How	  To	  Be	  More	  Resilient	  +	  Happier	  (and	  help	  others	  do	  the	  same)	  	  Louis	  J.	  Alloro.,	  M.Ed...
What	  brings	  me	  here?	  
SOMO	  Leadership	  •  What?	  •  Why?	  •  How?	  •  What	  	  	  	  	  	  	  	  	  (next)?	  
What	  brings	  you	  here?	  Everything	  has	  a	  tradeoff.	  What	  you	  expect,	  you	  experience.	  
©	  2011	  SOMO	  Leadership	  Labs	  AKenLon	  is	  Limited	  
What	  is	  SOMO?	  A	   dynamic	   &	   socially	   constructed	  posi8ve,	   place-­‐based	   interven8on*	  for	   chan...
What	  is	  posiLve	  psychology?	  	  	  1	  =	  strongly	  disagree	  2	  =	  disagree	  3	  =	  slightly	  disagree	  4...
What	  is	  posiLve	  psychology?	  
① Think	  about	  how	  they	  think.	  ② Ask	  different	  quesLons.	  ③ Influence	  and	  empower	  others.	  ④ Build	  ps...
① 	  Think	  about	  how	  you	  think.	  	  •  In	  every	  moment	  of	  every	  day	  .	  .	  .	  •  SO	  in	  this	  M...
©	  2011	  SOMO	  Leadership	  Labs	  Toward	  	  Reward	  StatusCertaintyAutonomyRelatednessFairnessAway	  	  Threat	  Th...
Did	  you	  know?	  •  Research	  shows	  we	  are	  condiLoned	  to	  spot	  threats	  over	  opportuniLes,	  •  that	  w...
©2011SOMOLeadershipLabs
©	  2011	  SOMO	  Leadership	  Labs	  Learn	  your	  ABCs!	  objec4ve	  The	  Consequences	  subjec4ve	  Feelings	  behavi...
©	  2011	  SOMO	  Leadership	  Labs	  Cycle	  o’	  Pessimism	  Colleague	  Gus	  not	  saying	  hello	  	  You	  think	  ....
©	  2011	  SOMO	  Leadership	  Labs	  OpLmisLc	  Cycle	  “I	  wonder	  what’s	  up	  with	  Gus,	  he	  must	  be	  really...
#SOMO:	  A	  lens	  you	  choose	  to	  see	  the	  world	  
② Ask	  Different	  QuesLons	  “Human	  systems	  move	  in	  the	  direc8on	  of	  the	  ques8ons	  they	  ask.”	  -­‐Dr.	...
Prime	  for	  posiLvity	  WHAT ARE YOUR 3 WINS?THINK them. FEEL them.SHARE them.#SOMO
Broaden	  +	  Build	  Theory	  The	  broaden-­‐and-­‐build	  theory	  of	  posi8ve	  emo8ons	  suggests	  that	  posiLve	 ...
AcLve	  ConstrucLve	  Responding	  
“The	  illiterate	  of	  the	  21st	  century	  will	  not	  be	  those	  who	  cannot	  read	  and	  write,	  but	  those...
It’s	  contagious	  
Taking	  PosiLve	  Psychology	  Home:	  	  	  social	  experiment	  in	  SOMO	  “Hey	  guys,	  we	  can	  do	  beKer.”	  
Family	  tree	  of	  strengths	  “Our	  families	  are	  our	  greatest	  learning	  labs.”	  	  Adele	  DiMarco-­‐Kious,	...
So,	  what’s	  the	  ask?	  Plug	  into	  #SOMO.	  
④ Build	  Psychological	  muscle	  yourself	  •  Join	  or	  form	  a	  SOMO	  Pod	  
 What	  are	  SOMO	  Learning	  Labs?	  Experien8al	   places	   for	   SOcial-­‐eMOLonal	   leaders	   to	   build	  psyc...
SOMO	  Macro	  Lab	  	  An	  opportunity	  for	  key	  influencers	  to	  build	  their	  individual	  psychological	  musc...
©	  2011	  SOMO	  Leadership	  Labs	  Be	  a	  Part	  of	  the	  Change	  “It’s	  not	  the	  strongest	  of	  the	  speci...
Pulling	  it	  all	  together	  “SOMO	  is	  the	  best	  emoLonal	  sLmulus	  package	  ever.”	  	  LENA	  BOSWELL,	  SOM...
What	  are	  you	  leaving	  with?	  
We	  need	  you!	  Louis@LouisAlloro.com	  www.louisalloro.com	  www.somoleadershiplabs.com	  	  
Positive Psychology Series Kickoff: SOMO* MICRO LAB *SOcial-eMOtional Intelligence with Louis Alloro
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Successful people think differently. They have the ability to bounce back, persevere, and make things happen even in the face of adversity. In this innovative learning laboratory, we’ll be exposed to the burgeoning research in Positive Psychology, the science of success and happiness. We will discover how we’re genetically predisposed to negativity, and how switching this habit of thinking to something more positive takes intention, attention and effort. Come learn some scientifically informed strategies for how to build psychosocial muscle and in turn, get SO’MO of what you want in life (at home, work, and every place in between).

