Show up like you mean it

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A self-guided journey to help you 'show up like you mean it.'

This reflective journal has exercises that will help you discover what you value most about who you are... and who you want to be.

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  1. 1. Show Up Like You Mean It Being PresentReflective Journal Donna Howes chrp, cec, pcc
  2. 2. Presence shows up inpeak moments when I ammost creative, empoweredand alive.It feels warm and coolat the same time,and is most certainly wiredto that part of methat instinctively strivesto make a differencein the lives of others.
  3. 3. What is Signature Presence?1Signature Presence is the unique set of attitudes and assetsthat make you stand out to others. It includes the self-confidence you feel when you are at your best — and theabsolute certainty that you are at peace with yourself.Outwardly, presence looks a lot like clear thinking, great timing,and the ability to relate, interact, and communicate in powerfuland meaningful ways.Inwardly, presence often reveals itself through our wise innervoice that whispers (and if we’re lucky shouts!) that we’re ‘in theflow’, 2 that we ‘nailed it’ or that ‘it just felt right’.This important knowledge, together with how you show up,generates a sense of confidence and ease…in yourself andfor others.Why a Reflective Journal?Where do you look for Signature Presence? Inside yourself.(You knew that….) Discovering your Signature Presence takeslooking inside—AND reflecting on your strengths, your valuesand what you want to be known for.So, meet your Being Present Reflective Journal…your new bestfriend. I invite you to take a self-guided journey by using thesepages to record your thoughts and observations, insightsand responses.As you explore...remember to stay curious about new ways ofthinking and being which are sure to emerge!1 Signature Presence: Executive Coaching with Backbone and Heart, Mary Beth O’Neill2 Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi 1
  4. 4. Self-guided Reflection exerciseSignature presence is how you show up to others; your essence, if you will.A good place to start is by understanding what presence means to you.Who are the three individuals that you most admire, and why? • ____________________________________________________ • ____________________________________________________ • ____________________________________________________What qualities, characteristics or behaviors do you notice in these people? • ____________________________________________________ • ____________________________________________________ • ____________________________________________________If someone who knew you intimately were to describe you, what three wordsmight they use? • ____________________________________________________ • ____________________________________________________ • ____________________________________________________ “The way to do is to be” – Lao Tzu Reflection Tips 2
  5. 5. Reflection notes Self-awareness and your inquiring mind are natural reflection tools. Take note of your insights about your feelings, emotions, intentions and desires. Then ask yourself “so what?’” “What might be possible if I allowed myself to be the best I can possibly be ALL the time?” Once you have an answer, write down one thing you would be willing to put into action. That’s showing up like you mean it! What? The Insight or New Idea • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ So What? The Opportunity • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ What Next? The Action • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ 3
  6. 6. Discovering your Signature PresenceUnderstanding “what you do” and” how you do it” will help you to discoveryour signature presence.In this section of your self-guided journey, you’ll have an inner dialogue abouttwo important aspects of who you are that contribute greatly to your presence.These are your: • strengths and talents • values and virtuesSelf-guided Reflection exercise – StrengthsOn the next two pages you’ll find a list of strengths and talents. In their work onstrengths-based leadership, Gallup Research3 measures talents in four areas— Executing, Influencing, Relationship, and Strategic Thinking. By adding skills andknowledge to how we think and behave, these talents can be defined as strengths.Step 1Spend 5 – 7 minutes mulling over the following questions: • “What am I good at?” • “Which ways of ‘doing things’ feel natural to me?” • “What do I do on purpose?” • “What do I not do on purpose?”Step 2On the next two pages, list your talents for doing things well(not necessarily what you want to do more of ) and take noteof these in the space provided. Listen to your listening without judgement. Reflection Tips3 Strengths-Based Development: http://strengths.gallup.com/default.aspx 4
  7. 7. Understanding Your Strengths and Talents Talents • AttributE Your Talents and Strengths Executing P eople who are strong in the Executing domain have an ability to take an idea and transform it into reality within the organization they lead. • Achiever • Arranger • Belief • Consistency • Deliberative • Discipline • Focus • Responsibility • Restorative Influencing P eople who are innately good at influencing are always selling the team’s ideas inside and outside the organization. • Activator • Command • Communication • Competition • Maximizer • Self-Assurance • Significance • Sparkle 5
