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  1. 1. ~ MASJID AHLUL QURAAN WA SUNNAH ~ ALBASEERAH.ORG STUDYISLAAM.ORG Characteristics of the women one should marry By the Noble Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih Al-Uthaymeen ‫رﺣﻤﻪ اﷲ‬ M ARRIAGE IS FOR enjoy- tive to her, and it delights the chest, ment and to build a right- then ones soul feels at ease with her. eous family and a sound society. Based on this, the woman In her, the saying of the Most High is that one should marry is the one by realized: {And among His Signs is whom the fulfilment of these two that He created for you wives from goals may be achieved. She is the one For the woman who possesses Deen among yourselves, that you may who is adorned with physical (outer fulfils the commands of Allaah, pro- find repose in them, and He has beauty) and abstract (inner) beauty. tects the rights of her husband, his put between you affection and bed, his children, and his money, and mercy.} [ar-Room 30:21]. supports him in the obedience of Al- The physical beauty: it is the perfec- laah the Most High. If he forgets, she tion of the physical appearance, be- The inner beauty: it is the complete- reminds him. If he slackens she in- cause whenever the woman has a ness of the Deen (Religion) and man- vigorates him, and if he gets angry she beautiful appearance and a soft voice, ners. Whenever the woman is more pleases him. The mannered woman the eye will become tranquil when religious and has perfect manners, she endears herself to her husband and looking at her. When the ear listens to will be more beloved to the soul and a respects him; she does not delay any- her speech the heart becomes recep- more suitable choice. thing that he likes hastened, and she does not hasten anything he likes de- Moving to New Building layed. (Continued on page 6) Your assistance is needed to help us move quicker Inside this Issue: E XCLAMATIONS OF planning for new masjid, and last ALHAMDULILLAH echoed week alone there were a couple of when everyone read albaseerah issue, executive meetings headed by ►The Rights of Parents Page 3 which announced the purchase of brother Zahid Rasheed to discuss ►My Family, My Home, new home of Masjid Ahlul Quraan future plans to ensure prompt & My Jannah Wa Sunnah. swift renovation and to speed things Page 4 up to move by Ramadaan. ►The Women one should marry Page 6 Al-Hamdulillah, the paperwork is ►Advice to Those Who Divorce complete and the property is The response to our appeals for officially ours. However, it still needs donation and professional expertise Their Wives Hastily Page 7 major renovation before we can fully was lower than expected, which, if it ►Polygny is the Sunnah Page 12 move in. continues, will no doubt put plans for a Ramadan occupancy in ►Keeping Relations with non-Muslim jeopardy. Since the purchase of the property, Family Page 13 the shoora has been very active in ►And much MORE... (Continued on page 2)
  2. 2. Page 2 Al Baseerah (Continued from page 1) The Masjid's According to Br. Abdul Majeed, administration is coordinator of the renovation project, absolutely committed preliminary work is already underway and determined to with architects working on the educate and unite the renovation plan to obtain the community. It is their necessary building permits. strong desire to make community their first In the meantime, there is already a priority. They have good idea of what work is required, already outlined future and the building committee is projects which revolve compiling a master list of volunteers, around serving the so that their services can be allocated community to the best to specific jobs as soon as the permits of one’s ability. are obtained. Our New Masjid The new projects are very And while the services of everyone are comprehensive and thoughtfully needed, the building committee planned, and will inshaa Allaah, help particularly emphasized the need for our masjid to become a center for the services of those professional, every believer to turn to for guidance licensed contractors within our We would like to move by and help. jama’ah. This being, to ensure that the renovation will be completed Ramadaan which can only be Modern technology will be used to according to the various building possible with the Tawfeeq from serve and educate our community codes, which we must adhere to before better and to bridge gap between Allaah and then your help & a Certificate of Occupancy can be scholars and the Ummah. There will issued. cooperation and active be monthly conferences, seminars and intensive courses as well as participation of the community. Br. Rafeek attributed the lukewarm weekly classes in all Islaamic sciences, response for volunteers and donations youth workshops, sisters activities, to the present economic climate, community services, family counseling, You are invited to join us and which is making it difficult to give enhanced medical and social awareness financially, or even to offer services for be part of our Dawah projects programs, monthly publications, and free. However we appeal to our much, much more Inshaa Allaah! ♦♦♦ brothers and sisters to make the sacrifice - even if it means sticking just Your help is needed to bring a dollar into the collection box. positive change to build Ummah and to finish the Please help renovation of new property . so IF YOU CAN provide any help by way of donation finan- be part of this noble cause and cially or in materials or with your skills and trade then call us today. 718-529-4092 please contact Br. Afzal at 718-490-8550 so we can coordi- nate. As soon as the necessary building permits are obtained work will Or email us at: commence. Please provide your name, phone number and email ad- dress so we may keep you updated as the work progresses. In the meantime get yourself prepared for the areas you may best be suited for. Barakullaahu Feekum.
