This is such a vital ingredient to your life. Some are looking for the opposite qualities or the missing el- ements in their partners. Others are looking for similarities, which they feel will enable them to easily understand each other. We need to understand our needs, likes and tenden- cies before starting a new relationship. When there are more common goals in a relationship, there are more possibilities for it to last long or be blissful. The way one was brought up, sociology, psychology and physiology have all equal impor- tance here. 151 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether /Ether The Bliss: Tranquillity meets wisdom. Life is filled with un- limited ideas, beautiful thoughts, deep and wise conversa- tions, and peaceful and fulfilling discussions. Not bothered about right and wrong. They seek knowledge from each other. In this relationship two people will reach for the skies and no amount of reality will thwart them. It’s a dream come true. High above the clouds two Ether Predominant people will dream and fantasize about the world as it should be or even could be. Space, space and more space is needed for you both to thrive. They are into touch and feel and sensual delights. Long courtship, foreplay and plenty of after sex conversa- tions means these two need to set the alarm to get out of bed in the morning. Alarm Bells: “It is easy to be dwarfed by Ether, so Etheric, so out there, so sure of themselves that sometimes Ether on Ether means one of the two of you might gravitate to their second element in order to support the other.” Warning bells ring here. The unhappiest people have changed their natu- ral constitutional behaviour in order to make another person happy. Hold yourself equal to your partner. 152
    • Ether /Air The Bliss: A new theme meets a perfect caption! Tranquil Ether has met dynamic Air. It is almost like Ether suddenly discovered a new window, overlooking the most beautiful ocean after being in the same room for half a century. Dreams are now poems. No more just formless dreams, they are spoken words now. These are two creative and dynamic lovers always inventive and tactile. When they can concen- trate and relax their minds, the smooth rhythm of Air merg- es with the outlandish fantasies of Ether to create quite an athletic duo. Far away in some distant land it may all make sense but to an observer these two are visitors from a differ- ent world. Alarm Bells: Although Air is the master communicator, it is often quantity rather than quality that can make working this relationship, a challenge. Air can’t help itself, it must share, it must communicate, the rest is irrelevant for tomorrow there will be more, the download can take forever, and listening is not crucial – just a nod every now and then can suffice. Ether thinks a lot, and that’s a bit frustrating for Air, espe- cially when Air is talking and Ether is thinking. You both need space, quiet and agreements on talk time. 153 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether /Fire The Bliss: Ideas on Fire. A flame learns to be still. Being with Ether is meditation for Fire. Now, Fire feels cantered, gets more focused at least enough to become more precise. Love is on Fire for the first time! It’s love at first bite. Fire lights the flame and Ether has no interest in putting it out. Its all systems on go. There are places to go, people to see, new ideas to share and no time to waste. It’s a lifetime in a week. Everything is possible, the rocket is alight and the ideas are aflame. As lovers anything and everything is possible. With Ethers fantasies and Fires obsessions, this couple can become bed ridden. How long can it last? Oh they both look worn and tired but through it all, lust and love merge for Fire and Ether and life only gets better. Alarm Bells: Ideas won’t work by themselves. Ether doesn’t realize it easily. Fire smells it from miles away. Fire’s growing appetite and obsession with the results can drive Ether away. The sacrificial love, the sacred Fire of this relationship can begin to burn out if they don’t do some careful maintenance. Fire becomes obsessed, Ether begins to drift, the energy is hard to sustain, the highs were highs and the lows can be low. Trust, loyalty and expectations can make this relation- ship sour easily. It is up to you both to cut each other some understanding. Fire needs space and Ether can provide sup- port. 154
    • Ether /Water The Bliss: Blue sky touches a full river. Water gets a new world of ideology in addition to their nurturing nature. Ether witnesses a new practical meaning to their philosophy, that of giving. Calmness surrounds them. Ether, all of a sudden, thinks about a family. The feminine as- pect meets the divine and the powers of the heavens merge with mother nature. This couple can glide through life, giv- ing and taking, sharing a wonderful sensual and exciting existence. The diversity of their element guarantees lots of laughs and the softness of their natures guarantees stillness. If you are the Ether-Water pair, celebrate the great gifts that nature has brought your way. Alarm Bells: “When are you going to start taking responsi- bility?” Water is irritated finally. Indifferent Ether makes Wa- ter think that they are selfish and obsessive. The combination of Ether and Water although a heavenly pair, may just find that too much of a good thing can become mundane. Water’s contentment and Ether’s virtual reality can clash from time to time. The whole world may begin to become irrelevant and the relationship may take on a meaning much bigger than ever intended. Be careful to maintain a healthy aspect of exercise, travel and social life. 155 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether /Earth The Bliss: Philosophy is finally put into practice! If Ether in- spires Earth with ideas, Earth can spend their whole life on it until fruition. Ether never has seen this before! The beauty of this love is its dichotomy. The sparks will fly, the flint is often ignited in a positive sense, and this makes for all manner of sexual gymnastics. It makes for creative de- velopment and manifestation. This couple can imagine and make it real. It’s a formidable duo when the world of the arts considers that such a pair is a stereotype of the great artists. Manifestors who need the muse and creators who need man- agement. This is the joy and the bliss of this union, a creative but grounded love affair that will never ever be boring (un- less one or the other gets too dominant). Earth gives love by protecting Ether from the ravages of the world. Ether gives love by inspiring Earth to achieve their dreams. Alarm Bells: Control, control, control Ether don’t like the way they are treated. The problem may lie in the fact that Ether don’t need protection and are happy with things as they are. So there is a giving that might not be appreciated. There is a loving that might be seen as controlling. It really isn’t wrong, just confusing. If this is your elemental combination, be mindful that the way you see the world of your partner is just that, your view, not always theirs. If you can understand each others elements, you can thank each other for the love, laugh at the different forms and get on with life. 156
