Caterpillar to Butterfly (part 4) Setting Goals

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Find out how to bring your thoughts together into a realistic game plan that will help move you ahead in live.
This slide presentation is based on the Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook that was created by I M Confident Niagara Canada. The workbook has 84 pages of information that will provide you with the tools needed to get you started on your own personal journey to happiness and success plus activities to reinforce what you have learned. You can order your own copy today or download the e-book immediately. Visit www.imconfident.com for more information.

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Caterpillar to Butterfly (part 4) Setting Goals

  1. 1. CATERPILLAR TO BUTTERFLY A Journey to Happiness and Success Setting Goals Presentation by I M CONFIDENT Created by Brenda Silveira
  2. 2. IMPORTANT INFORMATION • Please note that our visual presentations and printed information are not intended to replace any professional help you are receiving. Use them in conjunction with your current services and/or programs. • If you are feeling overwhelmed by life situations or fell this information is not helping you properly, please contact your health professional for assistance.
  3. 3. SETTING GOALS This presentation will provide you with information on setting and working towards goals. Please have a notebook and pen handy so you can write down notes and answer questions. After you have viewed the presentation, you will be able to use your notes to prepare your personal goal plan.
  4. 4. GOALS ARE DREAMS WITH DEADLINES. ~Diana Scharf Hunt The theory of setting goals began in the late 1960’s by Dr. Edwin Locke. He determined that: •People with specific goals:  Were motivated to accomplish them  Had a direct impact on their performance •People with non-specific goals:  Were not motivated  Found it hard to reach their goals
  5. 5. GOALS ARE IMPORTANT Most successful people: •Set goals and work hard to reach these goals •Don’t wait for things to happen to them, they make things happen in their lives •Create a plan to help them reach their ultimate goal in life through a series of short-term plans and tasks
  6. 6. GOAL PLANNING ISN’T DIFFICULT Goals give purpose to life. They: •Bring your thoughts together into one game plan •Can be set for a week, month, year or lifetime •Can be simple or complex •Can be started in any life stage – child, teen, adult or senior
  7. 7. SETTING GOALS WILL  Give you energy and keep you moving ahead  Lessen stress  Help you focus on important tasks  Give you confidence  Help you overcome barriers and obstacles  Give purpose to your life
  8. 8. DOES YOUR LIFE HAVE PURPOSE? Many people go through life aimlessly, doing the same thing every day and never make any changes. This is like taking a trip and not making any plans, so you don’t really go anywhere.
  9. 9. WHAT IS YOUR ULTIMATE GOAL IN LIFE? Before we go any further, write down what your ultimate goal is. Take a few minutes and consider: •What you have always dreamed of doing •What do you want to achieve in life •What are you interested in doing My goal in life is_____________________?
  10. 10. D.R.A.W. YOUR GOALS It is OK if you set goals but don’t reach them, as long as you are trying hard and moving forward. It is NOT OK if you don’t try to reach your goals or don’t even set goals. Setting the proper goals will give you a road map to success. Let’s start to D.R.A.W. our own personal roadmap. Definite Set your goals high and Realistic don’t stop until you get there. ~Bo Jackson Assessable Well-timed
  11. 11. D.R.A.W YOUR GOALS - Definite Being DEFINITE about what you want to achieve keeps you focused and on track. Need to write a step-by-step plan Focus on your own thoughts Start each day with determination Don’t: Get sidetracked about what others say and do Let disappointment stop you Give up on your goals
  12. 12. DEFINITE GOALS STATE AN EXACT PURPOSE DEFINITE – I want to lose 50 pounds. NOT DEFINITE – I want to lose some weight. DEFINITE – I am registering for an accounting course tomorrow. NOT DEFINITE – I am thinking about taking a course. DEFINITE – I am travelling to Calgary in July. NOT DEFINITE – I am taking a trip this summer. Think of 3 goals you have and write them down.
  13. 13. D.R.A.W. YOUR GOALS - Be REALISTIC when setting goals. Consider: Your environment Your financial situation Your education & knowledge Your abilities If you are willing to make any necessary changes Realistic
  14. 14. WORK WITHIN YOUR CAPABILITIES • Stretch your abilities, but need goals within physical/mental abilities • Look at what others have accomplished as an example, then determine what you want to accomplish • Never set goals that belong to somebody else, instead create your own
  15. 15. WHAT ARE REALISTIC GOALS? A 20 year woman wants to open a clothing store, but has no money. Is this achievable? Yes, if she has good credit, she could get a small loan to start with. A 40 year old man registers for a 5 year course and plans to graduate in 2 years. Is this achievable? No, the course would require a certain time length to complete.
  16. 16. WHAT ABOUT THESE? A 30 year old man is almost blind and wants to race cars. Is this realistic? No, it requires good eyesight to drive. A 40 year old woman wants to learn ballet and be a teacher, but has never danced before. Achievable? No, ballet needs to be learned and practiced by a young, flexible body.
