Marriage Harmony Is A Beautiful Thing


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Marriage Harmony Is A Beautiful Thing

  1. 1. Marriage Harmony Is A Beautiful Thing
  2. 2. "Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet”? Amos 3:3
  3. 3. Marriage Harmony Defining Our Terms
  4. 4. Marriage That divine institution ordained by God comprised of one man (male) and one woman (female), In which each joins (glues) himself to the other until death parts them. It supersedes all other earthly relationships. It imitates God’s relationship with ancient Israel and Christ’s relationship with His New Testament church. The origin of the home and family and the place for child birth and rearing.
  5. 5. Harmony 1. the combination of simultaneously sounded musical notes to produce chords and chord progressions having a pleasing effect. 2. agreement or concord. synonyms: accord, agreement, peace, peacefulness, amity, amicability, friendship, fellowship, cooperation, understanding, consensus, unity, sympathy, rapport, like-mindedness.
  6. 6. Beautiful pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically. synonyms: attractive, pretty, handsome, good-looking, alluring, prepossessing.
  7. 7. We Enjoy Harmony and Beauty In All Things
  8. 8. Marriage Is Like Good Music
  9. 9. Soloists Sing Alone
  10. 10. Duets Are Better Than Solo’s Solid as a rock
  11. 11. Elements Of Great Duets
  12. 12. Selflessness and Acceptance Baby come as you are with just your heart And I'll take you in you're rejected and hurt, To me you're worth, what you have within. Now, I don't need no superstar cause I'll accept you as you are. You won't be denied cause I'm satisfied with the love you inspire. You don't have to be a star, baby, to be in my show;
  13. 13. Togetherness/Reliance Listen, baby, ain't no mountain high Ain't no valley low, ain't no river wide enough, baby If you need me, call me, no matter where you are No matter how far, don't worry, baby Just call my name, I'll be there in a hurry You don't have to worry 'Cause baby, there ain't no mountain high enough Ain't no valley low enough, ain't no river wide enough To keep me from getting to you, baby
  14. 14. Commitment My love, There's only you in my life The only thing that's right My first love, You're every breath that I take You're every step I make And I (I-I-I-I-I) I want to share All my love with you No one else will do
  15. 15. Adoration Why do birds suddenly appear Every time you are near? Just like me, they long to be Close to you Why do stars fall down from the sky Every time you walk by Just like me, they long to be Close to you
  16. 16. Marriage Is The Greatest Duet Ever Sung Because Marriage Is A Song Written By God
  17. 17. God Didn’t Want Us Solo Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). 1. The man alone is not good. 2. God gave him a partner fit for him. United they can make beautiful music together.
  18. 18. Marriage Is God’s Solution For Loneliness
  19. 19. Is Loneliness So Bad?
  20. 20. So what? So, what's a little loneliness? It's not like a fatal disease, right? Wrong. Loneliness is a stress - like pain, injury/loss, grief, fear, fatigue, exhaustion. Loneliness can be traumatic. Physiologically, loneliness can trigger the same stress response as a broken leg. This causes our bodies to alter the production of hormones, which in turn alters the function of many other systems in the body.
  21. 21. Ultimately, this can affect every cell in our bodies. Stress like this has been implicated in contributing to the origin or severity of diseases such as cardiovascular disease (including strokes, migraines, heart attacks), gastrointestinal disorders (including ulcers), autoimmune disorders, asthma, and many other illnesses.
  22. 22. Stress also may prolong the amount of time it takes our bodies to heal. Loneliness can make us sick, keep us sick, and interfere with our recovery.
  23. 23. "Real loneliness," Dr. Lynch says, "begins with an inability to communicate." With considerable research data to support his argument that "the lack of human companionship, the sudden loss of love, and chronic human loneliness are significant contributors to serious disease (including cardiovascular disease) and premature death," Dr. Lynch provides compelling evidence linking the benefits of communication and human interaction to improved health status.
  24. 24. In Marriage We Have A Partner
  25. 25. Two Is Better Than One Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him--a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:8-12
  26. 26. It Takes Two One can have a dream, baby Two can make that dream so real One can talk about being in love Two can say how it really feels One can wish upon a star Two can make that wish come true, yeah One can stand alone in the dark Two can make the light shine through It takes two baby, it takes two baby Me and you.
  27. 27. Not Simply Marriage Is Beautiful Marriage Harmony Is A Beautiful Thing
  28. 28. Three Essentials For Good Music Melody - a succession of notes or tones combined together to create a sense of unity and an agreeable sound. Harmony - a musical combination of tones intended to support the melody and provide a sense of unity. Rhythm - a regular succession of sounds or motions creating a sense of unity.
  29. 29. Harmony In Music Is Like Harmony In Marriage Melody – combining together to create a sense of unity and an agreeable sound. Harmony - combination intended to support and provide a sense of unity. Rhythm - a regular succession of sounds or motions creating a sense of unity.
  30. 30. Reasons Marriage Harmony Is Beautiful
  31. 31. Harmony In Marriage Shows Unity 1. the state of being one; oneness. 2. a whole or totality as combining all its parts into one. 3. the state or fact of being united or combined into one, as of the parts of a whole; unification. 4. absence of diversity; unvaried or uniform character. 5. oneness of mind, feeling, etc., as among a number of persons; concord, harmony, or agreement.