    • Air /Air The Bliss: Dynamic duo. Carefree spirits. Life is full of free- dom for them. Friendly lovers? Not impossible. These are linguistic kings and queens, a magnificent merging of spirits, two blessed and happy souls merging in this relationship to find that conversation is a cornerstone of their love nest. Fun, light and open they celebrate life at every turn and find that mak- ing things happen, is a great joy for them both, while togeth- er. People love to be around air –air relationships, they are infectious spreading love and happiness. Sometimes they get so wrapped in each other that they forget that the world is round, it’s just one big rose garden for these two kindred spirits. Alarm Bells: Two angry cats in a bag? Scattered brain? Blocked communication? Inconsistent and unreliable to each other? Don’t know what to say? Insecure relationship? You can talk non-stop about this breaking down relationship at the office or in the bed. If you over wind an alarm clock the spring eventually snaps and so too, Air and Air can wind each other up until they are off the planet. They can emotionalise each other, spin each other out and there’s no stopping them. They may very well attack each other instead of taking responsibility to be self aware and self responsible, and get out of trouble. Be care- ful my two Air friends – avoid blame at all cost and you will celebrate love forever. 157 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Air /Fire The Bliss: Dancing winds and a blazing flames! The relationship is exciting, spontaneous, never bored and light hearted. What dynamics have you chosen? A joyful, fun loving experience with a wild and wonderful life existing be- tween Fire and Air. Everything is possible, with a minimum of fuss. You’ll love each other’s ideas, be in a hurry to do whatever comes to mind and can keep up with each other’s fast pace of change. A sexy couple, you’ll find great holiday resorts, fantastic bush walking trips and places to make love no one else has thought of yet. A powerful and wonderful dynamic. Alarm Bells: Thinking is like talking for Air while living is undertaking action for Fire. While Air talks about it, Fire starts doing it. Air people often change their minds while Fire people may have already committed themselves to it. Then Air changes their mind again and now, Fire is frustrat- ed. Try to understand each other. Air needs a listener, not a doer. Fire needs to practice ‘calm’ before they ‘storm’ into action, especially when dealing with Air. Air needs to do their home- work before presenting an idea in this ever-changing world, especially to Fire. immediate action. Try creating cooling-off periods before ac- tion on any new venture or idea. You’ll have so much joy and happiness in this relationship as long as you take those precautions. 158
    • Air /Water The Bliss: Elusive air and embracing Water signals an af- fair of Air and rain clouds. As the Water learns to flow with grace, Air learns to make ripples in Water. Ahhh bliss – the contented pair, the soul mates, who are never apart. Air and Water live in harmony so much so the world becomes an intrusion. Water loves to nurture, Air loves to be nurtured. Water loves to listen and air loves to share. What bliss could befall these two elements co-habiting. To top it all the sex will be beyond comprehension. Long, slow, fun and sensual. A wonderful symbiotic bond means the physical at- traction is blended with heart and mind to make a ‘Kamasu- tra’ experience automatically. Alarm Bells: Nature and nurture, the contradiction in the universe. To stay or go, to move forward or celebrate life as it is, Air loves ideas and thoughts and is always looking to improve, invent and develop new and exciting solutions. Water is happy evolving as the need arises. The challenge in this relationship is to manage growth, to decide on when and where to act. Water will wait while air will be impatient to open new doors. Love each other and see that it is the combination of the two of you that really makes the right pace. Love will blossom but be mindful to respect the differ- ences. 159 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Air /Earth The Bliss: Communication in action. Air, being a voracious talker, articulates well and the Earth is in constant motion. Earth can try to match that in action! Now if there was in ancient times the model of the warrior and the love, Air and Earth would be it. The brave hands on hero and the angelic being floating in his or her or her mind – the flowing silks set against the stone walls of the impen- etrable castle walls. Yes, we know the hero always wins but his or her secret is always the angel of love. You two will live the magnificence of the ancients. Grapes always in hand to drip into each other’s mouths. Undying loyalty and faithful- ness, protector and angel, sweet and sour, ice cream and jelly, this is the life that built the pyramids, and you will do that and more. Alarm Bells: Duty calls Earth, there’s that time in the mov- ie when the hero must decide, love or duty and there is al- ways a tearing of the heart. Air floats on love, Earth survives on duty. The challenge in the real world is priorities. Earth needs to meet his or her obligations and Air can change them in a moment. The daily challenges of work and play, of love and material is the cross you both must bear. Strong lines of demarcation, clear time allocation and no compromise work- home boundaries will make this relationship sail into the fu- ture, the maidenhead flying in the wind, the masts trimmed to perfection and the ship, ship shape as always. 160
    • Fire /Fire The Bliss: An explosive, fast and furious team, this is the best combination to analyse and resolve any problem. Here the two Fires can feed each other with what they both need most: stroking. They understand each other, play to- gether intensely, climb mountains together, are part of the same football team, collect stamps together. They are persis- tent and demanding lovers – looking for excitement, playing near the boundaries, a virile and demanding regularity, Fire and Fire are kindred spirits in all physical aspects of life. Alarm Bells: Competition can be destructive and jealousy can easily flare up. This competition can kill their bodies. Beyond human action plans and heartless strategies. Pre- mature greying, aging and wrinkling will tell you all about it. Ahh.. but there’s a catch. Competition means Fire on Fire might just begin to unconsciously play games. Physically they may meet and in love they may be kindred spirits but their minds may play games. Jealousy, insecurity and uncer- tainty can befall the Fire/Fire couple and then a gap can ap- pear. If you are in a Fire/Fire relationship, be alert so that you do not become obsessed with winning – or being right all the time. It’s a 50/50 win-win situation. Your partner has strengths in places you don’t and for that they can champion your cause. 