  17. 17. BREAK LARGER GOALS INTO SMALLER GOALS • Small tasks are easier to manage • Allows time to focus and measure progress • Makes it easier to keep moving ahead • Can give yourself small rewards • Ask family and friends to help • Others will see your accomplishments
  18. 18. CREATE A VISUAL IMAGE OF YOUR GOALS • Imagine what your goals would actually look like • Try to draw simple pictures of your goals • Look at your pictures and decide if they look realistic to you
  19. 19. D.R.A.W. YOUR GOALS – Assessable Goals need to be ASSESSABLE so you can measure progress. Regularly revisit your goals: •Analyse them •Update them •Make changes •Anticipate problems •Celebrate your success Ask yourself: Will your goals affect your life? Will they make an impact?
  20. 20. EVALUATING YOUR GOALS You should start with a daily review of your goals, then gradually move to a weekly and monthly review. Here are some questions to ask: 1)What have I learned? 2)What has worked/not worked? 3)Did smaller goals support larger goal? 4)What progress has been made? 5)Have relationships with others improved? 6)Any changes needed? 7)Anything missing from goal plan?
  21. 21. REWARD YOURSELF You should reward yourself when goals are reached. •Helps reinforce newly created good habits •Gives a personal incentive to keep moving forward Some ideas for rewarding yourself: A special treat (ice cream, cake, chocolate) A bubble bath Renting a movie Going for coffee with a friend What would you like to have as a reward?
  22. 22. D.R.A.W. YOUR GOALS – Well- Set goals that are well-timed. Does age and capability allow your goals to be accomplished Specify starting and ending time Match difficulty with time frame Make steady progress Timed
  23. 23. HOW DO YOU PLAN YOUR TIME? Time can be a huge factor in being successful. Do you: Procrastinate Put things aside Start things and not finish them Tend to be too cautious or careless? These can all cause problems or stop you from reaching your goals.
  24. 24. HOW TO CONQUER PROCRASTINATION Organize each day with specific plans Break down large goals into smaller goals and tasks Tell others about your goals as it gives healthy pressure to push you forward Challenge yourself to keep moving forward on achieving your goals
  25. 25. YOU WILL FAIL, SO DON’T BE SURPRISED Always keep in mind: •You are human •You will make mistakes •You will fail sometimes Failure: •Is a normal part of life •Is an excellent learning process •Motivates us to work harder •Helps us make necessary changes
  26. 26. NEVER GIVE UP • Keep going even when things get difficult • Life will always test us • Nobody else can succeed for us • Need to learn how to fail successfully
  27. 27. PUT THINGS IN PROPER PERSPECTIVE • When you miss a deadline for a goal, ask yourself why • When we move ahead 2 steps, life may throw us backward a step or two • Missed goals and failures will slow you down, but won’t erase all your hard work
  28. 28. DON’T MAKE EXCUSES WHEN • It’s too hard • I can’t succeed • I grew up in an abusive home • I didn’t go to college • The government doesn’t help people like me • It’s not my fault • My boss holds me back • I don’t have the time or money YOU FAIL
  29. 29. IF YOU HAVE NEVER FAILED, YOU HAVE NEVER LIVED • Everyone experiences failures in life • Failures can destroy or make stronger • Failures aren’t problems unless you dwell on them and stop growing • Learn from failures and use as stepping stones to future successes
  30. 30. IF YOU HAVE FAILED YOU ARE IN GOOD COMPANY • Lucille Ball failed at drama school because she was too shy • Bill Gates failed when he dropped out of Harvard • The Beatles failed when Decca Records rejected their music as not being popular • Beethoven failed when his music teacher said he was hopeless as a composer, then he became deaf • Walt Disney failed at his newspaper job, they said he had no original ideas or imagination • Einstein failed in his parents’ eyes as they thought he was mentally challenged • Abraham Lincoln failed twice in business, lost 8 elections, then after his fiance died he had a nervous breakdown • Henry Ford failed in the first 2 companies he started • Thomas Edison failed at school, his teacher thought he was too stupid to learn anything THESE PEOPLE ALL FAILED BEFORE THEY WERE SUCCESSFUL!! The key to their success was having confidence in their abilities, not listening to what others said about them and not giving up on their goals in life.
  31. 31. LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURES • Failure isn’t a problem unless you dwell on it and stop growing • Learn from your failures and try to not make the same mistakes again • There is a lesson to be learned from everything we do in life • Failures help you learn to deal with difficulty in life • Failures can destroy you or make you stronger – it is all how you react • Treat failures as stepping stones to future successes
  32. 32. ROAD BLOCKS Is anything stopping you from reaching your goals? Fear of rejection or failure Too busy doing other things Criticisms and advice from others Demands from others Holding on to bad habits It is necessary to eliminate any blocks before you can move forward and successfully reach your goals.
