Mentoring is something that can change the world if it is applied. It will help people to cope with different things and it will help with social skills making problem solving easier for everyone. In doing that it will make everyone more susceptible to talking their problems and issues out with other people.
Support, guidance and assistance is offered by the mentor. They will help the child through difficult times, face new challenges, and work to correct any past problems. When parents are unavailable or unable to provide responsible guidance, mentors can play a important role.Mentoring is important because it improves our community, state, and nation because these young children are learning to better themselves which allows them to grow up becoming good citizens and employees who strengthens our businesses, community, and our society.
A mentor is an individual committed to helping a student, identified as an at-risk, get his/her life back together again, whether it be academically, socially mentally, or physically you can always count on a mentor. He/she commits his/her self to spending the time and energy necessary to put the student on the right track. The mentor takes on a lot of different roles at once. A mentor is a big brother/sister, role model, and most of all a friend to the student.
There are 4 different types of mentoring and they all pretty much have the save results and outcomes. One on One, Group, Peer, and e-mentoring all have their perks and good qualities but they also may have things that may be left out like maybe with one on one mentoring it’s not as effective as peer mentoring.
One-to-one mentoring is a developmental and learning technique aimed at increasing personal capacity, skills and learning. The mentor and the protégé together comes up with goals and plans to pursue the set goals. Along the way they will encounter problems and issues and the mentor will teach the protégé ways to deal with those problems in an orderly fashion. Also if the protégé needs someone to talk to about any issues that the protégé may encounter they have their mentor to count on.
Mentoring is considered group mentoring when you have at least one adult and at least four children, for the most part group mentoring programs usually consist several adults working with small groups of children. The ratio of adult to children is not greater than 1:4. Group mentoring is slightly less personalized because you have other people there with you but the effects can be just as strong. In this situation you participate in team building activities and trust activities and you form your own support group which could be very very good for the protégés.
Peer mentoring is whenan older child befriends a younger child. This is a very good mentoring technique. Child to child relationship is more natural than an adult to child so it would be very easy for them to open up to one another and to understand one another's feelings and ideas. This is why the statistics is slight different from one to one mentoring and group mentoring.
Studies show that in peer programs mentors/mentees improve academically as a result of their involvement in the program. Not only did they develop academically but they also developed in character and they learned better ways of communication. The students learned to make better decisions and solve problems and in learning that they learned to resolve conflict in a mature way.
E-mentoring is mentoring via internet or email. This type of mentoring is for those who really don’t have much time to have a one on one relationship with a person. This type of mentoring is 20 minutes a week and is use mostly by college students.
Through my research I have found that the protégés of mentoring programs are 46% less prone to drugs, 27% less prone to alcohol, and 52% less prone to skipping school.
As a part of the Big Brother Big Sister of America the Big Brother Big sister Program of Delaware’s school based mentoring program was studied nationally. The study showed that school mentors have a positive effect on children in the areas listed. 64% becomes more positive; 38% gets high grades in history, languages, and math; 60% improved relationships with adults; and 56% improved relationships with peers.
Others studies show that 55% express feelings better, 64% develop 64% higher self-confidence, 62% more likely trust teachers, 59% get better grades, and 73% raise their goals.
Here are a few things that may tie into mentoring. Paying it forward/altruism because you have to have an altruistic attitude which means doing something out of the kindness of your heart which also ties into community service because community service is a deed that you commit yourself to doing for nothing, just because you wanted to help someone/something or maybe a group of people. The UM Challenge is something that ties into this because it is a program that can be a representative of group mentoring. The UM Challenge is building a support group and that is what group mentoring is all about.
Paying it forward is the idea that you will help someone and expect nothing in return except for them to help someone else. It is doing something out of the kindness of your heart and not because you are getting something out of it. Pay it Forward is actually a movie and a book and I have the movie trailer here for you to see.
Mentoring is paying it forward because mentors are not asking for a pay check or asking for any kinds of rewards. Mentors only look out for the good of their mentee. They Expect to help and change the life or lives of the Little brother or sister.