  3. 3. Page 3 Mar-Apr 2009 ~ Rabi` al-Awwal-Rabi` ath-Thaanee 1430 The Rights of the Parents Positive Consequences of Being Kind to Parents By the Noble Shaykh Abdul-Azeez ibn Baaz ‫رﺣﻤﻪ اﷲ‬ T 1. Being kind to parents causes an individ- his is a word of guidance to ual to enter Paradise and saves him from years give thanks to Me and to sons and daughters to take your parents, unto Me is the final the Fire. The Prophet  mentioned that care of their parents specially as they destination.} [Luqmaan 31:14] Jibreel  descended upon him. He said, “May become more dependant on others. a person be disgraced, the one in the presence of Thus, it is mandatory to be patient it is very unfortunate that some chil- whom you are mentioned and he does not send with the parents, and to excel in dren neglect their parents as the his salaams on you.” The Prophet responded by fulfilling one’s duty towards them in parents grow older. saying “Aameen (O Allaah answer).” (Jibreel goodness, and to tolerate any hard- then said) “May the person also be disgraced It is obligatory upon children to fear ship that might occur. whose parents, both of them or one of them hap- Allaah and be good to their parents pen to be in his presence and because of his neg- and to be patient with them. For It was said in a hadeeth, “Allaah’s ligence to them, he is not allowed to go to Para- verily the parents were patient with Pleasure is (found) in pleasing the parents, dise.” The Prophet  also said “aameen, O them, they nurtured their kids and and Allaah’s displeasure is (found) in the Allaah answer.” [Hasan Saheeh] This took well care of them when they parents’ displeasure.” The Prophet  shows the importance of being kind and says, “Shall I inform you of the greatest of were young. good to parents whether they are Mus- the major sins?” We said, “Of course, lims or disbelievers. Hence, it is mandatory for the chil- O Messenger of Allaah!” He said 2. It causes a person’s life to be extended dren to fear Allaah regarding their “Associating partners with Allaah, and and his sustenance to be increased. The parents, and to be good to them, being ungratefulness/disobedience to the Prophet  mentioned that “whoever would and to be patient upon whatever parents.” He  mentioned sin of un- like to have an extension in his stay in this befalls them from tiredness, sick- gratefulness/disobedience to the world or have an increase in his sustenance then ness, or mental disorder. Allaah the parents alongside (the sin) of shirk. let him join his family ties.” [al-Bukhaaree Almighty says, {And your Lord has and Muslim] decreed that you worship none In another authentic hadeeth, the but Him. And that you be dutiful Prophet  says, “From the major sins 3. Being kind to parents causes your own to your parents. If one of them or is for a man to revile/insult his parents.” children to treat you kind in future, the both of them attain old age in It was said, “O Allaah’s Messenger, same way you showed goodness and your life, say not to them a word does a man revile his own parents?” respect to your father and your mother. of disrespect, nor shout at them the Prophet said, “Yes, the man blas- 4. Being kind to them causes them to be but address them in terms of phemes the father (of a man), so that man pleased with you. We know that Allaah’s honor. And lower unto them the blasphemes the father (of the first man), pleasure is tied to the pleasure of the wing of submission and humility and (the first) man blasphemes the mother parents and His dislike is also tied to the through mercy, and say: quot;My (of this man) then this man blasphemes his parents being displeased. Lord! Bestow on them Your (the first man’s) mother.” Hence, a 5. It also allows us to receive Allaah’s Pleas- Mercy as they did bring me up man’s reviling the people is as if he ure because when we discharge what when I was small.quot;} [Al-Israa’ reviled his own parents because they Allaah commands us to do, it causes 17:23-24] would then revile his parents. So, Him to be pleased with us and He has how is it then if he directly reviles He also says, {And We have en- his own parents and deals badly commanded us to be kind to our par- joined on man (to be dutiful and with them? The matter is indeed ents. The opposite will cause Allaah to good) to his parents. His mother very grave and of great weight. be angry with us because we would be bore him in weakness and hard- doing something that He dislikes. ♦♦♦ ship upon weakness and hard- We ask Allaah for safety Shaykh Abdullaah Al-Ghudyaan, ship, and his weaning is in two and goodness. ♦♦♦ Excerpts from his lecture for
  4. 4. Page 4 Al Baseerah My Family, My Home, My Jannah By the Noble Shaykh Abdullaah Al-Ghudyaan A Unless they come to you with an open sin, then came to you admonish them, separate yourself in the the Mes- llaah  mentions: {And bed and reprimand them physically in a light senger among His Signs is that He way.quot; [At-Tirmidhee] and quot;You feed her of Al- created for you wives from among when you eat, clothe her and do not hit her in laah  yourselves, that you may find repose the face, and do not say – may Allaah dis- in them, and He has put between seeking grace you, and do not take yourself away from you affection and mercy. Verily, in permis- her if you are trying to abandon her by moving that are indeed signs for a people sion to leave her home and the yourself away from the home – you should not who reflect.