This article is about a woman who struggled through low self esteem, caused by emotional, physical and sexual abuse from a previous relationship and how overcoming low self esteem helped her live a new life and achieve a blissful marriage.

1. Overcoming Low Self
Esteem: Key to
Successful
Relationships
www.overcominglowselfesteem.com

2. • Overcoming low self
esteem is important for a
successful marriage for
this can be the reason of
success or the cause of
failure in a relationship.
Most of us are familiar
with the emotional
necessities and how they
relate to our partners.
There are also various
reasons that could ruin a
relationship, but if we
would look closely on
each one of them, we
would be able to see that
they would all go down
to one root: Low Self
Esteem.

3. • I have once been in a
relationship that was
manipulated by the
compulsive and disastrous
effects of low self esteem. I
was only 16 when I met John
and he was 23. He was kind
and caring and he told me
things that swept me off my
feet. We were young, wild and
carefree. But those days
disappeared in a snap,
because just over a year later, I
became a mother.
• Moving in with John was
grueling, but I was sure and
excited about it. We lived in
an old dilapidated building
with our newborn daughter
but I was alright about it
because I love him and it is
the only thing he could afford
for us. We started to be okay,
we haven’t got much, but we
were doing just fine or so I
thought we were until low
self esteem took hold of my
family and my life.

4. • Since I haven’t finished school
and I have to look after my child,
John was the one providing our
needs. Though his income was
never really enough, I was okay
with it. But then I started to
notice things changed between
us. He began pestering me about
not having to provide anything for
the family and then he started
telling me that he regret we met
because I was just dragging his
life. This drastically lowered down
my already low self esteem.
Eventually, his verbal insults
turned into physical, sexual and
emotional abuse and this went on
for years. My life because I was
afraid he would leave me and I
might not be able to survive
because I am weak and no one
would ever want to be with a
disgraceful girl like me.

5. • Soon, I started my journey
towards overcoming low self
esteem by doing what’s best for
me and my daughter and that
was to start living without John. It
was hard, but I had to because I
have to make things right to
become a better person. Soon
enough, I was comfortable with
myself again. I became positive
and confident in life because I
have learned to love and accept
myself for who I really am.
• I became conscious of the fact
that he used my low self esteem
to have me believing in his false
perception of our relationship.
The truth stung a lot, but it felt
good at the same time. As what
Stephen Chbosky said, “We only
accept the love we think we
deserve.” And I deserve to be
loved by myself. No more false
perception of self worth, no
more low self esteem.