Community Service is something that people do because they want to, because they want to pay it forward to their community as a whole. They volunteer their time and effects to do something that will benefit the community.
Community service connects with mentoring because it is voluntary. People volunteering their time and effect to pay it forward. So all three of theses things or ideas are connected in some way.
Basically anyone can become a mentor. People who want to have fun and want to change a life definitely has a place in mentoring programs. If your not open to people and would still like to be a mentor there is mentor training in which you will be taught the characteristics of a mentor.
In mentoring training you will be taught all the characteristics needed to be a sufficient mentor. You will be taught things like how to control you emotions and how to give and understand feedback. You will build your own confidence as a mentor and you will be taught how to help your protégé choose what to do next. In this class you will be taught how to be a leader.
The young people of today must cope with far more personal and social pressures than any other previous generation of youth. Early intervention through a structured mentor relationship may be able to give young people the tools and support they need to deal effectively with these pressures. Understanding the many social, psychological, and physical demands that the youth face is extremely important for any individual about to undertake the task of being a mentor. Following is a list of these issues.
Mentors are not Parent, Professional Counselors, nor are they Social Workers but some of their traits will be a part of the mentor’s role. Listening, Nurturing, Supporting, Advising. Through the mentors’ sustained caring, interest, and acceptance, youth may begin to think of themselves as worthy of this attention. They may apply this new, stronger sense of self-confidence to other relationships and experiences.
The Mentoring Center was founded in 1991 and is located in Northern California. It is an organization that is dedicated to helping Bay Area mentoring programs better themselves. It provides mentor training for mentors of other organizations. Mentor Center worked with 25,000 youth and volunteer mentors and served more than 800 different mentoring programs in the Bay Area. For those who do not know The Bay Area is located in California. It surrounds the San Francisco and San Pablo estuaries.
1. Mentoring and Paying it Forward<br />By: Anthony Avery<br />
2. Why I Picked This Topic<br />I picked this topic because I really wanted to volunteer to do Big Brother Big Big Sisters (BBBS) but I couldn’t because I was not of age and I did not have a vehicle for transportation. I still had the desire to help another person in need but couldn’t so I then wanted to raise awareness about mentoring, By explaining the importance of it and how big of a difference it could make.<br />
3. Thesis<br />Mentoring is something that can change the lives of many people. Participating in mentoring programs could make America a better place by helping people with social issues and emotional stresses. <br />The goal of my presentation is to explain to you what mentoring is and how it can make difference in someone’s life and your own life.<br />
4. What is Mentoring/ Why Mentor<br />Sustained relationship between an adult and child or an older child to a younger child<br />Mentoring is Beneficial to all, even those who don’t participate.<br /> Benefits our community<br /> Benefits our state<br />Benefits our Nation<br />
5. What is a Mentor<br />A mentor is a person who looks out for another person. Qualities that a mentor should have:<br /> Be willing to volunteer<br /> Be willing to offer advice and guidance<br /> Be willing to commit to help someone at-risk<br /> Be willing to spend time and energy to get child on the right track.<br />
6. Types of Mentoring<br />One on One<br />Group mentoring<br />Peer Mentoring<br />Mentoring via e-mail/internet<br />
7. One On One Mentoring<br />Adult to Child<br />Discuss social issues<br />Discuss personal issues<br />Discuss emotional issues<br />Discuss goals<br />Discuss problem solving<br />
8. Group Mentoring<br />One adult to up to four young people<br /> considered group mentoring<br />several adults working with small groups of young people<br /> ratio is not greater than 1:4<br />
9. Peer Mentoring<br />Older child to younger child<br /> Older student befriends a younger student and is there to help with personal issues and with school work.<br /> More Natural<br />