  33. 33. YOUR INTERESTS AND ABILITIES Children have dreams that reach the sky. They want to be: •A lawyer •A fireman •An astronaut •A president •A teacher •And so on When the adult emerges, where are these dreams? They are hidden and forgotten.
  34. 34. WHAT WOULD MAKE YOU HAPPY? Think about 3 things that would make you happy. If you could accomplish these things right now, would they still be making you happy in a month, next year, in 5 years? Immediate successes may not be important after a period of time. When setting goals, consider: •Your interests and abilities •What you need now •What you need in the future
  35. 35. SETTING YOUR GOALS It’s time to set your goals. Find a comfortable, quiet location Take a pad of paper, pen and any notes you have made Gather your thoughts Start writing
  36. 36. WHAT IS YOUR ULTIMATE GOAL IN LIFE? Your ultimate goal should be something: You can’t live well without You have always dreamed about doing You have the skills and talents to accomplish You can do without road blocks You can commit to with time and effort
  37. 37. SOME IDEAS OF ULTIMATE GOALS •Losing 100 pounds •Becoming debt-free •Getting an accounting diploma •Learning to drive a car •Getting married and having children •Owing a business •Finishing high school •Eating healthier
  38. 38. CAN YOU D.R.A.W. YOUR ULTIMATE GOAL? The next 5 slides will give you an example of how to D.R.A.W. your goal. You can use the same template for your goal. The example we are using is: TO LOSE 100 lbs. in 2 years.
  39. 39. TO LOSE 100 LBS/2 YEARS IS YOUR GOAL DEFINITE? Why do you want to reach this goal? Overweight Have health issues starting Who is going to be involved in this goal? Myself, family, friends What do you want to accomplish? Reduce blood pressure How will you work on your goal? Walk, bike, exercise Where will you work on your goal? Street, home, gym
  40. 40. TO LOSE 100 LBS/2 YEARS IS YOUR GOAL ASSESSABLE? How much or how many? 100 pounds 1lb per week How can I measure this? Journal Chart Clothing size Scales
  41. 41. TO LOSE 100 LBS/2 YEARS IS YOUR GOAL REALISTIC? Is your goal physically possible? Yes, my health is good enough to manage this. Is your goal mentally possible? Yes, I have learned the best ways to lose weight Is your goal emotionally possible? Yes, I have support from family & friends. Are there road blocks to remove? No, I am no longer afraid of looking stupid and can face others. Is this your goal or somebody else’s? This is my goal.
  42. 42. TO LOSE 100 LBS/2 YEARS IS YOUR GOAL WELL-TIMED? When will you start working on your goal? March 1, 2011 When will you complete your goal? March 1, 2013
  43. 43. TO LOSE 100 LBS/2 YEARS WHAT ARE YOUR SMALLER GOALS? TIMING DESCRIPTION OF GOAL DETAILS DAILY Walk for 30 minutes 9 am 2x WEEK Go for a bike ride for 30 minutes Wed & Sat at 1pm WEEKLY Go to the gym to exercise for 1 hour Friday at 7pm WEEKLY Monitor weight with scales Monday at 7am DAILY Eat healthy food/cut portion sizes Reduce fats, carbs & eliminate sugar DAILY Write progress in journal Mark weight on calendar – goal of 1 lb per week
  44. 44. TO LOSE 100 LBS/2 YEARS WHAT ARE YOUR REWARDS? WEEKLY CHECK ON WEIGHT – go for coffee with friends KEEPING REGULAR EXERCISE ROUTINE FOR MONTH – take spouse to a movie KEEPING PROPER DIET FOR A MONTH – take family to lunch LOSE 50 LBS BY END OF YEAR 1 – buy new wardrobe LOSE 100 LBS BY END OF YEAR 2 – buy another new wardrobe and take family on camping vacation
  45. 45. THERE IS A BEGINNING, BUT NOT ALWAYS AN END • Goals always have a beginning • Goals can have specific deadlines (lose 50 lbs in one year) • Goals can be renewed (lose 50 more lbs next year) • Goals can be ongoing (improving attitudes or building character)
  46. 46. EXAMPLES OF ONGOING GOALS • To be thankful to God • To be loving and considerate • To be caring and compassionate • To be patient and kind • To be a good example to others • To be generous • To be honest and trustworthy • To spend quality time with family and friends • To always do the best in every situation
  47. 47. IT’S TIME TO SET YOUR OWN GOALS Use the sample template and work on setting your own goals: •Think out of your box •Stop pretending your life is okay •Be honest with yourself •Take action and make some good choices •Take control of your own life Start today. Don’t wait any longer. Success and happiness won’t come looking for you, but they can be found if you are willing to put in time and effort. GOOD LUCK!!
  48. 48. The Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook will help you get started on your journey to happiness and success. Order your copy today! Visit our website for order information. www.imconfident.com THANK-YOU

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