Empowering Skills For Women


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Empowering Skills For Women

  1. 1. B R SIWAL Deputy Director NIPCCD NEW DELHI E-MAIL: brsiwal@gmail.com
  2. 2. ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOUR <ul><li>Assertiveness is a farm of behaviour which demonstrates your self-respect and respect for others. This means that assertiveness is concerned with dealing with your own feelings about yourself and other people, as much the end result. </li></ul><ul><li>ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOUR IS: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Being open and honest with your self and other people </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Listening to other people’s point of view </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Showing understanding of other people’s situations </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Expressing your ideas clearly. But not at the expense of others. </li></ul></ul>
  3. 3. <ul><ul><li>Being able to reach workable solutions to difficulties </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Making decision – even if your decision is not a decision ! </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Being clear about your point and not being side tracked </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Dealing with conflict </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Having self respect and respect for other people </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Being equal with others and retaining your uniqueness </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Expressing feelings honestly and with care. </li></ul></ul>
  4. 4. AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR IS: <ul><li>Getting your own way, no matter what </li></ul><ul><li>Getting your own point across at other people’s expense </li></ul><ul><li>Getting people to do things they don’t what to do </li></ul><ul><li>Being loud and violent </li></ul><ul><li>Interrupting others </li></ul><ul><li>Winning at all costs </li></ul>
  5. 5. PASSIVE BEHAVIOUR IS : <ul><li>Keeping quiet for fear of upsetting people </li></ul><ul><li>Avoiding conflict </li></ul><ul><li>Saying yes when you want to say no </li></ul><ul><li>Always putting other people’s need first </li></ul><ul><li>Not expressing your feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Going along with things you don’t like or agree with </li></ul><ul><li>Apologizing excessively </li></ul>
  6. 6. <ul><li>Inwardly burning with anger and frustration </li></ul><ul><li>Being vague about your ideas and what you want </li></ul><ul><li>Justifying your actions to other people </li></ul><ul><li>Appearing indecisive </li></ul><ul><li>Inwardly burning with anger and frustration </li></ul><ul><li>Being vague about your ideas and what you want </li></ul><ul><li>Justifying your actions to other people </li></ul><ul><li>Appearing indecisive </li></ul>
  7. 7. WHY BOTHER WITH ASSERTIVESS <ul><li>Your self-confidence increases </li></ul><ul><li>You are properly understood </li></ul><ul><li>Other people know exactly where they are with you </li></ul><ul><li>You are more open to receiving feed back </li></ul><ul><li>Your relationships are based on reality rather than illusion </li></ul>
  8. 8. <ul><li>You stand a better chance of getting what you want </li></ul><ul><li>You feel better for expressing your feelings </li></ul><ul><li>You have fewer situations that are unresolved </li></ul><ul><li>Even if you do not resolve a situation, you feel better for having tried </li></ul>
  9. 9. TEN GOLDEN RULES OF ASSERTIVESS <ul><li>Say no when you need to </li></ul><ul><li>Be persistent </li></ul><ul><li>Never let anybody take away your rights </li></ul><ul><li>Deal with put outs </li></ul><ul><li>Handle criticism well </li></ul><ul><li>Know how to make confident conversation </li></ul><ul><li>Think of yourself for the sake of others </li></ul><ul><li>Be seen not obscene </li></ul><ul><li>Be clever </li></ul><ul><li>Practice being assertive </li></ul>
  10. 10. BOOST YOUR SELF CONFUDENCE <ul><li>Be assertive </li></ul><ul><li>Fill yourself with pride </li></ul><ul><li>Improve self image </li></ul><ul><li>Think about other people </li></ul><ul><li>Conquer your fear and anxiety </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Slow down – “no hurry, no worry” </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Seek support from other people </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Live for today, don’t get anxious for tomorrow </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Tough mildness </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Beat stress </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Assess the odds </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Remove your guilt – seek forgiveness </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Think nice thoughts </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Put things into right perspective </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Smile, smile and smile </li></ul></ul></ul>