10. Result of Peer Mentor<br />Personal Development<br />Communication<br />Decision making and problem solving<br />Conflict resolution/violence prevention<br />
11. E-Mentoring<br />Mentoring over the internet<br />One to One<br />20 minutes a week<br />Convenient <br />Used mostly by college students<br />
12. Statistics<br />46% less likely to begin using illegal drugs<br />27% less likely to begin using alcohol<br />52% less likely to skip school<br />
13. More Statistics<br />64% of students developed more positive attitudes towards school<br />38% achieved higher grades in social studies, languages and math<br />60% improved relationships with adults, and 56% improved relationships with peers<br />
14. Statistics Cont.<br />55% were better able to express their feelings<br />64% developed higher levels of self-confidence<br />62% were more likely to trust teacher<br />59% get better grades, and 73% raise their goals<br />
15. Other Ideas<br />Paying it Forward/altrusim<br />Community Service<br />UM Challenge<br />
16. Paying it Forward And Altruism<br />ALTRUISM-thebelief in or practice of disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of other<br />Paying It Forward is the idea of altruism. <br />Giving everything for nothing in return<br />http://www.matttrailer.com/pay_it_forward_2000<br />
17. How does Pay it Forward connect With Mentoring<br />Paying it forward relates to mentoring because when you become a mentor expect nothing out of it. <br />You mentor because you want to mentor because you want to help other people out of the goodness of you heart.<br />
18. Community Service<br />Work to improve community<br />Volunteer<br />
19. How does Community Service Connect with Mentoring<br />Volunteer<br />Paying it Forward<br />
20. Who Can Be A Mentor?<br />People who…<br />Want to help people<br />Have fun<br />Change a life<br />Anyone<br />
21. Mentor Training<br />A Movable Feast of Coaching and Mentoring Exercises<br />Keeping good Coaching and Mentoring Boundaries<br />Emotion vs. Objectivity<br />Conflict Defuser<br />Blame vs. Effective Behavior<br />Coaching and Mentoring Styles<br />Coaching and Mentoring Hints and Tips<br />Why Coaching and Mentoring?<br />The Roles of a Coach and Mentor<br />Skills Needed For Effective Coaching and Mentoring<br />Building Confidence as a Coach or Mentor<br />Understanding Feedback as a Coach or Mentor<br />Helping your Mentee choose what to do next<br />Personal Coach - Mentor's Declaration and What's Next<br />
22. WHY YOUTH NEED MENTORS <br />Peer Pressure <br />Substance Abuse <br />Sexuality <br />Child Abuse and Family Violence <br />School Safety and Violence <br />Depression and Suicide <br />Nutrition and Health Care <br />Faith and Religion <br />Social and Time Management <br />Career Exploration and Part-Time Work <br />
23. WHAT MENTORS ARE NOT <br />Parents <br />Counselor<br />Social Workers<br />
24. Benefits to Mentor<br />Mentors gain personal and professional satisfaction in helping a youth. <br />Mentors gain recognition from their peers. <br />Mentors gain improved interpersonal skills. <br />Mentoring focuses the mentor outside of him/herself. <br /> Mentoring promotes deeper understanding of teen and societal problems. <br />
25. Benefits to Youth<br /> Exposes youth to a positive role model <br /> Helps to focus youth on their future and on setting academic and career goals <br /> Exposes youth to new experiences and people from diverse cultural, socio-economic, and professional backgrounds <br /> Provides youth with attention and a concerned friend <br /> Encourages emotional and social growth <br /> Fosters increased confidence and self-esteem <br />
26. Mentoring Programs<br />BBBS of America<br />Village Nation<br />Kids for Change<br />National Cares Mentoring Movement<br />Michael Baisden<br />100 Black Men of America<br />Boys & Girls Club of America<br />Mentoring Center<br />National Mentoring Month<br />
27. BBBS<br />Founded by Ernest Coulter in 1904<br />By 1916 spread to about 96 cities across the country<br />In 1977 Joined forces with Catholic Big Sisters<br />BBBS currently runs in all 50 states and twelve countries<br />
28. Mentoring Center<br />Founded in 1991<br />Located in Californa<br />Created to serve as a technical assistance and training provider<br />Served more than 800 mentoring programs<br />Worked with more than 25,000 youth and volunteer mentors<br />