The Verbally ABUSED HUSBAND

This is compassionately dedicated

to the men who have fought to love and understand

in total solitude

The women that…

The women that… Rage at them

The women that… Rage at them Call them names

The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes

The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities

The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities Mock their interests

The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities Mock their interests Trivialize their pain

The women that… Rage at them Call them names Criticize their mistakes Joke about their insecurities Mock their interests Trivialize their pain Yell at them suddenly

Threaten them with their deepest fears

Then tell them they deserve it!

Then to top it off…

She denies it all!

If you are one of these men…

We believe in you

in your struggle

your loneliness

and your pain.

It's all very real.

You are not alone!

Here are some signs

Of an abusive relationship

But before we start…

A point of clarification:

This presentation in now way is meant to belittle even in the slightest way the abuse that women and children are victims of.

This presentation in now way is meant to belittle even in the slightest way the abuse that women and children are victims of.

As a matter of fact, the following signs apply to all abusive relationships, whether the victim is a child, a wife or a husband.

As a matter of fact, the following signs apply to all abusive relationships, whether the victim is a child, a wife or a husband.

Our intention is simply to bring to the world’s attention that men, like women and children, are victims as well.

Our intention is simply to bring to the world’s attention that men, like women and children, are victims as well.

Types of Emotional Abuse: Based on: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans

Withholding

Withholding When a women refuses to empathetically listen, validate, or share emotions. She withholds thoughts and feelings. She thus destroys the core of what sustains an intimate relationship, intimacy.

Countering

Countering She negates, or counters his reality, feelings or experiences. He cannot say or do anything right.

Discounting

Discounting Discounting causes partners to believe something is truly wrong with their feelings, thoughts and experiences. It causes a feeling of worthlessness.

Disguised Jokes

Disguised Jokes Pokes at his most sensitive areas. Demeaning to his masculinity or abilities.

Blocking and Diverting

Blocking and Diverting Blocking and diverting controls the discussion. When she BLOCKS, she will negate or nullify your statements. When she DIVERTS she will end the discussion, claim confusion, or “tiredness” with the subject. This prevents any possibility of resolving conflicts.

Accusing and Blaming

Accusing and Blaming A verbal abuser will accuse or blame her partner for causing the abuse she is perpetrating.

Judging and Criticizing

Judging and Criticizing The verbal abuser judges her partner’s thoughts and actions and then expresses her judgment in a critical way. By doing this, she continues her controlling behavior.

Trivializing

Trivializing By trivializing his actions, opinions or perceptions, she is in essence saying that he is less significant that she. She thus tries to maintain her power over him.

Undermining

Undermining Undermining not only withholds emotional support, it erodes confidence and determination. This makes her feel that she can more easily control him.

Threatening

Threatening “ Do as I say or else…” Verbally abusive threats are usually targeted directly at the victims deepest held insecurities. The ultimate statement of power and control.

Name Calling

Name Calling Simply put, this is the most overt and obvious verbal abuse there is. Name calling is the ultimate nullification of his “self”. In other words “You do not exist”.

Forgetting

Forgetting Abusive forgetting, i.e. “forgetting” appointments, agreements, and/or incidences is a form of manipulative denial. The abuser bluntly denies the partners existence. In doing so she shuts down any possibility of communication. Its like talking or living with a brick wall.

Ordering and Demanding

She’s in charge here… Ordering and Demanding is meant to demean a partner and tell him he is neither equal nor autonomous. Ordering and Demanding

Denial

Denial She feels that she in not accountable. She could read all of these categories and say "I love you, I'd never do anything to hurt you." She may even believe that herself.

Abusive Anger

Abusive Anger By being abusively angry, the abuser is saying; “ As long as I am scary and threatening to you I can have my way”.

If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:

If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor

If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor Consult your Lawyer

If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor Consult your Lawyer Learn as much as you can on the subject

If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available: Consult Your Family Doctor Consult your Lawyer Learn as much as you can on the subject Start the process towards a happier life!

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