  32. 32. Harmony In Marriage Shows Self Control Those In Harmony Control their angry. Control their attitudes. Control their actions. Control their words. Control their emotions. It’s so beautiful because those in harmony evidence the fruit of the Spirit.
  33. 33. Harmony In Marriage Brings Out The Best In Us 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Harmony emulates God. God is selfless and serving. In order to have Harmony We must prefer one another. We must serve one another. We must yield our ways for one another.
  34. 34. Marriage Harmony Demonstrates Growth 1. Harmonious marriage is not a one hit wonder. 2. It is a life long career. 3. It has smash hits and you reach the top. 4. It has flops and you sing the blues. 5. It grows closer, sweeter and richer as the decades rock n roll along.
  35. 35. ‘N Sync or Out of Tune?
  36. 36. Harmony Is About Unity/Agreement Money Sex Goals Leadership Treatment Chores Children Dreams/Future Spiritual life In-Laws
  37. 37. Three Things That Take Us Out Of Tune Self-interest Self-centeredness Self deception
  38. 38. Mic Hand/Self-interest
  39. 39. Primadonas’/Self-centeredness You walked into the party like you were walking onto a yacht Your hat strategically dipped below one eye Your scarf it was apricot You had one eye on the mirror as you watched yourself gavotte And all the girls dreamed that they'd be your partner They'd be your partner, and... You're so vain, you probably think this song is about you You're so vain, I'll bet you think this song is about you Don't you? Don't You?
  40. 40. Self deception • You are convinced your spouse is the problem. • You are sure that as soon as you can convince them that they are the problem they can fix themselves, and your life will be better. • You might be self deceived – you might be the problem. • You might be out of tune!
  41. 41. Self Deception
  42. 42. Everyone Knows But Him
  43. 43. If We Are Out Of Tune Ways We Can Fine Tune Our Marriage?
  44. 44. Honor Each Other
  45. 45. Honor Each Other • Consider each others feelings. • Care for the other person. • Communicate openly, freely. • 1. Build up your spouse. • 2. Take care how you talk to them. • 3. Take care how you talk about them.
  46. 46. Value Each Other’s Feelings
  47. 47. Value Each Other’s Feelings Don’t make your spouse defend their feelings! 1. It robs your spouse of self ownership. 2 It places approval of their feelings in your hands. 3. No one should tell someone else how they should feel. Feelings are never right or wrong, they are just feelings.
  48. 48. Respect Each Other
  49. 49. Peter Gray, Ph.D., research professor at Boston College To respect is to understand that the other person is not you, not an extension of you, not a reflection of you, not your toy, not your pet, not your product. In a relationship of respect, your task is to understand the other person as a unique individual and learn how to mesh your needs with his or hers and help that person achieve what he or she wants to achieve. Your task is not to control the other person or try to change him or her in a direction that you desire but he or she does not. I think this applies as much to parent-child relationships as to husband-wife relationships.
  50. 50. Let It Be, Let It Be, Let It Be Yea Let It Be
  51. 51. Let It Be, Let It Be • Stop asking your spouse to change instead you change and live what they are, not what you want them to be. Our spouse’s have told us and shown us who they are and how they are. Our refusal to live according to who they are is our problem not theirs. To be in tune we must stop trying to turn a base into a soprano. Imagine the harmony we could have in our marriage if we only let our spouse sing their part in their key?
  52. 52. Make time to connect • Taking time to sit down and talk one-onone either at the beginning of the day or end of the day. The bedroom area should be a safe place and a sanctuary where all of life’s problems stay out. Make sure to snuggle at night and fall asleep together if possible. Go on a daily walk together to unwind and distress. Make sure to communicate with each other by phone several times each day.
  53. 53. Remind each other that you’re sexy. • Talk sexy to each other and complement each other with affirmations regarding your sexual feelings for each other. The physical part of a marriage is critical to keeping happiness in the home.
  54. 54. Share a guilty pleasure • Laugh, have fun, and be silly together. Be spontaneous and do something crazy that is out of the ordinary, this helps break up the routines of life.
  55. 55. Enrich yourselves as individuals • Doing things separately gives you a chance to fill in the blanks that your partner can’t fill in for you, for example, one of you likes classical music, the other one likes sports. Taking a break from each other gives you more things to talk about, because when you’re joined at the hip, what’s to talk about? You’ve already seen it all. It’s very important as individuals to pursue your own hobbies and interests. It brings freshness to the marriage because both people continue to grow as individuals.
  56. 56. Get spiritual together • 75% of Americans who pray with their spouses reported that their marriages are “very happy” compared to 57% of those who don’t. Those who pray together are also more likely to say they respect each other, discuss their marriage together, and rate their spouses as skilled lovers. This may sound crazy, but by reading the Bible and engaging in going to church, this can actually improve every area of your relationship.
  57. 57. A good marriage is like a pet boa constrictor: either you feed it every day or bad things happen! from Ty Wenger from Redbook Magazine Lifestyle and Relationship via: The Road blog.
  58. 58. Marriage Harmony Is A Beautiful Thing Let’s Strive To Make Beautiful Music Together