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Week Two - Practical Tips for Recovering from an Affair

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  • THE DOCTORS ARE IN! Drs. Kent & Diana Branch Relationship Clinic
  • RECAP
  • Matthew 22:37-39
    • 37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
    • 38 This is the first and great commandment.
    • 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
  • THE FOUR C’S
    • COMMITMENT
    • COMPATIBILITY
    • COMMUNICATION
    • CRISIS MANAGEMENT
  • THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES
    • Words of Affirmation
    • Quality Time
    • Receiving Gifts
    • Acts of Service
    • Physical Touch
  • CRISIS MANAGEMENT
  • RECOVERING FROM AN AFFAIR Heb 13:4 KJV Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
  • Recovering from an Affair Tips for the INJURED PARTNER
  • SAY IT…
    • Express how the affair has affected you. Let your spouse know exactly how you feel about their infidelity.
  • FEEL IT…
    • Don’t try to stuff down your feelings. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Don’t try to deny the pain, and don’t try to hide your pain from your spouse.
  • PAY ATTENTION…
    • A truly repentant spouse will do whatever it takes to restore your trust. You need to see changes in your spouses behavior that reflect that they are indeed making strides toward open and honest communication, and that there are changes in previously deceptive behavior.
  • OFFER FORGIVENESS
    • If your spouse has asked for forgiveness, you must forgive as God for Christ sake has forgiven you. This doesn’t mean that all is well…it means that you are willing to forgive (pardon or release). Even in cases where the injured partner decides to divorce, forgiveness will be critical to their own healing.
  • RELEASE IT…
    • Ultimately…you must let go of the anger and the pain so you can move forward. Focus on the positive changes you are seeing and on the marriage that you WANT TO HAVE in the future.
  • REFLECT ON IT…
    • Begin the painful process of accepting your part in the disintegration of your marriage. More likely than not, your marriage was in trouble BEFORE THE AFFAIR. What was your role? How can YOU be a better spouse going forward?
  • REBUILD IT….
    • Be willing to work on yourself and your marriage. Remember…TALK, TALK, TALK and PRAY, PRAY, PRAY and SEEK HELP!
  • RECOVERING FROM AN AFFAIR
    • Tips for the UNFAITHFUL PARTNER
  • REPENT AND SEEK FORGIVENESS
    • You must repent (experience godly sorrow that produces a turning away from the sin). You should seek forgiveness from both God and your spouse.
  • END IT…
    • Before ANY recovery can take place there must first be an ENDING to the affair. ALL CONTACT WITH THE OTHER PARTY MUST CEASE!
  • DEAL WITH IT… ACCEPT your responsibility for your own actions; accept your partner’s reaction to your infidelity
  • OWN IT… Confess to your spouse what you recognize about your own actions. Acknowledge it by saying…”I was…SELFISH, FOOLISH, INCONSIDERATE, STUPID, ETC
  • COME CLEAN…
    • You have to be willing to answer the hard questions about the affair…NO MORE SECRETS
  • SHARE IT…
    • Share your reasons for the affair. Be sure that you do not appear to be making excuses for your infidelity. There is NO EXCUSE for breaking of your SACRED VOWS. However, there may be legitimate REASONS why you were unhappy or unfulfilled in your marriage.
  • REBUILD IT… Begin the process of rebuilding your spouse’s trust. This will involve lots of PRAYER, lots of TRANSPARENT TALKING and COUNSELING…
  • BELIEVE IT…
    • Both the unfaithful and injured spouses must believe that God is able to restore their marriage…IN FACT…God can make the marriage BETTER if both of you put your trust in him, and love one another unconditionally!