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Parenting Tips at the Horse Show (Waite)

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Being a horse show parent can be challenging but at the same time there are so many rewards – such as seeing children learn new skills, facing challenges together and also having fun. This webcast …

Being a horse show parent can be challenging but at the same time there are so many rewards – such as seeing children learn new skills, facing challenges together and also having fun. This webcast will offer tips for parents on areas such as listening, handling competition, being a positive influence and how to support a child’s learning.

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  • Unconditional. Mental AND Physical
  • Anger and embarassment
  • Transcript

    • 1. My Horse University and eXtension’s HorseQuest welcome you to this live Webcast. Tips for Horse Show Parents Karen L. Waite, M.S. Michigan State University
    • 2. Meet our presenter:
      • Karen L. Waite, M.S.
      • Michigan State University
    • 3. Introduction
      • Why discuss this topic?
      • Why youth participate in showing horses
      • What parents can do to help
      • How 4-H leaders, coaches and trainers can help
    • 4. Why Discuss This Topic?
    • 5. Why Youth Show Horses
      • Young people get involved in sports because they are fun…and stop participating when they stop being fun. (Weiss, 2004)
      • Parents are a critical piece of the “horse show team.”
      • Parents play an important role in whether showing horses is fun. (or not)
    • 6. How Can Parents Help?
      • Keep fun a factor!
      • “ When it stops being fun, we stop showing horses.”
      • Planning for “fun.”
    • 7. Dealing With Anger
      • Take deep breaths
        • Inhale 4 seconds, exhale 8 seconds
      • Suck on a lollipop
      • Repeat a calm word or phrase or visualize relaxation
      • Replace angry thoughts with rational ones
      • Count to 10 before speaking
      • Ask the child how they felt they did, rather than asking about mistakes or why they didn’t win
      • Praise effort first, then consider commenting on results
        • Goldstein, 2008
    • 8. Provide Support for the Child
      • Unconditional encouragement and support
      • Physical presence at horse shows
      • Interest in child’s efforts regardless of outcome
      • Talking up the child’s efforts to others. (notice: efforts, not outcomes!)
    • 9. Don’t Push TOO Much…
      • Pressures on parents can be great
        • Financial
        • Time
      • Excessive pushing to practice, take lessons and win can detract from fun for some children
    • 10. But Learn Optimal Push!
      • For some youth, a slight push may actually enhance enjoyment and may be needed.
      • Fine line between positive and negative push for child AND horse!
      • Knowing how much is enough for horse and rider can be a delicate balancing act.
    • 11. BE the Parent.
      • Not the coach or horse trainer
      • Even when the parent has credibility as a coach or trainer, the child needs unconditional support from someone.
      • Should be agreed to by parent and child, or assistance from someone else may be helpful.
    • 12. Respect Officials and Show Management
      • Judges are typically well trained and competent in multiple events
      • Judges must look at every exhibitor in the pen, parents typically do not
      • Disrespect for officials and show management models poor sportsmanship
    • 13. Recognize Signs of Burnout in Children
      • Avoidance of training sessions and the barn
      • Lack of effort at lessons or shows
      • Lackadaisical attitude
      • irritability around barn
      • crying spells
      • impatience with horse
      • Battles of will
        • Sasson-Edgette, 1996
    • 14. Recognize Signs of Burnout in the Horse
      • Tail wringing, ear pinning
      • Back or leg soreness
      • Refusals
      • Depression or general appearance of overall tiredness, rough hair coat etc.
    • 15. Recognize Signs of Stress in Family
      • Everyone is irritable and no one is talking
      • Child does not want family members at shows
      • Sense of dread around horse shows
      • Worries about time and money
        • Sasson-Edgette, 1996
    • 16. What to Do?
      • Be observant
      • Encourage conversation
      • Insist on good manners no matter what
      • Consider the horse
      • Do something different for horse, rider and family as needed.
    • 17. Keeping the Competitors Mentally and Physically Ready
      • Drinking plenty of water
      • Eating appropriately
        • Pack healthy lunches and snacks
      • Sleeping
      • Practicing at regular and appropriate intervals
    • 18. Keeping the Competitors Mentally and Physically Ready
      • Time to play with friends/socialize
      • Clothing and equipment
      • Sense of humor!!!
    • 19. Goal Setting
      • Help children set realistic goals
      • Use the SMART Goal setting system
      • Review goals periodically at an appropriate time.
      • Set new goals if old ones are met.
    • 20. SMART Goal Setting
      • Specific
      • Measurable
      • Attainable
      • Realistic and Relevant to the child
      • Time Sensitive
    • 21. Other Ideas
      • Developing and using a “riding resource room” Sasson-Edgette, 1996
      • Lucky dance (or song)
      • Rituals or symbols
    • 22. Give us your feedback!
      • You will receive a survey by email in 1-2 days. Please take a few minutes to give us your feedback on this webcast. It will help us to better serve you!
    • 23. Upcoming Webcasts
      • Our FREE monthly webcasts will return in September! Check back with us for our fall lineup!
      • Use the summer to catch up on any webcasts you may have missed - recorded webcasts are available on our website!
    • 24. Thank you for attending this live web presentation! For more information about My Horse University please visit us at: www.myhorseuniversity.com info@myhorseuniversity.com | www.myhorseuniversity.com | 517-353-3123

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