  8. 8. Understanding Your Strengths and Talents Talents • AttributE Your Talents and Strengths Relationship R elationship builders are the glue that holds a team together and transforms a group of individuals into a team capable of carrying out complex projects and goals. • Adaptability • Developer • Connectedness • Empathy • Harmony • Includer • Individualization • Positivity • Relater Strategic thinking S trategic thinkers keep people focused on what they could be by helping the team to make better decisions. • Analytical • Context • Futuristic • Ideation • Input • Intellection • Learner • Strategic 6
  9. 9. Reflection notes Self-awareness and your inquiring mind are natural reflection tools. Take note of your insights about your feelings, emotions, intentions and desires. Then ask yourself “so what?’” “What might be possible if I allowed myself to be the best I can possibly be ALL the time?” Once you have an answer, write down one thing you would be willing to put into action. That’s showing up like you mean it! What? The Insight or New Idea • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ So What? The Opportunity • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ What Next? The Action • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ • _______________________________________________ 7
  10. 10. Self-guided Reflection exerciseOn the next two pages you’ll find a list of values and virtues.In their work on character-based strengths, the Values in ActionInstitute (VIA)4 explores what is best about human beings.Their VIA classification of strengths is the “backbone” of thescience of positive psychology.Step 1Spend 5 – 7 minutes mulling over the following questions: • “What are my guiding values?” • “What am I proudest of in myself?” • “Which way of ‘being’ feels natural to me?” • “What do I value most about myself?”Step 2On the next two pages, list all the values that you feel reflectwho you are (not necessarily what you feel is expected of you)and take note of these in the space provided. Stay curious and focus on learning. Reflection Tips4 VIA Institute on Character: http://viacharacter.org/www 8
  11. 11. VIA CharacteristicsVirtues Values • Attributes Your Virtues ValuesWisdom and Knowledge • Creativity • Curiosity • Judgment • Open-Mindedness • Critical thinking • Love of Learning • Perspective • Wisdom Courage • Bravery • Perseverance • Industriousness • Honesty • Authenticity • Integrity • Zest Humanity • Capacity to love and be loved • Kindness • Generosity and nurturance • Social Intelligence 9
  12. 12. VIA CharacteristicsVirtues Values • Attributes Your Virtues Values Justice • Teamwork • Fairness • Leadership Temperance • Forgiveness mercy • odesty humility M • Prudence • elf-regulation S self-control Transcendence • ppreciation of A beauty excellence • Gratitude • Hope optimism • Future-mindedness • Humor • eligiousness R spirituality 10
  13. 13. Self-guided Reflection exercise – Bringing it HomeNow you are ready to bring it home.To begin this exercise, think about a specific situation or contextto which you want to bring your new level of presence. Imaginewhat your communication will be like, the impact you’ll have.Be mindful of what is at stake, and who you will be ‘being’ whenyou are fully present in this situation.Write a couple of paragraphs describing your true self and yourbest self through the eyes of those who love and adore you. Inquire into what is possible (not what might or should be). Reflection Tips 11
  14. 14. Self-guided Reflection exerciseYour Signature PresenceAnd to finish with flair…write a concise statement about the bestof who you are that reflects your signature presence. You couldbegin with, “What I want others to realize about who I am is…”What three things will I do from now on to communicate my Presence? 1. 2. 3. Some coaching questions to help you write your next chapter! • ow does understanding your own strengths and values, H change how others see you? • rawing on your signature presence, what do you want D to achieve with your life? • What are you doing to ensure that it happens? • Who might you have to say ‘no’ to, in order to say ‘yes’ to yourself? • What would help you the most right now? “We are what we think.” – Buddah Reflection Tips 12
  15. 15. —inspired results through the art of coachingAbout Donna HowesDonna takes a holistic approach to identify new perspectives andinsights to help you resolve your distinctive immunities to change.Her industry background spans major cities in both Canada andAustralia, where she’s designed culture change initiatives that haveproven effective across organizational lines and interpersonaldynamics.The common thread connecting Donna’s varied careers (Radio TV news and Talk-Show host, political reporter; PR, marketing,recruitment consultant; student; corporate communications andchange leader) comes from wanting to understand how things work.“This is embedded deep inside my dna and comes directly frommy Dad, who was an engineer,” says Donna. “As the daughter ofan engineer, I can honestly say that I’m interested in seeing howeverything works.”Her goal is to develop effective individuals, strong teams, and richlearning environments that encourage individuals to bring theirpassion and purpose to their work.Signature PresenceDonna HowesT: 604.569.9980E: donna@humanityatwork.caW: humanityatwork.ca
  16. 16. Reflection is healthy soul-workthat brings meaning and purpose to our lives.It is at the beginning of every journeytoward restoring joy, fulfillment and balanceto our personal and professional lives.

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