} [Ar-Room 30:21] Prophet  said: quot;Fear Allaah and do not do thisquot;. [Abi Daawood] show opposition to your husbandquot;. Later the A Sign from Allaah father died so she came and she sought per- mission to go out again and the Messenger  From the signs of Allaah is that He HUSBAND’S RIGHTS said: quot;Fear Allaah and do not show opposi- created your mates from yourselves. tion to your husbandquot;.1 Allaah  revealed OVER HIS WIFE This means that He created the mate to the Prophet  that this lady was for the male from his own likeness, and forgiven because of obedience to her type, so that there may be agreement From the first right that the husband husband. It is not permissible how- between the two so that they may come has over the wife is that she should ever, for the husband to prevent the together on this basis and there will be hear and obey. It is binding on the wife wife from visiting her parents. This is mutual mercy amongst them. to obey her husband except if it in- something that he should not do. volves disobedience to Allaah, to obey They should live together in a state of Affection and Mercy Between You him in a way that is just, and to answer kindness and goodness. and respond to what he requires and Then Allaah mentions, quot;…and He requests. She must allow him to be inti- The third responsibility upon the sis- has put between you affection and mate with her whenever he desires to ter is the responsibility concerning the mercy…quot; This is something that do so. Otherwise, she is in a state of sin house. It is binding on her, and it is should be expressed by both parties as Allaah said, {Therefore the right- her responsibility to take care of the with respect to each other. Love and eous women are devoutly obedient home, to protect the wealth of the compassion should be apparent be- (to Allaah and to their husbands), home, to train the children, to guard tween them. They should both give of and guard in the husband's absence her own honor and uprightness and, themselves in that which they are able what Allaah orders them to guard as far as possible, to make the atmos- to do for one another, except in mat- (e.g. their chastity and their hus- phere comfortable for her husband ters which entail disobedience to Allaah band's property).} [An-Nisaa’ 4:34] concerning food, drink and what he  because quot;there is no obedience to one who wears as the Messenger of Allaah  is created if it entails disobedience to the crea- The second right that the husband has said: quot;All of you are shepherds (guardians) tor.quot; [Ahmad] over the wife is that she should not and all of you are responsible for those under leave his home without his permission. your care…The lady is a shepherd over the Rights and Responsibilities It is compulsory upon the Muslim lady household and she is responsible for those to remain at home and not leave with- There are regulations and responsibili- under her carequot;. [Similar wording in Al- out first getting the permission of her ties, some which are binding upon the Bukhaaree] husband to do so. If she leaves without sisters, the women, the wives, and there first receiving his permission, she is The fourth responsibility that is bind- are rights that are due to them. The disobedient to Allaah and to His Mes- ing on the wife is keeping the secrets Messenger of Allaah  said: quot;Men: seek senger . Ibn Battah mentions in a and what is private to the husband. good consul concerning the women, for surely narration that a person travelled and She should not spread what is private they are like a captive with you. You do not the father of the wife fell ill so she and secret between them or in the have any authority over them other than that.
  5. 5. Page 5 Mar-Apr 2009 ~ Rabi` al-Awwal-Rabi` ath-Thaanee 1430 live with them honourably. If you home as the Messenger of Allaah  closer to Allaah . He must also pre- dislike them, it may be that you said: “The most evil of people with Allaah, vent her from uncovering herself, and dislike a thing through which Al- in terms of his station on Yawmul-Qiyaamah from those doubtful places which she laah brings a great deal of good.} (the Day of Judgement), is a man who is should not visit as they would affect [An-Nisaa’ 4:19] Ibn Katheer said: intimate with his wife, and she with him, and her (in a negative way) . quot;What is intended here is that you say then he goes out and spreads this secret that Also, if she knows, and he does not, kind words to them, treat them kindly they both sharedquot;. [Muslim] then he benefits from her knowledge, and make your appearance appealing because she knows and he doesn’t. for them, as much as you can, just as WIFE’S RIGHTS OVER you like them to do for you.quot; The The third right that the wife has over Prophet  said: quot;The best of you are those HER HUSBAND the husband is al-gheerah i.e. for him to who are best to their families, and I am the have concern over his wife such that best amongst you to their families.quot; [At- he does not allow her to do anything Tirmidhee] The first responsibility that the hus- that affects her honour and dignity. band has towards the wife is to pro- This is a characteristic which protects Closing Advice vide for her financially. The husband is that which Allaah  has made sacred required to provide for his family in a It is compulsory on the husband to in Islaam; in Islaam this is a good qual- just manner. He must not be negligent have good character regarding his wife, ity. The husband should thus have this in providing her with food, drink, to be gentle with her, and to show af- quality with respect to his wife. clothing, and a place of residence. This fection to her as the Messenger  used is because Allaah  mentions: {Men Al-Mugheerah mentions that Sa`d ibn to do with his wives. In one narration, are the protectors and maintainers `Ubaadah said: quot;If I find a man with my the Messenger of Allaah  said, quot;The of women, because Allaah has wife I will take this sword and smite his woman will not remain constant in one state made one of them to excel the neckquot;. And the Prophet  said, quot;Are you all the time, this is not going to happen. And other, and because they spend (to amazed about Sa`d’s gheerah?quot; He said: if you seek and have pleasure with them then support them) from their means.