161 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Fire /Water The Bliss: A ‘precise and caring’ team. Fire spices up the Water’s romance. Water formulates reci- pes. Fire falls intensely in love with them, markets them bril- liantly and its a great family business. Fire and Water, just think about the combination. Fire can turn Water to steam and Water can put the Fire out. A beautiful balancing act of moderation, fun and joyfulness, a great tenderness and beautiful softness which can sweep these two into love’s em- brace. Deep and meaningful, long and sensual you two are made for warm nights in front of the open fire. A great work- ing combination, a sensitive caring couple you can also use your energies to help others who don’t understand love and life. The romance is physical, emotional and heartfelt. A ten- der touching and most romantic relationship filled with all the beauty life can bring. Lucky Water, lucky Fire – you were made for soft moments and juicy sex. Alarm Bells: , Fire can take things for granted. It just might become too easy, too comfortable and then resentment can surface. Water thinks Fire is heartless and Fire thinks Wa- ter doesn’t have any business intentions. Without lots of communication, this polar opposite can fall apart easily. Hey you two, you are in love and there’s more to love than just smooching around. Remember the weeks of romance, the honeymoon, that’s not for special occasions – it’s how it needs to be every day. You both need to make a conscious effort to support and impress each other. With this you are destined to be in a long and happy relationship. 162
    • Fire /Earth The Bliss: Fast and practical partners. They rebuild worlds faster than any other team. Earth gives Fire solid fuel. Fire loves it. Fire burns, transforms and changes the world. The love will build and material strength will support you both. The world is your oyster and you can rest assured that the energy between you will be thankful, hopeful and joy- ous. Sustaining the Fire – building the ground beneath your feet will come easily, the team you are is formidable. In bed – well there’ll be hours and hours and hours of magic, vital life giving love-making. Alarm Bells: The alarm bells for this relationship are purely self created – Earth may slow to a crawl wanting to put things in order – Fire may see new horizons and growth may be in separate directions. When this happens, destinies part. The future is built into your dreams. Earth – keep up – Fire be mindful not to go off in all directions for the sake of change. Boredom can kill any relationship – guarantee your future – keep growing together. 163 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Water /Water The Bliss: They are born to nurture each other and anyone around them. Intelligent Water/Water team can hold your attention for hours. They are deep lakes of stillness, calm oceans of silence. When the water moves, you see them ev- erywhere inside, outside and around you. Intimate and deep relationships are also sensual and intense- ly emotional. Not many words, but lots of expression, emo- tional commitments, heaven on earth, love cocoon, two ted- dy bears hibernating in winter, and with the door shut and the curtains drawn its time for love and smiles and snuggles and cuddles. Two Buddhas deep in compassion, peace and love everywhere signal a reality for any two beings, whose love and passion are soft and comfortable. The joy is infinite, the warmth, radiant. You two can become a universe in a capsule. There’s no turning back, it’s slow and steady and long and generous. A giving, snuggling and mushy world of kisses and cuddles and lots of care about the world around you. Alarm Bells: Food, joy, cuddles and love. What bliss. What about the real world? What happened in the last 5 years? Did you follow up on your career? What happened to the bank account and your health? Be careful Waters for still Waters run deep but they also form swamps. Be mindful of the other six areas of your life. Keep yourself healthy and diversify your interests, otherwise you may end up unable to celebrate love because there’s not enough energy or time. 164
    • Water /Earth The Bliss: Water is poetry to Earth’s facts. Rocks start melting And Water gets some good grounds. Earth makes the decisions. Water brings the romance. Hold onto your seats ladies and gentlemen, because these two are about to go on a roller coaster ride which is wonderfully sensual, physical and emotional through thousands of years of history, journeying through the great rivers and canyons and up the tops of the highest mountains. A great celebration of mother Earth, the Water Earth combination screams with rapture at the meeting of minds and hearts. Its one out of the box, a relationship filled with gifts and giving of hugs and holding. A deeply passionate and wildly sexual meeting of hearts! Lucky you two, have fun. Alarm Bells: Earth wants control and Water refuses it. Earth thinks and Water feels, so there’s often a conflict between values and what comes from the tender heart of Water and what comes from the gentle mind of Earth can often arouse much disagreement. How does on then, move forward? Well it’s a matter of compromise – don’t negotiate – just work on the values which are important and hold on to them. You can do it, the twinkle in your eyes and the love in your heart can overcome these small challenges. 165 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Earth /Earth The Bliss: This team is extremely stable and productive, built to last and born to build. They accumulate a lot of wealth and property. . Now here’s a couple you’d never ever want to mess with. They have it under control, they know what they want and will protect each other to the death – Romeo and Juliet were Earth and Earth. A couple, whose love died with their bodies. If you are in an Earth/Earth relationship, jump for joy you are about to celebrate the depth of life from which every- thing is possible. Don’t worry about long term – you two are glued at the soul. Loyalty and certainty are your strength. Alarm Bells: Life can be boring if earth/earth can’t get out of their ‘repetitive’ nature and ‘pathologically organized fun’. It can be intense. You both love order, and you both love to be in control, how can you live together like that. In this relationship there is need for balance, and understand- ing. To evolve together you need time out, tenderness relax- ation and just chill time. You need to draw the line at control issues, need clear boundaries so that there’s just no confu- sion whose life is whose. Otherwise, there may be just one too many rules. If a person forgets to honour the other four elements -to move (Air), exercise (Fire), nurture themselves (Water) and follow a healthy routine (Earth), they will deplete them- selves and agitate Ether. This is the beginning of imbalance. 166
