For Openers “ The unexamined life is not worth living” - Socrates Suppose you take 48-72 hours off from life to examine how you are living it. Don’t believe a thing that I say. Just try it on like a jacket . Think it and see what you see. If it doesn’t fit … Your guarantee…
Creating Our Time Together You are invited to invest 48 hours or so having fun during which time you will discover the answers to three critical questions: 1.What is possible in life? 2. What is missing in my life that I don’t have this? 3 . What is there to do about it?
Purpose The purpose of this work is to is to alter your ability to experience living so that life occurs as a curriculum you are living in, and as you experience living in this curriculum, things magically clear up, just in the process of life itself.
and transform it into an opportunity to celebrate.
Power to choose your behavior
and thinking rather than being run by them.
Design of the Program The overall thrust of the program moves you through three aspects of existence: 1. being enabled to observe, “what’s so” 2. being able to add the “so what” to the “ what’s so”. 3. which leaves one standing in a creative place called “now what?”
An exercise in telling the truth, being honest with the focus on trust.
1. You will move about the room and stand in front of one person at a time.
Based on your experience of that person and your definition or standard trust and declare one of 4 possibilities:
I trust you .
I don’t trust you.
I’m not sure.
I don’t care to say.
2. Both partners move on to someone else until I say stop. 3. Mingle with the whole group. 5. The value comes from just participating fully, noticing thoughts, emotions and physical sensations associated your choice .
Knowledge DON’T KNOW DON’T KNOW THAT YOU DON’T KNOW Relate: problems common sense knowledge Traditional education KNOW
RESULTS Action BEING A Taste of the Technology
Using distinctions. What are they ? How we work Checking your experience . Trying things on. Definitions vs. Distinctions Definitions close down possibility Distinctions open up possibility
Are usually assessments from the past that are misplaced in the future .
• Are usually unconscious and you think this is just the way that it is.
Work from the inside out.
What does it feel like when “you have to”? What does it feel like when “you get to”? Moods
I HAVE TO A . IF I DON’T A … THEN B IF B … THEN C IF C … THEN D IF D … THEN I WOULD FEEL X , Y , Z . I’D RATHER A THAN Z QUESTION #1 IS THERE ANY “HAVE TO” IN A ? THE CONCLUSION : YOU HAVE BEEN LYING! YOU HAVE BEEN SAYING “ I HAVE TO” WHEN, WHAT YOU REALLY HAVE BEEN DOING IS, “ I GET TO” (I CHOOSE TO). WHAT DOES THE WORD RATHER MEAN? From A to Z
You are a racketeer! The Big V is not for victory. What does it stand for? VICTIM Let’s check it out Why would you do that?
Case #1 Tell a true story to your partner in which you were victimized. Give details and be certain that your partner is convinced. Case #2 Now tell the same story only this time tell your partner how you got him or her or them or it to do it to you. (This is make-it-up-time. Just do it!) Note your experience. How did that feel? Describe your experience. How did that feel? It’s story time! (Payoffs &Costs)
Make one declaration Clarify: your commitment? 1. Now what? 2. How’s it gonna turn out? 3. Why? Ask three questions: The Now What Process It’s all an inside job
Identify the circumstance and the accompanying negative thought. Critical Question # 1. How does thinking this thought make you feel? Good or Bad Powerful or Powerless If good and powerful, focus your attention on the thought. Your energy will follow your attention. If bad and powerless, move to critical question #2. Critical Question #2. Choose one of the following: Give my attention to the negative thought. Don’t give my attention to the negative thought. You can not stop thinking what you are thinking. However, by not giving your attention to a thought, you discover an opening to create an alternative thought. Go to critical question #3. Critical Question #3. What alternative thought can you generate that: Makes you feel good. Makes you powerful. The Spiritual Centering Process
Upsets In General Some things to remember: 1. You are never upset about what you think you are upset about. 2. Suffering is never about the facts and always about the perception. 3. Resistance causes persistence . 4. Anything fully experienced leaves you in calm and joy.
What happened The Hurricane of an Upset POWER Demands Declarations Commitments Now what Wants Decisions The Ontological Dissolution OF Upsets Interpreta t ion Emotions What’s Possible What Actions Your Current Experience What Happened Concerns
How did I leave you? Where? Nowhere , which is everywhere ! When? No Time, which is all time ! With what? No-Thing , This is the beginning which is everything! Now what? This is the end or How I Left You
Purpose Dare To Dream The purpose of this part of the program is to transform your life from “ FRANTIC ACTIVITY” which is a fear based, egoist m anifestation of separateness and survival into a state of “ BEING IN ACTION ” which is a divinely inspired, experience of oneness, that makes a difference, is fun, and is financially rewarding.
