Social Mirror- a reflection of how other people see you. External – you look outside yourself for the definition of who you really are.
True Mirror – a reflection of the real you. Internal – you look inside for self-definition.
When it comes to how you feel about yourself, which mirror are you looking at.
What happens if you r self-image comes from the social mirror.
Your self-image becomes a reflection of how others see you.
You begin to think that your reflection is the real you.
If becomes your label and you get comfortable with it.
Break away from this. Be the Real You.
The Real you represents your best self and your potential.
Healthy Self-Worth can help you :
Withstand peer pressure
Try new things and get to know new people
Deal with disappointment, mistakes, and failure
Feel loved and wanted
Poor self-worth may lead you to:
Cave into peer pressure
Avoid trying new things
Fall apart during tough times
Feel unloved and unwanted
Character and Competence
Character is who you are, the qualities your possess.
Competence is what you ’re good at, your talents, skills, and abilities.
THE SELF-WORTH ARCH OF TRIUMP
Build character and competence one stone at a time.
The Self-Worth Arch of Triumph
The Foundation Stones of Character
Integrity – Being true to what you know is right and being honest with everyone, including yourself.
Service – Give back to people. “Service is like wetting your pants. Everyone can see what you’ve done, but only you can feel the warmth!”
Faith – Believing in something you can ’t see. Faith or religious involvement of some sort can build self-worth in teens.
15 No estaba oculto de ti mi cuerpo, cuando en secreto fui formado, y entretejido en las profundidades de la tierra. 16 Tus ojos vieron mi embrión, y en tu libro se escribieron todos los días que me fueron dados, cuando no existía ni uno solo de ellos. 17 ¡Cuán preciosos también son para mí, oh Dios, tus pensamientos! ¡Cuán inmensa es la suma de ellos! 18 Si los contara, serían más que la arena; al despertar aún estoy contigo.
The Foundation Stones of Competence
Talents and Skills – Everyone is born with unique talents and skills. They won ’t just happen to you – you have to happen to them. Don’t waste natural talents.
Accomplishments – Great power comes from accomplishing something you set your mind to.
Physical Health – Getting in shape physically is a competence that needs to be learned through trial and experience. Physical health leads to better emotional health.
Smart Decisions –
Smart decision-making is the keystone of the Self-Worth Arch of Triumph. If you do this one right, all the other building blocks seem to fall into place. Having a healthy self-worth, the sixth most important decision you ’ll every make, is the result of being smart about the previous five decisions.
1. How do I build self – worth if I think I’m not good looking?
Many teens wish they were better looking.
If you always look to the social mirror, you ’ll always feel inadequate.
Inner Beauty is more important than the outer kind.
The F ollowing are Beauty Tips:
For attractive lips,
Speak words of kindness
For lovely eyes,
Seek out the good in people
For a slim figure,
Share your food with the hungry
For beautiful hair,
Let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day
Walk with the knowledge that you will never walk alone
People, even more than things, have to be restored,
Renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed;
Never throw anybody out.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes
Because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
- Sam Levenson
2. How can I cope when I constantly get called names, put down, and teased?
Let it roll off.
If you knew how little time other people actually spend thinking about you, you wouldn ’t care so much about what they think