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Teen Births in Illinois
Teen Births in the U.S.
41.9 births per 1000 teens
Well, I just want to tell my story of how I got pregnant and how I live my life today. When I was 13 years old I meat this guy. He was much older than me, and at first I didn't like him, but as time passed by I kind of "fell in love" with him. He was about 27 and I was 13. I know what you're thinking - what the heck is a thirteen-year-old girl doing with a 27-year-old guy? I was probably desperate to runaway from my problems at home, and I didn't know I was getting into a deeper problem. My family was O.K. with the relationship, and we were about to get married (with the consent of my mother of course) when I had a problem with my new step-dad. I couldn't stand him. My boyfriend proposed to run away. We were still going to get married, or at least that's what he said. So one day, I ran away with him. We had the apartment and all the basic necessities. After like two months I became pregnant, at the age of thirteen years old. I wasn't even finished 7th grade! I decided to have my baby. (Don't ask me why. I don't know.) He ended up cheating on me. I spent six and a half years with this person until I finally decided to end my relationship. I went to school pregnant. All the looks I got, all the comments I received, really affected my life. But I finished junior high and I was on my way to high school. While my friends were thinking on going out to the movies, I had to think about making dinner and changing diapers. It was hard, but I did it. I didn't give up. I had to wake up at six a.m. to change the baby, dress up, and go to school. I had to be at the bus stop by seven to be in school at 8:15 a.m. (They had childcare in the school, but only if you maintained a good academic grade.) I had to go through childcare, homework, uniforms, and all the rest of that stuff. I was a full-time student and worked part-time, and still had to come home and take care of my son. I graduated high school with the Class of 1998 with all my friends. I'm currently a college student in California, working toward my accounting degree, and I'm also working full time for a law firm. I just turned twenty and I have a five-year-old boy that waits for me to get home and give me a kiss, and say "I love you mommy." My message to all the teens out there is to never give up, you can make it. Hang on - life is hard, but in the long run, it's worth it. Good luck!
well i was always the good girl. I never did drugs or drank. In my junior year of high school i even made my schools cheer squad.And i was with my boyfriend of 4 years.i was so happy i thought i had everything. in october 2007 we had sex after his schools dance and we thought nothing will happen cause we almost never used protection and nothing ever happened. later that month we had broken up. then suddenly at cheer practice i started feeling sick and one of my friends took me to the bathroom and i started vomiting. I thought i was just tired.And i felt really sick again at a football game while i was cheering. I started thinking oh my god i think im pregnant. i asked one fo my friends to get me a home test. and i did two of them and they both came out positive.i was in shock so i decide to tell my ex and he thought i was lying to him so i could i get get back with him.so one day we had an appointment and he came with me . he then tells me that he wants to be in that babys life and he wants to get back with me.but the thing was he had an other girlfriend. so later that day when the clinics test confirmed that i was really pregnant he broke up with his other girlfriend. months go by and everything is going fine hes supporting me and we finally told my mom. at first she was mad but now she accepts it. and right now im currently 31 weeks and i'm having a baby boy.but recently my boyfriend is acting really different . he rather be with his friends and when we do talk on the phone its like he doesnt care and its like i have to force him to talk to me. and im really tired of it and he complains about how im annoying and basically tells that hes tired of me. so i dont know wat to do should i leave him after 4 years and pregnant with his son or stay with him but when hes not even happy with me. im really afraid to do everything on my own. i thought he was going to be there with me. so i dont know wat to do. all i want is my son and im impatiently waiting 2 months for him to come already. even though some people stopped talking to me and even my cheer squad act like they dont know me. so i guess i have to put my head up. Gaby
You Cannot Now But Be Afraid
You cannot now but be afraid Of all that you might lose, And curse the granite circumstance That forces you to choose. You are too young, a child yourself, As I am, too, and yet There is a child between us, whom We cannot just forget.
This child - our child - has no one else To be its only father. Others may be guardians, But you can be no other. This fact will not relent, though battered Hard by bitter tears. Time moves only forward as Our yearnings turn to years. And everything we've wanted turns To what we must accept, And what we'd least relinquish comes From what we most regret. I do not ask to live with you Or ever be your wife; Only that you share the gift And burden of a life That waits upon your willing love To greet its upturned face That it might twist your heart with joy And unimagined grace.
im 15 and still in high school. around febuary 2008 i met a guy. luis. he was just supposed to be a rebound. so i thought. i ended up getting pregnant, and he ended up not really carinq. he told me to get an abortion cause he wouldent be around. i broke into tears, cause secretly i feel in love with him. i told my parents i was pregnant my dad tried to hit me, than he called me a slut and told me to leave the house. my step mom called me dumb. the only person i had in my life was my ex, and he knew i was pregnant by another man and he told me he wanted to take full responsibillity for me and the baby. i told my dad i needed a plane ticket and that he'd never have to see me again. he told me to get in tthe car. we drove for hours. and finally stopped at a clinic in miami downtown. we stepped inside and he told the lady at the front desk we were there for an abortion. i paniced not knowinq what to do. i went through the abortion. and my ex boyfreind alex? he ended up leaving me. so now i'm on deppresion pills and spend most days smoking pot and crying. if i could go back in time i'd stop myself from getting the abortion just to please my dad. even after i got the abortion, he treats me like shit. i wake up everday thinking about my unborn child that i killed, than i wish death upon myself. Jael
I had known my children's father for 10 years before I got pregnant. When I had both of my children, Gabriel (2-9-05) and Alyssa (1-15-06), I finally realized he never really loved me, much less, like me. He used to hit me while I was pregnant and while I was holding my son. When he finally left me, it was because he had gotten another girl pregnant, I never thought I would find a man who would love me and my children, like this man SHOULD HAVE!!! But I am very lucky. I had my son at 15 and my daughter 11 months later at 16. I did finish school, I felt like I had to throw something in everyones face. But that wasn't good enough. I am now 19 years old with two beautiful children. I did graduate high school and I am now in my 2nd semester of college. I am very happily married to a man that I never thought I could love, named David. He isn't my children's biological father, but he is definitely their REAL father. He loves them as if they were his own. We recently got married on January 25, 2008. Everyone always told me that I would ruin my live, and I know and believe that having children, saved my life. I am the happiest woman alive, and that is what I throw in everyones face. TAKE THAT EDWIN!!! I'm finally happy and you can't bring me down!!! HA!!! Princess Reyes-Hawkins