} quot;By Allaah, I have more of this than Sa`d, you will have pleasure with them in this state, [4:34] Also the Messenger of Allaah  and Allaah has more of it than mequot;. [Al- and if you go to change them then you will said, quot;Binding upon you is clothing and feed- Bukhaaree] break them and breaking them is divorcing ing them in a just mannerquot;. [ Muslim] them. [Muslim] In another narration, Husayn mentions “The best of you are those who are best to their families, that his aunt entered upon the Messen- and I am the best amongst you to their families.quot; ger of Allaah , and when she con- cluded what she came for, the Prophet  questioned her: quot;Do you have a hus- So, a man should not allow his wife to band?quot; She said quot;yesquot;. He said quot;how are you The second right that the wife has over mix with other men. This is something with him?quot; Her response was: quot;O Messenger the husband is for him to teach her. that he should not be comfortable with of Allaah, I do not fall short in trying to do This is important in the life of all Mus- whatever I can to assist himquot;. The Prophet  - allowing her to be in a situation lims. He must teach her what she which would tarnish her honour. This said, quot;Look at yourself concerning your hus- needs to know concerning the affairs may also put him in the category band because he is your Jannah or your of the religion, especially the pillars of where he is categorized as a dayyooth – Firequot;. [Similar wording in Ahmad] Islaam if she herself is not a person a person about whom the Messenger who is learned. He must also teach her 1 Shaykh al-Albaanee ‫رﺣﻤﻪ اﷲ‬ of Allaah  said, quot;he shall not enter Jan- and help her to memorize the Book of says Da`eef in Irwaa’ Al- nahquot;. Allaah, the things pertaining to salaah, Ghaleel #2014. ♦♦♦ how she should purify herself after The fourth quality that the husband having her monthly cycle and taking a should have is a good character with bath for janaabah after marital relations. his wives - treating them with kindness He should also direct her to those and goodness. Allaah  says, {…and beneficial acts which will draw her
  6. 6. Page 6 Al Baseerah (Continued from page 1) And in another Hadeeth he  said: Characteristics of the women one should marry “Marry the one who is loving and fertile, The Messenger  was asked : for with you (and your offspring) I will outnumber the prophets” or he said, “the “Which of the women are best?” nations”. He said, “the one who if he looks at [Abu Daawood, an-Nasaa’ee] her, she pleases him, and she obeys him when he commands, and she does not If it is possible to find a woman oppose him regarding herself, or his who has the inner beauty and the wealth in that which he hates.” outer beauty, then this is perfection and bliss with the success granted by [Ahmad, an-Nasaa’ee] Allaah. ♦♦♦
  7. 7. Page 7 Mar-Apr 2009 ~ Rabi` al-Awwal-Rabi` ath-Thaanee 1430 Advice to those who divorce their Be The Best To Your Family wives hastily By the Noble Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadi T he Prophet  said, quot;The best questioner from America asked the A of you is the best to his family and Shaykh about a bad habit that has I am the best amongst you to my fam- spread amongst the brothers who are ilyquot; [Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah. upon the Sunnah, and it is that some of them get married, and after a few days an Imam Shawkaani states in his argument breaks out between the couple, book Nayl Al-Awtar (6/360): and its news spreads and other brothers encourage the husband to divorce his quot;This is pointing to the fact that wife, so what do you advise us with? the best people and those most worthy of this description are What I advise the brothers with is what those who treat their family the Allaah  says in his Noble Book: {And the Messenger of Allaah  said: “A best. live with them with ma’roof believing man does not hate a believing woman, if (kindness/niceness} And He says there is a certain characteristic that he dislikes Surely, the family deserve the {Men are the protectors and main- about her, then there is another characteristic that most to be happy, to be treated tainers of women, because Allaah has he is pleased with.” with good manners and kindness, made one of them to excel the other, and to be protected from harm What was narrated in Saheeh Al- and because they spend from their and provided with what benefits Bukhaaree and Muslim on the authority means [to support them]. Therefore them. So, if the man fits this de- of Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of the Saalihaat (righteous women) scription, then he is the best of Allaah  said: “Be good/kind to women, for Qaanitaat (devoutly obedient women people: and if, on the other hand, indeed they were created from a curved rib, and [to Allaah and to their husbands]), he acts contrary to this, then he is the most curved part of a rib is the upper most and those who guard in their hus- in the realms of evil. part of it, and if try to straighten it, you will band’s absence that which Allaah break it, and if you leave it, it will stay curved. orders them to guard (e.g. their chas- You frequently see people falling So be good/kind to women.” tity, their husbands property…) And into this trap. So you see a man, as for those women on whose part when he is with his family he has The Messenger of Allaah  also said: you see ill conduct, admonish them one of the worst characters, he is “Indeed the woman was created from a rib, and [first], [next] refuse to share their stingy and mean and shows them she will not be straightened out for you, so if you beds and [last] hit them [lightly if it little kindness. enjoy [your relationship with] her, then you will is useful] but if they return to obedi- be doing so while she has ‘iwaj (crookedness), ence, do not seek any means [of an- However, when he meets others and if you try to straighten her out, you will noyance] against them surely Allaah he is gentle, shows good charac- break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.” is ever most high, most great.} ter, joyful and does a lot of good. There is not a shadow of a doubt And the messenger of Allaah  said: “I So if it [divorce] is because of bad man- that this type of person is de- have never seen anyone with a deficiency of ‘aql ners then he should be patient. However prived of success and has (intellect -meaning the witness of two women is if she is not chaste then he should sepa- deviated from the equal to the witness of one man).quot; rate himself from her. Allaah  says straight path. We {The Zanee (adulterer/fornicator) An-Nawawee said: quot;meaning they have ask Allaah for the doesn’t marry except a zaaneeyah weak memories) and deen (religion –meaning well-beingquot; ♦♦♦ (adultress/fornicatress) or a mushri- they do not pray or fast during their menses) kah, and the zaneeyah doesn’t marry that are more overpowering to men than one of except a zanee And that is forbidden you [women].” So the deficiency of ‘aql and to the believers.} [] ♦♦♦ deen is something that is always present