    • Balancing Our Natural Constitution is unique to us and each constitu- tion has its own special way of existing healthily. So the day of generic diets, one office fitting everyone, mass trends in color and style is at last a thing of the past. What we believe, is that there will be five trends, five office styles in one com- pany, five diets, five lifestyles, five music styles. One will be able to mix and match depending on their mood. And there will be reducing or increasing options. If your Water element is in excess, demonstrated by fluid retention and excess weight, you’ll be able to find the Wa- ter reduction lifestyle and all will be fine. It’s a personalized way of living. It no longer wishes to clone you by saying you “SHOULD” do this and SHOULD do that. It simply offers you your Natural Constitution –your birthright – with all its idiosyncrasies and then your “Behavioural Constitution” with all its imbalances and outcomes. You dial up the change and make subtle adjustments as required. The implication is that one ideology, one diet, one motivation, one value set fits all is flawed. They have little respect for human differences of which there are many. Ideally, those choices are cantered around careers, person- alities, social lives and relationships and are based on some- thing more permanent than personality. That could work in harmony with your natural constitution to create a more powerful, authentic and harmonious life. This is a spiritual thing; the balance of mind, body and spirit. It comes down to two words – excess and deficiency. Too much of a good thing is bad for you. Not enough is equally 167 bad. If you run around exhibiting Air behaviour – undertak- ing many tasks at once – and you are an Air predominant person, then, that is fine. But if you are a Water predominant person, then just a little bit of Air behaviour might deplete your Air reserves and you may collapse. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Each of us has a Natural Constitution. You may have 80% Ether, 40% Air, 10% Fire, 90% Water and 30% Earth. That would mean you are Water – Ether Predominant person. You could if you chose to, exhibit lots of Water behaviour – in terms of lifestyle (nurturing) and lots of Ether behaviour again in terms of lifestyle (philosophising) and be perfectly balanced. But if you do a lot of Fire Behavioural lifestyle ac- tivities – like eat chilli, get angry, experience violence, then, you will deplete your Fire reserves and go immediately into Fire excess. In other words the behaviour and your lifestyle experiences will eat up all your reserves (10%) and you’ll experience excessive Fire symptoms. Now interestingly, a person with 10% Ether, 5% Air, 1% Fire, 11% Water and 4% Earth has exactly the same Natural Con- stitution as the person above. They just have a lot less quan- tity of each element “built in” or in reserve. They could live exactly the same life as the first person but they would need to supplement their life with “substitute reserves of energy”. If this second person wanted to undertake exactly the same amount of experiential living as the first person, they would need to continually build up their Water and Ether elements because their reserves would be deficient. So for example, they would need to meditate for two hours a day (building up Ether) and have an Oil Massage every day (building up water). The amount of each element you have was determined at or before birth. If you live a lifestyle that consumes your natu- ral reserve of that Elemental Energy – then you need to sub- stitute natural with supportive behaviour. There was an of- fice designed by an Air Predominant person. Open the door and everyone could see each other, they all walked around talking and the tea lady – could also just walk up and chat to 168 anyone at a desk. This was an Air office. The tea lady –was an Air person as was the boss for which reason it was ideal. But for the staff which did not have Air people in abundance, were soon ex-
    • hausted. The CEO found that when the pressures came on from a business perspective, people started to falter. She couldn’t understand that the office environment consumed the Air energy of even those who had little of it. Water pre- dominant people with little Air became unproductive in this office because their little reserve of Air got sucked out by the Tea Lady, the constant chatter, the frequent interruptions and the open free flowing environment. To fix this situation, the CEO brought a Feng Shui master into the office only to realize that they were a Water Pre- dominant group. Guess what happened then? They moved the furniture all around, put paintings on walls and changed everything except their behaviour, the interruptions contin- ued, the office still encouraged Air behaviour but now had a Water layout. Water layout is great for a healing centre, Air behaviour is great for a school or creative team, but for productivity, nei- ther works. Earth is productive. In every office there needs to be a blend of all depending on the desired outcome. 169 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Symptoms & Reasons The following are the symptoms of excess. When we do cer- tain elemental activities beyond our capacity, they aggra- vate. On the left hand side some selected general conditions are listed. On the right side general causes are divided into five groups based on elements. If you find the specific elemental problem go the following section “pacifying your excess”. Please remember, that this book is just to help you provoke your thoughts. It is not intended to replace your therapists, doctors or any other health care professional or remove you from any program you are already on. 170
    • Ether Air Fire Water Earth Aching joints Fear, uncertainty Chaos, anxiety anger, frustration, attachment stubborn, rigid, Grief acidity stuck Acne self hate seeking approval rejection sloth, depression low confidence and self-esteem. ADD lack of attention too much lack of focus and lack of love and lack of support. from others distraction motivation care Muscular stiffness. Aging skin infatuation with stress, burnout straining, excess nurturing Worry, –wrinkles God emotional pushing, excess responsibility undernourished harshness Alcoholism too lonely Covered up Covered up anger Covered up Boredom confusion sadness Always late self obsseesed Mindlessness arrogance lack of self importancce consideration Anger Vulnerability pain and hurt Feeling wrong, Not feeling too much Chaos small, irrelevant appreciated Anxiety shattered Dreams out of control possible Failure threat and Uncertainty – loss violence of control Arthritis loneliness mental pain chronic anger chronic sadness Unexpressed grief Asthma stuck in the past. Victim - blame Bitter about the hanging onto Fundamentalism, lost hope past yester year refusing to change. Attached seeking approval Feeling lost confidence low self worth Greed, control inadequate Bad breath troubled thoughts Body breakdown hatred towards sloth - depression Bitterness - fear - stress the self, Bad period anxiety related to Fear related to anger towards Fear of loss Not utilizing relationship. sexuality. partner. creativity. Blood infection Depression reality run down, Deep seated, Ungrateful, not Ugly thoughts 171 versus fantasy exhaustion unresolved, anger, appreciating life violence / hatred. Total discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Ether Air Fire Water Earth Blood shot eyes shame and guilt hyperactivity angry about what self pity pushing you see. Body odor anger toward Fear of others. Bitterness self-hatred. lack of flexibility others Chronic fatigue Big dream – No too many options lost hope Depression No vision steps confused Beaten Clogged No ambition Cough and cold exhaustion, self Criticism Frustration with emotional release Change is coming depletion work or progress - unsticking Depression living life in the overwhelmed lost all hope Feeling useless shattered trust head. fantasies with chaos – no self worth Dermatitis