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  • Our talk today is about how to be A hero If your young children you are the person who can do not wrong, wait till they become teenagers Illustration : Early on in my life my father was my superhero (got very sick, I saw flaws, become dependent, died) Our talk today is how we can become super hero in the lives of our children Having the power to influence in the lives of our children Allowing them to fly to new heights Helping them to live not just for themselves but for others too
  • My 4 children are beginning to see that me and my wife are two imperfect people living in an imperfect world , trying to give our children the best possible lives . Even with the best of intentions, there will be times that me and my wife will fall short In a world filled with questionable “heroes ”, unrealistic heroes found in comic books, children are in need of real-life heroes How can be heroes to our children? Is it possible? Is it doable?
  • Activity : Our Consciousness
  • If the family is the greatest source of happiness among Filipinos, it can also be the greatest source of unhappiness if things are not going well. Though it is very important and yet it is often neglected. Commend those who came
  • Activity : Examine, Reflect, Look deep inside, and see the condition of our souls. Is it a blazing fire or a fire that is about to die What goes on in our external world will either add or subtract to our flame Each choice we make either adds to this flame, or feeds it, or dampens it When our internal flame roars, we feel strong, powerful and confident When our flames are low, we feel scared, weak, worried When our flames have not been cared for, we hunger for things outside to make us feel better (e.g. shopping, clothes) The size of our flame affects those around us
  • Greatness is not just confined in extraordinar y and supernatura l events in our lives. Greatness can and should also happen in the ordinary and even difficult events of our live Illustration : Max’s
  • THE INCREDICBLES They are not perfect They have their individual talents and “ powers ” – when suppressed , all were frustrated and unhappy When they were allowed to shine , they were able to unite into an incredible family
  • Begins with understanding what true love is all about Grounded in the love of the Father
  • A need to understand that true love is all about A love that is grounded on the love of the father
  • Not ifs or buts Things that will be noticed here Love that makes a child safe Love that is nurturing Love with amnesia Love not dictated by emotions Love with no Ifs or buts but in spite of A choice to love
  • There is nothing they can do or not do The picture of the love of our Heavenly Father expressed in the highest form of Human Love The parable should have a new name Illustration : Given the chance to be another to be someone else, who do you want to be? I want to be my brother? But why? So that I will have the same mom. Practical expressions of love (listening, being present, etc)
  • Do not fight ever
  • When to be firm and when to let go The parenting style is a balanced one Not too lenient and not too protective (rebels or people with low self-esteem)
  • There are no perfect families and we all have our dysfunctionality Quote:
  • Do we have issues with power (bullying) Acceptance and rejection (looking for emotional dividends from children) Intimacy ( My experience ) Unhealed hurts when young ( Melody )
  • When we are whole it spills over to our children We want our home to be a safe and nurturing place We would like to improve on the next generation
  • We all have never gotten manual on how to be a great parent Applying what we have seen, read, experienced and often unconscious Hit and miss (and our eldest will usually be the first laboratory case in real life)
  • They are seen us all our lives Francis of asisi They mirror what is happening There is nothing that adequately prepares us for the most important job there is—parenting. Children and teens do not come with an owner’s manual, and most of our training is on the job. With our own parents as our most prominent role models, we tend to repeat what we have learned about parenting from them. We do our best, learn as we go, and make our own mistakes along the way; but we don’t have to leave our parenting to chance. We can become more effective parents. We can parent with more confidence instead of frustration. Parenting can be enjoyable and rewarding instead of stressful.
  • Parenting with a purpose Intentional parenting Check if our parenting manual is still relevant Assess your values and live your values Teach Teaching moments Discipline with a purpose Video They are seen us all our lives Francis of asisi They mirror what is happening There is nothing that adequately prepares us for the most important job there is—parenting. Children and teens do not come with an owner’s manual, and most of our training is on the job. With our own parents as our most prominent role models, we tend to repeat what we have learned about parenting from them. We do our best, learn as we go, and make our own mistakes along the way; but we don’t have to leave our parenting to chance. We can become more effective parents. We can parent with more confidence instead of frustration. Parenting can be enjoyable and rewarding instead of stressful.

