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Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
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Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
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Plan b parenting saint joseph 2010
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  • Children’s
  • Common and Ideal
  • Broken and separated
  • Primary care giver OFWs
  • Everchanging landscape – working with what they have
  • The maturation of brain structures generally occurs from the back of the brain to the front. There are four primary brain structures from the back to the front of the brain – cerebellum, nucleus accumbens, amygdala and prefrontal cortex – that are noteworthy in terms of how their differential maturation may impact adolescent behavior. A major brain structure at the back of the brain is the cerebellum . This structure controls physical or motor coordination, and is a region that is involved in the playing of sports. The nucleus accumbens , which is responsible for motivation, and the amygdala , which identifies and controls emotion, are brain regions located more in the middle of the brain. The nucleus accumbens is responsible for how much effort the organism will expend in order to seek rewards. A developing nucleus accumbens is believed to contribute to the often-observed tendency that teenagers prefer activities that require low effort yet produce high excitement. Real-world observations may bear this out: many teenagers favor playing video-games, for example. The amygdala is responsible for integrating how to emotionally react to pleasurable and aversive experiences. It is hypothesized that a developing amygdala contributes to two behavioral effects: the tendency for adolescents to react to situations with “hot” emotions rather than more controlled and “cool” emotions, and the propensity for youth to mis-read neutral or inquisitive facial expressions from other individuals as a sign of anger. And one of the last brain regions to complete maturation is the structure named the prefrontal cortex , located just behind the forehead. Sometimes referred to as “the seat of sober second thought,” it is the area of the brain responsible for the complex processing of information, ranging from making judgments, to controlling impulses, foreseeing the consequences of ones’ actions, and setting goals and plans. A developing prefrontal cortex may contribute to poor judgment and risk taking.. Slide Copyright © 2008 The Mentor Foundation The Developing Brain, Adolescence and Vulnerability to Drug Abuse
  • Lets review the implications of this range of information presented here. A normal and healthy adolescent can be expected to exhibit some risk-taking, show less than optimal judgment, and have difficulty managing emotions. Adolescents may make decisions that are too often based on how he or she feels rather than on careful and reasoned thinking. Adults play an important role by using their judgment to protect teenagers. And do not minimize the potential for young people to fall victim to drugs, particularly alcohol. Drug use can be dangerous! Slide Copyright © 2008 The Mentor Foundation The Developing Brain, Adolescence and Vulnerability to Drug Abuse
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    • 1. “ Plan B” Parenting with a Purpose
      • By Herald Cruz
    • 2. My Family (Pamilyang Cruz ‘07)
    • 3. My Children (Pamilyang Cruz ‘09)
    • 4. I. The Family Today Based on the Barney Song 
    • 5. My Family’s Is Just Right For Me
      • Verse 1
      • I have a friend who lives with his mom and dad, with his brother and his sister too. They have a cat and a dog and a pet bullfrog, And I am really glad they do.
    • 6.
      • Verse 2
      • There's a girl I know who lives with her mom, and her dad lives far away. Although she sees her parents just one at a time, They both love her everyday.
    • 7.
      • Verse 3.
      • I know a boy whose new he just moved in, he moved from Alabama. And the person whose the head of his family, is his loving, dear ole grandma.
    • 8.
      • Chorus: A family is people and a family is love, That's a family. They come in all different sizes and different kinds, But mine is just right for me, Yeah, mine is right for me.
    • 9. Kamusta tayo sa solo parenting? Paano ako makakasigurado na tama ang pagpapalaki ninyo sa akin?
    • 10. Introduction “ Filipino Consciousness” “ … He came that we might have life and have it more abundantly .” John 10:10 “ Healthy families will result to a healthy individuals, healthy communities, and a nation… kahit sole parenting”
    • 11. I. Stages of Family Life “Baitang ng buhay pagpapamilya”
    • 12. Stages of Family Life
    • 13. Phase of most parents
      • developing intimacy in marriage
      • career development
      • searching fit between goals (naisin) and achievement (nagawa na)
      • re-establishing priorities (pagsasaayos)
      Young Adulthood to Middle Adulthood
    • 14. II. Parenting Styles
      • Autocratic
      • Permissive
      • Democrati c
    • 15. Autocratic Parenting “Walang tanong-tanong” “ Tandaan mo ha, anak lang kita!
    • 16. Autocratic Parenting
      • resentful, rebellious & dependent
      strict, controlling , order w/o freedom low initiative, low self-esteem, poor communication skills
    • 17. Parenting Myths
      • Indulgent “spoiled”
      Permissive Parenting “ Ibigay ang hilig” Negligent “pabaya ” “ Kung ayaw mong gawin ang assignment mo, sige lang laro na lang tayo.” “ Bahala ka nalang sa buhay mo, ano paba ang magagawa ko?”
    • 18. Permissive Parenting tolerant and lax freedom without order unlimited choices manipulative irresponsible socially incompetent Underachiever Self-Centered Poor moral values
    • 19. A need for balance
    • 20.
      • Autocratic
      • Permissive
      • Democratic
      Democratic Parenting “ Itutuwid para sa hinaharap” “ Medyo kulang ang budget para sa birthday mo, ano kaya pwede nating gawin?”