annoyed with irritated with angry with someone something / someone someone Diarrhea anxiety skattered mind too much force poor eating loss of grip on life Emotional Misunderstood overwhelmed Disempowered Unsafe, rejected, lack of control fearful on life, Exhaustion lack of approval overdone it excess pushing Depression lost confusion too hard hope Fear lack confidence Won’t get it all loss and secrets uncovered. something will be Unsupported done humiliation exposed taken away Feeling victim trying to be Failed Coping with powerless Corruption, something they expectations. Guilt challenge – helpless. lost explaining broken are not confidence truth Fluid in the emotional pain, lack of exhaustion and Complexity sadness, sorrow, lung grief enthusiasm in burnout helplessness morbid thoughts what you do. Forgetful Worried about the scattered, in head, angry, frustrated,Body in one place, Worried about past – dreaming thinking, worry pushing mind in another, future dreaming of the future anxiety current. of the past 172 Gas Completely, spaced out lacking nurturing smothered in care pressure, Greed absolute fear of seeking approval Jealousy, fear of Wanting proof of worth. rejection insecure. death mothering Fathers approval Unsatisfied
    • Ether Air Fire Water Earth Grumpy Depleted. Not appreciated Not respected Feeling criticized Feeling useless, Fantasy vs. reality – didn’t get their unimportant. not same own way Guilt Not seeing the Not taking Not sorting out Not letting others Not dealing with complete picture. anything easy. the real reasons. independent. the real facts. Headaches Not seeing good Unsafe – not trying too hard Fear of failure trying to control in anything. good enough the world Heart attack i give up pushing, pushing, Force and Given up, stopped Carrying the pushing aggression. trying, can’t cope, weight of the extreme sadness world frustration. Heart burn Not knowing Fear of life. Not sorting out Vulnerability Fear of failure what has experiences. to something/ happened to you. someone. Hemorrhoids rejecting others afraid to let go. pushing people emotional in control, won’t and life away negativity let go Herpes on the Forgotten to say running around Bitter words, left anger rage and venom lips thank you in circles unspoken. Hyperactive Fear of failure Mistake activity trying to prove Not feeling cared Not feeling - rejection for productivity something for. supported by others. Immune self hate, self Just can’t do inadequacy, lost Failure to provide hidden feelings system rejection, enough – angry power, feeling enough care, and emotions breakdown disappointment helpless taking blame Insecure Feeling isolated Feeling Not liked Belittled physical Unsafe rejection, failure, and emotional environment loss Insomnia Not enough too much going enthusiasm, self pity, feeling Worry about physical exertion on – loose ends ambition, sorry for self loosing control. Jealous Greed – wanting think they are Feeling cheated expecting gold to Feeling small the ease of getting it easier out of victory drop out of trees. – unfavored, 173 another’s’ life Blame rejected Kidney stones Fear of God Fear and anger and Fear of rejection impractical ideas insecurity insecurity discvoer the real potential within you
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    • Ether Air Fire Water Earth Lost sex drive Vulnerability inadequacy Burn out – over too much worry distracted – Libido – not certain critical Lower back insecurity – didn’t too much change Conflict – didn’t Carrying others Worry about problem please dad. please self problems. Didn’t money or Carrying others’ please mum relationship problems. Memory loss Fear Guilt overload Guilt Guilt MS didn’t please self didn’t please Didn’t prove didn’t please didn’t please dad. or higher everyone worthy mum Muscle -sore excess thinking excess anxiety bitterness stuck anger Nervousness Judgmental Un nourished seeking approval, Vulnerable and lost control, fear - expectations – un supported fear of failing confused of loosing control Over sleep Dissatisfied with Deep sadness Can’t face reality Bored and lost dreams one’s own ability unmotivated Parkinson’s shame Deep resentment split allegiance Unhappy with self intense desire to control everyone Skin Infection Not letting go of annoying, angry, violent self depreciating Guilt and remorse other’s ideas irritating thoughts thoughts thoughts Sore kidneys the fear of Not worthy of Fear Fear of aloofness Fear of not coping loneliness nourishment with life and work Sore throat None understands No opportunity to Frustrated with Not saying, suppressed your view communicate communication fearing it might communication /opinion hurt Stomach upset anxiety Worry Frustration emotional loosing grip Trembling Disconnected Disconnected Disconnected Disconnected Disconnected from reality. too from self – trying from self, trying from nature and from earth, mate- much pain to please all to prove some- nurturing, unwor- rial and wealth thing thy of mothering, – structure, dad. Ulcers self absorption resentment Frustration, anger too much change Drive to success. – self importance – out of control insecurity 175 Ulcers in the toxic thoughts toxic ideas about toxic words toxic thoughts toxic thoughts, mouth about self and life and others, spoken – anger - inadequacy - hidden dark or God blame at self secrets. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Balancing program If you have signs of excess elements, you need to decrease them and bring the elements back to your constitutional promortions. Find out the origin of those imbalances. If it is intellectual casues, deal with that side immediately. If it is nutritional, change your eating plan to a better one. Ether Air Fire Water Earth General con- Come back to Come back to self Mix nurture refresh the en- Detach, let go, be cepts practicality – lower expecta- with drive – get ergy, unblock the helped, be loved, – lower com- tions – get out of energy flowing heaviness, lighten be kinder to self parison between head. in a constant up, move. and others. Go dream and reality. stop the spin direction easier on self and Give yourself time others Lifestyle Connect with Make lists , take a break. More logic, work Connect to your blessings, action, schedules, have a swim. on facts, let go, creativity, more get hands dirty in learn to say no, look the real seek fun. less activity that nature, get out, mindfulness, priorities. see the sitting – uphill makes you feel be thankful. bodywork. whole picture. walks, get fit. good, be kind to take it easy. others, soften Nutrition eat regularly, all reduce cold, low reduce spices, reduce carbs, fats reduce heavy groups of nutri- fat food items, salts, sour and and fluid intake. food items (chick ents, use diges- raw, uncooked acrid, pickles, peas, baked, tives to ensure veges, greens fermented and grilled, roasted absorption - salads yeasted items. and fried meat). Exercise swim, pilates, run, dance, gar- swim, water steam room, squash, swim- hill flat walks, den, swim, team sports, walks beach walks, ming, yoga badminton, golf, sports, hill walks, by river, deep cardiovascular, streches, deep theatre, outdoor, mud wrestling, breathing, gentle archery, weight breathing, wash 176 sex, paint, write massage. yoga. training. the car.