  8. 8. Page 8 Al Baseerah Question: Can a woman take sha- Question: I would like to know In this scenario there should be a doc- haadah (to enter into Islaam) while what is permissible and impermis- tor who is completely trustworthy and sible for a wife to say about her reliable and another doctor who she has her period or must she have a ghusl (ritual bath) before husband to another sister. Is she would supervise that doctor. It is pronouncing the shahaadah? allowed to talk about his personal- preferable that the supervising doctor ity (in a good manner) - about her or both doctors be Muslims. How- husband and his piety to other sis- ever, if the doctor is known for his Answer: As it relates to the menstru- ters? What are the actions of a wife truthfulness, trustworthiness and reli- ating woman, if the opportunity pre- that are dislikeable to a husband? ability then it is not a condition that sents itself she should pronounce the he is a Muslim, even though that Shahaadatayn (two testimonies of faith) Answer: It is upon a wife to mention would be better. ♦♦♦ Shaykh Saalih and enter into the fold of Islaam. her husband’s piety, to mention his As-Suhaymee When her menses stops she should good acts, to mention how he always then make ghusl with the intention to: practices what is obligatory upon him, (1) Rid herself of the impurity of and everything good about him, in- Question: Is it permissible for a menses and (2) Perform the ghusl for cluding his manners. family to send a picture of a entering into Islaam. She doesn't However, it is upon her to conceal woman to an individual who is in- know if she will live until she be- everything that he hates to be men- terested in marrying their daughter comes pure; therefore, if Allaah has tioned about him, including his short- so that the individual can see blessed her with the opportunity to comings. Concerning his shortcom- whether she is to his liking or not, accept Islaam she should do so. ♦♦♦ ings, she should advise him about with the arguments that they live Shaykh ‘Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan what he is able to fulfil. As for speak- very far apart? ing about sexual relationships and the Answer: This is not permissible; be- like, then it is not permissible for her cause the legislated ruling regarding to speak about her husband in such a taking pictures, is that it is haraam. manner. ♦♦♦ Shaykh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan The picture may get into the hands of Al-‘Ajlaan someone it was not intended for, or the individual may do something in- If a (believing) woman performs appropriate with the picture that is Question: I am a sister that is not her five daily salaah, fasts the haraam (like showing it to someone able to conceive unless by artificial else). month (of Ramadaan), guards insemination i.e. by taking my egg her chastity and obeys her and my husband's sperm and fer- Therefore, sending the picture in this husband, it will be said to her tilizing it outside my womb and manner is not permissible. Rather, the “enter Jannah from whichever of then placing it in my womb. What legislation of Islaam has made it man- the doors of Jannah you wish.” is the correct ruling on this? datory for the individual to go and look at the woman he wants to marry. Answer: There is some slight differ- The Prophet  ordered a man who ing amongst the scholars but, the (Musnad Imaam Ahmad on the wanted to get married to look at the woman authority of Abu Hurayrah , Saheeh Fiqh Councils say that it is permissible before marriage. There is no problem al-Jaami’, Hadeeth #660) with the condition that it is abso- with him seeing her in person before lutely certain that the semen that will marriage; however the issue of the be mixed with the egg of the woman pictures is not permissible. ♦♦♦ is the semen of the husband, and that Shaykh ‘Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan there is no mix-up. So, if there is safety from any mix-up occurring then yes, it is permissible.
  9. 9. Page 9 Mar-Apr 2009 ~ Rabi` al-Awwal-Rabi` ath-Thaanee 1430 The Upbringing of Three Daughters Taken from the Fatawaa of our Shaykh, Allaama, Past Mufti of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia Abdul Azeez bin Abdullaah Bin Baaz uestion: The Messenger of There are deeds which, if a Muslim they enter this hadeeth provided that Q Allaah  said: ‘Whoever had performs them, he enters Paradise due they are safe from that which could, three daughters and was pa- to them and is saved from the Fire, perhaps, cause them to die on any of tient with them, gave them drink such as the one who has been given the major sins. We ask Allaah for and clothed them then they will be a daughters or sisters and is good to safety. screen for him from the Fire.’ them, then they will be a screen for him from the Fire. Similarly, whoever had Will this screen from the Fire be just three of his offspring, who had not The Meaning of al-Ihsaan for their father alone or does the reached the age of accountability, die mother have a share in this? I have - (Being Good to Someone) then they will be a screen for him from all praise be to Allaah - three daugh- the Fire. ters. The Companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Question: What is the meaning of Answer: The hadeeth is general for the having al-Ihsaan (being good to Allaah what about two daughters?’ father and the mother due to the Mes- someone) mentioned in the He answered: ‘Even two,’ and they did not senger’s saying: ‘Whoever has two daughters hadeeth? ask him about one daughter. and is good to them then they will be a covering Answer: Al-Ihsaan to daughters and for him from the Fire.’ It is authentically reported on the au- similar to them is to raise them with thority of the Messenger  that he said: Likewise if he had sisters, aunts or simi- the upbringing of Islaam, to educate lar to them, and he is good to them Allaah U said, ‘For My believing slave who, them and bring them up on the truth then indeed we hope for Paradise for if I take his close friend from the people of the so they are steadfast in their modesty him due to that. Duniya and then he performs righteous ac- and keep themselves far away from tions, there is no reward except Paradise.’ what Allaah has made haraam such as So when he is good to them he is de- displaying themselves and other serving of a great reward, it will screen So Allaah  explained that for His be- things. him from the Fire and it will come be- lieving slave whose close friend He tween him and the Fire due to his good takes- i.e. His beloved - from the peo- Similar is the upbringing of sisters, deed. ple of the Duniya, who is then patient sons and other forms of al-ihsaan and performs good deeds, He has no where they are all raised on obedience This is specific to the Muslims. If a reward other than Paradise. to Allaah and His Messenger, on re- Muslim performs these good actions fraining from what Allaah has made desiring the Face of Allaah, then he has So even if one of our offspring enters haraam and being upright on the truth attained a means for his salvation from this hadeeth and Allaah takes posses- of Allaah . the Fire. sion of him and takes him to Himself, then if that person’s father, mother or With this, it should be known that the Being saved from the Fire and entering both of them are patient and they per- intent of al-ihsaan is not merely feed- into Paradise has many routes, so it is form good deeds then they will have ing, giving drink and clothing them, necessary for a believer to increase in Paradise, and that is great excellence rather the intent of al-ihsaan to them is them. Islaam itself is a single founda- from Allaah. broader, including actions of the Deen tion and it is the fundamental reason and the Duniya. ♦♦♦ Majmoo’ Fatawaa, for entering Paradise and being rescued Similarly, a husband, wife, the rest of Vol. 4 Pg. 375-377 from the Fire. the relatives and friends, if they are patient and perform good deeds then Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya
  10. 10. Page 10 Al Baseerah Understanding the Qur’aan By Shaykh Abdullah al- Ghudyaan - Member of Council of Senior Scholars and Member of The Permanent Committee for Islamic Research and Fatawa. This is the third of a four-part series based on a lecture from T hus far, in this series the it) …} (wa taral-fulka feehi mawaajira) jinni as to his sin…} [ar-Rahmaan Shaykh hafidha-hullaah has [Faatir 35:12] and {…And you see the 55:39] From this ayah, it may be un- mentioned the first five stages for ships ploughing through it …} (wa derstood that Allaah  will not ask understanding the Qur’aan: (1) taral-fulka mawaajira feehi) [an-Nahl anyone on Yawmul Qiyaamah selecting a topic and identifying 16:14] (regarding the placement of the (the Day of Reckoning). the aayaat dealing with that topic, word “feehi”). However, affirmation of (2) studying the meanings of the questioning is found words and phrases, (3) under- On this topic, there exists in the Qur’aan as standing the reason for revelation, a book named Daleel al- in His Speech  (4) identifying the Aayaat which Aayaat al- Mutashaabihaat. It is {Then surely are Naasikh and Mansookh and a essential for the individual who We shall discussion of (5) identifying the wants to memorize the Qur’aan to question aayaat which are Mukham and pay attention to these aayaat al- those Mutashaabih. In this issue he mutashaabihaat, because familiarity with (people) to elaborates on the mutashaabih them is required for recitation. whom it (the (ambiguous) aayaat with regard to Book) was sent wording and meaning. The Mutashaabih Aayaat and verily, We shall in Meaning question the Messengers. The Mutashaabih Aayaat Then surely We shall narrate to in Wording As for those aayaat which are muta- them (their whole story) with shaabih regarding the meaning which knowledge, and indeed We have As for those which are muta- are understood by the Ulamaa’; they not been absent.} [al-A’raaf 7:6-7], shaabih regarding the wording, have been researched by the scholars and as He  said: {But stop them, they are related to recitation. For of the past and the phrases have been verily, they are to be questioned.} example, His Saying : {…and reported by authors in their books; [as-Saffaat 37:24] that which is slaughtered as a amongst them, the books: sacrifice for other than Al- So when the recitor recites these aayaat laah…} (wa maa uhilla bihi li- • Ta’weel Mushkil al-Qur’aan by Ibn he is confused with this ambiguity (as ghayrillaah) [al-Baqarah 2:173] and Qutaybah they appear to conflict). However, the in all the other instances it men- • Daf’ Ihaam al-Idhtiraaf ‘an Aayaatil scholars of the past Raheemahumullaah tions: {wa maa uhilla li-ghayrillaahi Kitaab of ash-Shanqeetee have taken care of these ambiguities bihi}. You will find that the word • Durratit-Tanzeel wa Ghurratit Ta’weel (by studying and clarifying the issues bihi is placed before (the phrase fi Muttashaabih at-Tanzeel of al- for the Ummah).♦♦♦ “other than Allaah”) in Suratul- Iskaafi Baqarah, and after in all other • Baahir al-Burhaan fee Mutashaabih al- In the next issue, Inshaa Allaah we instances where it occurs in the Qur’aan conclude with: Qur’aan (e.g. al-Maa’idah 5:3, al- There are very many books written on • Understanding the signs for stopping, An`aam 6:145, an-Nahl 16:115). Mutashaabih al-Qur’aan. • Understanding the general meaning and extracting the rulings Similarly, in His Speech: {…And An example of this is the Statement of • and the Summary. you see the ships cleaving (the Allaah  {So, on that Day no sea water as they sail through question will be asked of man or