    • 21. Democratic Parenting
      • Firmness with respect Freedom with order Limited choices
      Responsible Confident Capable adults Self-Reliant Self-giving Socially competent Well-formed values
    • 22. Aiming to be Democratic “Layunin”
      • Set limits and expectations
      • Respect choices
      • Provide challenging opportunities
      • Negotiate
      • Power-sharing
    • 23. Summary Autocratic Democratic Permissive Order w/o Freedom Order w/Freedom Freedom w/o Order Dependent Resentful Rebellious Irresponsible Manipulative Demanding Confident Responsible Capable ROBOTS MONSTER BALANCED
    • 24. III. Human Development “Baitang ng paglago”
      • Developmental Stage with specific patterns of behavior
      • Developmental tasks to be negotiated for smooth transition.
      ERIK ERIKSON Crisis/ Stages
    • 25. Developmental Stages of a Child Social Crisis Circle of Influence Needs Infancy (0-2 yrs) Trust vs Mistrust Mother/ Caregiver Touch Early Childhood (2-3 yrs) Autonomy vs Shame Parents/ Family Establish Control Play Age (3-5 yrs) Initiative vs Guilt Playmates/Ext. Family Security & Affection School Age (6-12 yrs) Industry vs Inferiority School Community Develop self-confidence
    • 26. Developmental Stages of a Child Social Crisis Circle of Influence Needs Adolescence 12-19 Identity vs Role Confusion Friends Allowed to develop own identity
    • 27. IV. TEEN SITUATIONER
    • 28. Personally Considered Wrong (in %) (Metro Manila) 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 70 80 90 100 2000 2005 1992 Use forbidden drugs Cheat on boyfriend/girlfriend Sell or buy illegal drugs Take something w/o paying Sell oneself for sex Stay away from school/work Drunk driving Avoid paying taxes Marital infidelity Divorce/separation Look at porn material Hazing Cheat in school Use violence
    • 29. Personally Considered Wrong (in %) cont’d (Metro Manila) 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 70 80 90 100 2000 2005 1992 Smoke cigarettes Use sexually explicit language Sell porn material Pre-marital sex Gambling Phone/internet sex Getting drunk Race a car or motorbike Abortion Homosexual relationship Use a prostitute
    • 30. Brain Development Maturation Occurs from Back to Front of the Brain Images of Brain Development in Healthy Youth (Ages 5 – 20) Blue represents maturing of brain areas Copyright © 2004 The National Academy of Sciences, USA Gogtay, N., Giedd, J.N., et al. (2004) Dynamic mapping of human cortical development during childhood through early adulthood Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 101 (21), 8174 – 8179
    • 31. V. STAGES OF ADOLESCENTS
    • 32. Three Stages of Adolescents
      • Early
        • (Approximately 10-14 years old)
      • Middle
        • (Approximately 15-16 years old)
      • Late
        • (Approximately 17-21 years old)
      • Spano, S. (May 2004) Stages of Adolescent Development. Research FACTs and Findings. ACT for Youth: Upstate Center of Excellence, Cornell University.
    • 33. Early Adolescent (Approximately 10-14 years old)
      • Moodiness;
      • Close friendships gain importance;
      • Less attention shown to parents, with occasional rudeness;
      • Realization parents are not perfect;
      • Search new people to love in addition to parents;
      • Tendency to return to childish behavior during times of stress;
      • Peer group influence on personal interests and clothing
    • 34. Middle Adolescent (Approximately 15-16 years old)
      • Self-involvement, alternating between unrealistically high expectations and worries about failure;
      • Extremely concerned with appearance and body;
      • Lowered opinion of and withdrawal from parents;
      • Periods of sadness as the psychological loss of parents takes place;
      • Strong emphasis on the new peer group;
      • Examination of inner experiences, which may include writing a diary.
    • 35. Late Adolescent (Approximately 17-21 years old)
      • Firmer identity;
      • Ability to delay gratification;
      • Ability to think through ideas;
      • Ability to express ideas in words;
      • Developed sense of humor;
      • Interests and emotions become more stable;
      • Ability to make independent decisions;
      • Ability to compromise;
      • Pride in one’s work;
      • Self reliance;
      • Greater concern for others.
    • 36. The ABCs - Summary of Adolescents
      • The Ambivalent Identity
      • The Body that Matures
      • The Conformity Challenge
      • The Declaration of Independence
      • The Need for Emotional Nearness
      • Danny and Lala Dy
    • 37.
      • Expect impulsivity, poor judgment, emotionality
        • “ On second thought…” not in the repertoire
        • Parents must anticipate - teens need help with this
      • Less than optimal planning and judgment
      Summary
    • 38. Multiple Intelligences “Uri ng katalinuhan”
      • Discovering the strengths of each of our children and not the non-strengths
      Artistic Musical Mathematical Linguistic
    • 39. Multiple Intelligences
      • Honing these intelligences to maximize their full potential.
      Kinesthetic Interpersonal Intrapersonal Natural
    • 40. Uniqueness “Ang bawat bata ay may taglay na talino”
      • 6 times World Champion
      Focus on developing the intelligence
    • 41. Summary Find the UNIQUENESS “katangian” Acknowledge the DIFFERENTNESS “kaibahan” Celebrate the SPECIALNESS “espesyal”
    • 42. Pagtatapos
      • Control finances
      • Explain to your kids early
      • Look for support and use it
      • Take time for the family
      • Be good to yourself
      • Be an example
      • Treat kids like kids
      • Look for the gem
    • 43. Our Greatest Treasure ... our Greatest Responsibility!
    • 44. Building a Positive Relationship with Your Teens
      • Open Forum

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