    • Ether Air Fire Water Earth Relationship stop pushing Be humble, be let go control, be Give them some try to appreciate them away, value caring, be kind, romantic, stop space to breathe. your partner, give their love, be allow them in, trying to change teach them some thanks to God for real, create lovingget lots of hugs. them. Don’t be responsibility. what you have. spaces. You are not so critical. take time out. always right. Mind think slower, be Focus, mindful- Be gentle, learn to let go, less control of mindful, absorb ness, be here patient, breathe. release. Work out everything, new the beauty of now, bring your try to express your priorities. ideas, new ways the moment, see body and mind your mind on have an action to see old things, blessings, say into the one paper before plan. Focus on time to hand over thank you be real. place, stop wor- your release, give the positive side, some worries to rying. thanks, laugh action. others, lighten more, love more. the load. Color strong and Bright and Cooling and stimulating and softening and grounding. grounding. calming. bright. relaxing. White, Yellow, greens, orange, yellow, White, pastels, reds, oranges. orange, mid blues brown. Greens / blues tones. Design Firm. loose. relaxing. sharp corners, Fun and Zen Circles, rect- plain, circles, Circles, ovals rectangles, lines, angles, corners. ovals solid. 177 discvoer the real potential within you
    • constitutional analysis 178 Be In Your Element Questionnaires
    • Constitutional Analysis Questionnaires The following questionnaire is designed for you to assess seven areas of your life to determine if your lifestyle suits your Natural Constitution or to identify imbalances, if any. The eight areas of your life include: 1. Health 2. Vacation 3. Diet & Food 4. Relationship 5. Social Life 6. Lifestyle 7. Work & Business 8. Office environment At the end of this section is a Master Analysis sheet, which allows you to total the scores from your Life Constitution analysis (for the seven areas mentioned above). Then, you compare those totals to your Natural Constitution which you scored early on in the book. You’ll get to see if you are truly living in your element! Have fun and enjoy. Your score should be based on how you feel when you are healthy and normal. Don’t choose ‘what you want to be’. There is no better or inferior body type. If you notice ten- dencies towards something you ‘want to be’, acknowledge that there is an imbalance. If you behave and live like an- other body type, it brings serious imbalances. Life becomes fulfilled when you behave according to your inner self. This questionnaire helps you find your inner nature. Be yourself. If you have doubts regarding your attributes, ask your friends or someone reliable, you trust. The scores range from 0 = the statement does not apply to you at all, to 179 10 = the statement applies to you 100%. Add the scores and insert the total in the right hand column for each element in each questionnaire and then transfer them into the Master Analysis sheet. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Health 180
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 I skip a days eating a few times a month. 2 I meditate for spiritual guidance. 3 I read enlightening books. 4 I listen to calming or classical music. 5 I go for long gentle walks regularly. Air 1 I have good circulation (don’t usually get cold toes and nose). 2 I do a lot of good breathing exercise. 3 I enjoy 2-3 cardio workout sessions weekly. 4 I do 2-3 running/jogging/treadmill sessions weekly. 5 I keep my body moving while at home or at the office. Fire 1 I work out 3-4 times weekly. I sweat easily. 2 I do 2-3 sessions of strong activities (eg: boxing/climbing) weekly 3 I set practical but very high goals for myself. 4 I raise my standards constantly but make sure they are safe. 5 I love to do and see changes and improvements in my health. Water 1 I do regular swimming / low impact exercise. 2 I eat only when I am hungry and drink when I am thirsty. 3 I cook for my friends and family whenever I get time. 4 I have 2-3 sessions of self-nurturing time each week. 5 I listen to people, sympathize with them Earth 1 I do regular weight training. 2 I do things methodically. 3 I have firm muscles and strong joints. 181 4 I love weights at gym, I have 3-4 weight sessions 5 I do my regular medical tests at the right times. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Vacation & Hobbies 182
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 I do more than 4 hours personal Reading each week. 2 I meditate every day. 3 I visit sacred places on my holidays. 4 I like chess, word puzzles. 5 I spend a lot of time at silent riverside dwellings. Air 1-10 Total 1 I love listening to or playing music daily. 2 I dance often and love it. 3 I enjoy picnics (somebody else organizes them). 4 I usually go on holidays with other people. 5 I get away from it all in quiet still isolated places. Fire 1-10 Total 1 I love action sports like white water rafting and climbing. 2 I compete in sports weekly. 3 I set physical challenges for myself daily. 4 I love action holidays – trekking etc 5 I attend lots of passionate parties. Water 1-10 Total 1 I attend cooking classes. 2 Feeding friends is a great recreation for me. 3 Relaxation and nurturing are really important on my holidays. 4 When I take a break – I enjoy slowing down. 5 I love warm, romantic, rainforest retreats. Earth 1-10 Total 1 I enjoy weight training. 2 I am pretty regular with my daily routine. 3 I collect things from the past. 183 4 I am detailed when it comes to researching something. 5 I enjoy historical places and museums. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Diet & Food 184
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 I have simple traditional preparations (such as salads). 2 I fast a few times a month. 3 I eat less food compared to my friends. 4 I meditate before eating. 5 I never have intense dialogues during mealtime. Air 1-10 Total 1 I’ve a large variety of vegetables / recipes in my daily meal plan. 2 I eat at regular intervals. 3 I eat food along with light chat. 4 I eat small / light meals 3-5 times a day. 5 Light meals including spinach & broths are a big part of my diet. Fire 1-10 Total 1 I eat big meals, compared to friends. 2 Once in a while, a good coffee will keep my Fire blazing. 3 Assimilation is important. I chew a lot. 4 I drink a lot of water. 5 Along with energy food, herbs and spices are vital to my meals. Water 1-10 Total 1 I make sure everyone else has enough food before I eat. 2 I serve to others at the same table. 3 I get a lot of opportunity to refine my culinary skills. 4 I skip meals if I don’t feel hungry and, eat well next time. 5 Healthy carbs and fruits are an important part of my diet. Earth 1-10 Total 1 I like to have breakfast at the same time every day. 2 I have solid three meals each day where possible. 185 3 I serve carefully and eat everything on my plate. 4 I make sure that I am hungry before eating. 5 I eat a lot of proteins discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Relationship Are you loving your Lover in Your Element? Partner here is used as friends, family, spouse or environment unless other- wise stated. Creation and destruction are not opposites, as they seem. They are two aspects of a single force. Break the constraints of the inner images and external standards. You must reclaim the natural state of your true self. Search for your own inner conviction. It does not have a public or private image of itself to live up to or one that dictates how it must behave. Under- stand yourself. Self-observation is essential to self-growth. Self-knowledge is a more reliable guide to behaviour than adherence to arbitrarily imposed standards. You see, success also requires the courage to risk disapproval. 186
