Living Your Life Free of GuiltPresentation Transcript
Living Your Life Free Of Guilt Potential RealiZed Workshops By Lisa Robinson
We All feel It At Various Times (1 of 2) We all feel guilt at times and some of us more often than others. Women often suffer from guilt frequently. Feelings of guilt often become more intense when women become Mothers.
We All feel It At Various Times (2 of 2) Feelings of guilt derive from : self doubt, mistakes, I should have done this or that, I could have done this or that, to work or not to work, trying to do too much, not able to spend enough time with children and other loved ones, not able to stay on top of the housework, not cooking, being ill, not having enough money, family manipulation, being very hard on ourselves and I’m sure we can add more to this list View slide
Beating Yourself UP In fact why don’t we just get a big stick and hit ourselves over the head with it! View slide
What Is Guilt? You can’t see it. You can’t touch it. In fact, guilt is not a tangible object. But it can be felt physically and emotionally and has an extremely powerful hold over us. Guilt is simply a thought. We think something and then we feel it. We feel it and then we behave and even look different.
News Flash It is a fact that superwoman does not exist. It is a fact that we all make mistakes – Its how we learn. It’s a fact that we are human beings.
Guilt Is Needed In Small Doses It is a fact that guilt does serve a purpose as it allows us to feel remorse when we have maybe hurt somebody intentionally or unintentionally. Or if we have done something wrong. It is how we adjust and correct ourselves and learn from our mistakes. Therefore it can have a positive intention and can help us.
Carrying The Baggage Or Sack Guilt is not designed to carry around with you for days, weeks, months or even years in some cases. It’s almost like you are carrying around a huge sack on your back and it’s an extremely heavy burden to carry. It serves no useful purpose what's so ever.
Questions To Ask Yourself (1 of 2) What do you seek to gain/experience or get from feeling guilty? How does feeling like this hold value or purpose for you? What do you want from obtaining this guilt that you deem more important? What payoff are you getting? Sometimes people get attention, empathy or some other reward when they continue to say that they feel guilty.
Questions To Ask Yourself (2 of 2) Do you need to keep being punished for something you didn't’ mean to do? Would you treat your children or someone else you love like this if they had done the done the same thing?
Too Much Guilt Destroys Us (1 of 2) It creates many health problems general aches and pains and severe health issues. It affects our posture and whole disposition. It affects our looks and facial features. It immobilises us and prevents us from moving forward. It perpetuates the problem and even creates more negativity and things to happen. It affect our ability to cope and therefore our self esteem and feelings of self worth.
Too Much Guilt Destroys Us (2 of 2) It kills our dreams and opportunities for happiness. It affects our confidence. We are passing it on unintentionally to our children, as we lead by example. We allow others to control how we feel and how we live our lives, therefore we loose control of our own lives. We are in fact severely punishing ourselves.
Love yourself and be gentle with yourself. We need to learn to treat ourselves the way we would treat others. Be your own best friend. It is an important part of self care. It is just as crucial in our lives as diet and exercise. It’s part of how we look after our emotional and physical health.
Remember we can’t ever turn the clock back. There is no “Tardis” we are not Dr Who.
It’s Simply A Choice We did our best at that time or what we thought was the best thing with the resources that we did or didn’t have. It really is simply a decision and our own choice to let go. It’s about having forgiveness and compassion for oneself. It is detrimental to let it go in order to achieve true happiness, freedom and liberation, loveand peace.
Ask Yourself Do you believe that you truly deserve happiness?- If not ask what is stopping you. Do you believe your a good or a bad person?- if you think you are bad where does that come from? “We all make mistakes as we are human beings and guess what? We will always continue to make mistakes, it’s how we learn and grow.”
Giving Yourself Permission Give yourself time to overcome stuff, then just let it go. Focus on what you can change not what you can’t. Remember you can’t please all the people all the time. Give yourself permission to make mistakes.
Useful Quotes (1 of 2) “Guilt is anger/disappointment directed at ourselves.” “ It is lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion towards others. If we make friends with ourselves then there is no obstacle to opening our minds and hearts to others.”
Useful Quotes (2 of 2) “Not judging yourself, not allowing others to judge you. Not blaming yourself, knowing thyself, forgiving yourself, loving yourself, just be who you are, be true to yourself, surmounting insecurity respect yourself.”
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it’s incomplete.” Jack Kornfield “Lack of forgiveness causes almost all our self sabotaging behaviour.” Mark Victor Hansen “It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.”
Neuro Linguistic Exercise See yourself with out guilt. What do you feel emotionally and physically? What sensations are you aware of in your body? What can you hear? What can you see? Notice your posture/back shoulders. What does that give you? Walk-Edit.