Quantum Mechanics – The mechanics of discovering your vision.
Quantum Principles – The rules of the game. Slide 75
IVAM Process – The process of translating your vision into reality.
Enrollment – Inviting buy-in to your vision . s81
Action Cycle – Structuring for fulfillment :Who’s going to do what by when.
Breakdown Process – Disappearing problems and achieving breakthroughs.
Dare To Dream Quantum Mechanics (where vision comes from) 1. Intention 2 . Information gathering 3 . Information analysis 4 . Incubation 5. Insight 6 Inspiration 7. Implimentation 8 . Integration 9 Incarnation
Dare To Dream Quantum Principles 1. The Field (Soul) The deepest most fundamental level of Self A sub-manifest order of being Devoid of energy, particles, information A field of pure possibility (an un – differentiated back ground of everything nothing) 2. Non-Local In Nature One sub- atomic particle can communicate with another without a communication system or energy Can’t be squeezed into space of a body or span of a lifetime S74 An argument for Oneness ( Time and Distance are illusion. So are you ! ) Slide 70 All creativity comes from this (contrasted with reactivity) and is non algorithmic and discontinuous in nature . 4. Uncertainty The only real experience of existence. Anything certain has already happened and denies access to possibility 5. Observation Required (By the Soul) for manifestation to occur Created by a tangled hierarchy. The role of Karma Slide 69
GOAL ( manifested ) PRESENT FUTURE I DEAL V ISUALIZED GOAL ( invent a ) HOW? LANGUAGE ( TO INVENT THE STORY WITH ) invent time X NOW PAST MOMENT TRUTH ENERGY ( THAT DRIVES THE STORY) A CTUALIZED + The I-V-AM System (Futuring) M ATERIALIZED 1 Slide 58 (only virtual ) A VIVID DESCRIPTION CORE VALUES EXPRESSED AS YOUR ALLOWING
is defined as the art of generating an opening in another’s heart such that they commitedly step in to that opening and act.
There are five phases in the process
1 . A conversation for establishing a back ground of relatedness - getting related.
Being with what is their world listening?
What is local listening - their personal relationship to the subject
2. Creating a conversation for possibility
Create a big context
3 . Creating a conversation for opportunity. Establishing structures for fulfillment that will make the possibility real.
Have them see the value
4. Create a conversation for moving people to action.
Handle their stops
Be smart…be proactive
Don’t get out of town too fast
CUSTOMER PERFORMER FORMULATION NEGOTIATION FULFILLMENT COMPLETION A Request
Request more info
By when you will 1-4
Declarations 1.Declare fulfillment 2. Declare Failure 3. Declare breakdown 4.Revoke promise 5. Delegate 6. Refine c.o.s. 7 Cancel A Promise Dare To Dream Declare satisfaction or not Declare Fulfillment The Action Cycle CFS
1. Clarify the difference between a problem and a breakdown. A Problem is defined as a what is that shouldn’t be. A Breakdown is distinguished as an interruption to what you are committed to. It is technically an interruption to your directional vector. 2. Declare a breakdown. 3. Differentiate What Happened ( the facts) from The Interpretation (the Story) 4. Given, that this is a breakdown then by definition, there must be a corresponding Commitment in the background . 5. Identify the commitment in the background. (or dissolve it). 6. Given these facts and that commitment: ● have a conversation for possibility. Exactly what are the possibilities? ● have a conversation for opportunity. Which of the possibilities do you want to create structures for fulfillment for? ● have a conversation for action. Who will do what by when? Dare To Dream Breakdowns
Condensed Version Breakdowns 1. No problem 2. Define a B.D. 3. Declare a B.D. 4. G.T.C W C.I.B.R 5. W.I.P 6. W.A.A.
DARE TO DREAM COMMITMENT NEGATIVE CIRCUMSTANCES PSYCHOLOGICAL REACTION How It Goes X
The Field Quantum Field Source Universal Field Human Being High C O N S C I O U S N E S S LOW Presence (nothing) Space opening Stand word Being in Action +Joyousness +Enthusiasm +Passion +Effectiveness +A Future based , down stream ride, in the flow. Results Accomplish- ment Celebration Ego (something) Survival ( a condition ) 1 M.D.B. 2.Scarcity 3.Separateness 4 Inevitability 5.Resignation
( automatic )
This isn’t it.
I’m not good
( suffering )
An upstream struggle
Results ( achievement) Never enough BEING DOING HAVING Useful conversations arise, where? HERE Vision Statement Mission Statement C. for Commitment C. for Action C. for Allowing Awareness Vision Core Values Expressed As Your Ideals
Embodied Competence requires: 1. a new way of being 2. practice 3. coaching Some Last Words