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 I spend lots of calm, peaceful time with my partner. 2 We have an almost non-demanding, clutter-free life together. 3 We respect each other’s space and are formally express it. 4 We feel enriched and loved by each other’s presence. 5 My partner reads me enlightening stories. Air 1-10 Total 1 I get a lot of time to talk to my partner. 2 We exchange a lot of loving gestures. 3 My relationship is stable but very light and easy. 4 I find time to call my partner at least a couple of times a day. 5 My partner is very flexible with decisions. Fire 1-10 Total 1 I fall into a state of meditation when I am with my partner. 2 I have a positively challenging and extremely loving relationship. 3 We reward/appreciate each other for all the good work we do. 4 My partner listens to my stressful stories without being judgmen- tal. 5 My work and relationship are extremely complimentary to each other. Water 1-10 Total 1 We have a very loving, caring, sweet relationship. 2 I get lots of support and motivation from my partner. 3 Lots and lots of loving gestures -including flowers and sweets. 4 We discuss everything, to avoid friction later. It works. 5 I get a lot of attention from my partner. Earth 1-10 Total 1 We have a very reliable and responsible relationship. 187 2 Our house/environment is very organized. 3 We do handle matters/issues on a regular basis. 4 We have time bound, solid programs to make life easy and stable. 5 We have long-term investments. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Social life Understand the nature of illusion and reality. Voyage beyond the avoidance of pain and the pursuit of pleasure. We operate our whole lives in the illusion of a desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain. The man who is not troubled by pain and pleasure, who remains the same, he is wise and makes himself fit for eter- nal life. BHAGAVAD-GITA 188
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 I love dreaming up new ideas. 2 I often wonder about spirituality and god. 3 I feel really bad about social injustice. 4 I treasure my personal freedom. 5 I care about the social good – but don’t always act on it. Air 1-10 Total 1 I can spend hours with my friends running around helping them. 2 I get friends together for social gatherings. 3 I spend a lot of time with people I can help. 4 I don’t like aggression and violence. 5 Friends and family members bring a lot of variety to my daily life. Fire 1-10 Total 1 Changing the world excites me. 2 I love to persuade people about change and possibility. 3 I am unstoppable when it comes to a personal issue. 4 I fight for human rights. 5 I express my opinion with passion. Water 1-10 Total 1 I always make time for sharing and caring. 2 It is great to know that now we can support each other. 3 look after people in need. 4 I know many people in our neighbourhood. 5 I have a large loving circle of friends. Earth 1-10 Total 1 Laws are there for a good reason – people should obey them. 2 People with integrity, make a strong society. 3 I worry about things a lot. 189 4 When it comes down to it – action speaks louder than words. 5 Instead of worrying about why – we should do something. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Lifestyle 190
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 I have time to be in nature or in my garden. 2 I take long walks and watching birds and reading books. 3 I have long breakfasts. 4 I follow the laws and rules, they are to help me free. 5 I have meaningful conversation with my harmonious friends. Air 1-10 Total 1 Life is filled with various activities. 2 I do many short pleasure trips frequently. 3 I spend time in the garden or at the gym. 4 I am involved with gatherings where I can share my experiences. 5 I catch up with friends regularly. Fire 1-10 Total 1 I organize plenty of picnics by the water. 2 I am involved in many active groups linked to business and fi- nance. 3 I love challenging activities such as climbing and rowing. 4 I feel alive among a competitive group of friends. 5 I have a lot of cool areas and a mini gym at my home. Water 1-10 Total 1 I have a very harmonious family. 2 Cooking is a big part of my home life. It relaxes me. 3 I spend a lot of time nurturing others. 4 I have a garden and I have lots of water-themes in it. 5 I spend time with my friends and relatives. It is very healing. Earth 1-10 Total 1 I have an organized life. 2 I go for a long trip once a year. 191 3 I have a structured office with labelled drawers and shelves. 4 Punctuality is important in life. I do most things at specific times. 5 I make life decisions based on facts and figures. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Work & Business 192
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 Charity or helping others is my highest business value. 2 My business is based on a holistic philosophy. 3 My business always stimulates my imagination. 4 My work is usually intellectually elevating and fulfilling. 5 My work brings stillness and calmness into my life. Air 1-10 Total 1 My business is about communication –sharing information. 2 I mingle with a lot of different people everyday. 3 I use many different skills to improve my business. 4 My work life is colourful and full of variety. 5 My work elevates me and makes me a different person. Fire 1-10 Total 1 Winning and success are my highest working values 2 My work creates a precise strategy every week/month to work to. 3 My company uses a reward system to boost employees’ efficiency and company’s productivity. 4 My work challenges and excites me. 5 Profit and performance is a success measure in my work. Water 1-10 Total 1 A humanitarian working environment is my highest value. 2 I make sure all my colleagues are looked after. 3 I mutually cover for everyone in emergency. 4 My work satisfies and enriches me. 5 I focus on caring and nurturing in the business world. Earth 1-10 Total 1 My business is based on traditional values. 2 I constantly prove myself to be reliable and responsible. 193 3 My business focuses on investment, property or acquisition. 4 Success at work grounds me and brings stability to my life. 5 Integrity is my highest business value. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Constitution of your Office Environment 194
