Parenting in theDigital WorldHolly GerlaSam HarrisEmily McMason 29 April 2013
Whats new in 2013?•o Pew Internet and American Life Project• “Slut Shaming”• Facebook pros and conso danah boyd: Is Facebook Destroying the AmericanCollege Experience?
Cell Phone Use By Teens"One in four teens are “cell-mostly” internetusers, who say they mostly go online usingtheir phone and not using some other devicesuch as a desktop or laptop computer.""78% of teens now have a cell phone, andalmost half (47%) of them own smartphones.""23% of teens have a tablet computer, a levelcomparable to the general adult population."
Slut Shaming• "...using photos and videos to turn a girls private lifeinside out." (NPR Story)• "...the UnSlut project reminds us that technology is notto blame for sexual shaming—our culture is. - Slate.com• teaching kids about consentmore resources on ourGender/Social Healthboard
Facebook Pros and Cons"Facebook is not itself the problem. The issue stems fromhow youth use Facebook and the desire that many youthhave to focus on building connections to people thatthink like they do. ”- danah boyd, "Is Facebook Destroying the American College Experience?""...millions of users of these networks have supplanted theirprofile pictures with that symbol to display their supportand hope that the Justices will rule in favor of marriageequality."- "Painting the Internet Pink." The New Yorker, 27 Mar. 2013
Issues/Concerns Raised in ourCommunitygeneral cell phone mannerso when is it okay to be on your phone?o when is it not?profanity and inflammatory speecho what does your language say about you?o when it goes viral and other consequenceso what does a like say about you?pornographyo why are kids looking at it?o what are they learning from it?photo sharing: Instagram, Snapchat, etc.
What do wereally meanwhen we ask ourkids to stop andthink aboutsomethingbefore they act?
A Top Ten...List of Parenting Moments ina Digital World
...with your children. Ask them what they thinkare reasonable boundaries. You might bepleasantly surprised. Working with themcreates buy-in and a sense of joint purpose.Once the rules are set, put them in writing.1. Draw a line in the sand...and then sign a pre-nup.
2. Be wishy-washy.It’s okay to change your mind. To try a set of rules and then change them. Explaining to your childwhy the change is happening lets them know we all learn and adapt with new information.
3. Play Your Top 40.Over and over again. Remind kids that whatever they put out into the ether is there…forever. Even ifyou hit ‘delete’, it isn’t gone. Have them envision 40 people: consider how their grandparents,their teachers, the girl they have a crush on, the dean of admissions to the college of theirdreams, their potential employers, never mind their parents, are going to react when they seeyour post.
4. The Price is RightA $400 pencil? An $800 bracelet? Would youworry about these items getting lost,damaged or stolen?
5. On the CatwalkModel it. Work it. Show your kids that the rulesare livable. By everyone in the family.
6. Fly like an EagleEven when you want to be an ostrich. It istempting to put our heads in the sand andsay that kids are digital natives and are fine.Kids are also vehicular natives. Can youimagine giving your keys to an 11 year old?
7. Remember Fotomat?Where teenage employees saw your pictureseven though you were the one with thecamera? The same is true today. If your childdoesn’t have a device, that doesn’t meanthey aren’t aware, viewing, or participating indigital behaviors that may be questionable.
8. Missing PersonsIn the hours our kids are consuming mediacontent, what aren’t they doing?
9. HDL or LDL?Are your kids playing Minecraft or Halo 4? Arethey watching Cinderella or Brave?
10. Parent, party of one.Don’t be afraid to stand up to the pressure ofyour kids and your own peers and say ‘no’.