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Positive Psychology Series Kickoff: SOMO* MICRO LAB *SOcial-eMOtional Intelligence with Louis Alloro

  1. 1. How  To  Be  More  Resilient  +  Happier  (and  help  others  do  the  same)    Louis  J.  Alloro.,  M.Ed.,  MAPP  
  2. 2. What  brings  me  here?  
  3. 3. SOMO  Leadership  •  What?  •  Why?  •  How?  •  What                  (next)?  
  4. 4. What  brings  you  here?  Everything  has  a  tradeoff.  What  you  expect,  you  experience.  
  5. 5. ©  2011  SOMO  Leadership  Labs  AKenLon  is  Limited  
  6. 6. What  is  SOMO?  A   dynamic   &   socially   constructed  posi8ve,   place-­‐based   interven8on*  for   change-­‐agents**   who   share  proximity   (businesses,   schools,  community  groups,  SIGs).      *An   intervenLon   is   defined   as   any   measure   to  improve   health   and   well-­‐being,   which   have   been  shown  in  research  studies  to  predict  success.    **Leaders  who  have  influence.      A  SOCIAL  EXPERIMENT  
  7. 7. What  is  posiLve  psychology?      1  =  strongly  disagree  2  =  disagree  3  =  slightly  disagree  4  =  neither  agree  or  disagree  5  =  slightly  agree  6  =  agree  7  =  strongly  agree    ___  In  most  ways  my  life  is  close  to  my  ideal.      ___  The  condiLons  of  my  life  are  excellent.      ___  I  am  saLsfied  with  my  life.      ___  I  have  goKen  the  important  things  I  want  in  life.      ___  If  I  could  live  my  life  over,  I  would  change  almost  nothing.    The  Science  of    Well-­‐Being  Success  +  Happiness  
  8. 8. What  is  posiLve  psychology?  
  9. 9. ① Think  about  how  they  think.  ② Ask  different  quesLons.  ③ Influence  and  empower  others.  ④ Build  psychological  muscle  themselves.      What  do  SOcial-­‐eMOLonal  leaders  do?  
  10. 10. ①   Think  about  how  you  think.    •  In  every  moment  of  every  day  .  .  .  •  SO  in  this  MOment  
  11. 11. ©  2011  SOMO  Leadership  Labs  Toward    Reward  StatusCertaintyAutonomyRelatednessFairnessAway    Threat  Threat  OR  Opportunity  (David  Rock,  2009)  
  12. 12. Did  you  know?  •  Research  shows  we  are  condiLoned  to  spot  threats  over  opportuniLes,  •  that  we  operate  with  many  negaLve  and  scarce  biases  in  our  thinking,  and  •  that  more  people  today  are  anxious,  aKenLon-­‐deficited  and  depressed  than  ever  before  – Stress  is  the  number  1  predictor  of  depression  
  13. 13. ©2011SOMOLeadershipLabs
  14. 14. ©  2011  SOMO  Leadership  Labs  Learn  your  ABCs!  objec4ve  The  Consequences  subjec4ve  Feelings  behaviors  Your  Beliefs  about  what  happened  ?  Ac8va8ng  Event  (what  happened)  
  15. 15. ©  2011  SOMO  Leadership  Labs  Cycle  o’  Pessimism  Colleague  Gus  not  saying  hello    You  think  .  .  .    You  feel  .  .  .    You  behave  .  .  .  
  16. 16. ©  2011  SOMO  Leadership  Labs  OpLmisLc  Cycle  “I  wonder  what’s  up  with  Gus,  he  must  be  really  Lred  from  that  big  project  he’s  working  on”  Feel  concerned  Behave:  ask  Gus  if  he  needs  help  when  you  see  him  Colleague  Gus  not  saying  hello  
  17. 17. #SOMO:  A  lens  you  choose  to  see  the  world  
  18. 18. ② Ask  Different  QuesLons  “Human  systems  move  in  the  direc8on  of  the  ques8ons  they  ask.”  -­‐Dr.  David  Cooperrider,  founder  of  AppreciaLve  Inquiry  
  19. 19. Prime  for  posiLvity  WHAT ARE YOUR 3 WINS?THINK them. FEEL them.SHARE them.#SOMO
  20. 20. Broaden  +  Build  Theory  The  broaden-­‐and-­‐build  theory  of  posi8ve  emo8ons  suggests  that  posiLve  emoLons  broaden  ones  awareness  and  encourage  novel,  varied,  and  exploratory  thoughts  and  acLons.  Over  Lme,  this  broadened  behavioral  repertoire  builds  skills  and  resources.  (Fredrickson,  1998)  
  21. 21. AcLve  ConstrucLve  Responding  
  22. 22. “The  illiterate  of  the  21st  century  will  not  be  those  who  cannot  read  and  write,  but  those  who  cannot  learn,  unlearn,  and  relearn.”  Alvin  Tofler,  Future  Shock  •  By  learning  to  think  differently,  we  can  intenLonally  shit  our  not-­‐so-­‐helpful  tendencies  and  create  new  neural  connecLons  that  make  us  more  engaged  +  happier.  •  It’s  like  going  to  gym  –  but  for  your  mind  .  .  .  and  mine.  ③ Influence  +  empower  others  
  23. 23. It’s  contagious  
  24. 24. Taking  PosiLve  Psychology  Home:      social  experiment  in  SOMO  “Hey  guys,  we  can  do  beKer.”  