    • Ether 1-10 Total 1 My office is spacious with a lot of natural lighting/ventilation. 2 I have a lot of freedom with timing and deadlines. 3 Going to the office is like going home – it feels right. 4 My office has stillness, walls are white or pastels. 5 My colleagues are successful and calm. Air 1-10 Total 1 Communication is a major part of my work. 2 I handle more than one jobs/tasks as part of are my profession. 3 There a lot of walking/moving around involved in my work. 4 My boss is very supportive and inspiring. 5 Walls have many colours, the environment is active. Fire 1-10 Total 1 I have all the latest technology. 2 I like an extremely competitive environment. 3 I have plenty of vacation to relax and rejuvenate. 4 My work involves marketing, negotiation, analysis. 5 Fresh flowers and strong collared walls keep me flying. Water 1-10 Total 1 I have plenty of water features and indoor plants in my office. 2 I have comfortable chairs and cushions. 3 I have a small kitchen in our office, so everyone is comfortable 4 We understand each other and care for each other. 5 Earth 1-10 Total 1 Things happen in a very organized manner in my office. 2 I have a healthy hierarchy at the office. 3 My colleagues are extremely reliable. 195 4 Everything is pretty under control. 5 My room is set up with strong wooden table and firm carpet. discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Master Analysis 1. Copy your scores from the previous pages onto this page. 2. Circle the two predominant elements in each column, such as for relationship circle to two highest scoring elements. 3. If the same two elements are repeated in all seven columns, you are living a dream life. 4. If it is less than four columns, you seriously need to think about what changes it would take in your life to truly life in your element. elements Constitution health Vacation Diet & Food ether air Fire Water earth s s s s total 196
    • relationship social life lifestyle Work & Business office total u u u u u s s s s s 197 How do they compare? Are you living in your element? discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Appendix Constitution of the Evolution of Human History None of the elements are inferior or superior. Each of the ele- ments are equally and vitally important in human history. Phase 1: Earth - Hunters and Gatherers Built houses, agriculture, settlements, established families, built communities, engaged in animal husbandry, domes- tication of animals. People were short, stocky and working hard. They had solid bones. Phase 2: Water - Comforts Discovery of ships and navigation by ocean, exploration, possibility for commerce. Irrigation developed to support agriculture. Phase 3: Fire - Empires, Wars Discovery of weapons, machines of warfare, gunpowder, in- dustrial revolution. Roman empire, Alexander the great –big wars, conquests. Phase 4: Air - Travel, multimedia Air travel, communication, technology, media, telephone, newspaper, dissemination of knowledge. Space travel, quan- tum physics. Phase 5: Ether - Lower Awareness Age of application of psychology in marketing etc. Concept of global village. Europe united. People grew taller. Lower awareness (mind) is in action. Use of lower emotions con- trolling the knowledge, manipulation of media, controlling money and life. Greed factor (corporations) 198 Phase 6: Ether - Higher Awareness Yet to come: The age of unity, equanimity, equality and ac- tive compassion or the age of great dissolution, journey to nothingness.
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    • Be In Your Element Back Cover Discovering your constitutional type is a fundamental pre- requisite for every type of Tibetan healing. The fundamental constitution of a person remains the same for all his or her life. It is established in the womb and is de- termined by the energy type of the fertilizing spermatozoa and ovum, as well as by the way the mother’s nutritional and behavioural practices during pregnancy. Accordingly, knowing your type and determining your diet, behaviour, lifestyle, surroundings and biorhythms accord- ingly, is the best means of avoiding illness and promoting well being. 200
    • Back cover Rama Prasad, Ayurvedic Practitioner and Christopher Walker, Consultant have researched the science of Constitutional Analysis. A 6,000 year old science, ancient, yet powerfully appropriate in the currently challenged world to help people of all nations. A heart stopping simplicity, a life changing awareness, a deep and per- sonalized self-understanding that affects how we sleep, eat, loose weight, exercise, work, our office environment, our management style, our rela- tionships with others and the sort of products we buy. Your ‘elemental constitution’ – reveals the weather you thrive in, the foods to balance you, the exercise that suits you and the career you can live in harmony with. It reveals your possible imbalances and potential vulner- abilities and cautions you on what your potential lifestyle hazards are. In one thorough reading of this book you will easily develop a deeper understanding of your True Nature, your Natural Constitution. Then, you may choose to examine what constitutes your social life, your lifestyle, your relationships, your business and your health. These are the environ- ments you live in and in a perfect world would mirror your natural con- stitution. But they rarely do! By the end of the book you will have a chart - your Natural Constitution – a series of Environmental Constitutions (behavioural) and the ability to give your life style a score. This lifestyle score will be a measure of how overall, your lifestyle includ- ing your career, relationship and health program add up – and then, you can compare this score to your natural constitution. With the resources throughout the book you can easily adjust your office environment, your health program, your diet, your home or any other component of your life to bring your lifestyle – in line with your Natural Constitution. The ultimate goal of this work is to help you achieve some balance and honour your TRUE NATURE while honouring that of others. You may be more able to make adjustments, live more simply, feel more cantered and enjoy a deeper and more powerful understanding of other people. 201 discvoer the real potential within you
    • Be In Your Element Rama Prasad, Ayurvedic doctor and Christopher Walker, Evolution Consultant have researched the science of Constitutional Analysis. A 6,000 year old science, ancient, yet powerfully appropriate in the currently challenged world to help people of all nations. A heart stopping simplicity, a life changing awareness, a deep and personalized self-understanding that affects how we sleep, eat, loose weight, exercise, work, our office environment, our management style, our relationships with others and the sort of products we buy. Your ‘elemental constitution’ – reveals the weather you thrive in, the foods to balance you, the exercise that suits you and the career you can live in harmony with. It reveals your possible imbalances and potential vulnerabilities and cautions you on what your potential lifestyle hazards are. In one thorough reading of this book you will easily develop a deeper understanding of your True Nature, your Natural Constitution. Then, you may choose to examine what constitutes your social life, your lifestyle, your relationships, your business and your health. These are the environments you live in and in a perfect world would mirror your natural constitution. But they rarely do! By the end of the book you will have a chart - your Natural Constitution – a series of Environmental Constitutions (behavioural) and the ability to give your life style a score. This lifestyle score will be a measure of how overall, your lifestyle including your career, relationship and health program add up – and then, you can compare this score to your natural constitution. With the resources throughout the book you can easily adjust your office environment, your health program, your diet, your home or any other component of your life to bring your lifestyle – in line with your Natural Constitution. The ultimate goal of this work is to help you achieve balance and honour your TRUE NATURE while honouring that of others. You may be more able to make adjustments, live more simply, feel more cantered and enjoy a deeper and more powerful understanding of other people. 202