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  • How To Be A Hero to Your Kids My Hero IFO
  • How we can be heroes to our kids? imperfect, questioabe, unrealistic, real-life2, doable
  • “ The family is the Heart and the Center of the Filipinos. It is where faith, the Christian doctrine and the Gospel values are learned and lived… where love, justice, fraternity and equality are experienced, nourished and cultivated.” (ECMI, “Organizing The Migrants’ Families,” The Pastoral and Social Care of Migrants and their Families, (Manila: CBCP-ECMI, 1995) p. 6) Heart and Center conciousness
  • “ According to a recent survey conducted by the  NSCB , both Filipino men and women ranked families as their primary source of happiness . Health ranked second and religion ranked third. Income or financial security only ranked 9th and politics…” (http://thelivingrice.blogspot.com/2010/11/survey-says-family-is-no-1-source-of.html) Source of Happiness Happiness and pain, important but…
  • Our Internal Flame
    • Each of us has an internal flame that represents the condition of our hearts and souls
    Examine, external, choice,, roar,, low, not cared for, we look outside
  • Why are we attracted to super heroes? They are extra-ordinary people doing extra-ordinary things
  • Children are in need of parents who will do ordinary things, extraordinarily. Not confined, even in the ordinary or difficult, Max’s
  • We can be heroes to our children resulting to an incredible family Imperfect, indi talents and powers, suppressed…, shine…
  • Gideon (Judges 6)
    • When the angel of the LORD appeared to Gideon, he said, “ The LORD is with you, mighty warrior .”
    • The LORD turned to him and said, “ Go in the strength you have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not sending you?”
    • Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.”
    • The LORD answered, “ I will be with you , and you will strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”
    hightlight
  • 1. Dare to l ove u nconditionally
    • C hoosing to love, period!
    Understand,
  • What True Love is (1 Cor. 13)
    • Love never gives up.
    • Love cares more for others than for self.
    • Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
    • Love doesn't strut,
    • Doesn't have a swelled head,
    • Doesn't force itself on others,
    • Isn't always "me first,"
    • Doesn't fly off the handle,
  • Continuation
    • Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
    • Doesn't revel when others grovel,
    • Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
    • Puts up with anything,
    • Trusts God always,
    • Always looks for the best,
    • Never looks back,
    • But keeps going to the end
    No ifs or buts, safe, nurturing, amnesia, not emotions, a CHOICE!
  • The incredible love of a Father Who do you want to be?
  • 2. Choose your battles
    • Do not fight for your right, fight for the relationship.
    Do not fight every battle
  • Balance is the na me of the game Firm, let go, balancleneint-protectiveed parenting,
  • Bringing Balance Which one to tolerate, and which one will need special attention Which is safe to let go, and which one is definite no. Establish your priorities (H.E.S.) Know where to loosen up Have wisdom
  • 3. B e aware of our Dark Side
    • There are both goo d and bad in us and it will be reflected in how we parent our children
    No perfect f. , we project what we do not like
  • We can all step-up into greatness Issues power play, rejection. Intimacy, hurts
  • RUACH R -ealizing U -nderstanding A -ccepting C -hanging H -ealing Spill over, next generation
  • 4. Have your own Super Heroes
    • Choosing our own version of heroes and making God our ultimate hero
    No manual, , how we learn, hit and miss
  • Heroes will need heroes themselves Learn from others Have a rabbit to follow Calibrate accordingly Seek help if needed
  • 5. L ive an empowered life
    • Live and model the ki nd of life you want your children to live.
  • Closing When we become heroes to our children, they become heroes to others as well. .
  • John 10:10 (The Message) “ I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of.”