ENTER TO LEARN TALK ON PARENTING STYLES OF PRESCHOOLERS Kindergarten Level Day La Salle Academy July 18, 2008 Prepared by: Marionito L. Hinacay

Kindergarten Kids are the best! Talk Structure: Introduction Core Concepts Practical Tips on Parenting Poem: Children Learn What They Live

Talk Structure:

Introduction

Core Concepts

Practical Tips on Parenting

Poem: Children Learn What They Live

CORE CONCEPTS Child development especially among preschoolers is a solid foundation for community development. There are preschool problems and it is an inalienable responsibility of parents to educate their children. Preschoolers are their age are questioning, imitative, and creative. Parents normally perceived their behavior as “troublesome.”

CORE CONCEPTS

Child development especially among preschoolers is a solid foundation for community development.

There are preschool problems and it is an inalienable responsibility of parents to educate their children.

Preschoolers are their age are questioning, imitative, and creative. Parents normally perceived their behavior as “troublesome.”

4. Preschoolers are unique individuals. We need to appreciate their individual differences. 5. There are different styles of parenting or disciplining our preschoolers. There is an approach that is successful in one situation but may not work in another.

THREE TYPES OF PARENTING STYLES Encourage to develop their own judgment. Develop their own interest. Provides children with some freedom but also enforces appropriate limitations and boundaries necessary for safety. Authoritative Children may not learn how to keep themselves safe, secure and healthy. Enforce discipline irregularly. Permissive Angry rebels No independent judgments Overly dependent Expect children to follow their rules without deviation. Authoritarian Effect on Children Parent’s Attitude Style

Encourage to develop their own judgment.

Develop their own interest.

Angry rebels

No independent judgments

Overly dependent

Parents should set a good example to their children. (Insert a You Tube presentation.) 7. Create an atmosphere or generation of presence and love in the family. 8. Parents should be active listeners to their preschoolers. Empathy should be at the heart of parenting and care giving.

Parents should set a good example to their children.

(Insert a You Tube presentation.)

7. Create an atmosphere or generation of presence and love in the family.

8. Parents should be active listeners to their preschoolers. Empathy should be at the heart of parenting and care giving.

9. Parents should watch their language. Use your words carefully to teach children. Focus what to do (positive) rather than what not to do (negative). Slow down and walk. Come hold my hand. Keep your feet on the floor. Use your quite voice inside. Do not run. Do not touch anything. Do not climb on the sofa. Do not scream and shout. Try saying: Instead of:

Redirecting or teaching the child a different way to do the same thing can be effective. Sibling rivalry must be avoided. Each much be guided in searching for their own self-identities. Letting your preschooler help with household chores can make you both proud of his achievements. Spare a quality family time. Whether you are sharing a meal, playing a game, the physical and emotional closeness helps your preschooler feel safer.

Redirecting or teaching the child a different way to do the same thing can be effective.

Sibling rivalry must be avoided. Each much be guided in searching for their own self-identities.

Letting your preschooler help with household chores can make you both proud of his achievements.

Spare a quality family time. Whether you are sharing a meal, playing a game, the physical and emotional closeness helps your preschooler feel safer.

Parents should find their way to craft or prepare short stories, humors or healthy jokes, morals before bedtime. Lastly, do not forget to pray for your children. Do not curse them. They are God’s gift to you. In the words of Saint Thomas Aquinas, “Children are persons in the making. They are persons of intrinsic worth.”

Parents should find their way to craft or prepare short stories, humors or healthy jokes, morals before bedtime.

Lastly, do not forget to pray for your children. Do not curse them. They are God’s gift to you. In the words of Saint Thomas Aquinas, “Children are persons in the making. They are persons of intrinsic worth.”

IMPORTANT PRACTICAL TIPS 1. Make sure your children know they are loved. 2. Show love with hugs, smiles, kisses, talking and looking directly into your child’s eyes. 3. Say your child’s name in a cheerful, caring voice. 4. Really listen when your child talks to you. 5. Encourage and support your child by showing appreciation for his accomplishments. 6. Say “yes” and “I love you” more often than you say “no” or “don’t”. 7. Demonstrate in ways she can understand that she is unique and special to you. 8. Understand that discipline should teach, not punish; it is setting limits with both firmness and kindness. 9. Show respect for your child so that he will learn respect for others. 10. Prepare your child for new situations, so that he will know what you expect and feel confident and secure.

CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE By Dorothy Law Nolte If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice. If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

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