Smoky Mountain Marriage Retreat: Rock solid foundations managing conflict

Level One. A Difficult Day.
1. Don’t pretend you can read minds

2. Don’t get historical

3. Don’t exaggerate

4. Keep this between us

5. Don’t manipulate with sex

5. Don’t manipulate with sex
6. Apologize well

Level Two: A Problem That Keeps Resurfacing

The P.M.s.Rules
Husbands: During this time,
Avoid the desire to resolve issues.

The P.M.s.Rules
Let her be the one to initiate intimacy.

The P.M.s.Rules
Try to ease her workload.

The P.M.s.Rules
Do not minimize your faults in the temptation to blame all problems on P.M.S..

The P.M.s.Rules
Give her time away from the children.

The P.M.s.Rules
Give her time away from the children.
Pray about this.

The P.M.s.Rules
Wives: During this time,
1. Be aware that P.M.S. is not a license to sin.

The P.M.s.Rules
Be aware that P.M.S. is not a license to sin.
Mark your calendar. Predict it.

The P.M.s.Rules
Tell your husband that difficult moments are coming for you.

The P.M.s.Rules
Seek a physician’s help.

The P.M.s.Rules
Pray about this.

The P.M.s.Rules
Pray about this.
Exercise all through the month, especially during these days.

The P.M.s.Rules
Pray about this.
Stay in God’s book.

The P.M.s.Rules
Pray about this.
Stay in God’s book.
Be careful not to let P.M.S. make you abusive toward your children or husband.

The P.M.s.Rules
9. Don’t Make important decisions.

The P.M.s.Rules
Don’t over-schedule yourself.

The P.M.s.Rules
Don’t consume excessive caffeine.

The P.M.s.Rules
Don’t consume excessive caffeine.
Don’t express things you can’t stand about your husband. Wait five days. Don’t express those things to anyone at this time, except the Lord.

Level Three: We Disagree About The Lord.

Level Four: Trust Is Broken

What to do:
1. Turn to God in prayer and Bible study.

What to do:
2. Decide if you want to rebuild or not (Adultery only).

What to do:
3. Expect this to take time inside of you.

What to do:
3. Expect this to take time inside of you.
4. Set conditions for the offending mate.

Set conditions for the offending mate:
Immediate severing of all unseemly relationships.

Questions answered without frustration.

Christian counseling

Outside accountability partner.

Outside accountability partner.
Full access to passwords, e-mail, history, etc.

Smoky Mountain Marriage Retreat: Rock solid foundations managing conflict

by House to House Heart to Heart on Feb 23, 2011

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