What is the Buddy System?The ‘buddy’ system is defined as anintentional relationship between a Y4-Y1, withthe objective of sharing God’s love with eachother through lifestyle examples.E.g.: Jesus Christ prayed, ate meals,travelled with his disciples. He taught them,disciplined them, encouraged them. He ledhis ministry with them. He spent time withthem, and they with him.
Why is it important?1. 2 takeaways from your time in the BB: a. Relationship with God b. Relationship with each other2. Opportunity to show Personal Love3. No Y1 is left behind4. Basis for Christian Mentorship
What is the Biblical basis? Moses invested in Joshua, Caleb and Aaron. Elijah called Elisha to be with him and Elisha carried on the prophetic legacy with a double portion of Elijahs spiritual power (2 Kings 2:9). Paul mentored Timothy and Titus (2 Timothy 2:2) Jesus called twelve disciples to be with him, to send them out to preach, and to have authority over demons. (Mark 3:14)
1 Thessalonians 2:1-121 You know, brothers and sisters, that our visit to you was not without results. 2 Wehad previously suffered and been treated outrageously in Philippi, as you know, butwith the help of our God we dared to tell you his gospel in the face of strongopposition. 3 For the appeal we make does not spring from error or impure motives,nor are we trying to trick you. 4 On the contrary, we speak as those approved by Godto be entrusted with the gospel. We are not trying to please people but God, whotests our hearts. 5 You know we never used flattery, nor did we put on a mask tocover up greed—God is our witness. 6 We were not looking for praise from people,not from you or anyone else, even though as apostles of Christ we could haveasserted our authority. 7 Instead, we were like young children among you.Just as a nursing mother cares for her children, 8 so we cared for you. Because weloved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of Godbut our lives as well. 9 Surely you remember, brothers and sisters, our toil andhardship; we worked night and day in order not to be a burden to anyone while wepreached the gospel of God to you. 10 You are witnesses, and so is God, of howholy, righteous and blameless we were among you who believed. 11 For you knowthat we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, 12encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls youinto his kingdom and glory.
What can we learn from Paul’s example? v.1: our relationship will bear fruit. v.2a: sometimes we are rejected, hurt. v.2b: but God is our helper, even when things don’t go according to plan. v.3: Know that our motives are pure… v.4: because we have been approved by God, entrusted the Gospel: we seek to please Him, not our Sec Ones. v.5: and God knows our heart inside out. v.6: As Admin, we could ‘force’ the Sec Ones to listen to whatever we say… v.7: But instead we choose to humble ourselves, to be like them; like a Mother and her child. v.8: We love you! Enough to share the good news of Christ, and also our personal lives as well. v.9: We sacrifice our time and resources for your sake, without seeking repayment. v.10: So that one day you will bear witness, and become examples yourself! v.11: You will realize that we treated you as a Father treats his child. v.12: encouraging, comforting, and urging you towards a personal relationship with Jesus Christ himself.
The Y4-Y1 Buddy System 20121. Four Key Focuses2. How to Choose a Buddy?3. A Few Warnings4. What Happens Next?
1. Four Key Focuses Accountability Commitment Manpower Motivation
Accountability Formation of a Buddy System Committee (BSC): 4 Wing Commanders + DY-Operations. Reports directly to CSM + Officers Monthly checks on all Y4 buddies. Spot-checks on Y1s. Organizes and promotes possible Buddy-Activities.
Commitment Y4 Buddies will have to commit until August 2012. Monthly meet-ups (Compulsory) Lunch/Dinner Wing Outings Phone-calls Weekly interactions (Own-time, own target) SMSs Online chatting Talking during Parades Christian Mentorship (eventually) Praying together Quiet-Time together
Manpower No difference in commitment between Y4 IP/Express. 1 Y1 : 1 Y4 Buddy, but 1 Y4 Buddy can have > 1 Y1 Buddy. Non-Christian Y1s must have Christian Buddies.
Motivation No-one can motivate you except yourself, or God, if you ask Him to plant a desire in your heart. It’s about leaving a legacy of love behind. This Buddy System is NON-COMPULSORY.
2. How do we choose someone to mentor?Rick Warren, author of The Purpose Driven Life:RT "@RickWarren: 2 TIm. 2:1-7 F.A.I.T.H.qualities I look for in guys Illmentor: Faithful,Available,Industrious,Teachable,Heart for God."F.A.I.T.H.: Faithful Available Industrious Teachable Heart for God
How to choose a buddy? Prayer Familiarity Personality Intentions
3. A Few Warnings1. Christ must be the aim/goal in any relationship between two people. If not, the tendency is that people end up getting emotionally hurt. Why did/didn’t you do this? Don’t you care about how I feel? I have sacrificed so much for you, why haven’t you done the same? We are by nature selfish beings, but we must remember that the end-goal of discipleship is NOT to grow closer to one another, but for each of us to grow closer to Christ. The by-product of a buddy- relationship is friendship, love, and concern for each other.2. Be very specific and careful of how you define your relationship with your Y1 Buddies, especially the first time you meet them. Sincerely explain to them the reasons why you are doing this, and what kind of activities they may come to expect over the next few months. Ask for their permission, and do NOT force them to do anything they do not want to do.3. When looking after Juniors, I always remember the verse from Mark 9:42, where Jesus warns his disciples of the consequences of NOT taking care of his children well: “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea.” It is a stern warning that these Y1s belong to Christ, and if we bring them away from Him, rest-assured He will discipline us eventually.4. When in doubt, pray.
4. What Happens Next?1. Buddy Application Form to fill up. a) Deadline for submission is Wed, 28th March, 3pm, Koi Pond. b) You can pass your form to any of the KAH + BSC during the week. c) If we don’t receive your form, you’re simply telling us that you don’t want a Buddy.2. Next Parade: 31st March: Enrolment Parade Rehearsal. a) Buddy-time b) Note-writing