  11. 11. Page 11 Mar-Apr 2009 ~ Rabi` al-Awwal-Rabi` ath-Thaanee 1430 Know Your Scholars Part 3 of a series based on a lecture from by Shaykh Ahmed Al-Munayee, Professor at Imaam Muhammad Islamic University and Lecturer at Al-Masjid Al-Haraam during Hajj. 2nd Level - Mujtahid al-Muqayyid – Those restricted in their ijtihaad. LEVELS OF THE PEOPLE OF KNOWLEDGE We have the second group which is below the first. It is the level of the mujtahid al-muqayyid i.e. one who is ously discussed. They are Students of limited in his ijtihaad. He benefits from 1st Level - Mujtahid al-Mutlaq – Knowledge who go out and seek the different opinions that we have, Those absolute in their ijtihaad knowledge but their status or the level and also perhaps from his madhab, from (judgment). that they have attained, is not the level the principles of Islaamic Jurisprudence of ijtihaad. and the discussions in the other The highest level of the People of branches of learning. He uses these to Knowledge is the mujtahid al- draw analogies to help him deal with Then there are other levels – those mutlaq. They are those who are abso- different circumstances. He does not who participate in different aspects of lute in their ijtihaad (independent opin- necessarily have a lot of evidences and learning. Then there are some students ion or judgment) in the issues of Is- he is not just blindly-following an indi- of knowledge who are seasoned in their laamic law. They are very well aware of vidual; his ability is limited. This person development of Islaamic learning, the different issues concerning our normally invites to the madhab that he those who are intermediate and those Deen (Religion). What distinguishes agrees with; they are of different levels. who are beginners. There are also some this group is that they know the evi- Although the madhaahib (schools of of the People of Knowledge who spe- dences for each issue, from the state- thought) may have different deductions cialize in one area of learning as op- in terms of law, they are all taken from posed to another area of Islaamic learn- ments of the Prophet , the Sahaabah ing e.g. hadeeth, tafseer or fiqh. the Sunnah of the Prophet  and they (Companions) and those after them ♦♦♦ Next Issue: The Characteristics of all use the ijmaa’ (consensus) of the (from the Salaf). People of Knowledge in terms of evi- the Scholars dences. When looking at the situation that is presented to them, they consider the Ibn Al-Qayyim said 3rd Level - Mujtahid daleel (evidence) that they have, and based on the evidence, they deal with If the each particular situation as it presents There is a third level – the mujtahid itself. These are the mujtahidoon (those roots of knowledge who actually follows a specific who make ijtihaad) without exception. imaam. At this level the individual hold onto the heart, the They themselves are a source of refer- usually takes from a particular scholar tree of love will grow in it ences for the Ummah. When difficul- and normally does not go beyond the and if it becomes stronger ties arise, this is the group of scholars imaam that he takes from. it will bear the fruits of who the Ummah returns to, in every obedience time and place. This is the mujtahid al- Other than them llll mutlaq – those who are absolute in the llll areas of ijtihaad, meaning that they are We have another level and this is for llll not just restricted to only one aspect of those individuals who attribute them- and it will keep on giving its fruit at learning. selves to knowledge generally, but they all times by the leave of its Lord. have not attained a level of those previ-
  12. 12. Page 12 Al Baseerah Statements of Polygyny is the Sunnah the Salaf (Having more than one wife is the Sunnah) The Dispraise of Arguing, Dispute and Quarrelling Question: is having more than one Indeed what is achieved/beneficial for wife something permissible in Is- everyone, by having more than one Some of the Salaf said: If Allaah laam or is it the Sunnah? wife is lowering one’s gaze, protection intends good for a slave He for the private parts, increase in off- Answer: Having more than one wife is spring, that a man can look after the opens for him the door of action the Sunnah if you have ability to do so benefits of a large number of women and closes the door of argument due to the saying of Allaah The most and can defend them from causes of and if He intends evil for a slave high: evil and deviances. he closes the door of action and opens for him the door of {Then marry (other) women of your As for the one who is incapable of do- argument. choice, two or three, or four but if ing this and fears that he will not be you fear that you shall not be able to just between them, then he should suf- al-Haafiz ibn Rajab mentioned this in his deal justly (with them), then only fice with one due to the saying of Al- book quot;Bayaan Fadl `Ilm as-Salaf `alaa`Ilm one or (the captives and the slaves) laah Subhaana: al-Khalafquot; that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing {But if you fear that you shall not be injustice.} [Soorah an-Nisaa:3] able to deal justly (with them), then only one.} [Soorah an-Nisaa:3] And also due to the action of the Advice of Al-Hasan May Allaah give all the Muslims that Prophet , he had altogether nine al-Basree to which there is benefit for them in it, women and Allaah made it a means for Umar ibn Abdul-Azeez and success for them in this world and the Ummah to have benefited from the Hereafter. ♦♦♦ them. The dunya is nothing more than This is from the distinguished charac- Taken From Majmoo’ Fatawaa of our 3 days: teristics of the Messenger , as for Shaykh, Allaama, Abdul Azeez bin Ab- 1. The day that has passed by dullaah Bin Baaz other than him then it is not allowed to so there is no hope in it. combine more than four. 2. The day you are living in, so [al-Balaag magazine no.1028] it is proper that you should As for having more than one wife then Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya make the most of it. there are great benefits for men, women and all the Muslim Ummah. 3. And the day that is to come, concerning which you have no knowledge of whether or not you will be of it's people. In an interview after Shaykh al-Uthaymeen rahimahullaah And you do not know if passed away, his wife, Umm `Abdullaah, mentioned: “ perhaps you will die before reaching it. That Shaykh al-Uthaymeen rahimahullaah used to have a weekly picnic on Fridays after salaatul-Jumu’ah with his family. They would go to an area in the wilderness close by and take their lunch. He utilized this time to share in some activities with the children, like foot racing and solving puzzles. Also, he would bring a small rifle and compete with his children in aiming and shooting”.