  25. 25. Family  tree  of  strengths  “Our  families  are  our  greatest  learning  labs.”    Adele  DiMarco-­‐Kious,  MBA,  first  partner  in  &  co-­‐creator  of    SOMO  CLE  
  26. 26. So,  what’s  the  ask?  Plug  into  #SOMO.  
  27. 27. ④ Build  Psychological  muscle  yourself  •  Join  or  form  a  SOMO  Pod  
  28. 28.  What  are  SOMO  Learning  Labs?  Experien8al   places   for   SOcial-­‐eMOLonal   leaders   to   build  psychological   muscle,   by   learning  language,  tools  &  strategies  from  the  science   of   success,   well-­‐being,   &  happiness  –  thereby  becoming  beKer  and   more   equipped   change-­‐agents  back   within   the   organizaLon/networks,   adding   new   &   abundant  neural   connecLons   to   spearhead  innovaLon   –   gezng   us   SO’MO   of  what  we  want,  need,  and  value.    THE    MIND  GYM  
  29. 29. SOMO  Macro  Lab    An  opportunity  for  key  influencers  to  build  their  individual  psychological  muscle.  6  2-­‐hour  sessions  over  2  months.    SOMO  1O1.  We  are  wired  for  posiLvity  but  condiLoned  for  negaLvity.  Introduce  opportunity  vs.  threat  construct  and  provide  an  evoluLonary  and  neurobiological  understanding  of  why  it’s  important  to  learn  how  to  think  differently.  ParLcipants  will  challenge  beliefs  on  change  and  engage  in  scienLfic  research  on  flourishing  and  success  and  well-­‐being,  which  includes  happiness,  meaning/purpose,  healthy  social  relaLonships,  etc.    THE  RESILIENCE  FACTOR.  A  major  component  to  resilience  is  learned  opLmism.  Incorporate  evidenced-­‐based  flexible  and  accurate  thinking  strategies  that  help  parLcipants  detect  thinking  traps  and  reframe  mindset  from  threat  to  opportunity.  We’ll  measure  explanatory  style.    SOMO  KNO  YO.  Knowing  your  strengths  –  and  using  them  –  makes  us  at  our  best.  Ater  measuring  our  character  strengths,  parLcipants  will  learn  to  idenLfy  and  spot  strengths  (in  themselves  and  others)  and  use  them  to  be  more  successful  in  overcoming  challenges  and  achieving  personal  and  professional  goals.    BEING  PULLED  BY  THE  FUTURE.  Everyone  deserves  to  live  their  calling.  We’ll  differenLate  between  intrinsic  and  extrinsic  moLvaLon  and  provide  a  formula  for  stepping  into  the  best  possible  future  with  grounded  hope  and  self-­‐  determinaLon.  ParLcipants  will  idenLfy  values.    POWER  OF  FULL  ENGAGEMENT.  Lab  will  include  evidenced-­‐based  self-­‐care  and  mindfulness  strategies,  which  will  help  parLcipants  learn  to  beKer  manage  energy  and  achieve  flow,  the  state  of  opLmal  experience.  We’ll  measure  grit,  the  passion  and  perseverance  towards  long-­‐term  goals  and  learn  a  fool-­‐proof  goal-­‐sezng  technique  that  all  top-­‐performers  need  to  know.    CALL  TO  ACTION.  ParLcipants  will  learn  about  how  to  build  high  quality  and  healthy  relaLonships  by  building  capacity  to  connect,  aKune,  innovate,  and  collaborate.  We’ll  end  with  visioning  and  acLon  planning  for  applying  SOMO  into  networks  around  the  region  moving  forward.  
  30. 30. ©  2011  SOMO  Leadership  Labs  Be  a  Part  of  the  Change  “It’s  not  the  strongest  of  the  species  that  survives,  but  the  one  most  responsive  to  change.”   Charles  Darwin  
  31. 31. Pulling  it  all  together  “SOMO  is  the  best  emoLonal  sLmulus  package  ever.”    LENA  BOSWELL,  SOMO  CLE  SOMO    SOcial-­‐  eMO8onal  LEADERSHIP    SOMO    LEADERSHIP    LABS  #SOMO    
  32. 32. What  are  you  leaving  with?  
  33. 33. We  need  you!  Louis@LouisAlloro.com  www.louisalloro.com  www.somoleadershiplabs.com    

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