FamilyinCrisis Western Society• Married couple with children= 37.4%• Married couple without children = 33.1%• Family break down = 50%(Canadian census 2001)Marriage : A Crisis?
Divorcethe USA InRate• Every two marriages, there is one divorce• 2.04 million males are single parents.• 9.68 million females are single parents.• 28% parents live with one parent. (Divorce Magazine)Marriage : A Crisis?
Impact on Muslim Societies • Divorce rate on rise: California: 37% Georgia: 29% Turkey + Egypt: 10% • Lack of reference points for second generation and (Dr . Illyas Ba-Yunus, Professor younger families. Sociology, State University of New york)Marriage : A Crisis ?
NIKAAHRasulullah(saw) hasreferred to it as “half of Deen”.Staus of Marriage In Islam
Social Obligation Islam considers marriage a social obligation, an act which is greatly admired by Allah.Status of Marriage In Islam
Natural Relationship Nikaah - is the (only) natural relationship between man and woman.Status of Marriage In Islam
In the Light of Qur‟an: O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer. [An-Nisa: 1]Status of Marriage In Islam
In the Light of Qur‟an: And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them wives and descendants. And it was not for a messenger to come with a sign except by permission of Allah . For every term is a decree. [Ar-Raad, 13:38]Status of Marriage In Islam
In the Light of Qur‟an: Who will inherit me and inherit from the family of Jacob. And make him, my Lord, pleasing [to You].” Verse 6: Surah maryamStatus of Marriage In Islam
Pre-Islamic Arabia • Family status • No age barrier • Variations in Nikaah: – Badal: Exchanging wives – Before birth – Shighar: Exchanging sisters and daughters in marriage so no dowry or mehr – Maqaat: Marrying stepMarriage in Islam mother
Signs For People who give thought And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placedbetween you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. Al-Rum: 21Foundation of Marriage in Islam
Garments For Each other They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Al-Baqarah: 187Foundation of Marriage in Islam
Preservation of Faith„‟When Allah grants one a righteous wife, He has helped him (by that) to preserve half of his religion. Let him then fear and revere Allah in regard to the other half.” (At- Tabarani)Advantages of Marriage
Preservation of Chastity Abdullah bin Masud (RA) reported that Allahs Messenger (SAW) said to us: 0 young men, those among you who cansupport a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) andpreserves one from immorality; but he whocannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire. (Muslim)Advantages of Marriage
EnjoyingLove Al-Baqarah: 187 MercySecurityAdvantages of Marriage
“ Women are married for four qualities, some are married for wealth, some for the family(lineage) status, some for beauty and some for the Deen (piety). Marry a woman for her Deen and you shall be happy/successful.” (Bukhari/ Muslim)Spouse selection
“If a man comes to you seeking marriage, and you are satisfied with his din and character, marry him- lest a fitnah and great destruction become rampant on the earth.” (Tirmadhi)Spouse selection
To Do‟s 1. Let family check out for you and priority is piety. 2. Do Istikhara. 3. See each other before marriage Steps to Islamic PrinciplesPre-Wedding Islamic Principles
To Do‟s4. Significance of Kuff5. To take members of one`s family to propose6. To keep making dua to Allah to guide one and to give one the correct partner7. The proposal should be submitted to the Steps to Islamic PrinciplesPre-Wedding Islamic Principles Wali (guardian) of
Woman‟s Wali • „A Marriage Contract is not valid without a Wali.‟ (Abu Dawood) • Father, grandfather, son, brother, Uncle etc. „For, indeed, it is an adulteress who gives herself in marriage (without her wali‟s consent).‟ (Ibn Majah)Steps to Islamic Principles
What one is NOT ALLOWED• To date and court the woman before Nikaah.• To phone each other.• To send a proposal to a divorcee/widow during her iddat.• To submit a proposal when someone else has already proposed to the same woman. Rasulullah (saw) has stopped us from doing this.Steps to Islamic Principles
CompulsoryComponents Of Nikah • Presence of Wali • Ejab O Qabool • Khutba Nikaah • MehrSteps to Islamic Principles
The Prophet‟sModel• Hazrat Khadija and • Hazrat Aaisha and Prophet Mohammad Prophet Mohammad SAW SAW – She was 40, he was – Got married at a young age 25 – Examples of love and – First Muslim to accept affection Islam – Source of pleasure, joy and – Devoted and loving comfort to her husband wife – Vast treasure of Islamic – Always stood by the knowledge and a teacherExamples of Some Marriages Prophet in moments of of scholars and experts
Rituals In Marriage• Which month?• How to announce?• How to enjoy?
Poisonous Elements GREEDAvoiding Poisonous Elements
Poisonous Elements Show OffAvoiding Poisonous Elements
Poisonous Elements Excessive SpendingAvoiding Poisonous Elements
Poisonous Elements • Adopting Haraam customsAvoiding Poisonous Elements
Tackleown Wedding On your Smart • How to Simplify? • How to avoid extravagance • How to handle photo shoot session? • How to handle unexpected free mixing at wedding? • How to minimize extravagance?Some Tips
Save Yourself • Practice simplicity • Provide support for Halal to bride and groom • Avoid extravaganc e • Cut out Haraam ritualsSome Tips