  11. 11. <ul><ul><li>LOVE FOR OTHER </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>LEARN HOW TO LOSE </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>LOOK PROS AND CONS OF DOING SOMETHING </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Have courage to succeed </li></ul><ul><li>Think positive </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Think to change the world </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Don’t think about failure </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Have faith in your ability </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Never loose hope </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Talk positively to yourself </li></ul></ul>
  12. 12. THE WILL TO WIN MOTIVATE YOURSELF TO SUCCESS <ul><li>Understand your needs. </li></ul><ul><li>Find goals which inspires you </li></ul><ul><li>(I) define life’s purpose </li></ul><ul><li>(Ii) analyse your needs </li></ul><ul><li>(Iii) think of the people who matter to you </li></ul><ul><li>(Iv) identify your inspirational goals. </li></ul>
  13. 13. <ul><li>Never give up. Life is difficult. Be positive </li></ul><ul><li>Think success </li></ul><ul><li>(I) visualise your success </li></ul><ul><li>(Ii) talk success to yourself </li></ul><ul><li>(Iii) don’t build obstacles in your mind </li></ul><ul><li>(Iv) don’t fear to fail </li></ul><ul><li>Have a cool head but a warm heart. </li></ul>
  14. 14. <ul><li>Live for excellence </li></ul><ul><li>(I) complete with yourself, not with other </li></ul><ul><li>(Ii) value what you are striving for </li></ul><ul><li>(Iii) remember time past is gone forever </li></ul><ul><li>(Iv) be ruthlessly self discipline Love life – love everything you do. </li></ul>
  15. 15. STEP TO BULIDING POSITIVE PERSONALITY <ul><li>STEP 1. Accept responsibility </li></ul><ul><li>Step 2. Considerations </li></ul><ul><li>Step 3. Think win / win </li></ul><ul><li>Step 4. Choose your work carefully </li></ul><ul><li>Step 5. Do not criticize and complain </li></ul>
  16. 16. <ul><li>Step 7. Put positive interpretation on other people’s behaviour </li></ul><ul><li>Step 8. Be good listener </li></ul><ul><li>Step 9. Be enthusiastic </li></ul><ul><li>Step 10. Give honest and sincere appreciation </li></ul><ul><li>Step11. When make mistake, accept </li></ul><ul><li>Step 12. Discuss but do not argue </li></ul>
  17. 17. <ul><li>STEP 13. Turn your promises into commitments </li></ul><ul><li>Step 14. Be grateful but do not except gratitude </li></ul><ul><li>Step 15. Avoid bearing grudges, forgive and forget </li></ul><ul><li>Step 16. Practice honesty, sincerity, humility </li></ul><ul><li>Step 17. Be caring and empathetic </li></ul><ul><li>Step 18. Practice courtesy </li></ul><ul><li>Step 19. Development sense of humour </li></ul><ul><li>Step 20. Do not be sarcastic and put other dow </li></ul><ul><li>Step 21. To have a friend be friend </li></ul>
  18. 18. STEP TO BUILDING A POSITIVE SELF -ESTEEM <ul><li>Turn scars into stars – threat into opportunities </li></ul><ul><li>Do something for others </li></ul><ul><li>Learn to give and receive compliments </li></ul><ul><li>Accept responsibilities </li></ul><ul><li>Practice self-discipline </li></ul><ul><li>Set goals </li></ul><ul><li>Become internally drive not externally driven </li></ul><ul><li>Give yourself positive auto suggestions </li></ul><ul><li>Have patience </li></ul>
  19. 19. BUILDING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE <ul><li>FACTORS THAT DETERMINE ATTITUTE – 3 E </li></ul><ul><li>Environment </li></ul><ul><li>Experience </li></ul><ul><li>Education </li></ul><ul><li>Environment consists – </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Home – positive or negative influence </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>School – peer pressure </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Work – supportive of over critical supervisor </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Media </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Cultural background </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Religious background </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Socio-political environment </li></ul></ul></ul>
  20. 20. STEP TO BUILD POSITIVE ATTITUDE <ul><li>Step 1. Change focus, look for the positive </li></ul><ul><li>Step 2. Make a habit of doing it now </li></ul><ul><li>Step 3. Develop an attitude of gratitude – count your blessing not troubles </li></ul><ul><li>Step 4. Get into continuous education and learning </li></ul>
  21. 21. <ul><li>Step 5. Build a positive self esteem </li></ul><ul><li>Step 6. Stay away from negative </li></ul><ul><li>Step 7. Learn to like thing that need to be done </li></ul><ul><li>Step 8. Start your day with positive </li></ul>
  22. 22. BENEFITS OF A POSITIVE ATTITUDE <ul><li>Happy life </li></ul><ul><li>Increase productivity </li></ul><ul><li>Improve quality </li></ul><ul><li>Solve problems </li></ul><ul><li>Makes for congenial atmosphere </li></ul><ul><li>Breeds loyalty </li></ul><ul><li>Foster better relationship </li></ul><ul><li>Reduce stress </li></ul><ul><li>Pleasing personality </li></ul>