Have you ever wondered why you aren’t more successful? Or why others find success more easily? Do you feel that you have not lived out your hopes and dreams and are about to give them up? Have you caught a glimpse of a better life but failed to go after it?
Don’t let your life slip away day by day without even taking a step towards your dream of a better life. Destination Success by Dwight Bain shows that you need not give up on your hopes and dreams just yet. By revealing the Seven Secrets of Success, Bain describes how everyone can be successful and live the life one wants.
THE BIG IDEA
Success Secret Number 1: Define What Success Means To You
What does it mean to be successful? Many people never achieve success simply because they don’t know what it is, because they don’t know what success means for them. So the first secret to success is to define what success means to you.
Success means different things to different people. It can mean financial wealth and security, having a comfortable life, a great career, fame, owning the right house, car, and other luxuries, having as much leisure time as you want, being healthy, having happy relationships.
To define what success means to you, you first need to let go of the self-destructive mentality that stops you from picturing a better life. Start thinking like a champion.
Picture your dream. Ask yourself what your most important, heartfelt dream is and start from there.
Success Secret Number 2: You Can Find Success Anywhere
You were created to accomplish great things – it is your destiny. We can have success in spite of everyone else and in spite of any circumstance. This is because success is not an “out there” concept; it is inside you. You can rewrite the script of your life to start right now to have a better time in every area.
Success is a mental resolve to keep growing through any circumstance. Stop thinking of yourself as average and that “success will never happen to you.” This means breaking away from the “normal” or what is expected. Be abnormal. Live beyond what is average. Maximize your potential and get ready for even better things in the future.
When you create limits in your mind, you can never get past them. When you believe something to be impossible, you will leave it alone. Imposing limits on yourself are your biggest roadblocks to a successful life. This may include thinking you’re not smart enough, or beautiful enough, or good enough.
Facing and moving beyond those limits are going to be the greatest challenges to the life you want. Consider: thousands of things once thought impossible are now commonplace – airplanes that fly, the four-minute mile, etc.
Imposing limits on yourself is self-sabotage. This is the most dangerous part of yourself that you need to watch out for and move beyond. This is the part that lives in your deepest fears and doubts.
To overcome this part of you, you will not only need to give up on some of your false beliefs, but you will need to burn the bridge leading back to them as well. Instead, you start the journey across the bridge to a better life.
How do you break through the barriers of your fears, self-imposed limits and self-destructive tendencies? Search your heart. Try to uncover any hidden areas of weakness limiting you from the life you desire to live. Identify active and passive self-destructive behavior.
Success Secret Number 3: Get Past Your Self-Imposed Limits
Success Secret Number 4: Develop Personal Discipline To Discover Your Destiny
Remember, successful people take the responsibility to build a better life. A successful life is your responsibility, no one else’s. This secret will help you transform your thinking, because it is directly linked with the power of your own potential. Thus, you need to take ownership of your life.
Lasting success is available, but it waits on you to show up and claim it. You have to keep growing and developing. You have to desire it and work at it. You have a responsibility to live out the destiny of a better life.
Growing into the man or woman you were designed to be is one of the most important things you can do today. It means that you will be reading books, listening to tapes or CDs, and partnering with people who can help you on your journey to lasting success.
It means you will take the responsibility to face your personal issues and develop a daily discipline for living better. It is time to feel completely alive, to live life fully, and celebrate the blessings you have been given by God.
This means you will need to learn some new skills and apply some new insights to make disciplined personal development happen and set a new course to capture your destiny.
Success Secret Number 5: Belief Is Your Hidden Source Of Inner Strength
The success formula begins with your belief system. Your core beliefs are the foundation of the important things in your life. Priorities, values, and convictions are established from early childhood experiences as well as exposure to positive or negative role models.
What you believe about education, marriage, hard work, money, reading, travel, politics, and religion, as well as a thousand other subjects, ultimately will be reflected in how you live. You need to examine these beliefs to gain personal insight on what you really believe in.
What you believe about your life will make it better or worse. Belief is your hidden power. Belief can become your greatest strength or your greatest weakness. If you believe that you will ultimately win at an event, you have a hidden source of power in your performance. If you believe that you are going to lose, you are dragging an anchor that will limit, if not destroy, your chances.
Believing differently will help you to behave differently. You can instantly reshape your belief about a problem or difficulty with this hidden power.
Some of us tend to think that we could have been successful, but we never had the opportunity. But successful people have discovered how to find opportunity regardless of the circumstances. Albert Einstein said, “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”
In 1931, Charles Darrow lost his job along with countless others because of the Great Depression. But instead of becoming depressed, Darrow used his unemployment to unleash his creative ability and created the game Monopoly right on his kitchen table. He pitched the game to the company Parker Brothers and was rejected. So he decided to market the game himself, and amidst the depression, managed to sell it to people on the streets. So successful was he that in the end, Parker Brothers did buy his game. Darrow earned millions from the sale and the royalties.
So you can let the challenges of life bring out your best and creatively find opportunities for success, or you can curl up in bed and pull the covers over your head. You can also wait around for opportunities to come by, but it might never show up, or failure will.
The dictionary is the only place where success comes before work. The effort to achieve excellence is part of the joy of living a life of meaning and fulfillment. Success doesn’t arrive when you are handed the trophy. Success is when you get up early and take the right steps to live like a winner.
Therefore, learn to view success like an iceberg: the tip shows at all times but represents just a fraction of what is underneath. As you discipline yourself to live a life of hard work that is focused on your destination of success, you will do hundreds of things no one will ever see. An insightful person knows that true success is bigger than most people realize and that it requires a daily discipline to move forward to achieve goals.
Successful people live differently because they believe that achievement comes in proportion to their commitment to hard work and personal excellence. Oliver Wendell Holmes said, “It is effort that makes the inevitable come to pass.” Successful people achieve results because of their extraordinary effort.
Become a person known for achievement and you will find that success begins to show up more and more often. This is true in business, family relationships, and personal health.
In the end, success is a mindset. It is managing your moods and motivations. Managing your moods requires discipline to control your impulses while keeping a positive attitude no matter what happens. Mastering your motivations is discovering and harnessing the powerful drives in your soul. It is understanding the reason you were born. It is living a life of meaning, of being on a mission to share success with others
Final Insight: Success Is A Mindset
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