  13. 13. Page 13 Mar-Apr 2009 ~ Rabi` al-Awwal-Rabi` ath-Thaanee 1430 Keeping Relations with non-Muslim Family T HE SHAYKH WAS ASKED: (They are all considered parents in the hadeeth: My mother came to me dur- My grandmother is a Catholic Islaam). The child is not ordered to ing the lifetime of Allaah's Apostle and she Christian and she has statues of Eesa cut off relations with the parents. He was a pagan. I said to Allaah's Apostle (Jesus) and Maryam (Mary) Allaah's deals with them with ihsaan i.e. in the (seeking his verdict), quot;My mother has come peace be upon them, in her home. to me and she desires to receive a reward best way he can. In an ayah, Allaah  She worships them and asks them for from me, shall I keep good relations with ordered with ihsaan toward them even help. Before Islaam my relationship her?quot; The Prophet  said, quot;Yes, keep good if they try to lead you toward shirk with her was very strong and it is still {But if they (both) strive with you relation with her.quot; [Bukhaaree] very strong. However, when I go to to make you join in worship with visit her I don't feel comfortable as I Me others that of which you have Again, don't obey them in shirk. know her actions are shirk. How do I no knowledge, then obey them However, deal with them in the best relate to her with the presence of not, but behave with them in the manner. And, my advice to you is that those statues in her home, and should world kindly, and follow the path you advise your grandmother that she I keep my children away from her? of him who turns to Me in repen- comes to Islaam; tell her that Muham- tance and in obedience. Then to mad  loved Eesa (Jesus-peace be Answer: Congratulations on entering Me will be your return, and I shall upon him) and that for anyone to Islaam. Islaam does not order the tell you what you used to do.} become a Muslim they must love male or female child to cut off the [Luqmaan 31:15] Eesa and believe in him or there is no parents. In Islaam the parents are Islaam for him. ♦♦♦ Shaykh your father, your mother, your fa- So deal with them with manners such Saalih al Luhaydaan ther's father, your mother's father, that you are friendly towards them, your father's mother and your and do what they ask which is good, mother's mother i.e. the grandparents. but do not submit to them in shirk. In QUIZ Family Issues on ANSWERS FROM VOLUME 1 - ISSUE 4 Are the statements True or False? 1. A mahram is one who is unlawful for a woman to marry due to marital or blood relationships. 1) Knowledge 2. It is permissible for a man to marry his sister's daughter. 2) Deen 3) Jannah 3. A woman who has reached the age of puberty has to observe hijaab in front of her brother- 4) Deen in-law. 5) First 4. The consent of both spouses is an explicit condition for a valid marriage in Islaam. 6) Qur'aan 5. It is permitted for a woman to breastfeed while she is pregnant. 7) Read 6. Islaam affirms the equality of men and women as human beings. 8) Eemaan (Faith) 7. Children who have not reached the age of puberty are still held accountable for their actions. 9) Allaah 8. A daughter is inferior to a son as his share of inheritance is larger than hers. 10) Sunnah 11) seeker 9. In the Qur'aan it mentions that a mother should suckle her child for one year or less 12) pleased 10. A man can marry up to four wives even if he can't maintain and deal justly with all of them. 13) virtue 11. Islaam makes raising daughters a way to enter Paradise. 14) practiced, shared 12. The `Aqeeqah is offered for boys but not for girls. 15) aspects 16) Albaseerah Email your answers to:
  14. 14. Page 14 Al Baseerah Attending Funerals of Bringing Children To Non-Muslim Family The Masjid Question: Is it permissible to attend in the first Question: Is it permissible for man the funeral of non-Muslims? My row, to the to bring children to the masjid parents and family are non-Muslims right and whether they are loud or quiet? and I am very close to them. I feel the left then badly that if one my parents were to Answer: Firstly, if the children’s this is per- pass away, I would not be able to mother wants to come to the masjid missible, attend, and therefore, maybe break and there is no babysitter etc. and they inshaa Allaah. relations with my family. What are could not leave them in the house the evidence that it is not permissi- If they are badly behaved such that alone as they fear for them, and they ble for us to attend the funerals of they run, play and scream like those have no other way but to bring them the non-Muslims? who are crazy, and they do not pray with them, then it is permissible, even and they disturb the people, then it is if they scream, cry etc. The women at Answer: There is no problem with not permissible to bring them to the time of the Prophet  used to bring their attending the funeral, as long as the masjid because in this case they disturb children and he  used to hear the babies affair is as the person has described, the Muslims, and it is a cause of incur- crying and he  would make the salaah light that he fears that he may be cut off ring sin upon those who bring them. so the mother would not worry about her child. by his family if he does not attend the ♦♦♦ Shaykh Wasiullaah al-Abbaas [Bukhaaree, Muslim] This is from the funeral. mercy of the Prophet  with the people, the women, the young children This is because there is a rule in Islaam, Children Committing and other than them. i.e. “keeping away harm takes precedence over Major Sins bringing forth good”. Since he said that if So, it is okay for the young children he does not go this will bring harm and who have manners and who know the this might cause some of his close fam- Question: Are children who have manners of the masjid to be brought to ily members not to accept his calling not reached the age of puberty ac- the masjid. Even though some of the them to Islaam, and they may not be- countable if they commit major People of Knowledge dislike the fact come Muslim because of this. Also, if sins? that young children should come to the he is given the opportunity to say a masjid and be amongst the rows and word at the funeral, then he should call Answer: Children who have not ranks of those praying unless they are them to Islaam, but with ease, and reached the age of puberty are not held above the age of 7. What is correct is mercy for them, and feeling sorry for responsible or accountable for their that even if they are below the age of 7, the affair they are in, and Inshaa Allaah actions or deeds. However, they must and they are well-behaved, then it is there is no haraj - no problem in going. be ordered to do good, they are to be okay for them to be in the ranks of the ♦♦♦ Shaykh Saalih Ibn Muhammed Al- prohibited from practicing evil and musalleen (those praying) even if they are Luhaydaan they are to be encouraged to practice good manners. They are to be encour- aged to obey Allaah  due to the say- al Khataab ibn al Ma’laa al Makhzumee al Qurashee advised his son saying: “ ing of the Messenger of Allaah  : “Order your children to establish the …My son, indeed a man’s wife is his home/livelihood, he has prayers when they are seven and beat no life with other than her, so when you decide to take a wife, them for it when they reach the age of inquire about her family, for indeed good roots yield sweet fruits.” ten”.[Abu Daawood with a good chain] ♦♦♦ Shaykh ‘Abdur-Rahmaan Al-‘Ajlaan